When I was 20 years old, I was still studying in Zhengzhou. I was a sophomore and had a girlfriend who was in love. We will go to the library to study together, do part-time jobs at the auto show together, and enjoy peony in Luoyang together. The idea at that time was simple. I think if two people like each other, they can go to the end, get married and have children.
My girlfriend basically met all the requirements of my ideal partner at that time. She is very good-looking, gentle and quiet, and occasionally a little noisy. She can have a good time with me in college. We seldom quarrel together. If we disagree, we will make up soon.
After graduating from college, because of work, we broke up and ended our love for more than three years. At first, I will lose sleep all night and want to get back together. But whenever I pick up the phone and say something to her, I can communicate well at first, but I quarreled before I met too many times. Repeated quarrels also imply that our relationship has come to an end
After breaking up with my college girlfriend, I talked about four relationships, including my last marriage partner. The shortest is only five or six months. That girl was introduced from home and works in the system like me. We don't have many languages in common, and every communication is a polite greeting. But because of the suitability (work, family environment), the relationship between men and women was quickly determined.
Later, I made an appointment to go out to play together. Because my superior informed me of something, I told her one day in advance that I couldn't go this time and apologized. Later, when I suggested going out to play, she also faltered. Finally broke up.
Last time I fell in love, I talked for about a year and a half and got married. Counting the time, I have been married for almost a year now. To tell the truth, we don't have the kind of deep love in college, but it is definitely the most suitable marriage I have ever met, which conforms to my ideal partner image when I was 30 years old.
She is more sensible and caring, then she has a stable job, gets along well with my family and is filial to my parents. In short, everyone is satisfied. As time goes on, we gradually run in, become mature, and have deeper and deeper feelings for each other. I openly say that she is one of my two favorite women now (the other is my mother).
People always change, especially between the ages of 20 and 35. The change will be great, and your ideals, temperament, mate selection criteria and so on will change. But I always believe that we should all develop and change in a good direction, maintain the benign development of the three views and become more responsible.
How should we spend our lives? To quote a sentence from "Big Fish Begonia": "Love a person, climb a mountain and build a dream", and it is enough to live this life calmly!