The child is going to the third grade soon, and now he needs to catch up on his homework in the summer vacation. Although he has no headache, he still lacks initiative. It is said that the third grade is a watershed, and I am worried that my children will fall behind. How do children transition from "let me learn" to "I want to learn"?

On holidays, the problem that children are not active in learning is particularly prominent. There are also several parents around me who report that their children play mobile phones and watch TV too much during the summer vacation, and they are lax in their studies.

Let children learn to be conscious and self-disciplined, which requires our long-term efforts. Let's see how to do it.

In the long run, to cultivate children's initiative in learning, it is natural for our parents to set a good example for their children first. For example, children should exercise restraint in playing mobile phones and watching TV in front of them. If the environment at home is sloppy, it is difficult for children to get up consciously.

Besides, there are three things that can help children:

The first thing is to "cultivate one's morality".

All consciousness is based on self. Without "ego", where can there be "consciousness"

In order to cultivate children's self, parents should gradually reduce their intervention in all aspects of their children, enhance their self-awareness and provide them with opportunities for independent thinking and action.

This is not easy to do, because we are used to taking care of our children from birth. As children grow up, we often can't remember to let go and always interfere with them unconsciously.

This happened yesterday when I took my daughter to my classmate's house for her birthday. Many students came at that time, and everyone had a good time. On a whim, the birthday boy took out a pen and paper and said that he would draw a student.

We adults all think his idea is very good, so we watch him draw. He soon drew all the children and showed them to his mother. Mother smiled at it for a while, and then pointed out that the boy's painting was too sloppy, and several places were not well painted, so he was asked to redraw it.

The birthday boy was unhappy and drew it again angrily, but he still drew it according to his own ideas, just a little serious. Finally, his mother reluctantly approved it.

Painting is a way for children to express themselves. If there is something wrong or not in line with their original ideas, they can be guided and inspired more at ordinary times, so that children can clearly understand and express their feelings and ideas and enhance their self-control.

Children's self-development is a gradual process, but if you don't pay attention to cultivating children's independence at ordinary times, you can't ask children to suddenly and consciously know what they should do.

The second thing is to let children find the relationship between learning and themselves.

We can help children connect their future ideas with their current studies. For example, my daughter said she wanted to be a pilot when she grew up, so I told her to study math, because the coordinates and data on the plane could not be understood without math.

The girl next door is learning English. Once she said that she wanted to meet foreign children so that she could chat with them. Her mother encouraged her to study more so that she could talk with foreigners.

Children will have many dreams and wishes. We can start from this point and encourage children to study hard, instead of always instilling the concept that "study is to get into a good university and have a good job in the future".

Only when learning is closely related to oneself, will children pay attention to it and feel that they are doing their own thing. Otherwise, he is always forced by adults. He thought he was studying for adults.

The third thing is to help children improve their learning ability and cultivate their self-confidence in learning.

This is a technical job, and learning pays attention to methods. Not every parent knows how to study. However, the tasks of the lower grades of primary schools can still be done. It is good to teach children some general methods in recent years.

For example, the goal decomposition method teaches children to decompose seemingly difficult learning tasks into smaller goals that are easier to achieve, and then overcome the difficulties. This method is universal no matter where it is put, and it will also be used in future work. Learning this is not afraid of any difficulties.

You can also find the advantages of your child and use them to drive the shortcomings, instead of making up the shortcomings first.

Chen Meiling, the mother of Stanford's doctor of education, once said, don't worry about children's partiality. Her eldest son likes math very much, so she hired a tutor to help him study hard. Mathematics is particularly good, the eldest son is very confident, and he has gradually gained confidence in subjects he is not good at, such as Chinese, and his grades are slowly catching up.

The second son likes English, and the younger son is a good reader. She loves them all and lets them give full play to their strengths. With self-confidence, other aspects will not be afraid of stage fright, and areas that are not good at will also take the initiative to learn.

Therefore, if your child is partial to subjects, don't always say "You are good at xx, that is …", but encourage him to learn what he is good at better, let him find a sense of accomplishment, and then expand to other subjects.

Do the above three things well for a long time, and children's awareness of learning will be gradually cultivated.

Of course, this process will not be smooth sailing. When encountering problems or bottlenecks, let children freely express their feelings and ideas, and don't try to induce them to like what we have arranged. Only in this way can children find out what they want and what they don't want in the learning process.

He may try and make mistakes again and again, weigh them again and again, and finally form his own opinion. These processes should be allowed, because this growth may be more important than what knowledge is learned.