The process of life can be said to be a process of constantly solving problems. People's life problems, study problems, emotional problems and so on. There are also many problems that are difficult to solve by themselves. When you encounter a problem that is difficult to solve, you must first look at your own ability. If you have the ability, you must overcome difficulties and solve them yourself. If you can't solve it yourself, you can ask your relatives and friends for help. Some problems can't be solved, so we can put them aside first, such as emotional problems, because they can't be solved at once and take time. Some problems are difficult to solve because they are not capable yet, and they need to learn to improve their knowledge level before they can be solved slowly.

As you said, the problem I am facing now can neither be solved nor bypassed, which really brings me great pain. Currently waiting.

First, wait silently.

When I meet a problem that can't be solved and bypassed at present, all I can do is wait silently, remember that I am waiting silently, instead of telling you everywhere like Sister Xianglin. In this way, your problem will not be solved because you talk about it everywhere, or because you talk to others, others will sympathize with you.

Master Yi Shu once said: The more unlucky you are, the more you should hold your horses, cheer up silently and get through it quietly. Don't be a laughing stock, leaving behind future trouble.

I met an elder who complained everywhere when she and her son had a big conflict. Whether relatives, friends or colleagues, as long as someone pulls them, they start talking. At first, everyone could stop to listen to her and then say something sympathetic. Later, everyone avoided walking when they saw her. Why? Because she talked about her pain, everyone bothered her.

Therefore, when I encounter something that can't be solved, I will stay alone quietly, wait silently, and find a way silently, instead of harassing others.

Second, strive to improve yourself.

At this time, I can think like this: since I can't solve the problem, I might as well use my troubled time to improve myself and try to calm down and cultivate my ability, whether it's study, work or my hobby.

I used to use this method when I was very backward. I had a dark time in my life. I was helpless and helpless. I really didn't know what to do at that time. At that time, the internet was not as common as it is now. I have to read and settle down to read.

I remember that at that time, I often went to the provincial library, read my favorite books one by one, looked for all the doubts in my study by reading books, and made a lot of notes. At that time, I didn't feel the quality of what I made, but now it seems that my efforts at that time have laid a good foundation for my future writing, growth and thinking.

Therefore, I think the more unlucky I am, the more I have to calm down and study hard.

Third, adjust the mentality.

Adjust your mind, broaden your horizons and look at your eyes and eyes from a distance. Don't confine yourself to the present, don't confine yourself to your little things. In fact, the world is very big. If conditions permit, we can go out more and see the outside world. When we get home, we will feel that those things that we can't solve painfully are nothing.

As long as conditions permit, I will go out to travel and see the mountains and the sea. I feel much more comfortable when I get home, and I don't feel how difficult my problems are to solve.

Fourth, let nature take its course.

Let nature take its course, this mentality seems to be negative, and it is not advocated by some enterprising people, but. Confucius said: forty is not confused, that is to say, forty people know that many things in the world are beyond human power. Then let's just let nature take its course. Some things can be done by hard work, just have a clear conscience, don't be too entangled in right and wrong, and don't be too entangled in the result.