On World Reading Day, I accidentally saw a question on the Zhihu: "Why do some people like reading very much and have a lot of books, but they are unwilling to lend them to others?"

Thousands of answers almost all have the same meaning: borrow something else to discuss, borrow books, never!

Looking down one by one, I found that there are really two kinds of people in the world: people who love books and people who love to borrow books.

People who love books generally don't borrow books from private people, because everyone knows how to cherish and give up what they love deeply; Borrowers seldom buy books because they don't like reading so much.

I am also a person who doesn't lend books to others, because no one can cherish my books like me. I won't open my mouth to borrow books from private individuals, which is my most basic requirement for myself.

A highly praised answer is this:

"I just don't want to lend books to others, because in my eyes, books carry personal feelings, and I don't want to share them with others, let alone be destroyed.

When I came home during the winter vacation, I opened the john christopher I had read in the summer vacation of high school. Tears on some pages still exist and become shallow spots. Stroking some crumpled pages, I saw not only a book or words that made me cry at that time, but the time and mood after the college entrance examination, regardless of confusion and hope, without knowing the source and destination.

In other words, a book accompanied me through a small part of my life, just like … cicada slough, which once infiltrated my unique day.

In the eyes of others, this is just an old book, and there is nothing to cherish.

It is better not to borrow books than to lend them reluctantly and then tell them not to break them. "

That's true. You blame me for not lending you a book, but I don't think you understand my feelings: the meaning of a book is far from what others think of it. It carries my feelings and love, especially the books I have read, and I don't borrow them.

Books, as a special personal item, entrust a person with the feeling of reading it at the moment and have memories and feelings belonging to a certain node in his life. After being borrowed, it was destroyed and lost, and his heart was gone. This regret is irreparable.

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Another reason why many people don't want to borrow books is that some people don't cherish what they borrow, and the final result is that they don't return it. If you don't urge yourself to be angry, you will urge others to be angry. If you lose it, you can only admit that you are unlucky.

The books I borrowed are rarely returned intact, including many versions that I can never buy again. Occasionally, there are several books that I have retrieved many times beyond recognition: the pages are separated, stained with oil, and the pages are missing, which is simply terrible ... The same people in the same world borrow books.

People who like to borrow books seldom spend their own money on books. Borrowing books doesn't really like reading books that much, just because it's a whim, or because books are said to be good-looking.

When I was in middle school, I couldn't afford books, so I could only read comic books. At that time, the price of buying a comic book was 70 cents, and renting a comic book was 20 cents. I saved all my reading money, because there was not enough food at school, so I could buy fried steamed buns at school with pocket money during recess. Hungry for what I love, I don't feel bitter at all, but I am very happy.

I don't want to spend money on books because I don't like reading very much. True love is easy to distinguish, that is, "I am willing to spend money for it;" I want to hold it in my hand for the first time. " Loving a book is actually the same as loving a person.

Some people are willing to lend you money, but not necessarily books. I won't borrow books from anyone except in an open bookstore or library. When you see a book you are interested in, you will go directly to a physical store or buy it online.

As for the friend who borrows books, I would rather buy him a new one or throw him my purchase link. It's okay to break up and borrow books. Anyway, as soon as you open your mouth, it shows that you don't know the depth.

I like a netizen's words very much:

"If you borrow someone else's book, you still don't understand it; If you are still lending books to others, you don't deserve that book at all. This has nothing to do with meanness, it is the suffering of the soul. "

Sanmao also expressed his firm attitude of not borrowing books: "I don't borrow my books and toothbrushes. I really insist on giving people toothbrushes. "

Books are not lent out, because of a spiritual cleanliness, every book I read has my marks: marked paragraphs, marked words, and circles that only I can understand. This is a very personal thing, and I don't want others to touch it.

Books are children and lovers. If you can't put them down, it's hard to lend them to others willingly.

If you really love books, why do you want to borrow them? I never believe that there are people who can't afford books in this era.

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So far, I have a deep impression on the scene of the Kangxi dynasty: Kangxi's imperial coffin carried an old scholar Yao Qisheng in the ice and snow of Shengjing, and Kangxi said:

"You can read the books here at will." But when Yao Qisheng got off the bus, he had not finished reading the book in his hand. Kangxi wanted to download the book: "I never give away two things, one is a concubine and the other is a book I have read."

"Don't give away the books you have read", you are a generation of sages, and when it comes to books, you are still a scholar.

The poet Xu Zhimo is also a book fan. He has many books, but he doesn't lend them out. 1925, Xu zhimo temporarily decided to take refuge in Europe.

Even in such an emergency, he did not forget to write to Lu Xiaoman, and Lu Xiaoman specifically told him how to deal with his "book":

"Have you been to my house today? I hope Mr. Shen has packed my things, and odds and ends can be stuffed in those two suitcases. I don't have a key, so I can put a seal on it and store it upstairs in the club. I think that's enough.

Besides, my books are the best. I try to order a little. You know how much I like books. I hate being dragged around. You are not allowed to lend them out except one or two (one for yourself) that I am allowed to take at will. You have to tell Mr. Shen about this. "

From this letter, we can see how much a reader loves books. There are so many books and so many friends that only one or two can get books from his room.

Some people may think that he is stingy and unreasonable. Actually, it has little to do with being stingy or not. Lending a beloved book is like giving it to an unknown fate.

Many people who have borrowed books say, "Except for a few people who really love learning, most people borrow books on a whim and probably put them there after borrowing, which makes it difficult for people who like books to accept."

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Mr. Ye Dehui, a famous bibliophile and publisher in the Qing Dynasty, once posted a big slogan at the door of the study, which read: "Madam doesn't borrow books."

This sentence may have a playful element, but it also speaks the hearts of many book lovers.

My friend first frost also talked about the reason why she doesn't borrow books:

"A person who really likes reading usually doesn't like to lend books to others. If he is willing to lend them to you, he either really appreciates you very much or doesn't want the book. Even so, he will recommend Taobao, Dangdang, Amazon and major bookstores in China. "

If you are not a person who likes books, it may be difficult for you to understand: why do you want me to buy them online when they are on his bookshelf?

It is also difficult for me to understand those who borrow books: a person who really loves knowledge, when encountering a favorite book, will not try to find it by himself, but want to borrow it from others every day.

As Xia Gaizun said, "I can't seem to be addicted to borrowed books. I have to buy them myself to satisfy them. This is also a kind of possessiveness. "

If you like it, shouldn't you want to keep it for yourself Buy it yourself and watch it as long as you want.

Many people only know "borrowing" when borrowing books, and don't think about "returning". Just like dealing with interpersonal relationships, they only know how to reach for them and have no sense of responsibility.

If something borrowed by others is a treasure, you don't cherish it yourself. They spoil it at will and are not happy to borrow books. Why bother?

Maybe some people will call me sentimental and stingy. Is it not just a book? You talk like a baby. Go ahead, if I can stop those who borrow books from now on, it is the greatest significance of my writing this article.

People in this world are different. You like to borrow books, others don't. It doesn't matter what you know, just don't lend them.

Confucius said: Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you. I want to add: Be careful to do what you want with others, and don't impose your preferences on others.

A good book is like a bosom friend and an elder. Those who truly love and respect him will naturally get his favor.

A good book, tossed and turned, can always understand a little, just like the ancients said, a book has its own golden house. Who dares to borrow such a good book at will? Only people who really stand on the same front can exchange needed goods and complement each other's advantages.

A gentleman does not win people's love and respects a person, so don't mention borrowing books, lest you can't make friends when you open your mouth.