Bauer will be born in a month. In order to reserve some knowledge about multi-child parenting in advance, I recently read "Two-child Parenting Course for Japanese Mothers" written by Japanese writer Izumi Puzi, and sorted out some things I learned through this book.

1. To cultivate optimistic, confident and happy children, first of all, mothers should take care of themselves.

Although raising two children is already very busy and faces more challenges and responsibilities, mothers often put the needs of children, husbands and families first, and often suppress or ignore their own needs and desires, which will bring long-term anxiety and unhappiness to their mothers. These negative emotions of mothers will be passed on to children, husbands and other family members, thus affecting the happiness of the whole family. Therefore, only mothers put their needs and emotions in an important position and take good care of themselves. Even if they take two hours off from work, they can go shopping, watch movies, chat with their girlfriends, massage and so on. You can make yourself feel better, thus bringing a more relaxed and happy atmosphere to your children, husband and the whole family.

So remind mothers to take care of themselves.

Taking care of children is not only the mother's responsibility, but also asking for help.

Taking good care of children is not only the responsibility of mothers, but also the responsibility of fathers, elderly people at home who can turn to for help, or friends or social organizations who can help. Don't worry, it is best for a mother to accompany and take care of her children with 100%, which makes her very tired. You can seek the support of other family members or external forces appropriately and leave rest time for your mother. At the same time, we should believe that children also need to contact people with different roles and personalities, and children can learn and absorb different contents from them.

Moreover, in the process of parenting, the participation of the father's role is also very important for the growth of children and the maintenance of the relationship between husband and wife. It is necessary to believe that fathers have different ways to take care of their children and give them different feelings of male strength.

3, respect each child's personality, don't compare.

Although they are brothers and sisters of the same parents and grew up in the same environment, each of them has his own different personality. Parents should carefully taste the characteristics of each child, respect each child's different personality characteristics, and avoid comparing two children. Comparison often leads to children's direct inferiority. Everyone is independent, different and should have their own different personalities. We should respect individuality and differences.

4. "You are a brother, you must * * *" to avoid giving the boss too much responsibility and pressure.

When younger brothers and sisters are born, parents or elders often say: You are brother, you must be * * *.

"You are a brother, you must take good care of your sister."

"You are a brother, be obedient and set an example."

"You are a brother, you must let your sister."

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Parents often blurt out such words, please don't forget: when my sister was born, this little brother was less than 5 years old and still a child. He shouldn't suddenly take on so many responsibilities entrusted by adults of his age because of his sister's birth. Please don't forget: he is still a child, a child who needs the care of his parents and elders. In addition, when a younger brother or sister is born, parents should pay more attention to the emotions and needs of the older child, so that he can truly feel that although he has a younger brother or sister, his parents' love for him has not diminished.

Brother's brotherly affection for sister or younger brother is a natural process, which is gradually established in the dribs and drabs of life and in the process of brother helping mother take care of younger sister.

5. What should I do if there is a conflict between my brothers and sisters?

Conflicts between brothers and sisters often occur. At this time, parents need to either leave the problem to their children to solve, or intervene in a neutral capacity, without criticism and judgment, so that both sides can state the facts and let both sides think about the solution together through heuristic questions.

The above points are sorted out through some learning in the book, hoping to help parents who already have Erbao, and also hope to help them deal with Erbao in the future.