Someone once said: As a mother, it is not only to raise children, but more importantly, to raise children as their own career.

When children are not born, they should have knowledge of early childhood education after birth, and when they are four or five years old, they should know the knowledge of related problems that will appear in adolescence. Only in this way can he keep up with the crisis and guide and guide the children in an orderly way. To this end, we should also make preparations before the children go to school, so as not to be in a hurry when they get cold feet.

A few days ago, I spoke to a former colleague on the phone. She reminded me on the phone: Anyway, now that you are at home full-time and let your children study more, we feel a lot of pressure now. I asked her which course was stressful, and she said that her children now feel that both Chinese and English are under great pressure. Because she took official document mathematics in kindergarten, she has some foundation, and this course is ok.

And advised me to let Diandian go to kindergarten for official document mathematics. My colleague's child is in poor health. Every time I meet her before I go to primary school, she talks about the children's eating and drinking, Lazar, and seldom talks about the children's education. Maybe the child's foundation is not very good.

Sister Swallow used to play with Diandian before she went to primary school, but she never came out to play after she went to primary school. One night, when we were playing in the garden, we met the three of them and asked the swallow about her situation after school. Her mother said she was under a lot of pressure. Swallows do their homework slowly and don't know many words. After finishing her homework, she has no time to come down and play. Another colleague, the child is in the fifth grade. Every day after school, mother and daughter play badminton and jump rope in the garden, usually for more than half an hour.

Ask her mother: Is there much homework? How do you have time to come out to play? Colleague said: there is not much homework. Let's exercise for a while first, and then I go home to cook. She does her homework and reads books after dinner. They feel very relaxed.

This colleague's daughter goes to a key primary school, and the children above go to a primary school near the garden, which is not particularly good, but they are all first-class schools in Guangdong Province, and the schools are not bad. Little by little, I will go to primary school next year, and my mother is particularly concerned about these children who go to primary school. When I meet their families, I will know what they have after school and what basic knowledge they need before going to school. Not only that, my mother also joined several primary school mothers to learn from them and ask them some questions after school.

There is a mother's reaction: some do not accompany their children to do their homework after entering school, so that the children can handle it themselves. The children are very conscious and behave well. Some want their mother to accompany them, and when they leave, they are distracted, and their mother feels very tired.

Some said they would stay with him for a while at first, but later they wouldn't, so let him do it himself. Some can do it well, some can't. Some mothers say that children don't listen carefully in class, and teachers always let parents go to school.

Some say that children have great problems with writing and ask where there is a writing training class. Others say that children are not interested in English and ask how to make children interested in English. Some say that children's mental arithmetic is too slow, so they should strengthen their mental arithmetic ability.

Different families have different problems. After learning about some children's problems after school, I asked them to lay some foundations before going to school.

Many mothers say that they should read more words and story books. Mathematics in primary school is very simple, so you don't need to learn too much. Some mothers should give their children more English to cultivate their sense of language.

Some mothers say they don't need to learn too much. After studying too much, children will not concentrate on listening in class when they see that they know everything, forming a bad habit of not listening carefully. A mother said that her children had never learned Pinyin, and the teacher passed quickly after school. Both children and mothers felt particularly stressed.

Some parents are also told by teachers to strengthen their families, and some children can. Your poor foundation makes your parents feel ashamed. After two or three months, I learned about some children in three districts of the city after school and before school. Combined with the fact that we couldn't get into a prestigious school, my mom and dad finally reached an agreement: go to the supporting primary school in our community, lay a good foundation for Diandian before going to school, help Diandian with her homework after school, and give Diandian a relaxed and happy learning atmosphere.

1. Solve the problem of independent reading before primary school. When listening to the sharing reading lecture in kindergarten, the teacher said that the literacy of independent reading must reach 2000 words.

Let's lower the requirements, 1000 words, and basically understand ordinary story books. There should be no problem in understanding textbooks and questions in primary school for one year. "Children's Pictorial" said that 284 commonly used words make the baby worry-free in school.

These dots are almost enough. No one knows how many words Diandian knows now. I don't think it will exceed 400.

Because few people taught her to read alone, she learned it in the process of reading, and some of them were not taught, but only after reading more. But compared with 1000, it is still a lot worse. It seems that the task is still very arduous.

2. Read more books. Expand your vocabulary and prepare for future writing.

What books are you reading? The first category is story picture books, which are more interested in children's appetite and children are more interested in reading. This kind of books is relatively simple, and some books can be read independently.

The second category is classical Chinese: I have finished reading the Analects of Confucius, and now I am reading the Tao Te Ching and the San Zi Jing, and there are some poems suitable for children's tastes. I used to listen to my mother's reading, and she would recite it slowly. Now my mother will write some read articles or poems on the whiteboard at home for me to read. By reading these books, she knows more words and phrases, and the third category is history books.

I watched the National Day military parade this year, and I was very interested in people in the Chiang Kai-shek era. Dad also took the opportunity to tell her stories of that era and guide her interest in history. Later, he took Diandian to Shenzhen History Museum. Now Diandian is curious about history and always asks many reasons. Point dad took out the "Five Thousand Years of China" at home and prepared to inject it into point's brain.

The fourth category is popular science books. There are many popular science books and handmade books at home (in the words of friends: your home is a small library. )

Diandian can browse at will, and doing experiments and crafts is the most interesting thing for Diandian. My mother used to take a little bit to do it, but now my mother is lazy. Some people say it well: a lazy mother will cultivate a daughter who is quick to attend work. Now, I find my own books, find my own information and do it myself. I really can't help my mother.

2. What abilities do children need in early childhood?

If some parents can speak foreign languages themselves, try to let their children live in a bilingual environment. For example, Xiao Ming's father communicates with Xiao Ming in Chinese at home and his mother communicates with Xiao Ming in English. As time goes on, Xiao Ming is familiar with both languages.

Social adaptability Social adaptability includes social ability, environmental adaptation, independent living and many other aspects, but for children in the growing stage, the most important thing is the ability to live independently. Parents only need to do two words "let go".

Let go of your hand and let the children do things, such as eating, dressing, brushing their teeth, washing their faces and tying their shoes. The cultivation of independent living ability is based on respect and trust for children. Only when parents believe in themselves and their children can they really "let go".

3. Parents are entangled: Should children go to preschool?

According to "Guide to Kindergarten Education" and "Guide to Learning and Development of Children Aged 3-6", it is strictly forbidden for kindergartens to teach primary school courses in advance. A person in charge of a kindergarten in the city said that following the law of children's growth, the "primary school" of kindergartens is harmful to children's growth, and kindergartens should not learn pinyin, practice writing and calculation. Instead of going to preschool, parents should pay more attention to cultivating their children's listening and reading habits, work together to cultivate their children's abilities of self-service, self-protection, time management and goods management, and establish a preliminary sense of rules and tasks.

Mr. Bai Ye, a teacher of Cangwu Primary School, has always believed that although learning the knowledge of grade one in advance makes it easier for children to learn in grade one on the surface, children's interest in learning is not stimulated by what they have learned repeatedly, and their motivation to learn is lost, which will do great harm to their growth.

Regarding whether children should go to preschool or not, Shen Haiyan, a teacher at Jiefang Road Primary School, also said that the parents of lower-grade children are now "post-80s", and parents are particularly concerned about their children and even overly anxious. Long-term observation also found that children who have attended preschool classes will develop the habit of inattention in class because they have studied before, and some even hate learning. Therefore, for the long-term development of children, it is not recommended that children study primary school courses in advance in preschool classes. In addition, some wrong pronunciations and wrong writing habits formed when children learn pinyin are difficult to correct because preschool teachers have both good and bad.

The connection between young experts is not a simple knowledge reserve.

Zhou Zhongsen, director of the teaching and research section of the Municipal Education Bureau, said that at present, there are indeed many parents taking their children in kindergarten to study the first-grade courses in advance, which is caused by the irrational family education of parents and blind conformity, and the education department resolutely opposes it. However, under the current circumstances, there is still a gap between ideal and reality, and the situation that the pace of first-grade teaching in some schools is too fast does exist.

He believes that parents should be more calm about whether to go to preschool or not and don't put too much pressure on their children. From elementary school to college is a marathon process, and parents can't be regarded as a 100-meter race. While the kindergarten adheres to the educational concept of cultivating children's interests and habits, parents can appropriately expose their children to some pinyin and numbers, so that they can know a little about these contents, but they are not required to master all pinyin and mathematics, which is very unfavorable for their children's study after entering school. Accordingly, when teaching in the first grade, the school should adhere to the "zero starting point" teaching, set no high standards and speed up the progress, so that every child can study with confidence and gain something from learning.

"The transition from kindergarten life to primary school life is a major turning point in the process of children's growth." Wang Guanghua, deputy dean of the School of Preschool Education of Lianyungang Teachers College, believes that the key to children's convergence lies not in how much knowledge they have mastered, but in what preparations parents and kindergartens should make for their children in the process of children's convergence, including their basic learning literacy, learning adaptability and social emotions in the future. Once children have good learning literacy, they will quickly adapt to the role of primary school students and fully enjoy the fun brought by learning.

In order to keep children from losing at the starting line, parents of many kindergarten children in Hong Kong City are puzzled: Do children need to go to preschool? Parents of children who are about to attend a large class this fall are also thinking, is the child going to attend a large class or a preschool class? In this regard, the author interviewed the heads of several kindergartens and primary schools in the city and related experts. They all said that letting children enter the learning state too early will not only help children to better adapt to primary school life, but will affect their learning interest and study habits. For ordinary children, it is definitely more harmful than good to leave the first-grade classroom knowledge to children for preschool. Parents need to look at this matter calmly.

4. What preparations do children need to make when they are young?

Be mentally prepared for primary school. In order to let children enter primary school happily, parents should make their children want to go to primary school and become primary school students.

Treat the school with optimism. For example, if you send your children to kindergarten in the morning, you will see many primary school students carrying schoolbags to school on the way. At this time, you might as well say to your child, "Look, how arrogant these brothers and sisters are!" " Let the children feel envious.

Tell your children about all kinds of interesting activities that are about to start, such as handicraft classes and outings. You can also enthusiastically tell your children about what they will learn in class, such as reading, measuring and weighing, so that they can have a strong yearning for school. When you are free, you can also take your children outside the school you want to enter and tell them that they can learn a lot of skills at school.

In this regard, parents should pay special attention to it, and never put pressure on their children by going to primary school to intimidate them. For example, "Look, if you can't sit still, you will suffer in elementary school." "You are so active, let the teacher treat you well in primary school in the future!" This will cause children to have a fear of going to school, which is not conducive to the formation of psychological expectations for entering school.