The first day, it's hard to say. The next day, the gap widened. The third day, heaven and earth!
So, as a parent, what should you do to help your child enter junior high school?
First, why is it difficult for children in Grade One to keep up with their academic performance? This is determined by the child's innate IQ. The child has basically not entered adolescence before the first day of junior high school. The emotional intelligence cultivated the day after tomorrow is far from complete. Learning is basically determined by IQ. Children's IQ is mostly between 1 10~ 130, with little difference. At the same time, the growth environment and cultural environment of a class in the first grade are similar in the same city, so the academic performance is not very high. In the first stage, it is almost common for children to get more than 90% in all subjects. 98 and 92 may be separated by 30 or 40 positions. But there are very few students below 90% in grade one.
Second, the relationship between teachers and students and classmates is one of the key factors that affect children's academic performance and psychological state. When entering the first grade, parents should help their children to straighten out the relationship between teachers and students and classmates in a timely and decisive manner. Parents should know that the teaching profession is very hard mental and physical work. They work hard for the progress of our children. They should always keep in touch with their parents. Parents may wish to take the initiative to charge the teacher's mobile phone, so as not to spend their own money when the teacher contacts you. In this way, the teacher will always keep in touch with you and warm up the relationship between teachers and students. Teachers pay more attention to your children, and your children will have a more positive attitude and more motivation to learn.
At the same time, parents should take the initiative to contact other parents to be friends and let them know more about their children's dynamics at school. Understand and help children when they have problems. Parents should take the initiative to accept their children's classmates to play in their own homes and give their children a relaxed communication environment.
Third, checking children's homework regularly is an important means to cultivate stereotypes. Don't check your child's homework at any time, because if you do, he will be annoyed. It is recommended to check children's homework at a fixed time every Saturday or Sunday. In this way, your children will gradually form a good stereotype, and parents will stick to it no matter how busy they are. Parents insist that children will work hard! Don't give children homework, but inspire them to think for themselves.
Fourth, help children explain the different learning methods of learning mathematics, physics, Chinese, biology, history and geography, so that children can learn more easily. Mathematical physics and chemistry is a highly logical and scientific discipline, with endless concepts. When the previous concept is unclear, it will bring obstacles to the learning of the next concept. Parents should let their children understand the previous concept before they can understand the next concept smoothly. But the study of biology, Chinese, history and geography is different. You can break the study, which basically has little effect on the study in the next section.
Fifth, we should pay close attention to the golden reading period of junior high school and strive to increase children's knowledge. Through the accumulation of Chinese knowledge in primary school for six years, children's basic Chinese knowledge has made great progress in junior high school, especially in the first and second days of junior high school. During this period, there was no pressure for the senior high school entrance examination, which was the golden two years of reading extracurricular books. Parents should arrange for their children to read a lot of world literary masterpieces, classical masterpieces, poems and essays, fables and fairy tales, popular science knowledge, etc., including China. Intensive reading and extensive reading follow children's interests. If this stage is delayed, children will definitely lack knowledge links.
Sixth, the second day is a critical period for finding and discovering children's interests. Children of this age have no pressure to go to school, are curious about all kinds of things, and have a strong thirst for knowledge. It is a period to cultivate, discover and discover their future career interests and directions. Parents are advised to take their children to visit and study in natural museums, historical museums, science and technology museums, agricultural exhibition halls, military museums, aquariums, geological museum, traffic museums and other venues. Parents should pay attention to which booths their children stay for a long time and what knowledge they are interested in, and record it for reference when choosing professional volunteers for the college entrance examination. Parents, please
Remember: you can't expect your children to make contributions in areas of interest!
Help children break through the English listening and speaking mark as soon as possible. Every winter and summer vacation is the golden age for children to break through English listening and speaking. Parents should fully realize that English is not a science, but a language tool for people to communicate with each other. It is impossible to learn English like math and physics. Parents should realize this as soon as possible and take measures to help their children realize it. Parents are advised to pay attention to English listening and speaking summer camps such as Beijing Foreign Studies University and Shanghai International Studies University. We don't recommend taking reading classes, but we should pay attention to listening and speaking classes in games. When your child takes a bite of English, can he not be interested in English?
Eight, mathematics and physics, never let go of any of the previous concepts is the basis of continuous learning. Mathematical physics and chemistry have a strong logical correlation, and they are linked one by one. If the former concept is not understood, it will affect the learning and understanding of the latter concept. Especially in the proof or calculation of comprehensive questions, the concept is particularly prominent. Here I recommend eight learning methods of Professor Zhou Tian: planning management, preview management, attendance management, review management, homework management, wrong question management, difficult problem management and examination management. Your child may not be able to do these eight methods, but parents should cultivate their children's good study habits as slowly as possible.
Judge the child's inner world from his words and deeds, every move and an expression. And provide timely and accurate help. Among the students I tutor, there are too many students whose academic performance has dropped or even been depressed because of their mothers. What I want to remind parents is: take every word of the child seriously, analyze it, and don't wait until the child's problems are obvious before paying attention. It may be too late! Parents who don't understand their children can consult friends or experts. It is a compulsory course for parents to keep their children's psychology stable. If the mother is right, the child can be right; Only when the mother is qualified can the child become excellent; Mom insists that the child can succeed!
Ten, always be vigilant not to let online games ruin your children. It is understandable for children to play games, but there are conditions to limit what games they play and how long they play. The idea that children play games once in a while is not desirable. Similarly, try not to give your child a smartphone.
Eleven, against the movement, listen, let the children vent. When children enter adolescence, depression and irritability always accompany them. Many parents report that their children want to vent. They are depressed, they want to swear, they want to smash things, they want to cry and make a scene. These are inevitable in the growth of adolescence. Boys and girls, puberty is inevitable. The surge of male hormones in boys and estrogen in girls will make children fidget. How to get release and make children feel at peace? Anti-exercise is the best way to release hormone anxiety. Antagonistic sports include football and basketball games, stretching muscles in the gym, crying, throwing things and so on. Parents should consciously help their children release regularly. When children tell you, mothers had better learn to listen, not judge. You should learn from CCTV Wang Zhi's questioning skills, let the child speak out and vent, and his heart will be stable.
Twelve, make up lessons, for the knowledge points that you didn't understand in the past, you should find a teacher to make up lessons. But the key is that the learning method must be effective and correct. It is not recommended to find many teachers to make up lessons for children, because it will take up a lot of time and energy for children. The highest level of learning is to cultivate children's brain ability and the habit of autonomous learning. I once coached a good boy, and his mother often asked the teacher to make up lessons for the child, thinking that as long as she spent money, the child would become excellent. I suggest that my mother resolutely stop all make-up classes. As a result, the child became very good.
Thirteen, write. Arrange a teacher with a shelf structure for the children to attend classes. Chinese, especially composition, is out of 5 points. If your handwriting is good and your face is clean, you can get those 5 points. Therefore, some experts in China said that it is no exaggeration to get high marks if you write well. I told my parents that your children are facing the senior high school entrance examination and the college entrance examination, and you are not training calligraphers. So you just need to find a calligrapher to contact the children with the shelf structure 10 days. The shelf structure is good, the strokes are bad, and the words are not ugly. The strokes are good, but the shelf structure is not good. This word doesn't look good.
It is an important responsibility of parents to give their children the best learning method. What is a learning method? Learning method is to make a strategic plan for the achievement goal to be achieved in a certain stage (such as within 2-3 months) through learning methods, measures and learning skills. Intensive reading of textbooks is a learning skill, and changing learning style is a learning method. Here, give some simple suggestions. When the scores of multiple-choice questions and fill-in-the-blank questions are above 95%, it is suggested that children should go all out to do comprehensive questions in addition to completing the homework assigned by the teacher. When the scores of multiple-choice questions and fill-in-the-blank questions are 85~92%, children are advised to use comprehensive questions and conceptual questions in a balanced way. When the scores of multiple-choice questions and fill-in-the-blank questions are below 80%, it is recommended that children resolutely give up comprehensive questions. Go all out and concentrate on solving conceptual problems. 15. Shut your mouth, keep your heart, observe carefully, think deeply, slow down and be careful what you say and do. Parents don't know never to speak by experience. Sixteen, it is a homework that parents should do every day to keep their children in a stable state of mind. The children are too excited to be proud. Too depressed and easy to slack off. A stable attitude towards study and life is the guarantee for the steady improvement of academic performance. According to abraham maslow's psychological point of view, children's safety needs can only be completely protected in front of their parents, so children show a complete inner world in front of their parents. Between teachers and students, between classmates and exam results, and so on. It can cause children's various reactions, thus affecting their academic performance. Parents should pay attention to daily observation, and solve any abnormality in time, and never delay it into a problem.
Methods of Learning and Education for Junior Middle School Children Part II: Duty Counselor: Hello, parents, I am a duty counselor in Meng Ping. If you have any questions about your child's study, please feel free to ask me. Can you tell me something about children? Or may I introduce our Meng Ping to you?
Ms Yu: Let's talk about the situation first. My son is in the third grade now. How can I put it? He got good grades and was smart, but he was particularly naughty. His education, whether it is teachers, parents or leaders, is carried out in different ways, but it still doesn't work.
Consultant on duty: Children who are too obedient often show a lack of independence. Don't think that children's intelligence means good academic performance, obedience and discipline, while ignoring the development and cultivation of children's creativity and potential. Naughty is a child's nature, and it is inevitable for any child to develop physically and mentally to a certain extent. Naughty children tend to be smart, independent and strong-willed. As long as parents are good at guiding, naughty children are more likely to become a very creative person.
Ms. Yu: Yes, everyone says so. Sometimes it's good to think about your son's cleverness. Now I'm afraid he will be fooled by cleverness. His main performance is that he can't control himself. He always wants to provoke others or see something funny when he sees others. Whether he can move or not, he has to move. He must touch any most dangerous place.
Consultant on duty: Parents should not mind that children often make mistakes to make themselves angry. Don't complain that children are naughty and waste time. In fact, children will have more learning opportunities if they encounter more difficulties and try more. It is after learning a lesson from one thing that parents must give guidance and let their children be inspired after touching a nail, which will be valuable. Moreover, from wrong to right is a valuable process.
Ms. Yu: Then if he made a mistake, he made a mistake. Our parents must do something.
Counselor on duty: It is very important to accept the mistakes made by children and pay attention to the counseling afterwards. Give the child a chance to mend, and then we can understand the truth from the process of mending; Otherwise, parents will not give themselves another chance or hope anyway. Do you still need to make up? You can't achieve the effect of progress.
Ms. Yu: But when you preach to him, he knows a lot, but he can't control it for a few minutes. In addition, he admits that mistakes are quick, but they are not slow.
Consultant on duty: These children are often very clever, even to the point of conceit. I thought I knew my parents' temper. No matter what I did, I have to admit my mistake afterwards. But this situation lasts for a long time, and it is easy to lead to irresponsible attitude of children, which is not just a matter of learning.
Ms. Yu: Really, I didn't think that far ... What should I do?
Consultant on duty: Of course, I just think far. After all, children are still young, and there are still many ways. Generally speaking, parents will use seduction methods, such as describing the beauty of his rising grades, or promising various rewards to improve his grades. But parents usually use this method, so most children are basically immune.
Ms. Yu: Indeed. What else can I do?
Counselor on duty: We advocate two methods: one is incentive method, and there is a saying that it is better to please than to be aggressive. Too many nice words are worse than this. Smart children are often competitive. But we must grasp two points: this method emphasizes stimulation rather than stimulation; You can't say too much, after all, you are still your own child. The second is the approach method. Let's talk about something we are interested in, such as online games, or a cartoon, an animation and so on. The education and activities of parents or teachers should conform to his hobbies and make him admire. You can also meet someone he likes or appreciates, and then chat with him to make him feel that he has a common language. If the teacher has or exceeds that person's ability, you will be more convinced.
Ms. Yu: Yes, I also hope to arrange a teacher who can convince him.
Consultant on duty: OK, we will do it.
Methods of learning and education for junior high school children Part III: Junior three children are at the first fork in their lives. They not only face the pressure of entering a higher school that may affect their own development, but also face the adolescent troubles that affect their physical and mental development. Every child especially hopes that their dear parents will give them just the right help when they need it most.
Remind parents that while giving warm attention to their children, they should also grasp the "degree" of attention. If this "degree" is not handled reasonably, it will bring more pressure to children. Therefore, parents should give their children "just right" attention.
First, stabilize children's emotions and be a friend-like listener.
In a person's life, psychological development goes through two rebellious periods. The first time is at the age of 2-3, children are mainly willful, disobedient, crying and noisy; The second time appeared at the age of 12- 16, which is the so-called "puberty". Sensitivity, irritability, willfulness and independence are the most prominent manifestations at this stage. The children in grade three are in the middle of adolescence, and the "rebellious phenomenon" is particularly obvious at this stage. This is not the so-called unique performance of the post-90 s generation, nor can we blame these children blindly. I have a deep understanding of this. As a student, I used to be a standard "three good" student, but in junior high school, there will inevitably be a rebellious period, which lasted about half a year, but my parents can't do anything about me. In fact, the emergence of this stage is very normal, and parents should never think that their children have gone bad.
Adolescent children in grade three are facing pressure from many aspects: fierce competition among classmates, great pressure to enter higher schools and expectations of parents and teachers. No matter what academic achievements children have, it is the first time to face life choices, and it is the first time to pay such hard work. They all have questions about their learning ability, learning methods, academic performance, growth and development. They will think about things, but they are often immature and look at problems in an extreme way. Especially when they think they have worked hard, but have not seen progress, they often show great irritability in their behavior, and even take their dear parents as the object of venting. I have heard many parents say that since their children entered the third grade, they will obviously feel that their children have changed and become extremely emotional, and the senior high school entrance examination is coming soon, so parents are very confused and anxious.
Children in Grade Three are at the first fork in their lives. They are not only faced with the pressure of entering a higher school that may affect their own development, but also face the problem of adolescence that affects their physical and mental development. Every child especially hopes that their dear parents will give them just the right help when they need it most.
Remind parents that while giving warm attention to their children, they should also grasp the "degree" of attention. If this "degree" is not handled reasonably, it will bring more pressure to children. Therefore, parents should give their children "just right" attention.
Second, help children position themselves and be wise leaders.
Positioning mainly refers to the usual positioning of children and the choice of senior high school entrance examination schools.
Every child's learning level is different, especially in the comprehensive review of the third grade and the comprehensive investigation of the senior high school entrance examination, the gap between children will be clearly distinguished. At this time, children may not be able to take such frequent exams.
Trying to rank, they often deny themselves because they failed in the exam once, thinking that there is no hope for the senior high school entrance examination, and so do their parents. You are often more anxious than your children. They all study in the same school. How can your grades be so different from the parents of the children around you every day? You must never say to a child with lower grades, "Look, that man gets a hundred points in every exam! What's the matter with you? You are worse than him. " The child must have collapsed and thought, "How can I compare with him!" After a long time, both parents and children will have "target dislocation". I sincerely hope that parents can have an accurate and scientific positioning for their children, and don't encourage them. Just as I have always opposed all children to learn Olympic Mathematics, each child's learning ability and specialty are different. If you feel uncomfortable,
If the merger is forced, it can only be done badly, which is counterproductive.
Third, step back appropriately and be a wise and lovely supervisor.
Students in Grade Three are still at a fun age. Although their study life is very tired and tense, they sometimes have a strong desire to play. Therefore, I sincerely suggest that parents should relax their children properly, satisfy their little desires and realize their long-awaited little wishes! Learning is important, but proper play and making friends are also beneficial to their study life. In addition, moderate play is also an effective way for adolescent children to vent. Playing is the nature of children!
But our parents should take care of children's play. For example, some boys like to play computer games, so you can promise your children that if they recite 200 words this week, they will enjoy playing for an hour on weekends! Some children like to play basketball and football, so let the children and classmates "run wild". Appropriate physical exercise is very necessary! Some girls like reading comic books, so parents take the initiative to buy them for their children as the biggest reward for their progress. Children are very, very happy and satisfied with their parents' voluntary commitments.
It is easiest to impose certain supervision and requirements when satisfying some wishes of children. Parents can put forward some reasonable tasks and requirements when their children are particularly happy.
Fourth, give some private space and be a fashionable hot mom and dad.
In fact, it goes without saying that parents have always been sensitive to their children's friends, especially now that their children are developing early and maturing early, parents will always worry. Therefore, some children often say that "the most annoying parental behavior in history" is that parents always rummage through their children's things, such as their mobile phones, schoolbags, drawers and so on. In fact, parents' good intentions are a sign of caring for their children. But children can't accept it. They may think that parents don't trust their children, or they just have little secrets that they don't want their parents to know. The more parents turn over, the more children resist. All the children I know are like this. In fact, they have no secrets, or they have little secrets that are not secrets. The reason why they resist their parents' behavior so strongly is simply psychological resistance, that is, they don't want their parents to know everything, and they are like an invisible man. I met a student, a very clever little girl. One day, her mother saw the education problem of adolescent children on TV and immediately asked to look through the child's mobile phone. To my surprise, the child broke her mobile phone without hesitation, provided that she didn't see the secret of things in her mobile phone. Although children are impulsive, I think they really just want to have a little space of their own and a little trust from their parents.
I sincerely suggest that parents can let go of their children to a certain extent, give them some right to self-determination, give them some private space, and let them build their own little dreams in their own small universe.
Verb (abbreviation of verb) conclusion
Some parents always report that their children are very good at school and are naughty and willful when they get home. Why do children behave like this? This just shows that children show their true self in front of their closest parents. You should be happy that your child still depends on you and is willing to share joys and sorrows with you. Therefore, it is suggested that parents, as long as we adjust the ways and means of communication with their children, will certainly be able to help their children successfully pass the first major fork in the road in life and realize their first small dream!