This is a wrong idea!
The mathematical symbol of love is not a plus sign: because 1/2 plus 1/2 is not equal to 1. The mathematical symbol of love is the multiplication sign:1/2×1/2 =1/4.
In other words, if two people ask each other to fulfill themselves, they have not developed their own values, self-confidence and opinions. This will make their world smaller and smaller, even suffocating.
The correct view of love is that everyone should try to change their own 1/2 into 1, and then get the result of 1× 1= 1.
The same is true of marriage. If you think marriage is a matter of two people, you need two people to work together. You will focus on what you have done and what the other person has not done, so you will ignore what the other person has done or take the other person's contribution for granted-because of what I have done-and you will not be grateful for what your partner has done, and he will also focus on what you have not done and what he has done.
Just like one of my former students, she always complained that she was wronged and said that she would go out to play. Her husband ignored her and the children and ran to the front alone, not caring about people at all. He felt that he didn't love her as much as he used to ... Another male student couldn't help but interject and ask, "Who is carrying your bag?" She rightfully replied at once, "of course it's him! I have done so much for my children. If he doesn't carry a backpack, who will? ! This is what he should do! "
If his backpack should be, what about taking care of the children?
Marriage is not a sacrifice, but a sincere commitment, so that you will have a completely different experience: you will not feel tired, you will not be angry because you are ungrateful, and of course you will not pay for your guilt. This kind of effort is that you listen to your heart and do things without asking for anything in return, because you know it is good for everyone-including yourself.
When your motivation is love, in order to understand love, you will pay attention to the process of giving, and understand that only when you really give will you open your heart and "accept".
For example, mopping the floor, you can complain, "Why am I mopping the floor again? Why can I sit comfortably on the sofa and play on the same day's work? ! I want to mop the floor ... "
You can also think like this: "I like to look at the clean floor, and I like to snuggle up and play with my children on the clean floor …" When you enjoy doing things calmly, you may find that the picture of father and daughter playing together around the sofa is so warm, and the father is accompanying the children attentively.
The more mature a person is, the more love he can give. Love and marriage are not all dependent on others for their own needs. Everyone needs to learn to be responsible for their own happiness. ?