How do couples get along? Everything between husband and wife should be honest and learn from each other's strengths. Learn to tolerate each other's mistakes and try to coordinate on big and small issues. Everyone has his own personality, don't try to change each other and suit himself; The best way to change is to change yourself, so as to maintain the original love. Honesty between husband and wife is the patron saint of love. "Thomas" once said: If you open your inner truth, the truth you open will save you; If you don't disclose your inner truth, your undisclosed truth will destroy you.
Husband and wife should care about each other. If you have made achievements, don't hang high, thinking that you are great and ignoring each other's feelings. Behind successful men (women) are men (women) who get along with each other, so it should be said that family is the cornerstone of career success. We must share weal and woe; Try to take care of even small snacks.
Husband and wife are not places for reasonable arguments in the family. What is needed here is mutual respect and understanding. The meaning of respect is not polite in everything, but close and effective communication, so as to achieve mutual understanding and communication. With mutual understanding, the differences in personality and pursuit between the two sides can be mutually compatible and coordinated. Understanding does not have to be exactly the same; I don't do my own thing, and nobody cares about anyone. Understanding is to understand each other's personality, psychology and outlook on life. You can disagree with some ideas and performances, but you can't totally deny them. Couples who understand each other may also have different views on some things or do their own things; But emotionally and spiritually, they are closely linked.
Husband and wife need praise, even a redundant greeting, a bland and meaningless kind words will make each other relaxed and happy.
Husband and wife are not close, and husband and wife are close as friends; Friends keep friendship forever because they have space for each other. Love is also a kind of friendship. Only when husband and wife have the same space as friends can they love each other for a long time. The so-called "space" means that husband and wife give each other space and let each other play their respective strengths. Husband and wife should respect each other's privacy, and if there are differences between husband and wife, they should show their advantages and disadvantages, so as to make concessions to each other. Both husband and wife should take the initiative to love each other and form the same body in their hearts. The love between husband and wife is generally not as warm and considerate as when they are madly in love and newly married. Things that care about each other are mostly trivial things. Because it is trivial, it is easy to do, but it is also easy to be ignored. If couples are as active and meticulous as lovers and have more emotional appeal, they can avoid the negative impact of trivial daily life and form a long-term, warm and lasting family atmosphere. They should strive to be perfect without a circle, and husband and wife will always be lovers.
Appreciation is priceless, accommodate and praise your lover, and constantly improve the artistic level of husband and wife! May all couples live a happy life. In daily life, we often meet some couples who are in a fight because of family chores, and those who are light blame each other and start hands; The worst people turn against each other in the green card and sigh. In doing so, it really lacks the generosity and tolerance that a man should have.
Husband and wife live in the same nest and struggle to manage. After all, their life experience, temperament, knowledge, way of thinking and so on. Is different. Naturally, their views on something and the way they treat people are different. Some differences and frictions between them are normal gear phenomena, just like the new motorcycle we ride or the new car we drive. There is no need to make a fuss. After the running-in period, the speed will be balanced. In particular, some unprincipled issues can be laughed off.
How do couples get along? Hu Shi, a great scholar, has a wise saying: A wife is always right. "He is very talented and respected all over the world. His wife's level is not high, but he does get along well with her. After moving to the United States, his wife played mahjong all day, and Hu Shi watched. Xiao Qu once said, "I am not afraid of my wife, but I respect women. "Hu Shi and Xiao Qu's attitude towards their wives is precisely their generosity and stupidity. First, don't try to change each other. This is my first mistake. At the beginning of my marriage, I always wanted to turn my girl into the person I liked, and it turned out that I was a failure. A person's growth environment and life experience are different, and you can't change a person. In fact, every personality has its own advantages and disadvantages, so you should learn to appreciate it.
Second, two people should have their own space and trust and respect each other. Being married doesn't mean you have the right to look at each other's mobile phones or even check each other's phone bills. This kind of behavior itself will greatly hurt each other. If you don't respect each other, you will gradually lose each other. The two sides of a marriage can't be chained by watching. Only by giving each other freedom can there be happiness.
Marriage is not the end of love, but a turning point and a new starting point of love. Love before marriage is temporary, love after marriage is lifelong, so husband and wife should learn to tolerate and understand each other. Carnegie, a famous American psychologist, once said: "Marriage is not a frank place, it is a diplomatic occasion." Then how can the salary of love burn to the end of marriage only by the love season or the first marriage? Especially with the acceleration of social rhythm, couples who have been working hard for their families and careers spend less and less time together, and even the opportunity to have a meal at leisure is routinely cancelled. If each other is often disturbed by some negative emotions such as troubles, worries, troubles, injuries, etc. when they are in a foreign land, the life of the husband and wife who were originally unremarkable will become even more precarious.
Husband and wife are birds in the same forest, and they should fly together in the face of disaster. This is the real husband and wife. Life is full of twists and turns, and the road is bumpy. We should help each other, understand each other, love each other and respect each other. No matter what kind of wind and rain there is behind, we can really improve the relationship between husband and wife and eventually graduate. Both husband and wife live a sunny life.
Tolerance and generosity. Take a step back, don't point the finger at Maimang, and solve the problem calmly afterwards.
Living together for a long time, the friction between husband and wife will inevitably increase, which may eventually affect the feelings of husband and wife. Dr. harriet Lerner, a famous American clinical psychologist, mentioned in his new book "The Law of Marriage: A Guide for Married and Cohabitants": "Passively waiting for the other party to change can only accelerate the destruction of marriage, and the best way is to take positive actions by yourself." In his book, Dr. Lerner mentioned several best rules for couples to get along so that they can love each other harmoniously. Rule 1: Imagine a guest living in your house. Married people treat strangers far better than their partners. A couple asked Dr. Lerner for advice. Whenever they were alone together, they would choke and blame each other. So Lena suggested that one of their colleagues move in with them for a few months. As a result, the husband and wife became respectful to each other. In this regard, Dr. Lerner pointed out that imagining a guest living at home will greatly enhance the partner's ability to control emotions. Rule 2: criticize each other at most once a day. As they get to know each other more and more, there are fewer words of praise and more words of criticism. No one can tolerate criticism more than appreciating marriage. So both husband and wife should keep their mouths shut. Ideally, they should criticize each other at most once a day. Rule 3: Keep in mind the "three sentences" principle. Many men are afraid of falling into endless quarrels. What annoys men most is the speed of speech, the number of sentences and the volume when women are angry. So turn down the volume, speak slowly and try to express yourself in three sentences. Doing so can not only avoid quarreling, but also improve communication efficiency. Rule 4: Don't be stingy with praise whenever and wherever you are. We often encourage children to form good habits through praise, but we forget to apply this trick to our partners. In addition, you can often do things that make your partner feel loved and cherished, such as washing dishes and washing feet for each other ... Small things often warm each other's hearts best. Rule 5: Learn to listen. When both sides relax, everything is easy to accept.