I have never used the word "counterattack" in my previous writing, and I never thought that I would use it on myself one day. However, looking back on my experience from a communication imbecile to a lecturer, I think the word counterattack is not more accurate. Below, I will share the story of my counterattack with you, hoping to give some inspiration to friends who have had the same distress.

I was once considered a "boring gourd"

I was a social idiot.

There must be someone who doesn't believe this.

Actually, I remember when I was a child, I was quite lively. It was king of the children in the village. Every day after school, I will lead a group of friends to run wildly, play hide-and-seek and fight games.

It happened after my adolescence.

Somehow, I suddenly became silent, timid and shy. Afraid of meeting people, afraid to take the initiative to talk to people.

At that time, my relatives came to my house on holiday, and I dared not take the initiative to say hello; Sometimes I call each other, but I have nothing to say and I don't know what to say to them. I remember once, many relatives went to my house for a party, and I hid because I was shy.

At home, my parents and brothers and I have nothing to say. I always feel that we are all family and there is nothing to say.

At school, I dare not take the initiative to associate with my classmates, and I will feel very lost when I see others make a scene.

At that time, I was particularly afraid of teachers asking questions in class. As soon as the teacher asks questions, my heart beats wildly, for fear that the teacher will point at me. Sometimes it is really pointed out. When I stand up, my mind suddenly goes blank and I can't answer the questions I will have.

Now it seems that I was suffering from "social phobia". But at that time, I didn't realize it was a mental illness, and I always thought I was introverted. Although I feel depressed and want to change, I don't know how to change, and I always can't take the first step. I often comfort myself with "it's urgent to get into college, let's talk about communication later".

In this way, until graduation from high school.

I finally took the first step to change.

In the early 1990s, I entered the university.

The atmosphere of the university is completely different from that of the middle school, and the study pressure is not so great. I realized that I had to change myself, otherwise it would be difficult to adapt to society in the future.

I didn't expect someone to send a pillow when I was sleepy.

After knowing my troubles, a classmate solemnly recommended Speech and Eloquence to me, saying that as long as I keep reading this magazine, I believe my expression and communication skills will be improved.

Just like a drowning man grabbed a straw, I was ecstatic to turn over the magazine, hungry, and met each other late.

From then on, I read, practiced and tried to change myself.

At that time, every weekend, I would go to a remote corner of the campus to practice tongue twisters, read speeches and practice my mouth.

At that time, I would take the initiative to associate with my classmates and actively participate in the "sleeping party" in the dormitory.

At that time, I will actively participate in the speech contest and debate contest held by the department. I remember that in my junior year, without the teacher's arrangement, I took the initiative to form a debate team with three classmates to represent the class in the department's debate and serve as the fourth debate. Although I didn't advance to the final by a few points, I personally felt the angry atmosphere on the debate field, which gave me a real baptism from courage to eloquence.

At that time, I actively participated in the Spring Festival Gala in my class. Although I just sang a song and my voice is not so good, I value participation and actively integrate into the group.

At that time, I was a frequent visitor to the library because I knew that "my mind was full of poems and books."

After graduating from college, I came to the unit with the idea of "seizing every opportunity", actively participated in the activities organized by the unit, and took the initiative to greet and chat with colleagues, which was quickly recognized by leaders and colleagues. I was once selected as a representative unit to participate in the speech contest of the city's procuratorial organs.

On the recommendation of the leader, I was hired as a part-time teacher by the Organization Department and the Party School. Up to now, more than 90 anti-corruption warning education lectures have been held, and many lectures on "leadership eloquence and leadership charm" have been held for department-level leading cadres. In 20 12, it was awarded as the first "Top Ten Lecturer" in the city.

Because of my achievements in propaganda, I have lectured for the training courses for correspondents of procuratorial organs in the whole province many times, which is very popular.

After taking the leadership position, he presided over the meeting many times and introduced the experience of party building in poverty alleviation at the city meeting many times. No matter how big the occasion is, I don't have stage fright and can express myself fluently.

Looking back on this experience, I really appreciate the reminder of that classmate, the help of speech and eloquence, and my courage and persistence.

You can also achieve a counterattack.

It is also a kind of courage to share your scandal for the first time. I am very excited and very emotional. I have some suggestions for friends who want to change themselves.

First, no excuses. Life never starts too late. Grandma Moses began to learn painting at the age of 76, and held a solo exhibition in new york at the age of 80, which caused a sensation all over the world. Although it was not too late to start practicing eloquence until I went to college, I was able to completely change it and made commendable achievements. So no matter what you do, you should only try to succeed, and you can't make excuses for yourself because you are too old, introverted and have too many things.

Second, train hard. Eloquence is not innate, and no one's eloquence and communication skills are innate, mainly acquired. Even some great orators, such as Lincoln and Churchill, achieved success through hard work. It is very important to learn the methods of conversation and communication. What is more important is to seize every opportunity of exercise and constantly sum up and improve.

Third, I am not afraid of making a fool of myself. Bernard Shaw was one of the most timid people in London when he was young. He often walked on the levee for twenty minutes or more, and finally got up the courage to knock on people's doors. Later, someone asked Bernard Shaw how he learned to speak in public, and he replied, "I learned to skate by myself-I stubbornly made a fool of myself until I got used to it." We should overcome psychological barriers, abandon the psychology of losing face, be bolder and thicker-skinned, and we will gradually get out of the haze and usher in the sunshine.

Fourth, continue to charge. Eloquence is not just lip service. The famous speaker Li Yanjie once said, "A speech without wisdom is zero." Read more and accumulate more, so that you can have goods in your stomach, your head is not empty, and your words are substantive.

"Good wind, with its strength, sent me into Qingyun." For me, this force is courage, persistence, tempering and charging.

I tell you with my own counter-attack story: I can do it, so can you.

About the author: Wu Xiaowu, a columnist with a rich book, lives in a small coastal town and has a view of the world; Doing serious work and writing some light words. @ Eagle has three strong teams.