Now, children have a lot of things to do every day. Not only do you have to finish too much homework every day, but you also have to participate in various remedial classes, interest classes, extracurricular activities and science and technology groups. I may not be free on weekends, but I have to attend various interest classes ... Many children are at a loss in the face of complicated life, and parents are constantly worried about this:

Sometimes, children forget to do their homework or even forget the exam.

While doing something, it suddenly occurred to me that there was another important thing to do.

It's time to go to bed, only to remember that there is still a homework to write.

A few days before the holiday began, I made up my homework day and night. Why didn't I worry at the beginning of the holiday?

The child just wants to play all day, don't rush him. They can't remember to do their homework at all, and they have to stay up until eleven or twelve in the evening to finish their homework every day.

How can children be comfortable? What can be done to ensure that the most important things are not left out? It is the key to let children form the habit of making a timetable.

The purpose of making a timetable is to let children know clearly when to do something, to do things in a more planned way, and to have a more organized life.

Planning and managing time is very important not only for adults, but also for children. Because for children, his time is limited and is a scarce resource. Besides studying, children's life should also include more abundant contents, such as extracurricular activities, making friends, tidying up the room, exercising and playing. These are all necessary parts of children's development and what children need to become a comprehensive and balanced individual. Children's time also needs planning and management, so that children can develop in a balanced way in all aspects.

Planning and life

In Aesop's fable, there is an ant and cicada story:

In winter, an ant is drying wet grain, and a hungry cicada is begging him. The ant said to the cicada, "Why don't you store some food in summer?" Cicada replied, "I was singing a sweet song, and I didn't have time." The ant smiled and said, "Blow in summer and go dancing in winter!" " "

Parents and children read this simple fable together. From this fable, we realize that the situation of life naturally varies with the time arrangement. In order to win more time, no matter how busy a person is, he should spend some time planning.

There are many advantages to making a timetable.

Alles, a famous time management expert? Berry once said, "A day is like a suitcase. If you know the packing skills, a box can hold two boxes of things. " What benefits will it bring to children to make a schedule?

1, to help children improve their learning efficiency and reduce their learning pressure.

2. Help children organize their own ideas and help them think. When a person writes his thoughts on paper, he will feel organized and organized, which will stimulate children to think more.

3, can prevent children from missing some important things, so that children's time is mainly spent on those important things, prevent children from being distracted, and prevent children from wasting time because of doing nothing.

4. Help your child check the progress of his study or life at any time, so that he can be busy and have a good attitude.

Every day, let the child know what he wants to do.

6. Let children study happily.

7. Make children's lives more balanced and develop more comprehensively.

8. Let children have more sense of control and direction in their own lives and be more active.

9. It is also a good thing for parents to let children develop the habit of making schedules. If children know everything they do every day, how much time and energy parents can save without deliberately reminding them!

Remember: if a child knows what he should do every day, every week, every month, or even every year, he can focus his main time and energy on those things that are more important to him and finally succeed in life.

1, measurement of children's habit level

Your child, do you have a plan?

The following is a simple questionnaire, so parents can know their children's schedule:

For the above eight questions, if the children's answers are mostly "yes", it means that children lack time planning and need to learn how to make a timetable and form habits.

Are children sensitive to time?

This is a simple test to help parents understand their children's sensitivity to time.

The so-called time sensitivity refers to a person's subjective judgment on the amount of tasks he has completed in a period of time. People with high sensitivity have a good estimate of how much they can do per unit time and have a good grasp of how long a transaction will take.

When making a timetable, children need to estimate how much time a specific thing will take, so as to set aside corresponding time on the timetable. If the estimate is more accurate, the timetable he made will be easier to implement. Therefore, it is necessary for parents to understand their children's sensitivity to time.

So, how to judge children's time sensitivity? The following is a judgment method, which is simple and easy for parents and children to follow.

Ask parents to prepare a clock with a second hand. When the second hand points to "12", ask the child to close his eyes, and then open his eyes one minute after the estimated time, to see how much the difference between the estimated value and the actual value of the child is, and what type it belongs to.

1. the first type: compared with the actual time, the estimated value is less than 15 seconds, indicating that the child is in a hurry and wants to finish everything as soon as possible.

2. The second type: the estimated value is less than five seconds or more than five seconds compared with the actual time, indicating that children are more sensitive to time and can often make time plans more accurately.

3. Third: Compared with the actual time, the estimated value is as long as six seconds to fifteen seconds, indicating that the child is slow to respond to time, reminding parents to regularly supervise and check the child's time management. The fourth type: the estimated value is more than the actual time 15 seconds, indicating that the child's sensitivity to time is very poor, and parents should pay more attention to training.

What kind of child do you belong to?

This method of evaluating time sensitivity is actually a method of training time sensitivity. A child's sensitivity to time helps him to evaluate how long it will take to complete a task, which is the basis for making a timetable.

2. Training methods for doing things in a planned way

How to do things in a planned way

What is the time?

(1) If you do things in a planned way, you should start by knowing the time.

Time is the framework and structure of the timetable. To cultivate children's habit of making timetables, parents should first let their children know what time is and its characteristics.

Time is an abstract concept, which is different from common concrete things around us, such as desks and chairs. Can't see or touch. Let the children know the time initially. Parents might as well start with a riddle about time.

What is the longest, shortest, fastest, slowest, most divisible, least valued and most regrettable thing in the world? Without it, nothing can be done. It destroys all the little things and brings all the big things to life.

What is the answer to this riddle? Why?

The above riddle can be seen in the philosophical novel Chadiger by Voltaire, a famous French thinker. It was written by the high priest to examine Chadiger's intelligence. What did the clever Chadiger say?

The longest is time, because it is endless; The shortest time is time, because no one has time to finish all the work in his life. Those who wait have the slowest time; Time is the fastest for those who have fun. It can be extended to infinity or divided into infinitesimals; No one paid attention at that time, and later regretted it. Without it, nothing can be done. What is not worth remembering by future generations is forgotten; Great, it makes them live forever.

Did the child guess the riddle? If he is right, it means that the child has a better understanding of the characteristics of time. It doesn't matter if you don't guess. Parents just use this as an opportunity to help their children understand time and its characteristics.

(2) Make children more sensitive to time.

In addition, it can also be combined with the cultivation of the habit of making schedules to cultivate children's sensitivity to time in daily life and enhance the accuracy of children's estimation of time spent in a certain firm. The method is actually very simple.

When something starts, estimate how long it will take. After completion, record the actual time of use. For example:

After a period of training, I believe that children's estimates will become more and more accurate. In this way, children can not only realize time, but also appreciate the fun of time management.

3. Learn to make a timetable

(1) Select a schedule.

As the saying goes, "if a worker wants to do a good job, he must sharpen his tools first." To make a timetable, we must first choose to buy or make a suitable timetable. A complete schedule should include daily schedule, weekly schedule and monthly schedule. When choosing a timetable, we should also pay attention to those lively and easy-to-carry timetables, so that children can carry them in their schoolbags or pockets.

(2) Make a daily plan

After the schedule is ready, parents can follow the following three steps to guide their children to prepare a daily schedule.

Transaction list

The so-called business list is a list of things that a person has to do every day. Making a list can prevent children from missing important things, and the process of making a list is actually a process of sorting out children's thoughts, which helps children focus their thoughts and energy on these things to do.

Parents can try to guide their children to make a list of things for a certain day, listing all the things that children have to do all day from getting up in the morning to going to bed at night. When making a daily list, it is best to refer to the school curriculum.

The following is a list of things a fourth-grade pupil in Beijing did on Monday:

Pay attention to the following points when making a trading list:

1, try to consider all matters, even small things like what to buy and who to call.

2. Be sure to write down the transaction list and put it on paper. If we don't write it down, it's easy for us to forget something, because everyone's memory capacity is limited and it's easy to forget. As the saying goes, "a good memory is better than a bad pen."

Estimate the length of each transaction.

It takes time to do anything. Therefore, when making the schedule, we must take into account how long it takes for a certain business, so as to scientifically arrange the affairs of the schedule.

It should be noted that when estimating the time required for each transaction, it is generally overestimated, and the time can be overestimated by 25% or even 50%. This can make children less nervous and have time to relax between things, which is also good for 4. Set aside time to deal with emergencies (such as answering the phone). In their spare time, children can also do something they are interested in as a reward for their effective time management.

After making a list of things and estimating the time required for each thing, children will be pleasantly surprised to find that some things can be done together, such as buying birthday presents and new colored pens, which can be done at one time, saving almost twenty or thirty minutes compared with buying them twice. Think again, buy; You can buy these things on the way home from school and take a detour, which takes 10 minutes, so you don't have to go to the mall once, saving a lot of time. There are many advantages to making a timetable!

Combine personal affairs with personal time.

Compared with the first two steps, the third step is much simpler. The third step is to combine the things that children have to do every day with the time, make a little trim and make a daily schedule.

Fixed time and blank time

Mark the time of getting up and going to bed first, then fill in the questions in class, the time of going to and from school, and the necessary activity time after class. These are fixed times. Fill in these guarantee times, and then look at the blanks. This is the part you want to use. Blank time belongs to homework, hobbies, entertainment, making friends and family.

If something is completed as planned, you can tick √ in the column of "completed", if not, you can tick "x", and explain the reason and time of completion in the blank space after "completed".

If the child lists too many things at the beginning, the overall calculation may take more time than the overall time the child has. At this time, parents need to guide their children to re-plan their affairs, remove some things, and finish them on weekends or at other times to ensure that everything can be allocated enough time.

Or, parents can help their children analyze what can be done more efficiently and take up less time, such as 16: 00- 16: 30, and whether the children can make full use of it and finish the homework of the day with high efficiency and high quality, so that they can do it at17:/kloc-after school.

In short, try to make children's life arrangements colorful, don't be too nervous, and let children gradually feel the benefits of schedule and the fun of time management.

4. Implementation schedule

Calendar is a tool, like any other tool, its value comes from execution. No matter how perfect the timetable is, if it is not implemented, it will only be a daydream.

After the daily schedule is made, what the following children have to do is to act according to the schedule. The last thing before going to bed every night is to check the implementation of the class schedule for the day, and then make the class schedule for the next day according to the class schedule and weekly schedule.

It is not easy for children to carry out the timetable. In addition to children's self-awareness, parents need guidance and supervision. Stick to it for three or four weeks, and this habit will become a child's habit, and the child will benefit for life.

Make weekly and monthly plans.

Weekly and monthly schedules are similar to daily schedules, but the lines are thicker, mainly to record some important things, without being particularly specific, because the purpose of weekly and monthly schedules is to grasp the time as a whole. The following is the weekly schedule format for your reference:

For the monthly schedule, parents can design a calendar with their children. The lines of the monthly schedule can be thicker. For example, if June 6th is grandpa's birthday, just mark it as "grandpa's birthday".

5. Evaluation of habit formation

Let children see their progress.

Evaluation is an indispensable link in habit cultivation. Through evaluation, children can know where they are doing well and where they need improvement and adjustment.

Every night before the child goes to bed, it is necessary for parents to evaluate the child's completion of the day with the child. The evaluation mainly focuses on two aspects.

The first is to evaluate the completion of daily affairs.

(1) If the full mark is 100, how is the implementation today?

In order to improve children's enthusiasm, parents should guide their children to give themselves a slightly higher score, so that children will have more confidence in themselves.

(2) What did you do well today?

Please tick √ in the "Completed" column of the schedule for the business successfully completed that day. If you finish the task ahead of time because of some unplanned measures or skills, you should also write down your good experience and give yourself some praise and encouragement.

(3) What matters have not been completed or completed well today?

If it is incomplete or poorly completed, put an "X" in the blank space after the word "mouth" and explain the reason and when it will be completed. For example, some things can be put on the next day's schedule immediately, and some things that are not urgent can be recorded on the weekly schedule.

The second is to evaluate the implementation of the one-week timetable.

Sunday night is usually the time to make plans for next week. A week has passed and a new week is about to begin. Before making the weekly plan for next week, we might as well evaluate the implementation of last week and try to answer the following questions:

(1) If the full score is 100, should I (the child) give _ _ _ _ points for this week's execution?

(2) What experience have you had in implementing the timetable this week?

(3) In terms of implementation progress, what aspects need to be further improved in the future?

(4) What improvements have been made to my (children's) life after using the timetable?

For example: life is more organized, saving a lot of time, and so on.

Evaluation is a better means of improvement. If children feel that the schedule is too busy, they can adjust it in the following four ways:

1. Delete transaction. For example, the time spent watching TV can be cut down appropriately.

2. The transaction is postponed. If children feel that time is tight, they can ask their parents to wash the dishes once, and the task of washing the dishes will be postponed until the weekend.

3. Reduce tasks. Read Harry 10? Potter needs 30 minutes. Reading five pages less can save about 15 minutes.

4. Entrusted affairs. You can entrust shopping in the mall to your parents.

After three to four weeks of persistence, constant evaluation and adjustment, children will become more and more familiar with scheduling, spend less time on scheduling, and need less time for parents' guidance and supervision. Before long, parents can let their children do all this by themselves, and you will find how precious the time spent at the beginning is!

Evaluation should be based on parents' positive feedback, combined with certain rewards and punishments. If children do a good job in making a timetable and doing things in a planned way, then parents should strike while the iron is hot, give rewards in time and give their children positive feedback.

When rewarding, parents should pay attention to the following points:

1. Reward is a means, not an end. Don't let children indulge in rewards. The purpose of reward is to make children consciously maintain certain behavior habits in the future, so that children can still maintain certain habits without external rewards.

2. When rewarding, it is best to target some specific behaviors of children, rather than general rewards. For example, parents should specifically tell their children which aspect is the most rewarding.

Parents don't have to worry too much if their children don't behave well as planned. After all, children are different from adults, and their cognitive ability and persistence ability are weaker than adults. Parents can't demand their children by their own standards. When parents punish their children, they must be cautious, giving priority to rewards, supplemented by punishment. There is a punishment method-"natural consequence method", which is worth learning from parents. The natural consequences method is very simple, that is, let children bear the adverse consequences caused by their actions. For example, children don't plan their time well, and as a result, they forget to do their math homework when they go out to see a movie at night. At this time, parents should make up their minds to let their children bear the consequences of not going out to watch movies.

Success belongs to the persevering.

6. Parents' demonstration and encouragement

Habit formation needs a certain environment. The habit of making a schedule is basically formed in the family. Parents play an important role. Parents should create a suitable family atmosphere for their children and let them develop good habits.

Use timetables to improve parents' lives.

2 1 century is an era when parents and children learn from each other and grow together. When parents cultivate their children's habit of making schedules, they must set an example and take the lead in making and implementing their own schedules. Some activities listed in this book, parents may wish to try it themselves, which can improve their lives; Secondly, when guiding children to form habits, it is more handy and easier to grasp the key link of cultivating children's habits.

Guide according to the characteristics of children.

It is not easy to cultivate children's habit of making timetables. It requires the efforts of children and parents. In this process, parents must use their brains and think more about what kind of education is more suitable for children. For example, children with strong self-control can be given more space to play freely, while children with weak self-control need more inspections and diligent supervision at first, and then gradually reduce the frequency of supervision and inspection, and finally realize their complete autonomy and autonomy.

Only by respecting children's choices can children's initiative be mobilized.

In the final analysis, the formation of habits should be implemented on children, and the formulation and implementation of schedules are related to children's daily lives. Therefore, parents should pay special attention to respecting their children's life and their choices in the process of cultivating their children's habit of making schedules. For example, if parents are willing to let their children watch TV in their free time every day, they should not let their children read extracurricular books. Only when children make a timetable according to their own wishes can they have the initiative and enthusiasm to implement it.

Once the whole family has a sense of time management and a habit, your family life will definitely change a lot. You will find that family life is more orderly. Although each family has its own things to finish, the time for everyone to laugh and have fun together has increased. This is a miracle of time!