I don't know if you have noticed, but there is a phenomenon in life. Walking in the street, I often see some very humble young men and an elegant and charming lady strolling around the store arm in arm, which makes people envious. Once in a ballroom, a recognized "bad" boy always invited the most beautiful lady to dance. There are also some elegant people who say that it is sour not to eat grapes, and sarcastically say, "It's a pity that flowers are inserted in cow dung." When I was in college, I read Chinese and foreign ancient and modern love novels, and I also found that Anna prefers people like playboy W Lenski to serious karenin. You Erjie loves Jia Lian, and Du Shiniang is infatuated with angel lee. Finally, she found that she had been cheated and was very angry. For this reason, I am really puzzled. How did the effect of "bad" boys being favored by many women come about? I meditated, I read, I observed, I experienced, and finally I had an epiphany. ...

Bad boys are born with a sense of humor. Take dancing for example. I witnessed a well-dressed and elegant man walk up to a lady and say, "Miss, please dance." The girl waved her hand and said, "I'm tired and want to have a rest." Another yuppie "bad" boy came forward to invite, but the girl still waved her hand and refused, only to hear him say, "What, do you want me to carry you up?" The girl was afraid that he would really do that. She felt ashamed in public and gave in. Another time, I saw several serious guys invite a young lady, but they were all rejected: "Sorry, I can't dance." A "bad" boy stood up and said, "I dare to risk being rejected again and invite you to give me some face." The girl said, "I really can't." "Are you? But you can walk, right? " "Of course." "Well, let's take a walk in the music." He succeeded.

The "bad" boy's behavior is fashionable and chic. I once talked to a girl about my friend. She said I was untidy and always wore a pair of polished leather shoes. She really can't stand it. I have seen a man and a woman eating candied haws while walking. Maybe girls want to express some feelings at this time and let boys take a bite. Facing the gaze in the street, the man wants to refuse, the woman still insists, and the man still eats. Then they looked around with a smile and found many eyes staring at them. Dare to think, dare to act, and not be bound by some old and popular moral norms. This is chic.

"Bad" boys show that they like to speak frankly.

Psychologists believe that women are eager to be cherished. If you take the initiative to show your love, even if you don't succeed, this real warmth will make the woman feel grateful. As long as you are serious, she will never laugh at you. Readers still remember Dacheng and Hu Sheng in Desire. Dacheng has Fang Hui in his heart, which can be described as "freezing three feet", but why did Hu Sheng take the lead? Apart from the ideological influence, the main thing is that Shanghai students dare to think, speak and do "bad", with a "thief" heart and a "thief" courage. Under the social background of the Cultural Revolution at that time, the kiss of Shanghai students with petty-bourgeois romance, strength and compulsion was a "bad" boy's move, but this "bad" was precisely the romantic desire of women's subconscious.

Bad boys are good at being unconventional. They often come up with some "bad" ideas that make you unexpected. For example, if you are tired of life in a metropolis, you can go swimming in Jinyugou Reservoir for a change, go fishing in the storm mouth by riding a light bicycle, go for an outing in the countryside or enjoy the warmth and comfort of a ticket to a small luxury cinema 10 yuan, or spend a happy Christmas Eve in Jinhua Hotel when the "one-night aristocrat" spends money on Christmas Eve, or create some dangers such as watching horror movies and taking a high-speed car to experience petite. No wonder many girls told me that their favorite movies are Broken Bridge and Roman Holiday. The love between the hero and heroine is love at first sight, full of romantic feelings and adventurous spirit, and it is indeed an unexpected encounter, which has produced unexpected surprises. Girls are naturally fond of drama, so there's nothing they can do.

"Bad" boys have many "grotesque" and "tough" characteristics. I once saw a "bad" boy chasing a girl, but he couldn't write a love letter himself, so he paid a love letter expert to write it. The words of admiration and praise were warm and moving, and finally touched his heart, which was a temporary success. The other one is very patient, two letters a day and a bunch of flowers a day. If you scold him for his thick skin, he laughs and says, "Thick, thicker than the city wall, and airtight." The world is big, a girl may be insignificant, but as far as she is concerned, she is everything. Therefore, every girl regards herself as a unique and arrogant "Snow White" in her heart, and she must not easily entrust herself to others. They all hope that the boy can play the role of the Duke of Windsor's "unpatriotic love of beauty" and Romeo's death for Juliet. The "bad" boy instinctively likes the heroic feat of a hero who loves beauty or sacrifices his life, so he can act as a "golden shield" for girls to protect their gods.

In addition, the teasing way of "bad" boys can often arouse the instinctive "subconscious" behind girls' arrogant Leng Yan, so that girls can quickly shorten their psychological and spatial distance from him and create a relaxed and warm atmosphere, which will be harmonious in an instant. "Bad" boys are just a little out of line or do not conform to traditional norms. Americans may be used to it, but China is not. In fact, I think the real reason why "bad" boys often succeed is that "his" behavior destroys some hypocritical "affectation" set by women or human beings themselves, so that girls can return to nature and live more chic, happier, detached and free. "Bad" boys are mostly humanized "big boys". "He" can often arouse the maternal feelings and tenderness of girls, so he can get the attention of girls.