Many times, you fly to your mountain like a bird in the first place.
So, I was attracted by this book for human disqualification.
A search found that this book was released last year, and the Douban score actually reached 887,000. Since a new book was directly ranked 84th on the Top250 list of Douban books.
"An amazing story is really inspiring. When I read her extreme childhood story, I also began to reflect on my life. Everyone will fly to your mountain like a bird like you. Better than what you heard. " Even Bill Gates was full of praise after reading it.
So this week I finished reading this book with strong curiosity, and the biggest feeling after reading it was: shock.
I was moved by the details in the book:
Of the seven children, four have no birth certificates, no medical records and no school records. I don't know when I was born; I don't know what the school looks like; I don't know how to see a doctor.
The Luke brothers' legs were burned. Instead of being sent to the hospital for treatment, they went home for treatment and even stuffed their legs into the trash can. Father almost stopped breathing and didn't go to see a doctor even if he was burned all over;
Tara was abused by her second brother Sean for a long time. She often picked her up from the ground, stuffed her head into the toilet and threw her hard.
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Maybe you think this is a plot in a novel, so you should judge it as a novel.
No, it's not,
This is an autobiography written by the author Tara, and all the stories in it are her personal experiences. And she was born in 1986, and she is of the same age as us.
Mark Twain once said: "Sometimes truth is more absurd than fiction, because fiction is carried out under certain logic, and reality is often illogical."
Indeed, sometimes reality is even more unimaginable than fiction. The world is so big, what we know may be just the tip of the iceberg.
The Tara family lives in Buck Peak, Idaho, USA. Her father works in a garbage dump and her mother is a herbalist and midwife. There are seven children, four brothers and two sisters in the family, and Tara is the youngest.
My father is a strict and autocratic Mormon. He asked everyone not to see a doctor when they were sick, and opposed children going to school. He thinks that the government will brainwash children, which is a demon and the hospital is a conspiracy of the government.
At the age of 6, grandma asked Tara, "Do you want to go to school?"
Tara said, "I don't like school."
Tara doesn't like going to school because she knows her father won't allow her to go to school. At the same time, she also believes what her father said: the government is a demon, and schools will brainwash people.
/kloc-at the age of 0/0, Tara was forced to become a member of her father's small task force and go to work in the scrap yard with her father.
Dad wouldn't let her wear gloves and helmet, so without protection, a long nail plunged into her calf and pulled her down until she was thrown out, making her tremble with pain.
Dad just told her to go home and stop the bleeding, and then went back to work calmly.
Tara, who is only 10 years old, can only go home crying after her father disappears from sight. After the injury, she wanted to go to school in order to escape from the junkyard.
But my father refused. He thinks that Tara, as his daughter, should hold a pious belief.
1 1 years old, Tara finally got rid of the junk yard and came to town to find a job as a nanny.
Her employer Mary not only taught her to learn, but also gave her the opportunity to learn dancing for free.
The dance teacher asked her to buy a dance skirt, but Tara said, "I can't buy it. It's not dignified."
In Tara's eyes, those dance costumes are prostitutes' clothes.
Dad said: a decent woman can never show any part above her ankle.
So in her mind, she always thought that wearing tights was a "dirty prostitute".
/kloc-started to make up at the age of 0/5. Not only was she ridiculed as a "prostitute" by her brother Sean, but she also grabbed her hair, dragged her into the bathroom and stuffed her head into the toilet as usual.
My brother Sean is a sadist. As long as Tara disagrees with him, he will abuse her.
15 girls should have spent the same age and enjoyed the care of their parents and brothers. But she only has a tyrannical father and a sadistic brother.
Dad always taught her:
"The more decent a husband lives, the more wives he marries. Women are born at home and should not go out to work. "
Following this teaching, she always thought that she would spend her whole life in the mountains, working for her parents, and when she grew up, she would become one of her husband's many wives and live for a lifetime.
She has too many shackles.
Father's ideological imprisonment; The work of the waste yard; Shaun Brothers' Violence Control
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It's like a prison has trapped her firmly.
Until one day, someone told her that there was another world outside and she could live another life. That man is Tara's other brother Taylor.
Taylor once ran away from home to study and saw the outside world.
Taylor said, "It's time to leave, Tara. The longer you stay, the less likely you are to leave. "
"I think this is your most uncomfortable place."
"The world will be different once dad stops instilling his ideas in you."
Although Tara has always denied that she can't do it and won't be admitted to school, she is still eager to go to school.
So, after that, Tara began to prepare for the college entrance examination. The school she attended was Brigham Young University, which was the only school receiving family education.
After two exams, Tara was finally admitted.
During college, once in a psychology class, Tara heard the word "bipolar disorder" and found that all the symptoms described by the professor were very similar to her father.
So she began to study the word, and under the pretext of writing a paper, she consulted every neurologist and cognitive expert in the school and described her father's symptoms to them.
It turns out that my father really suffers from bipolar disorder, and all his hatred for the government is his own imagination, which has caused great harm to his family.
The whole family experienced two car accidents, which left their mother with the sequelae of migraine because they were not treated in time. Her two brothers once stood at the door of death, and even he almost paid the price of his life.
But Tara didn't say it directly, because she knew that no one would believe that everyone was deeply influenced by his father.
Only when her father asked Tara to go home to work in the summer vacation did she firmly say, I will never have anything to do with the junkyard again in my life.
She said: "I decided to try a normal life. /kloc-for 0/9 years, I have been living according to my father's wishes, and now I want to try someone else's lifestyle. "
Although she knew that her father was bipolar, Tara could not completely get rid of his influence on her. After all, she was instilled by her father with all kinds of thoughts of resisting the government and hospitals since she was a child, and this thought has taken root in her mind.
So, she is ambivalent. She always feels guilty for betraying her father and God.
Tara struggled for a long time before she saw the doctor when she was ill. After taking penicillin, she still has ridiculous doubts that her eyes will bleed and her tongue will fall off.
However, these are all because this is the first attempt. It was not until she found out that the symptoms she was worried about did not appear after eating penicillin. On the contrary, after the sore throat was cured, she began to dispel these doubts.
In this way, she broke all her previous misconceptions bit by bit and began to reshape herself.
And there is a price to rebuild yourself, and the price is to become a "traitor" in the eyes of the whole family.
When Tara finally got up the courage to expose Sean's crime of abusing her to everyone, her father didn't choose to believe her, but asked her if she had any evidence.
There is no evidence that she is the destroyer of this family and a "dangerous person".
Finally, instead of getting the love and justice from her parents, she got more threats from Sean and more protection from her parents.
And they also told everyone that she was a "dangerous person" and a "traitor".
As a result, she fell into deep self-doubt and even almost suffered from depression.
Fortunately, she finally found a witness to prove her innocence.
But no one believed it.
Although no one believes it, it is enough for her to believe it, because she is finally free.
After many years, she chose to let go, get rid of her family background and truly become a brand-new self.
At the age of 28, she received a doctorate in history from Cambridge University. At the age of 32, she published her autobiography, You Fly to Your Mountain Like a Bird. At the age of 33, she became the "influential person of the year" selected by Time magazine.
Tara is still the rational, intelligent, kind and knowledgeable Tara.
Tara chose not to forgive, but to let herself go.
Because you let go of yourself, you can run to a better future and fly to higher mountains like a bird.
Just like the title of the book: when you fly to your mountain like a bird, it initially gives me the feeling that it is very literary and sounds like a novel.
But after careful exploration, it is found that the title of this book is actually very meaningful.
There is a saying in the Bible: Run to your mountain like a bird, which translates as: You should fly to your mountain like a bird.
This is the perfect place to escape and seek new beliefs.
For example, an owl rescued by Tara when she was a child found herself imprisoned and almost killed herself, so she decided to let it go.
Some birds are not meant to be caged, because every feather of them shines with freedom.
Tara is like this.
Escape from the mountains of my hometown, escape from my family, and pursue a better education and life like a bird.
The lyrics of the first half of singer Wang Feng's Fly Higher are very relevant to Tara's experience in the first half of her life:
Although we don't have an unfortunate family like Tara, each of us will be bound by various constraints in life to some extent:
When filling in the college entrance examination, I was disturbed by my family: I wanted to go to other provinces and opposed it. I wanted to choose a major that I liked relatively, but I also opposed it.
I'm graduating soon. In order to find a job, you want to take the postgraduate entrance examination. The family said, "What do you want to learn? Find a class near home. " ：
If you want to try to start a business, not only your parents will object, but also a large number of friends around you will object;
Especially in small cities in the third and fourth tier, if you participate in an off-campus training, it will be regarded as an alternative;
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These chains are always around us. In fact, the most terrible thing is not those opposing voices, but those decadent and solidified ideas:
Girls should behave like a teacher, or go home to take an examination of a civil servant;
I am an elder, so everything I say is right and I don't accept any refutation;
Society is like this, the class is getting more and more solidified, and it is useless for you to work hard;
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As we all know, the times we live in are the best. College entrance examination, entrepreneurial wave, everyone from the media, these are stairs, see if you want to climb.
These ideas are terrible, because if we stay in such a sound environment for too long, we will be easily assimilated and really turn these words into reality.
Reality is a shackle. You want to break free, only to find that only by cutting off the past and flying higher can you fly to your mountain.
Therefore, if you want not to be assimilated, you must escape first. The higher you fly, the farther you run.