My daughter came back yesterday and was in high spirits as soon as she entered the door. Only after asking did I know that she got 97 points in Chinese, but the whole class didn't get 100, and she got 98 points in the college entrance examination.
And my daughter is now in the first semester of Grade Two.
Looking forward, from the second day of junior high school to now, I have once scored 100, and once scored 89 points below 90 points. Between the classmates, the gap has widened. For example, yesterday, my daughter's class scored a maximum of 98 points and a minimum of 60 points.
What we see will be different due to different regions, schools and resources. My daughter's school is a key primary school in the city, and her class is the head teacher's key class. In this way, the amount of homework and examination questions is several times that of other ordinary primary schools. Because we have to leave a lot of time to do examination questions, not only the class time is very tight, but also we take up a lot of original music, physical education class and so on.
Good study habits must be developed and laid at this stage. Far-sighted parents may begin to cultivate good study habits intentionally when their children go to kindergarten. What is this habit?
With such a simple comb, you will find that the habit of cultivating children in recent years is really not that simple. So, are we just looking at those scores?
Ability is mysterious. We talk about something grounded, and these abilities must be cultivated.
If you only stare at the results, you will be kidnapped by the results, because the results will fluctuate. In order to reach the top 100 in Shuang Yi in Chinese and mathematics, you will ask your children to get full marks, otherwise you will be disappointed and blame them.
Your point is: the score of 100 must be achieved, and failure to achieve it is a mistake and mistakes will be punished.
So you and the children will be very nervous.
If you focus on grades, habits and abilities, then you will understand that this is a process that requires patience and love. What kind of abilities and habits will you focus on?
If analyzed by time: achievements are only feedback at a certain point and time; And ability and habit are accumulation and creation in a certain stage, and they are comprehensive qualities.
My two children, the boss and son, 18 years old, are freshmen this year. Second child, daughter, 9 years old, third grade this year; In addition, I have been engaged in cultural classes in primary and secondary schools for 9 years and have come into contact with many students, so I have some say. The following analysis is for reference only:
Generally speaking, in the first and second grades, because the knowledge learned by children is relatively simple, and the teacher repeatedly explains and practices, there is little difference in grades between children;
But in the third or fourth grade, the gap between children's grades came out. This is because teachers speak faster and faster, and they don't repeat explanations as they did in grade one, so the knowledge points and amount will also increase. At this time, those children who have developed some good habits (independent study, independent completion of homework, careful listening in class, preview and review) began to emerge;
In primary school, girls generally do better than boys. This is because most boys are playful, lazy, don't like taking notes, and don't like reciting. Comparatively speaking, girls' study habits are better, so their grades are generally better than boys'.
From the second day of junior high school, because mathematics, physics, chemistry and other subjects need strong logical thinking and reasoning ability, most girls are not very strong in this respect. In addition, after puberty, girls love beauty more and care more about their image and appearance, while boys have relatively strong logical thinking and reasoning ability. At this time, boys' grades have gradually begun to surpass girls'.
I'm glad to answer your question. I am a nanny for two children. Dabao's grades in 12 and 12 are very good, but after the third year of high school, it is far behind the schoolmates of Xueba. So how to cultivate the first and second grades to open the distance?
Reading is a good habit that will benefit us and our children for life. Our children are not allowed to play mobile phones from Monday to Friday. Dabao 12 years old. He has formed a good habit of reading whenever he has time. Bauer is only five years old and insists on reading with his parents every day. I often study parenting knowledge and parent-child courses every year when I have time to influence and guide my children. Sometimes friends are curious, and we are both sensible and lovely. I think that if the books they have read can be integrated into their hearts, they will be more sensible and considerate of their parents' difficulties, and will also guide them to a smoother life path in the future.
On our weekend, the whole family climbed mountains together. Doing more exercise is good, and children seldom get sick. We are very relieved. Now Bauer is growing up. I play ball with him every night, and Dabao sometimes takes part.
My family's favorite place to go on weekends is the library. When I am with my children, I usually don't look at my mobile phone. I listen to their opinions carefully, communicate with them about their problems, give them the right to choose, and then deal with the problems with them.
Dabao was spoiled when he was a freshman and a sophomore, and now he feels really hurt. Bauer is only five years old. He tidies up garbage and shoe cabinets every night. Now I often wash dishes with my brother. Cultivating children to do more housework not only enhances their hands-on ability, but also makes them feel the hard work of their mothers. In order to respect my mother more. Doing more housework is also good writing material.
Cultivate good habits: learn to tidy up your desk, schoolbag and other places, and put the used things back; Respect teachers; Respect parents and elders; If you go out or have something, you need to tell your parents in advance; If you have problems and difficulties, you should communicate with your parents in time; Learn to help others, get along with classmates, be polite to others and so on.
Good study habits: children should develop good study habits, such as reading early, listening carefully in class, previewing the text in advance, taking notes in class, speaking actively in class, doing homework on time, studying seriously and taking every exam seriously.
If these things can be done well, even if the child reaches the senior grade, his grades will still be good. I hope it works. Different opinions are welcome.
I want to say that it is not easy to get full marks in the senior one and senior two exams, and it is easy to get high marks by doing papers frequently. My daughter used to be a kindergarten student. There was a lot of homework in primary school every day, and the average score was above 95 in exams every day. No one under 95 is called a parent. My daughter usually does less homework at school, takes an exam once in a while, and fails a lot in the midterm exam. The reason is that teachers used to read questions, but this time she didn't. Then the teacher asked each question to be read at least three times, resulting in insufficient time, so many children didn't finish reading it, so it's not that children won't. The reason is that the first time I read the question is too long, and I have no idea about time control. But strangely, the teacher didn't ask parents to hold a parent-teacher meeting. Then after this time, I began to worry, so I bought some papers for my children to do. Now the exams are all above 95, and the deduction is to look at the pictures and write. Because the head teacher teaches math, the whole thing is ok.
Hello, the children in Grade One and Grade Two have limited learning knowledge, and the highest score is only 100. Are laying the foundation. It's still hard to dump others. I remember when I was a child, the teacher who got full marks in the exam would reward a colored pencil, and a box of more than 20 pencils would be quickly divided. Moreover, it is also good for children to develop careful and serious habits when they are still laying the foundation. Secondly, it is better for children to be with themselves.
Children in grades one and two should not get 100. Even if the child has mastered the knowledge, he may lose some points because of unclear and careless examination, but it must be admitted that some children got 100 points. The question I want to ask is, does it mean that children in Grade One and Grade Two can get high marks in exams? How did the gap widen?
Because my children haven't gone to primary school, I have no say in the grades of primary school students now, but my experience in primary school can especially answer this question. Although it was many years ago, the law should be universal.
I went to primary school one year earlier, being the youngest in my class. My best grade in Grade One and Grade Two was third, and I failed 100, but two girls in my class passed 100. But after the third grade, their grades dropped a little. My grades got better and better, and finally I became the first in my class. Their grades slipped to a dozen or twenty in my class.
Why is this happening? Mathematics in the first and second grades of primary school is very simple, and Chinese is mainly written and literate. You don't have to write a composition or look at pictures to speak. However, after the third grade, mathematics has application problems, which are a little more difficult, and Chinese has a lot to understand and play. Their advantage gradually weakened, and mine appeared.
Because I read their senior three textbooks with my sister since I was a child, I read a lot. I do homework, read books and review my lessons with my sister every day. In the post-80 s era, almost all of them were free-range. The first thing I do when I go home every day is to do my homework. After finishing my homework, I began to watch TV and play nonstop.
The widening gap is mainly due to the cultivation of good study habits. Doing homework is actually a very important link. What I learned that day is consolidated by writing homework, testing whether I have learned it, and reviewing it again by the way, so that I can firmly grasp the knowledge. Just like reading a book, if we don't take notes after reading a book, the content of the book may soon be forgotten.
Because of my experience in primary school, I think that after my children go to primary school, I may be more calm and will not care too much about their grades and rankings. Because the formation of good study habits determines how far a person can go.
The content of learning in Senior One and Senior Two is very simple, and it is almost difficult to hit people. Students can get 100, because mathematics is nothing more than addition, subtraction, multiplication and division, while Chinese is nothing more than dictation and word interpretation, which is basically the content of textbooks. As long as students can recite it, they can do it. The real gap started in the third grade and widened in the fifth and sixth grades. After junior high school, the gap will get bigger and bigger.
Some parents think that their children get 100, which is no different from others. Why did the gap get bigger and bigger later? It is because many parents have started to lay the foundation for their children early. Learn more words, recite more ancient poems, read more books, play chess, draw, dance and, more importantly, exercise your intelligence.
Although it is difficult to widen the gap between grade one and grade two, parents still carefully observe their children to see if they are careful in calculation, fast in speed, clear in thinking and coherent in answering questions. Wait, find the problem and solve it in time.
Parents should not stare at their children's grades, which is of little significance. It is much more important to cultivate children's good life and study habits, and to cultivate their learning ability and good quality. Otherwise, if you don't have good habits, you will be left behind by others.
I'm only in grade one or grade two in primary school, so don't alienate yourself in a hurry. In the senior grade of primary school, or in middle school, the distance between students will naturally widen, not only that, but also.
In the first and second grades of primary school, because there are fewer knowledge points, especially in the first grade, there are even fewer knowledge points, and many of them have been mastered in kindergartens. In the first grade, there are many classes with no less than 90 points, and more than 30% can get double points. See if this distance can be widened.
In the first and second grades of primary school, as long as they are children with normal intelligence, the gap in academic performance is not obvious. I think the most important thing in this period is to cultivate children's study habits and living habits.
First, study habits. Study habits include many aspects, and the most important thing is to cultivate the following aspects.
1, writing habits. They all say the words are as they are. I think I'm not just talking about form, but what's inside. If a child is impetuous and impatient, he can't write very neat words. From the child's font, we can often see his or her attitude towards learning. Therefore, parents should be willing to spend time to cultivate their children's good writing habits.
If you write well, you won't suffer in the future exam.
2. The habit of listening carefully. Nowadays, many children, especially those in grade one or two, think that the teacher speaks very well, so they don't listen carefully in class. Once this bad habit is formed, it is difficult to change. Therefore, we must maintain good communication with teachers and pay attention to children's habits in school.
3. Think independently and finish your homework independently. Needless to say, everyone must know this importance.
4. Preview before class. This habit is not obvious in the lower grades, but it must be cultivated, because it is really important to preview in the upper grades or middle schools.
5. Reading habits. Now middle school Chinese has entered the era of big Chinese, and children who can't read or study less will definitely suffer in the future. You should not only read more books, but also think better. This may require guidance from parents, such as what inspiration children can get from this book or this article, or what reason they understand.
6. Have a thirst for knowledge. This habit is often ignored by many parents. In fact, curiosity is very important for children to learn. Nowadays, many children are exposed to electronic products too early or often watch TV, which leads to little interest in learning. Such children will be eliminated in junior high school.
Second, life behavior habits.
1, good work and rest habits, early to bed and early to rise, some children play late at night and can't get up in the morning. This bad habit must be corrected.
2. Do your best. Like last semester. Let children check whether they have books, homework, stationery, etc.
3. Diet. Don't eat too much junk food, be picky about food. Eat reasonably. Children in Grade One and Grade Two are in a critical period of growth and development. Reasonable diet seems to have nothing to do with study, but it also has a lot to do with it. Learning is mental work. If the nutrition needed for brain development can't keep up, intelligence will be affected.
4. Other living habits and behavior habits include: stressing civilization, observing order, respecting others and being grateful.
In short, in the first and second grades of primary school, children's grades are not the most important, as long as they are not bad. Study habits and living habits are the most important. If you want to laugh, be the parent who laughs last!
There are not many written assignments in senior one and senior two, and the difficulty and quantity of test papers are not great. By the third grade, the test paper was not so "polite", the difficulty and quantity went up at once, and the gap between children became clear at once.
So why did the gap between children's clubs suddenly widen in the third grade? Let's analyze the possible reasons.
Some children seem to study hard, but their exam results are not satisfactory. Probably because "I forgot before and after."
The memory gap is not as big as we thought. Excluding physiological reasons, the reason for "forgetting before and after" is often that the child did not devote himself wholeheartedly when carrying it.
If a child's attitude is correct, learning will remain in his memory for a long time. Therefore, excellent students learn quickly, well and firmly, which is actually directly related to his attitude at that time.
No matter which stage, we should take it seriously and go all out. You can't feel relaxed just because you are in the first or second grade, and it will be too late in the senior year. Parents may not be able to reverse it.
If you want to be a headmaster, you must first get the headmaster's good study habits.
1, the handwriting of the schoolmasters must be very neat.
The homework handed in by Xueba is so sloppy that the teacher can't recognize it. Such a situation is rare.
2. Xueba must listen attentively and take notes carefully in class.
I will classify and record what I don't know and what I have mastered, and make a complete and detailed record.
Some children's books are scribbled, and some children have clear marks on the books. A lot of knowledge you know is marked with one color, and knowledge you don't know is marked with another color. You should ask the teacher after class. He will use the third color to mark the key points to review in the future.
3. Xueba's homework must be timed.
Timing doesn't mean doing Chinese for 30 minutes and math for 30 minutes. I didn't mean that.
It shows that the child has developed and should concentrate on his homework when he gets home.
Instead of eating for a while, watching TV for a while, and chatting with parents.
Children with good academic performance will definitely have a fixed time to do their homework. What time do you review after dinner? Every day's extracurricular reading will have its own time limit.
4. Schoolmasters must have loved reading since childhood.
According to the current college entrance examination reform policy, there has always been a saying among the people that "those who get Chinese get the world".
This person who has acquired Chinese must have acquired Chinese in the third grade or the third grade. But I have developed the habit of reading since I was a child.
In the third grade, children began to formally write compositions. How did he express it?
In the first and second grades, children have a lot of input, and in the third grade, they can naturally output.
Therefore, if children haven't read many extracurricular books in grade one or two, they should hurry up, otherwise the gap with others will be very large in the future.
5. Xueba must have the ability to think independently.
If you find that your child's homework is intermittent and asks you halfway, you must refuse!
1, excellent parents must pay attention to their children's living habits, not just their study habits.
Living habits are also very important, such as going to bed early and getting up early, and scientifically arranging children's time.
This science includes whether the time arrangement of children's fragmentation is reasonable, whether the weekend time arrangement is scientific, whether the holiday time is combined with rest, and so on.
2. Excellent parents will study what my children's interests are.
On the basis of training, find out the real interests of children. Then, at this point of interest, conduct standardized and focused training. Instead of just looking for an institution.
When you find that your child has a certain specialty and hobby, you should find a formal place to train your child professionally.
3. Excellent parents will study parenting methods.
Where to study? Teachers pass on scriptures and send treasures, and excellent parents share experiences, including some excellent journals, articles and online recommendations, as well as some foreign books.
4, excellent parents, know how to lead by example is more important than words and deeds, effective companionship.
Effective companionship does not mean sitting next to children. Children are doing homework and reciting texts there, and parents are sitting next to them brushing their mobile phones to catch up with American dramas. It's no use.
An effective company means that you should set an example, for example. Children practice calligraphy there, and parents are reading extracurricular books there now, which makes children feel that their parents are also motivated people.
In such a family education atmosphere, children will also want to be a person who loves reading.
Many parents say that my child is slow in all aspects, and there is nothing I can do, but I have a good attitude. I believe there is a saying called "Wait for the flowers to bloom". I don't want to rush me. Can I wait for the child to grow up slowly?
Yes, the original sentence "wait for the flowers to bloom" is like this.
Work quietly first, on the basis of your work, and then wait for the flowers to bloom. He values the process, and after the experience, I don't insist.
It's not that parents in grade one or two just wait for it to blossom and do nothing.
Our children must develop correct study habits, correct study attitudes and good study habits in the first and second grades, and finally, coupled with the quality family education of our parents, then our children will certainly lay a solid foundation for the middle and high grades.
The topics of senior one and senior two are relatively simple, many of which are learned in kindergarten, which is equivalent to reviewing only once, and it is easy to get full marks. Children's grades are not the most important in the lower grades of primary school, but learning habits and attitudes are the key. Even if grades one and two often get 100, it is difficult to get behind without good learning ability.
First, get into the habit of reading independently.
Reading is very important for every subject. The contents of the first and second grade exams are basically textbooks, and with children's good memory, it is not difficult to get full marks. In the third grade, there is a topic of extracurricular reading comprehension. Without a certain amount of reading accumulation, it is not easy to get high marks in speed, literacy and understanding. If children with reading habits in the first and second grades can successfully pass the exam and adapt well, it is easier to get high marks.
Therefore, it is very important to form the habit of reading from an early age. My children have always had the habit of reading extracurricular books. Although he doesn't often get high marks in grade two now, his teacher says his vocabulary and extracurricular knowledge are the best in the class. In terms of grades, I have nothing special to care about or care about. He is always encouraged to read more books when he comes home from school. I believe this gap will become more and more obvious in the future.
Second, develop the habit of previewing before class and reviewing after class.
Good study habits are a necessary condition for good grades. Through preview before class and review after class, children can develop the habit of autonomous learning, and at the same time, they can also cultivate their learning ability.
Third, study hard and wait patiently.
From many exams, it can be found that it is not that children can't do problems, but that they lose points because of carelessness. Therefore, carefulness is also the key factor for children to widen the gap.
Based on my children's situation, I think the above points are the main factors to widen the gap, so we should pay attention to them from an early age.