The book "Awakening Children's Internal Drive" is worthy of parents' reference. There are several chapters in this book, among which I am most impressed by four aspects!
The first is to slow down, follow the children's rhythm and grow up with them.
Because living in a fast-paced era, parents are anxious, and how their children will live in the future is always urged, which is counterproductive. The author of this article also experienced anxiety, and later realized that children's growth is regular, and it is not your parents who urge them to walk faster.
The simplest thing is to do homework, which is of great concern to everyone and a social phenomenon. None of them do their homework, but when they do, chickens fly and dogs jump. After school starts every year, many people search too much because of homework problems, which shows that this is a social problem.
Make an appointment with your child, so it's easy to communicate. Children go from heteronomy to self-discipline.
It is necessary to work out a suitable study plan with children, so that children can take the initiative, and parents are mainly responsible for supervision! This also needs to be accumulated, and it cannot be cultivated in a day or two. Therefore, the cultivation of children's good habits still needs parents' continuous persistence. After all, children are still young, and it is still difficult to rely on their self-discipline.
Second, cultivate children to develop the habit of reading.
Everyone knows that reading habits are very important. To cultivate children's reading habits, parents must first love reading, but parents don't. It takes a lot of time to cultivate children's habits. After all, many habits are edified, parents love reading, and most children also like reading.
Prepare books suitable for children, so that children will be interested. When children are young, they can buy colorful picture books to cultivate emotional intelligence, personality, adversity quotient and financial quotient. Moreover, they can also spell books and communicate with children of the same age, let children communicate, teach children to learn to share, and exercise their language skills, interpersonal skills and communication skills. These will invisibly increase the child's self.
You can also take your children to libraries and bookstores. There is no limit to the types of books your child can read. As long as he likes reading, we should give him strong support. After all, it is not easy to cultivate an interest.
For example, popular science books are a bit abstruse, but children especially like dinosaurs and insects. I am also particularly interested in space. In fact, children are sometimes not very interested. As long as their parents take the lead in saying it's interesting, they will unconsciously be infected by you. Being a parent is not easy, but you should learn to find happiness in the process of accompanying your children.
At home, I also insist on reading with my children. Since the birth of the child, I have read several short stories before going to bed every day. There are not many specific stories, but sometimes children will tell me stories. In this way, children's language organization ability and thinking ability are trained. After all, if he wants to talk, he has to think, and it is better to think about how to say it.
There are really too many ways to cultivate reading. As long as you do it with your heart, you will find a reading method that suits you.
Third, let children keep a sport.
This is indeed a key issue. Many children only know how to study, but they really ignore their health. Finally, the child fainted because of going to physical education class. In the senior high school entrance examination, many boys in the class are 180 cm, but only a few can pull up. The passing rate of sports is simply worrying. Nowadays, many children are held by electronic devices, and it is too difficult to move.
If you care about your child's growth and accompany him to develop a sport, boys or girls can practice running, playing basketball and badminton without much. You can do it if you want to. The key is to insist that when your child is depressed or upset, he can play basketball or sweat while running, otherwise his troubles will be gone. Especially when he is stressed, sweating will release a lot of bad emotions, not to mention.
Fourthly, it plays an important role in children's life to cultivate the skills of independent survival and the habit of thinking independently when things happen.
At the same time, in the face of the detours that children should take, we should not blame them, nor should we plan their lives in all aspects. This kind of life is really good for children at first, but in the long run, it is not conducive to children's growth.
If you are meticulous about all aspects of your children, then you are a mother with a score of 100. Many things of your children have to be done by yourself in the end!
I have seen several cases before, all because of parents' arrangement. Later, the child himself felt that his life was like a walking corpse. He had no ideas of his own and didn't know why his life was alive. Some people are unhappy, and some people accomplish nothing after middle age. And then lead to family breakdown. Some even eat at home just after graduating from college, unwilling to go out to work, playing games at home all day, or eating and drinking, doing nothing. So that it later became a moth that harmed society.
There are many good ideas in this book, such as parents' self-growth, how to let their children pass adolescence. Children are not rebellious, but because they have their own ideas, they are also confused and exploring. I will come one by one!
Awakening children's internal drive is a systematic project for parents, which needs perseverance.
There are always so many uncertainties on the road of children's growth. Only by cultivating children's ability to think and judge independently can he walk more steadily in the future.