An original emotional number worthy of your attention
Illustrations/from the Internet
"10 years ago, when I was in my early twenties, the girls said I liked my uncle. Now I am finally old enough to be an uncle, but the girls dislike my age and say that they only like young and handsome little brothers. "
This is the real experience of colleague Zhang Zitao.
He is 34 years old. He has a house and a car, and his monthly salary is 7,000 yuan, which is less than the last one, but his life is still not easy.
He had his own house at the age of 33. In order to buy this house, his parents gave everything they had. Now he needs to pay a mortgage of 3,500 yuan every month, and with all kinds of living expenses, there is almost nothing left.
I thought I was old, with the temperament of an uncle, plus a house and a car, I was sure to find a girlfriend, but the reality was just the opposite.
He pursued three post-90s generations, aged 23, 25 and 26 respectively, and they rejected him on the grounds that their ages were too different.
One of the girls even bluntly said: "You are in your thirties, how can you still pursue our twenties?" ? We don't like uncles, we only like young and handsome little brothers. "
Whenever he talks about this, Zhang Zitao feels a little in distress situation, because he once pursued two girls when he was young, and they all said they liked uncle.
So he felt this way from the beginning.
In real life, there should be many people who have similar experiences. Many people don't understand why this is, and some even feel that they are born out of time.
In fact, this matter is not as complicated as everyone thinks.
Why do older men have this experience?
First, he is not facing the same group of girls.
Men really don't understand why girls say they like uncles in their twenties, but in their thirties, girls say they like little brothers.
There is a simple reason. They are not dealing with girls their own age at all.
Older men face girls of the same age in their twenties, while girls born after 1995 are in their thirties. Girls of the same age like uncles, and girls after 1995 like little brothers. This explanation should be understandable.
Many post-80s girls have poor family conditions and are willing to choose a man much older than themselves for a better life.
In addition, there was some publicity in the film and television dramas in those years, so there was an "uncle style" among the people, and many people followed suit.
But times are different now. Most girls born after 1995 are not too bad. They don't have to live with their uncle for money.
What's more, women who have experienced it personally finally find that young men are better.
Second, the so-called uncle does not mean a middle-aged man with a house and a car.
Many men have some misunderstandings about the word "uncle". They think that as long as they have a house and a car, they will be uncles at a certain age.
In fact, they think it's too simple.
Perhaps owning a house and a car was an advantage in the past, but society has been moving forward. Now there is a house and a car, which is just enough for everyone to meet the basic needs of food, clothing, housing and transportation.
It's like owning a car used to be a symbol of wealth, but now every family can afford a car.
So the uncle in men's eyes is in sharp contrast with the uncle in women's eyes.
Uncle in women's eyes: mature and steady, handsome and in good shape, with superior economic conditions.
The so-called superior economic conditions naturally require a high income on the basis of having a house and a car, and this high income must reach a state where the whole family can spend high and worry-free. There are only a handful of men who can meet these conditions.
Third, most of the families after 95 and 00 are not bad now.
Girls born after 80 will like their uncles. In the final analysis, they are eager to get rid of their original life because they have been used to living a hard life since childhood.
1Girls born after 995 or 00 have no such experience. They have lived in a beautiful era since childhood. Even if it doesn't reach the level of being rich or expensive, at least it has food and clothing.
Why do such girls like uncle?
What's more, many post-95 s and post-00 s have better economic conditions than post-80 s. Because parents can help, post-80 s are not as good as young men in all aspects.
I am old, my parents are old, and my family is poor. This comparison is doomed to lose from the beginning.
There is no material advantage and age disadvantage, which is what any girl will know how to choose.
There is always a solution to everything. Although everyone has a strange experience, there are still some ways to solve lifelong events.
1, straighten the position and choose the other half on the right.
Many older men and women are single because there is no suitable position.
In the final analysis, they overestimate their own advantages, so there is no way to enter the marriage hall, and the first condition for getting rid of the bill is to have self-knowledge.
If everyone is not Gao Fushuai, but just an ordinary person, then we should admit our mediocrity and look for the other half that matches us down-to-earth, instead of daydreaming.
Many girls are disgusted that men say they will always like girls in their early twenties, because most men don't have such capital, which will give people the feeling that something wants to eat swan meat.
In fact, men put themselves in this feeling, because most men also hate to hear women say that they will always like handsome and rich men.
2. Expand the scope of contact
The reason why many men are not married in their thirties is that their circle of contacts is too narrow. Although they can date each other, it is not easy to find a suitable partner.
In this case, everyone will expand their social circle. The more people they know, the more unmarried girls they will naturally know, so the chance of getting divorced will be greatly improved.
3. Strive to improve yourself
Everyone should strive to improve themselves and never relax.
This promotion not only refers to economic conditions, but also includes emotional intelligence, talent and external conditions.
The relationship between men and women depends on comprehensive conditions. Emotional intelligence, talent and looks are all advantages, which must not be ignored.
As the saying goes, as long as you are good enough, you won't worry about not being appreciated by girls.
Zhuang Die Meng Xiao/original author of emotional column
May your life be full of surprises and your happiness come as scheduled.