As a man with the dual roles of husband and son, if he doesn't handle it properly, family conflicts will continue and he will be on the verge of divorce.
Lin Yahui, a company employee, has been married for ten years and has been living with her mother-in-law, but her family has no such troubles. Colleagues asked her how to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and she smiled and told her own experience.
It is often said that we are a family, not to mention that our father-in-law has died for two years, and my mother-in-law is a retired middle school math teacher, and she is serious about her work to a rigid degree. Usually, the home is spotless. At the dinner table, a pair of eyes stared at Kai He, his son, and kept giving him a bowl of food. He acted as if he was afraid that his son would not eat well, without considering the feelings of his daughter-in-law.
Yahui was a little unhappy at first. With the birth of her son, she began to understand her mother-in-law's mentality. Plus, my mother-in-law took good care of her in the next month, so I went to see my relatives.
Once, a family of four went out to travel, and her mother-in-law and Kai He walked side by side. The two girls walked and chatted, looking at the scenery happily. Yahui followed them at a distance with her one-year-old son Jia Jia in her arms.
She was resentful, but she could see her bored son in her arms. She thinks that her mother-in-law praised Kai He in the same way in her early years. She regrets that all mothers love each other.
Finally, Kai He found that they were left behind, so he ran to hug their son. My mother-in-law said: Oh, I'm sorry, we were so engaged in the conversation that we almost forgot these two people. ?
Yahui smiled and replied:? It's okay. We are all family. We don't talk about each other. ?
It was obvious that her mother-in-law looked at her again and secretly smiled.
Since then, Yahui has often said this, and her mother-in-law has also learned to say this, and the feelings of her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have gradually become closer.
Mom, please rest. Let me do it. When Yahui went to work, her sons were brought up by her mother-in-law, and the little guy would be very naughty when he ran. That's it. Mother-in-law should tidy up the house, first take time to cook the rice with an electric cooker, and sometimes wash the dishes.
Generally, Yahui comes in from work, washes her hands and takes her son into the kitchen and says to her mother-in-law. Mom, you have been busy all day. Take a break. Let me do it here. ?
My mother-in-law is really hard. After listening to her words, I felt that my daughter-in-law could understand her tiredness and was not lazy, and immediately felt comfortable. It's not easy for you to go to work all day, and you have to squeeze the subway after work. Take Jiajia to play, the meal will be ready soon. ?
Mother-in-law is modest. No matter who cooks the meal in the end, the atmosphere is always warm and harmonious when the family eats at the table.
If you move your mother-in-law to tears, you should always say that Yahui has another mantra, that is, you should always say to her mother-in-law: Mom, you have worked hard. ?
Speaking of this habit, there is still a past to mention. Once? Bitch? She bought her mother-in-law a silk scarf and said with a smile. Mom, you have worked hard. This is a holiday gift for you. ?
My mother-in-law was deeply moved and told her neighbor Aunt Zhang about it. On weekends, she took her children for a walk downstairs and met Aunt Zhang to chat.
Aunt Zhang said:? Grandma Jia Jia always praises you to me, saying that she heard you say to her on the day of the festival: She has worked hard and feels comfortable enough to cry. Well, I don't have such a good life. You see, I also take care of my grandchildren, but my daughter-in-law has never said such beautiful words. ?
Since then, Yahui has said to her busy mother-in-law almost every day after work. Mom, thank you for your hard work, huh? I wasn't used to it at first, but later I found that the effect was particularly good, so I kept saying it.
Mother-in-law always looks at her with a smile and says that it is not difficult to take care of her grandson. ?
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have always been very kind, and they have not been popular for more than ten years, and their days have been smooth and smooth. Some time ago, she won the second place in the unit appraisal.
Without the help of her mother-in-law, Jia Jia would certainly not be able to do her job wholeheartedly and achieve excellent results in the unit.
Conclusion Modern women should not advocate women's rights. When they enter marriage, they hold the old idea that children are born to the man, and it is only natural for in-laws to help take care of children.
? They all say: a good word is warm in three winters, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along sweetly. Saying more warm words and comforting the old people's hearts are of great benefit to work and family, and even the relationship between husband and wife.
Such a cost-effective thing, a wise man will understand it when he thinks about it. If he learned these three sentences, why didn't he handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?