First, don't make primary education younger.
Every parent loves their children and wants to give them the best education. Some parents think that loving children is to let them learn knowledge early, cultivate their interests extensively, and stay ahead of other children in everything. We also have such parents in the remedial class. This mother attaches great importance to her children's education, which makes me admire very much. In order to let her son learn more, she sent him to a private preschool five or six kilometers away from home. Every day, she never feels tired. Many other five or six-year-old children learned to play games and do handicrafts in kindergarten. The child not only mastered addition and subtraction within 20, but also read and wrote pinyin well.
However, what bothers her is that her son is in poor health and often falls ill. This is a signal from his body that he is receiving more knowledge education than he can bear. Later, we often talked about children's education together, and she gradually realized that it was too much trouble for children. In the first grade, she transferred her children to a nearby public primary school. She found that what her son had learned in private preschool classes had just begun to learn in the first grade of public schools. But many things my son has learned are gradually forgotten, and he will not learn better because he learned early. This is a typical example of the aging of primary education.
Children aged 3-6 should play and play games with other children in kindergarten. The most important thing for children at this stage is to develop their brains, habits, rules and sense of collective integration by playing games collectively. Research shows that the development of children's creativity is negatively related to the learning of memory knowledge. Letting children learn arithmetic and writing too early will, on the one hand, obliterate their creativity and limit the development of their imagination; On the other hand, it is also an act of encouraging children to disrespect their growth. Therefore, the education of children should not be rushed. Only by educating children scientifically can we educate children well.
Second, be a guide and helper for children's learning and growth.
Some parents don't attach importance to their children's education, but they don't know how to educate their children. There was once a mother who regretted being too lenient with her children when she sent them to us. She thinks that the knowledge of primary school is not difficult, children can have fun as long as they can keep up with it, and then they begin to master it strictly in junior high school. However, for a long time, due to the lack of discipline, the children's learning attitude was not correct, their study habits were not good, they couldn't sit still, and their fonts danced like a phoenix ... She wanted to take time out to catch the children's study well, but found that there was no way to start.
When we meet such a student, our teacher can only spend more time and energy to help him correct his learning attitude, and then slowly repair the knowledge loopholes. In fact, there are still many bright spots in this child. He is smart, frank and cheerful, and his classmates like him very much. In the third and fourth grades, he began to fall behind in math and English, and his parents were busy with business all day and had no time to take care of him. He fell behind in his studies, and then he failed. He completely lost confidence in himself and thought he was what everyone called "scum".
Deterioration does not happen overnight; Similarly, it takes a long time to change from bad to good. Our teacher spent a lot of time to help him rebuild his confidence, let him gain a sense of accomplishment in his studies, and slowly get rid of the psychological label of "academic scum". He has poor self-control and is easily influenced by the surrounding environment, so we encourage him: in order to completely break through and transform, he must be able to sit still and be more demanding of himself. He is very clever. After three or four months of unremitting efforts, his grades have improved significantly. He is no longer afraid of studying, and he is willing to study hard when he meets problems. Besides, he wants to be better. Although the teacher didn't take special care of him later, his enthusiasm has been ignited and he can manage his own study. Finally, he was admitted to a very good private middle school.
On the road of children's growth, what we adults think is simple may not be the case for children at all. As far as learning is concerned, the transition from kindergarten to primary school, the deepening of knowledge and the increase of homework from grade one to grade two, the increasing pressure of English in grade three, the difficulty of mathematics in grade four, and the increasingly challenging language in grades five and six ..... Every time node is a hurdle for children. If we can't give timely guidance and help to children when they feel helpless, then once children can't keep up for a while, it will easily lead to long-term backwardness and even weariness of learning. Therefore, at every stage of children's growth, we should accompany them carefully and lend a helping hand when necessary.
Third, it is not difficult to develop good habits in primary schools and learn in junior high schools.
In the Internet age, children are exposed to a variety of things, and there are more and more temptations. We have noticed that many primary school students are lively and active, and their attention is easily distracted. They can sit in front of their mobile phones and computers for hours, but it is difficult to calm down and read and practice their words ..... These phenomena are more common among boys than girls. We tutor a child at night, so we ask him to do his homework. He either touches or scratches, and his concentration is poor. Finally, he entered the learning state. If other students move a little, his attention is immediately attracted, so he often has conflicts with his classmates.
To overcome bad habits, we should be good at subtraction, so that children's bad habits and bad behaviors will gradually decrease until they can learn independently. In the evening, after we encourage children to finish their homework efficiently, they can go to the book corner to read their favorite books. On Thursdays, we will regularly let children share reading, and the children who perform well will be rewarded with points. Children love to talk and play, and like to share with you the good books and interesting stories he has read. Under the guidance of our teacher, he began to like reading. As soon as he finished his homework, he went to study, and his concentration time became longer and longer. The cultivation of reading habits not only trains his concentration, but also enables him to gain more knowledge from books, and the friction between him and other students is also decreasing.
It is important to cultivate reading habits, and it is also important to listen carefully and think hard. To cultivate these good habits, we should use addition more. We should cultivate one habit first, and then develop other good habits one by one. Habit determines the fate of children, and good study habits are the key to children's excellent grades. The primary school stage is the stage for children to lay the foundation, and it is also the golden age for cultivating study habits. The foundation of primary school has not been laid firmly, and good habits have not been developed. In junior high school, there will be a lack of stamina and backward learning. Therefore, in the process of educating children, we should pay special attention to the cultivation of study habits. As the saying goes: "Give children good habits, it is better to give them Jinshan Yinshan."
Fourth, achievements are temporary, and ability can make children go further.
For children, learning knowledge is very important, but knowledge cannot be completely equal to grades. Academic performance is not the only criterion for evaluating a student. I have met some parents who ask their children to get high marks in both big and small exams. Parents are too nervous, worried about grades, and make their children nervous. It is natural that children do well in the exam, and parents do not praise them; Once the child did badly in the exam, the parents immediately began to criticize him. In the long run, children will only pay attention to the test results, but will not pay attention to the efforts and ability training behind the results, and their hearts will be particularly sensitive and fragile. This is the wrong guidance of parents to their children and must be reversed in time.
Occasionally, children do not do well in the exam, so we should analyze the reasons with them to see if it is poor knowledge or carelessness. If you don't have the knowledge, you can seek guidance and help from your teacher. The child is careless, so we should consciously help him overcome it in peacetime. If children's academic performance is getting worse, they should pay more attention to their ideological trends and classroom performance, and communicate and cooperate with teachers.
In real life, there are many children with high scores and low abilities, and there are also many people who can't find jobs after graduating from famous universities. Do they behave badly at school? On the contrary, they are good at exams. However, what society needs is people with core competence. We must also want to cultivate healthy, honest, capable and competitive children, instead of cultivating children who only get high marks. Therefore, in the process of educating children, we should take a long-term view and pay more attention to the cultivation of children's three abilities: learning ability, innovation ability and behavioral ability. People with strong learning ability can better adapt to the future society. Creative and innovative people always have unique ideas, and their work and life are full of vitality. Only by being a man and doing things can we win the trust and support of others and succeed step by step.
Parents and teachers working together is the best education for children.
Parents teach their children how to behave and teachers teach them knowledge. Only when the two sides form a joint force can we promote the healthy growth of children. School teachers play an important role in children's learning and are authoritative. Most parents can actively cooperate with school teachers. Now many children have signed up for remedial classes or interest classes. Individual parents do not pay enough attention to the work of teachers in remedial classes. In fact, since the child has signed up for the class, the teaching level of the remedial class is definitely recognized. If children can't attend class on time or the tasks after class can't be completed on time, parents will lose the meaning of making up lessons if they know but don't take care of them.
There are also some parents who think that children's poor study is a problem for teachers in remedial classes. In fact, the teacher pays attention to every student as much as possible in every class, for fear that any child will not learn well. In a small class of 5- 10 students like ours, if there are children with particularly poor foundation or introverted personality and communication difficulties, it is difficult for teachers to make every student understand and learn, let alone large classes in other institutions. It can only be said that our teacher will try his best to help children according to their foundation and ability. And if the child's foundation is too poor, or his study habits are very bad, it can't be solved quickly in one class on weekends, and parents need to pay more attention to and guide their children at home. We are willing to face and solve the problems in children's learning with parents, and hope that all the children we teach can make progress and be better, which is also our greatest sense of accomplishment as teachers.
Accompanied and witnessed the growth of many primary and secondary school students, we really don't want to see more parents and children repeat the same mistakes. Remind everyone again that you really shouldn't care too much about exam results in primary school. Only by cultivating good study habits can children go further and jump higher. Because in the primary school stage, the assessment of all subjects is based on basic knowledge, so most students do well. Even if children don't read many extracurricular books, do many difficult math thinking questions, and accumulate more English words after class, their grades are still very good. In the eyes of many parents who regard grades as everything, they only see the good grades on their children's examination papers, but forget to check whether their children's homework is serious at ordinary times and communicate with teachers to find out whether their children are listening carefully in class. ..................................................................................................................