Letter from parents to their daughters: Fan
Daughter:
I remember when you were five years old, you asked your father two questions. The first question is? Where did the universe come from? The second question is? I don't feel like I'm me. This letter begins with the above two questions.
Dad answered your first question on the so-called basis? The Big Bang Theory? The universe turned out to be an egg-sized fireball with extremely high temperature and density. You listened to your father's words and immediately asked where the fireball was placed, and then his father couldn't answer you.
In fact, there is no real scientific answer to how the universe came about. Dad believes that there will be no very scientific answer in the future, because since human beings were born in the universe, they cannot fully understand the whole system including themselves from a local standpoint, just like a tiny molecule on the human body, and it is impossible to fully understand people.
Daughter, imagine how big the universe is! Compared with the earth, people are already very small. Compared with the solar system, the earth is much smaller. Among the galaxies where the solar system is located, there are 1000 billion stars like the sun, and there are countless galaxies in the universe. In a word, we are only a tiny part of this infinite universe. We belong to this world, and the world doesn't belong to us? -The world can only be partially understood, applied and mastered by us.
We belong to this world, which means that each of us is influenced by some great natural laws and social laws. We should respect these laws, not violate them. Think about it, no matter how reluctant people are, time keeps passing; As long as people jump up, they will immediately fall to the ground, which is because of the attraction of the earth's gravity; The earth is already very big, and it has to revolve around the sun. As a child, a child, a student and a future worker, you are a complex of many roles, so there are many rules that apply to you. For example, as a child, you need physical and mental growth; As a student, you should constantly improve your intelligence; As a child, you should create a happy family life with your parents; As a future worker, you must prepare knowledge and skills to create value for society in the future. In short, you need to constantly recognize your role and actively fulfill the mission and responsibility entrusted to you by these roles.
Your second question, according to Dad's understanding, includes at least two questions: Who am I? How do I experience the course of life? These two questions are still too abstract and complicated. Why didn't my father answer you? What is a good life?
Some people say that a good life is a life inspired by love and guided by knowledge. Dad believes that a good life needs at least three things: health, harmony and freedom (freedom needs strength, self-confidence, ideological strength and economic foundation).
The first is health. Nothing is more important than health. Without a healthy body, no amount of wisdom and wealth is meaningful. So, dear baby daughter, keep healthy, do more exercise, do more activities between classes, keep writing distance, eat well and drink more boiled water. These seemingly ordinary things are actually related to such important things as health, so we must attach great importance to them and maintain good living habits. Health also includes mental health. Dad wants you to be confident, positive, optimistic, noble, generous, calm and naive. You are a girl with sound personality, excellent temperament, brilliant, passionate and energetic.
The second is to integrate into society, love life and maintain positive harmony with society. Society is made up of people, and no one can get happiness in this society independently unless he can integrate into society, care for others and get their care. In order to better integrate into society, you need to be caring, tolerant, understanding and learn to get along with classmates, teachers, parents.
The third is freedom. This is a big topic, so I can't say it. Dad, let's talk briefly about the power and freedom of thought. Freedom of thought first means the growth of thought. On the road of life, you will encounter all kinds of complicated difficulties and problems. It can even be said that the process of life development is a process of constantly overcoming difficulties and pressures and constantly handling various contradictions. Your world creates your thoughts, and in a sense, you live in your own thoughts. The bigger your thinking space, the bigger your space and stage, the higher your freedom and the richer your experience of life. At the same time, people need ideas or need self-protection. There are good people and many bad people in society. With ideological wisdom, we can distinguish between good and evil, get close to good people, stay away from bad people and protect ourselves. Let me briefly talk about the freedom of wealth. All the resources in our life need to be paid and obtained through labor. The goal of self-liberation is to liberate from endless inefficient labor, which requires economic foundation, that is, financial freedom. From this, you will easily understand the hardships involved in people's lives and the inevitability of paying the price, and you will accept the constraints, responsibilities and challenges brought to you by the real world.
The realization of a better life is an eternal topic, and everyone will give different answers. Dad stressed that people with health, hope and self-confidence are the creators of a happy life. I hope that when you open your eyes every morning, you will look at the world with appreciation and look forward to the richness, prosperity and glory in your life. The key to the world lies in your own heart, to strengthen your body, develop your mind, fly your dreams, drive away ignorance in exploration, find laws in contradictions, and become the creator of a happy life from naivety to maturity.
Having your daughter has brought endless happiness and hope to my busy and dull life, and also brought me lasting care, responsibility and concern. I hope that with the growth of age and the enhancement of understanding, you can better interpret your father's (mother's) expectations, experiences and concerns from this letter.
Everyone loves their children, but in different ways. I hope this letter is the best gift from my father!
dad
XX，XX，XX，XX
Letter from parents to their daughters: Fan
Dear daughter:
Hello!
Are you tired from military training these two days? But it should be interesting. There are so many classmates and instructors. When they encounter many unexpected situations, they will also encounter interesting things and exercise themselves. In short, they will gain something.
Life is like this step by step. Once upon a time, you were a child and suddenly grew up.
I didn't do well in the senior high school entrance examination, and I also reflected on myself. Maybe I asked you in such a hurry that you felt breathless. I know you have ambitions, and you are sad that you didn't do well in the exam. However, the playfulness of nature cannot be removed for the time being. There are so many new things coming to you, but you are at a loss and inevitably distracted. It's normal. Everyone goes through it. Failure in the exam is temporary. As long as you work hard, you can still gain something.
The teacher of Peno Education called. Your time is unlucky. You may have to make up the lessons alone. The math class may be completed in June 18 and June 19. But you can go to English class when you come back. They have makeup classes.
When I grow up, I know a lot, but I haven't understood it yet. Like what? If you don't work hard, the boss will be sad. Wait, do you understand? You really have to rely on yourself.
When I was in the first grade, I also loved to play. I played in the dark and failed to finish my homework in time. I failed except math and Chinese. At that time, I liked to play painting and skating, and bought painting and skating tickets to save pocket money. At that time, the martial arts film Shaolin Temple had just been released, and I went to see it three or four times. Some children watched it for more than a dozen times, and when they came back, they practiced hard, thinking that their martial arts were invincible that day and they were brave. I played with my classmates in the second grade, broke my arm and went home to rest.
Later, I went back to school, and there was nothing to play in the countryside. In addition, the teacher assigned a lot of homework, and he stayed up late every day. It was not difficult to learn later. Now that I think about it, if I had understood every question at that time, it would not be difficult in the future. But English has always been a weakness. Looking back, it's not the teacher's problem, nor that I don't want to recite it. Words don't want to be memorized, and texts don't want to be memorized. Naturally, they can't get better. It's hard to learn well after a long time.
I used a lot of new things in high school and played them myself, but I got tired of playing. I saw many peers around me, my academic performance was not good, and I worked ahead of time. Although there is a salary, it is not much. They talk about tacky things all day long, which is very annoying. From then on, they decided to enter the university. At that time, the college entrance examination was difficult. You see, one out of every seven students with college education or above will be admitted. I was about thirteen or fourteen years old at school, and I haven't passed the undergraduate course.
Later, I went to a key school to study, and then I knew why I was not as good as others. In fact, everyone is the same, but they really work harder. The learning atmosphere of the whole class is very strong. Everyone is studying hard and never talks about what is popular outside school, although everyone knows it. In this way, my father was finally admitted to the undergraduate course.
The world is wider and more difficult for you now. Take you to Europe, and you will understand its broad meaning. But it's harder. I'm afraid you still don't understand. What is more difficult is that in this beautiful world, there are more and more things and the differences are getting bigger and bigger. If you are excellent, you want more things and there are many people competing with you. If you want them, you must make more efforts.
It doesn't mean that you should try to get into a good high school or university or go abroad. On the contrary, this is only the first step. I hope you can get into a good school, but according to our experience, this is the first step to take a shortcut. Of course, if you don't do well in the exam and miss it, it doesn't mean that you will never reach it. Because we don't know the destination yet, which ideal high point we will eventually reach. I seem to have missed the train, but as long as (? I want to go. There's another one. You can also find other paths.
The key to life is to set up an ideal. What is the ideal? It's hard to answer. Living a rich life, this is one kind, but is it really like this? Live a decent life? It seems much better. However, what people ultimately pursue is actually to gain physical and mental pleasure and freedom. Financial independence can be free; I am talented and not afraid of being fired by my boss. You can feel happy at work, but you can feel happy voluntarily instead of being forced by others, right? Pursuing such a state requires our efforts today!
My father is a construction engineer and my mother is a bidding engineer. She has a family in Shanghai. Although she is not a wealthy family, life is still relatively comfortable and not stretched. But my father was just an ordinary child when he was a child. Many students who go to school with his father are inferior to his father. Why? Education changed my father, made me know your mother in Nanjing and gave birth to you. I took you to Suzhou, then went to Shanghai, changed your Shanghai hukou and went to school in Shanghai. First, the national policy of maintaining stability is good, and second, Dad has this ability. Although my father can't walk, he is much better than my childhood friend.
Dad loves you, so he is willing to provide you with as many conditions as possible. I hope you can live a free and happy life like your father through education and ability, and live a better life than your parents. Dad won't buy you anything because he doesn't want you to spend money indiscriminately. If it's what you need in your study and life, when has dad never promised you?
Losing weight is very important, especially for girls. But don't mess around and don't hurt your health. Snacks, sugary drinks, etc. Are harmful to health, and beautiful sisters don't eat them. Eat regularly, but don't be too full. In addition, exercise is essential, not to mention exercise, and it is also possible to find an activity that consumes physical strength.
It is human nature to play, and adults love to play, but we should correctly handle the relationship between fun and study, just as adults should also handle the relationship between work. Playing is as efficient as learning. Play with high efficiency and can relieve addiction for a long time. The same is true of learning. If we emphasize efficiency and complete the assigned tasks in the shortest possible time, we will save time. In fact, anything is fun as long as you are interested. Reading novels is fun, writing is fun, memorizing words is fun, and doing math problems is fun. Dad is very interested in doing math problems. He can solve a difficult problem. I don't know if you feel this way.
Well, I said a lot, and I don't know if you like it or not. In a word, you are our child. No matter how old you grow up, we will always love you. Wish you all the best. As long as you are on the road to progress, dad will always support you!
Love, dad.
XX，XX，XX，XX
Letter from parents to their daughter Fan Wensan
Daughter:
I didn't intend to write this letter to you today. First, after you went to college, you did well in all aspects of your academic life. I don't think it is necessary to nag. Second, some things really make me feel that I am not virtuous enough to preach. However, I decided to write this letter today, because anyway, I am your father, and there are always some things I can't let go without saying them. This letter, together with the previous two letters, gives a complete account of your studies, feelings and career, and then you really want to be a teacher.
The first two letters talked about emotions and studies, and this letter talked about career.
The elders always like to talk seriously about their careers with the younger generation. In fact, no one can tell what a career is, but it is really something that has been bothering everyone. In short, most people think that success in career is to gain recognition from others and get what they want, such as wealth, power, academic achievements and even beautiful people. But I think this concept of career is very imperfect, because from the historical experience, such successful people often have an imperfect life course and even experienced many vicissitudes, so they have it. Eat a little bitter, and you will become a master? Say it. I think a successful career is not a vulgar thing that people finally get in life, but an excellent state of life. In other words, if you can have a very good life in your life, then your career is successful. I seem to be talking a lot of nonsense when I say this. In fact, if you think about it carefully, these two different career views will be completely different lives. The former focuses on the result, the latter on the process, and finally all roads lead to the same goal.
So what kind of living condition is an excellent living condition? With an idealized standard, I think there should be two points: one is material freedom, and the other is spiritual freedom. Of course, there is no absolute freedom in any sense in the world, and even that kind of relative freedom is difficult. This requires two aspects to go hand in hand, one is ability and the other is mentality, and both are indispensable.
Let me talk about the ability and mentality of material freedom first.
I have told you many times that the purpose of learning is to acquire the ability to live, which is very important. Knowing this, you will consciously connect your knowledge with real life, and find a useful place for your study in reality, instead of hiding in the ivory tower and enjoying yourself. Of course, in the process of this connection, you will also gain a strong ability to live, thus making material freedom possible. As far as philosophy is concerned, the public's philosophy is a big and useless thing. In fact, philosophy is a real humanities. No one can live without philosophy. How to link philosophy with life and serve the public is a problem that your philosophy students should seriously consider. A few days ago, I read some messages from 20 14 graduates and teachers of philosophy department of Nanjing university, and I felt that it was still a little far from real life.
Let's talk about mentality again. The mentality I am talking about here mainly refers to a person's attitude towards freedom. No one's attitude towards things is out of nothing, one comes from nature, the other comes from the experience of life and the accumulation and correction of knowledge. If a person does not have the ability to acquire a certain material and is short of money, of course, he will not have the so-called material freedom mentality. On the contrary, there are only rich materials, and Zhu Men stinks. Without strong spiritual power to control and balance, it is not only impossible to have a mentality of material freedom, but it will become a burden and fetter of life. It is a truth that people die for wealth and birds die for food, and such examples abound.
Therefore, regarding the attitude of material freedom, my suggestion is: a gentleman loves money and takes it wisely (ability). If he is weak in water, I will only drink with a ladle. With Tao and degree, you can be free.
Let's talk about spiritual freedom. Spiritual freedom comes from curiosity and ability to interpret the world, which is actually a question of ability and mentality. I think this is your strong point. Reading so many books enriches your spiritual world and enables you to talk to the world. The sadness of reality often makes philosophers disheartened, because they are too smart to rub any sand in their eyes, but they have no countermeasures when they see the broken world, and finally they have to do nothing or even get rid of it. Why is this? Beauty and ugliness, good and evil are relative beings, and the world is materialistic, but sometimes it is idealism that gives everything color and temperature like the sun. Here, I want to repeat what I once gave you: all our efforts are not only to explore the truth of things, but to make our lives better.
Perceive life with a curious and rich heart and fill the wings of wisdom with the energy of love. This is the only way for a person's spiritual freedom, and it is also your mission as a scholar to face all sentient beings.
Finally, I'll give you a song by Mao Zedong, Seven Laws and Mr. Liu Yazi:
I can't forget that when I was drinking tea in Guangdong, I was talking about Ye Huang Zheng in Yuzhou.
Thirty-one years after returning from my motherland, I read zhanghua when the flowers fell.
Complaining too much can prevent heartbroken, and you should pay attention to it after a long history.
The water in Kunming, Mo Island is shallow, and watching fish is better than Fuchun River.
Wish you a happy life!
XXX
XX，XX，XX，XX
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