Imagine meeting a lovely little sister (little brother) in the library, coffee shop or shopping. She is elegant and graceful, and at first glance she thinks she is the one in her heart. At this time, the deer in my heart bumped into each other, trying to get to know her and have more contact with her in the future. But at this time, I suffered from my poor speech and lack of skills, or I missed it when I hesitated to think about how to speak, or I summoned up my courage and came face to face. Seeing her smile, my brain suddenly went blank. I just squeezed out the word "hello" with trembling hands, which must be very difficult to do.
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What should I pay attention to when chatting up?
1, image
Image refers not only to appearance, but also to clothing, hairstyle, dressing and mental outlook. In a word, it is the first impression.
Everyone's dressing style is different, which is a personal characteristic. There is no uniform requirement, but cleanliness is very important, including clothes, hairstyle and face shape, because almost no one likes people who look a little sloppy. Needless to say. The principle is to give people as clean and decent an impression as possible. Because, when the two sides looked at each other and didn't talk, the first impression was deeply imprinted in their minds. There are preconceived characteristics, and the first impression is not good. It will take a lot of effort to change it in the future. Therefore, a good image means a good start.
2, mentality
Many friends may not be unable to strike up a conversation, but they are always afraid of being rejected, losing face and caring about what passers-by think of themselves, so they have been afraid to try. In a word, it is a lack of courage or a cool head.
Actually, it's true. It may not be able to strike up a conversation, which sometimes makes people feel humiliated and depressed, making people more afraid to try. But life always needs to try new things, because the joy of success will make people happier than the frustration of failure.
People tend to behave worse than normal people in front of people they care about and strike up a conversation. Originally, I was a very cheerful and likable teenager, but as a result, I became entangled and hesitant in front of the girls I liked, desperately trying to please each other through performance. As a result, my performance was extremely unnatural and I lost my appeal.
Therefore, personally, chatting up people is first of all psychological: it implies "I just want to say hello and make friends, nothing crazy."
Even if you don't succeed, it is also an exercise, which will make you grow up quickly.
3. Skills
In fact, doing the above two points is enough for you to attract his attention. Skill is just to help yourself take that step.
chance
Busy occasions, such as shopping malls and pedestrian streets;
Or quiet public places, such as cafes, libraries and cinemas;
The reason is simple: these places naturally make people feel safe, and they don't exclude communication with strangers.
If you strike up a conversation in an anxious place like the subway during rush hour, or when people feel a little unsafe after 8 pm, it is reasonable to be rejected.
chance
Timing is a matter that needs to wait and grasp.
You can wait until it rains. She doesn't have an umbrella, so you can walk there with an umbrella.
Or she dropped something and was about to bend down to pick it up.
Or when she is in a good mood and laughs like a flower.
In short, we need to wait and have a chance.
Of course, many times there are no romantic encounters, and opportunities should be created on their own initiative.
way
Try not to have physical contact, such as rushing up from behind and patting her on the shoulder.
Don't appear directly behind or in front, it's easy to scare others.
Be sure to smile, that's the best greeting in the world.
How to speak?
Observe first, observe her appearance, dress and talk, judge the other person's character initially, and organize different ways to strike up a conversation accordingly.
It' s not stupid to tell people to add a WeChat.
Girls probably think that you are doing WeChat business, so pay attention to some details.
Don't be too purposeful in your opening remarks, and don't say anything empty.
As soon as you come up, you need the phone number on WeChat, which is no different from the one who sends leaflets on the roadside, such as:
"Hello, beauty, I think you are cute and want to know you."
"Hello, beauty, I think you look good. Can you give me your WeChat? "
Don't show your "glib tongue" at the beginning, it will make people think you are crazy, such as:
"If I don't know you, I may regret it all my life."
The correct way is to introduce the topic naturally.
Of course, what matters is nature.
Being too straightforward can cause embarrassment.
Don't state your purpose at all, and lead the topic naturally.
To put it bluntly, it is the opening of the chat. For example, if you see a girl waiting in line to order food, you naturally say to her:
"You also like to eat this? I often come here to eat, and that xxx is also very good. "
Or in the coffee shop, she is chasing a drama, "Wow, you are also chasing a power trip. I like it. From the first season to the current finale, I am blabla. "
When two people have the same topic, the atmosphere will be very active, and then things will follow.
Finally, stick to principles but don't stick to them.
Best chat-up partner
Dogs, especially those with cute faces, should be carefully considered.
Girls naturally like cute things, and it is easy to lower their vigilance when they meet cute dogs. Maybe even take the initiative to talk to you.
Limited to space, I only talk about how boys talk to girls. In fact,
Chatting is not limited to men and women. You can meet interesting people in life and people with the same hobbies by chatting up. They can be boys, girls, grandmothers, grandfathers and even children. Chatting up is not only a skill of communicating with people, but also an attitude of actively embracing life.