Solving problems with problems will only bring more problems.

The more you expect, the more you care, and the more you expect.

Comparison hurts people, and excellent children are in other people's homes.

Enlarge advantages and teach students in accordance with their aptitude. Every child is a genius. (Einstein's example)

Discover advantages through shortcomings.

1. Teacher -2. advisor

The positive resource behind shortcomings is to find the truth through problems.

Disadvantages-positive resources

Be picky about food-have an opinion

Puppy love-good popularity, charm and high emotional intelligence (parents guide AG to do morning exercises-morning exercises)

Timid-cautious, will protect themselves.

Procrastination-calm, not anxious or dry

Righteousness, righteousness, front

Love, nature and vitality

Let life develop actively and healthily according to the laws of nature, and the result is internal (consistency).

Love-live love, say love, show love and make love.

Nature education is agricultural production, not industrial production.

? Waiting for flowers to bloom, every flower has a flowering period.

Vitality-Being depressed will lead to a lack of self-confidence and motivation, won't it? Dream, no direction, no hope, the most? It was the child who was injured.

Mentors don't need applause. What parents need is the ability to applaud, to show their vitality and to go home to stretch their children's vitality.

Four goals:

High self-esteem-high self-worth

Parents with high self-worth can cultivate their children's high self-worth

Example: Eating is so expensive. Change to another restaurant. You don't deserve such expensive food.

Smart-where, where, he is not smart at all, math is not good at all-I am not good enough to be loved by my mother.

Beautiful-where beautiful, she has a single eyelid-I am not good, not beautiful, and not worthy of everyone's love.

Tell the children-we work together and we deserve everything! ! !

Consistency-consistency communication

Actively influence family changes.

Be responsible for ...

Better choice ability-through learning, expand the limited, increase the choice ability and become infinite.

Happiness begins with acceptance!

Nothing will change unless love increases!

The more expectations, the more disappointments.

You can see the advantages with a magnifying glass before marriage, and the disadvantages with a microscope after marriage.

After marriage, I got two more rulers-should and must.

Accept-accept him as he is.

Marital relationship:

after marriage

Women-ignore themselves and value each other.

Love yourself and the whole world will love you!

Men-value themselves and ignore each other.

Whoever owns the resources has the right!

Before marriage, women have resources, and after marriage, men have resources.

After marriage:

Women need intimacy.

Men need a sense of space

Men-give women a sense of intimacy in space-hold her and look at her. I only have eyes for you! Express gratitude. No matter how hard it is! )

Women-give men a sense of space at close range

When a woman lacks love, her heart becomes abnormal. When a woman has love, she will put down her finger of blame, and the feng shui at home will be smooth and everything at home will be happy!

Women should love themselves, their image is priceless, and they are willing to invest in themselves, stretch their own pattern and invest above the neck. Women are new to men when they grow up. If they are fresh, they will become brides. If not, they will become old ladies.

The wife gives her husband a sense of value and security, and explodes his little universe.

Men should be accepted, worshipped, appreciated and appreciated.

Women should be valued.

The relationship between husband and wife is greater than that between parents and children. Love your partner first, then your children, and then you have the ability to love.

Six heart nutrition

0-3 months: unconditional acceptance, life is the most important.

Insecurity:

4- 10 months:

If you don't feel safe enough, you will be emotionally unstable, will control others, have poor interpersonal relationships, and will have deviant behavior.

Let the children try boldly within a safe range. Security = confidence. With self-confidence, there is a sense of security. With more experience, you will have confidence and a sense of security.

Plant heart anchor, language anchor and action anchor, waving goodbye is the language anchor.

Knowledge and situation are special, and wisdom and realm are universal.

LucianFreud said that it is the subconscious, not the subconscious, that decides a person's fate.

Money bank:

Admission savings fund

Export-withdrawal, overdraft, bankruptcy

Emotional bank:

Before marriage: saving feelings

Three exits:

1. Criticism, accusations and complaints

2. Requirements and descriptions

3. Deception, betrayal and divorce

First, learn to change your destiny!

Second, learn to change the circle!

People are together because of the same, but different because of different.

Golden location: the right-hand position in the middle of the first row of aisles.

Learning methods: nod, smile, give a thumbs up,

Bow your head and take notes carefully.

The secret of success:

If you do what you like and study with an open mind, your wealth can't be different in a short time, but your way of thinking can be the same. For example, Lin has finished reading 200 books.

The more money you have, the more you should save. The less money you have, the more you should invite friends to dinner.

Five-year plan-make 1000 friends, have feelings and plant your own rose garden.

Smiling, affirmation, appreciation and praise, and sharing are all free and priceless emotions.

Main praise: (short-term effective, long-term ineffective)

1. Show specific facts. (looking in the mirror)

2. Bring out feelings.

3. Bring out appreciation.

4. Don't add the words "hope" and "future".

Emotional bank:

Ability-self, others, situation

Relationship-respect yourself, others and the environment.

Ability-Have seven kinds of viability.

Seven abilities:

I. Leadership

Second, the wisdom of survival

Third, learning ability.

Fourth, financial and operational capabilities.

Verb (abbreviation for verb) self-management ability

Six, social and speech skills

Seven, English expansion and international vision

First of all, leadership-innate and acquired.

1. Dream,

2. objectives,

Successful people see the world differently from ordinary people.

Step 4 resist

5. Communication skills

Classic quotations from President Lin's daughter:

1. Warm yourself before illuminating others!

2. Reading is the noblest threshold!

Say what you want, not what you don't want!

It's no use-of course it's no use unless you have to!

Consistent expression:

when I ...

I think ...

I'm looking forward to ... if ... can you ... ...

I believe ...

Deviation behavior:

1.

2. Fight for power and profit (children are not allowed to make decisions on small matters, but they secretly make decisions for you on big matters)

Give freedom of choice:

meet with

The left hand is love, and the right hand is rule.

You decide!

retaliate

Give up yourself

Six kinds of heart nutrition:

absolute/unconditional/unqualified acceptance

Be valued (the most important thing in life)

Security, love

Affirmation, appreciation, praise, recognition

Learning, cognition and model

Freedom of choice

Save people's hearts and rebuild their self-worth!

Always have hope for tomorrow!

Accept your own imperfections and those of others, and allow others to misunderstand you.

What others say about you is not necessarily the real you, and now you are not necessarily the future you!

Don't try to raise the perfect child!