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Choose good and be stubborn, and take the road that is good for children.

& gt& gt You are filial to your parents, and your children will be filial to you in the future; Whatever you don't want your child to do, don't do it yourself, that's all.

& gt& gt Become a useful person to the society and be very caring.

& gt& gt The forest is beautiful, and the wind will destroy it; The line is higher than the people, and the public will not.

& gt& gt To successfully raise children, a family can only have one way of raising children. Adults must first discuss and be consistent with the outside world, so that children will not sow discord and benefit fishermen.

Clothes are important!

& gt My English teacher in junior high school graduated from the English Department of Normal University. She is smart and beautiful. When she teaches us, she wears sweaters, narrow skirts and high heels every day.

& gt& gt Education is a major. Parents of students, even doctors and professors, are only majors in his field, not education majors.

& gt& gt In education, parents should respect teachers, and can't slander teachers in front of their children, because people will only listen to those they respect and learn from those they respect. Once a child doesn't respect the teacher, he won't listen to the teacher, and his study will be in vain.

& gt& gt teachers must keep learning, which will bring them confidence.

& gt& gt Success is to get what you want, and happiness is to accept what you get.

Self-discipline and down-to-earth, make the harvest of education better.

& gt& gt His happiness should also be collected from the life he runs.

& gt& gt With proper teaching, children can overcome their sense of vulnerability and face all kinds of obstacles in life, which is the way to help them become independent. It is a gift of happiness to keep children amazed at the world.

& gt& gt From now on, how to harvest first? "

& gt& gt "Educators, like farmers, have some things to do, some resources to use and some obstacles to overcome. ..... The goal of farmers is to make use of various conditions to make their actions and the energy of these conditions work together without conflicting. "

Garden fun of>& gt education

& gt& gt It would be absurd for farmers to set agricultural goals without considering conditions such as soil, climate and crop growth characteristics. The farmer's goal should be to look forward to the consequences of the combination of his own strength and surrounding conditions, and use this foresight to guide his daily actions. "This is my understanding of down-to-earth education.

Don't let the world revolve around children just because you love them.

& gt& gt Don't put your preferences and requirements so big.

& gt& gt Don't love children in a tolerant way, don't deprive children of their ability to care about others, and don't ignore the idea that many small things in life are brewing for them to understand the world.

& gt& gt If parents want the family to have a good atmosphere and feelings of mutual help, I think it is necessary for children to get the protection, care and material they deserve from childhood, and it is also necessary to keep the courtesy of different generations in dealing with advance and retreat.

& gt& gt "If you want to be elegant, remember that you are not the only pedestrian when you walk."

"What you have, what he has" is actually unfair.

& gt& gt brothers are United, and their profits are broken. "

& gt& gt If my children and grandchildren are all like me, then why do they keep the money? Being virtuous and rich will damage his ambition. My children and grandchildren are not as good as me. What did you leave the money for? Foolish and rich will increase their excesses. "My parents often tell us:' Good men don't eat separately, and good women don't have to marry. "Children should have the ambition to conquer the world on their own.

If someone is there but no one takes it, it is not the responsibility of taking care of it.

& gt& gt If parents can make the best judgment for their children under their own living conditions, they can get twice the result with half the effort. For example, when I was a child, my mother always told me stories from books or family stories while teaching me to do housework, and then naturally guided me to be a man and do things from these stories. This is the principle of feeding the body and mind.

& gt& gt For example, if you read Journey to the West to your son, ask him to help you sweep the floor; Or when he looks depressed, call him over and put on a shawl, and chat with him while cutting his hair to solve his doubts. The way many elders take care of their families makes me feel that parents who can understand their children through careful observation are not because they have a lot of time, but because they really care about their children, so that they can put aside their own affairs and establish a happy atmosphere with their children when they have time.

Show yourself.

& gt Who should I show the photos of so many dishes?

commemorate

& gt When we were young, we were taught not to show off what you have to the poor. If my sister didn't go to the wedding reception, I wouldn't describe how delicious the food was at the wedding reception when I came back, so as not to make her feel sorry. This is basic empathy.

A fair and reasonable punishment will be accepted by the child.

& gt& gt The third is to find ways to make children love you, not be afraid of you. The former is long-term and intangible, while the latter is short-term. Bad behavior will appear when you are not around.

& gt& gt Using "improper inducement" or "using threats" to achieve the purpose of learning will lead to greater mistakes.

& gt& gt As a group, I also want to encourage those children who are disciplined in the group and want to get welfare to speak frankly and make demands on those children who don't care. Because children don't seem to know at present, they can also ask other children to safeguard the honor of the group, just as they have to cooperate with each other on the court to score goals, or as we don't tolerate undisciplined people in public places.

& gt& gt Generally speaking, the word "penalty" is harsh, and only "should" or "shouldn't" is used to discuss its meaning. However, the reality is that adults are also in a world full of punishment. If you don't pay any money you should pay, you will be fined and fined for speeding ... punishment is closely related to "unfinished responsibility", "crossing the line" and "breaking the routine" Therefore, we should not let children think that punishment does not exist, or that it is a sin to impose punishment. real

& gt& gt Let children understand the reasons for the existence of punishment, the time when punishment starts from the agreement, the necessary discipline and the completion of responsibility, so that punishment will not become a threat, and the progress of learning will not be stimulated by a rude punishment system.

& gt& gt Let children understand the reasons for the existence of punishment, the time when punishment starts from the agreement, the necessary discipline and the completion of responsibility, so that punishment will not become a threat, and the progress of learning will not be stimulated by a rude punishment system.

& gt& gt No matchmaking, no insurance.

& gt& gt Even sitting is effective, but unfair; Between efficiency and fairness, I choose fairness.

& gt& gt Telling the truth and being brave and telling, planting and framing others are two different things.

& gt& gt Basically, as long as you tell adults about life or safety, so as not to lose the golden opportunity to save lives; Who is good with whom? Such things between children can be kept secret.

& gt& gt No one likes to listen to threats, but the experience and emotion gained from practice will accompany the child for life, which is why volunteering in different places and experiencing life as soon as possible will be very helpful to him.

& gt& gt Fairness is the first principle to be maintained. The second is that encouragement is better than punishment, because the latter will be counterproductive. The consequences of improper punishment are worse than the original wrong behavior. Due to the improper punishment of adults, many teenagers have embarked on the road of no return. The third is to find ways to make children love you, not be afraid of you. The former is long-term and intangible, while the latter is short-term. Bad behavior will appear when you are not around.

& gt& gt Zhuge Liang described the principle of punishment best. He said: "Reward is far away, punishment is not near, a knight can't get something for nothing, and punishment can't be avoided." As long as teachers and parents are "kind without pay, evil without fiber and depravity, ordinary things are concise, physics-oriented, fame and fortune are responsible, hypocrisy is contemptuous", students and children naturally admire you and obey you. But if children want to love you from the heart, they should accompany them like Bill Gates' father. Someone once asked Bill Gates' father how to raise such an excellent child. He said, "I don't know. I just stay with them and I won't miss the big and small things in their lives." Show yourself and stay with them. The sincere companionship of parents is the greatest spiritual encouragement for children. It brings children not only a sense of security, but also affirmation. This is the reason why gold cannot be exchanged.

Look for answers from common sense and experience before "following the book".

Face the cat

& gt Observe the cat's condition carefully and observe the reaction after each adjustment.

& gt& gt Observe the condition of the cat carefully and observe the reaction after each adjustment.

& gt& gt I think children's anxiety is that they don't know what they are going to do and what will happen in the new environment, so I suggest using practical things or things to divert their attention instead of comforting them with words, which is more effective.

habit

& gt How do you know that "you have to show evidence to convince him, which has also formed the habit of verifying everything.

& gt& gt Now that the Internet is available and the information is open, let's consider whether it is reasonable by reducing to absurdity.

& gt& gt Facing the complicated information on the Internet, adults must have basic knowledge and common sense, as well as the ability to think independently.

& gt& gt Because adults' thoughts affect children's happiness, we should encourage adults to continue studying, which will also set a good example for children and kill two birds with one stone.

First, take care of children's sense of security.

& gt& gt I always spend the most time dealing with children's physical and mental "safety". In my cognition, safety is the foundation of happiness in life.

& gt& gt The so-called hard work refers to the inner suffering. Having nothing, having money is not pain, but difficulty. As long as there is hope, it is not difficult. Inner peace is the root of happiness.

& gt& gt Parents have the responsibility to protect their children. This is not to vent their anger on him, but to sit down and listen to his stories, analyze right and wrong for him and teach him how to deal with it next time.

& gt& gt thinks that making others laugh is humor, but it doesn't take into account the feelings of the other party after listening, which is unkind.

Learning expectations and goals should match children's abilities.

& gt& gt Change the subject when the child is nervous.

& gt& gt I once told a mother that the child was doing well today. My mother nodded to me, touched the child's head approvingly, and finally replied faintly: "Very good! But it can be better.

& gt& gt No matter what kind, the helping hand extended after careful observation can win the trust of children, and the so-called sense of security will be truly implemented in life.

& gt& gt We often say that no one will make you unhappy. You make yourself unhappy, and your emotions are in your own hands. Don't ask others "when will it change" every day, ask "what can I do to change myself"

& gt& gt We often say that no one will make you unhappy. You make yourself unhappy, and your emotions are in your own hands. Don't ask others "when will it change" every day, ask "what can I do to change myself"

Deception in the name of love may be more cruel.

& gt& gt Even if it is a matter of life and death, tell the child honestly, because although he doesn't understand it now, he will understand it one day, and it feels bad to be cheated. The belief that "mom never lied to me" will become the concept that "mom can be trusted" in his mind, and he will do whatever mom says at once, because "mom never lied to me".

Sometimes, develop correct life values in daily life.

& gt& gt Different kinds of jobs are more like melons, which can get the effect of adjustment and rest, but one can't work all the time. In fact, there is no need. Overworking makes work a kind of hard work and can't be very efficient. Sometimes we give up our work completely, do some idle activities and enjoy the happiness of a little free man. All work has a practical purpose; Activities with nothing to do and no practical purpose can be regarded as recreation. What we call "recreation" is "fooling around", which is really not good; When westerners say "divert attention", it means "use your energy on the other hand". It is called the occupation of work, which shows the use of entertainment. The so-called occupation, without proper Chinese translation, seems to contain two meanings: occupation and sustenance. In the process of work and entertainment, one thing "occupies" our body and mind, and our body and mind are "pinned" on that thing. Where the body and mind are suppressed, the energy will be vented.

Punch in English

& gt activities with nothing to do and no practical purpose can be regarded as recreation.

& gt& gt He specially discussed with my mother that all children who want to take the joint entrance exam can choose projects although they have to do housework. So he asked me to do the work that can be done in stages, such as sweeping the yard, sweeping the floor and cleaning the tatami. Children who are not under the pressure of the entrance examination are assigned to do time-consuming work such as washing dishes and washing rice.

& gt& gt "Tell the children not to spontaneously ignite, and they will study in the future.

& gt& gt If you want your child to be a successful person in the future, please form a good habit of cherishing time.

At school, children should also have a good meal.

What kind of environment do you need to eat too fast?

& gt Put a bottle of flowers on the table, spread a tablecloth, set the dishes and chopsticks, and eat naturally and elegantly;

& gt& gt Put a bottle of flowers on the table, spread a tablecloth, set the chopsticks, and eat naturally and elegantly;

& gt& gt What is in a tray is not so much a brain storm with balanced nutrition and delicious taste as a symbol of the practice of caring for the next generation by the elders of an era.

& gt& gt Children's aesthetic feeling can't be cultivated just by visiting art galleries, watching art exhibitions and watching art performances. Isn't eating well a good aesthetic education? Without a foundation of life, there can be no culture.

& gt& gt If it is only for the convenience of management, it will lose the essence of teaching.

& gt& gt kindergarten is the first stop in children's learning process and the richest stage in time. Does Mr. Hong Lan think that kindergarten students should use their daily needs (such as cooking lunch, washing dishes, cleaning, etc.) to learn routine education and life skills, so that education can naturally achieve the role of internalization?

& gt& gt A rude person, no matter how good his homework is, will not go far in his career, because he can't get on the table, which is a shame.

Family is the best place to enlighten and cultivate manners.

& gt& gt I pay close attention to the language she talks with people and remind her to pay attention to details.

Squat down and talk to the child and look out from his point of view.

Problem one

& gt How do you think parents should adjust this misunderstanding caused by different experiences? Do you also think that adults have the responsibility to confirm their ability to understand things according to their own experiences, so as to gradually improve the quality of parent-child communication?

& gt& gt When we communicate with children, we should try our best to make them understand what we want to convey from more specific things or phenomena, whether it is guidance, explanation, rejection or prohibition.

& gt& gt school is an occasion to teach expression, so we should pay more attention to the proper use of words, because children will always be influenced unconsciously.

& gt& gt If parents' words and tone can't complement each other's actions, education will get twice the result with half the effort.

This sentence & gt& gt has a negative meaning, indicating that this person is short.

& gt& gt As for asking without answering, it is extremely impolite.

Use good and correct language to be a communication model for children.

& gt& gt When the parenting style is over-revised, parents, on the one hand, promote inexperienced children to inappropriate interpersonal positions (for example, children should be consulted first, regardless of their size), on the other hand, they lower the standards that should be set for their children to the same level as them.

& gt& gt Although the external environment is an influence, the family is still the last place to check.

& gt& gt There are many kinds of words that can convey the same idea, so we should carefully choose a word that can convey meaning and emotion correctly at the same time.

& gt& gt absorbs good language nutrition.

Love and care are the educational qualities that kindergartens should provide.

& gt& gt Based on the education of life aesthetics,

The extreme proposition that you must study ahead or slowly is not natural enough.

Question 2

& gt Should adults make up for their timidity by comforting, encouraging or slowly guiding? After parents understand this situation, should they simply take "it doesn't matter, just grow up" as a relief, or do they have other suggestions for reference?

& gt& gt Smart parents will seize the opportunity when their children want to study. No matter what they want to learn, they should be taught as soon as possible, because motivation is the biggest pusher of learning.

& gt& gt Results The brain activation intensity of writing group, tracing red group and typing group was different, the writing group was the strongest and the typing group was the weakest. So writing by yourself goes deeper into the brain than typing in red, which is more helpful for reading.

& gt& gt There is absolutely no such thing as losing at the starting line in life. The decisive battle of life is at a turning point. At every crossroads in life, whether you can make the right choice wisely is the most important thing.

& gt& gt not only wastes pen and ink, but also wastes children's time and destroys their appetite for learning.

Through positive example and teaching, let children understand the boundaries of closeness.

& gt& gt As long as you are willing to take the time to listen to him and know what he is thinking, he will still respect you and ask you for help.

& gt& gt They should learn to reject these behaviors more actively and tactfully. My own practice is that when I take the child's hand away from mine, I don't want him to misunderstand it as disgust. In addition to gently removing the children's tight limbs, I will immediately shift their attention to a specific action, rather than dialing or throwing it away. I will also gently touch his head and urge him to continue to do his work well. It is so clear every time, and after one or two times, the child can understand.

Make good use of teachers' influence to guide parents to grow together.

Always check whether there is negative energy in your words. If you can choose, of course, just keep positive energy! Avoid judging others. If you have to evaluate and choose positive energy.

& gt A child who is often called "slow-heating" just doesn't know the proper manners when getting along with others. Once he had heard his mother say several times in front of others that his behavior was "slow fever". He really stopped greeting people, was not used to asking and answering questions, and even began to cover up his "slow fever interpersonal relationship" with practical actions.

What is the way to integrate into society?

& gt If adults care about children, they should not let these behaviors drift, but must help children adapt to the environment in a social way.

& gt& gt* * * Help children strengthen their ability to adapt to the environment;

& gt& gt Education is a "process of seeking progress", not a "decision of choosing the best".

& gt& gt Parents and teachers should strive to stimulate students' gratifying tendencies and abilities and control unhealthy development.

We should talk and communicate frequently to constantly correct our negative views.

& gt Even if teachers have different opinions at first, there will be an answer through sincere communication.

Everyone is the same.

& gt I have told parents several times that when sending children to class, don't say, "Be good!" ""you should behave yourself ... teacher! "

& gt& gt If adults constantly cause children to feel bad about themselves, it will certainly be difficult to carry out self-esteem education.

& gt& gt Of course, as a teacher, we should also win the trust and respect of parents with sincere words and deeds.

The idea rooted in the heart is the most important!

& gt ... As soon as these traditional old ideas appeared, they began to flinch unconsciously, their confidence in their abilities declined, and they hesitated about what they could have done and dared not try.

& gt& gt Parents should not belittle their children in front of others. Children don't know that you are modest. They will think that I am like this in my mother's mind, my head will hang lower and lower, and I will lose confidence.

Teachers should have a good discussion about children's mistakes and punishments.

& gt& gt Let them understand the relationship between wrong and crime first, so as to discuss whether punishment is fair.

& gt& gt Schools and families should actively help children understand that there are often misunderstandings in the world where people get along with each other. So everything "I thought" should be verified before deciding on the next move.

& gt& gt In the future, you can't get along with others or act impulsively, and you can't take immediate action just because you feel sloppy and judge.

& gt& gt If we can let them put forward their own ideas about mistakes and punishments and establish a life restraint convention with a fair mood, in addition to letting mistakes learn from them, children may be able to understand that it is not easy to get along with each other from different angles.

& gt& gt Children learn from mistakes.

Don't teach children to learn to be tricky and utilitarian in the name of goodwill.

This timetable is necessary. Zaizai likes to say that it will be late today and tomorrow. Love said you didn't record it for me just now. This is a complete misunderstanding.

& gt What makes this meeting meaningful to me is that I know very well that the children themselves are the executors of the task, the teachers are responsible for this year's consultation and guidance, and the parents are the continuous caregivers. In the next year, the children themselves will make all the preparations needed to apply for a university in the normal process of study and activities, and undertake double tasks, so that they can grow rapidly during that time. For the first time in their lives, they have to manage many things at the same time, and these things are related to their future.

Plan as a whole

& gt What makes this meeting meaningful to me is that I know very well that the children themselves are the executors of the task, the teachers are responsible for this year's consultation and guidance, and the parents are the continuous caregivers. In the next year, the children themselves will make all the preparations needed to apply for a university in the normal process of study and activities, and undertake double tasks, so that they can grow rapidly during that time. For the first time in their lives, they have to manage many things at the same time, and these things are related to their future.

Is the batter out?

& gt You must wait until the information changes from short-term memory to long-term memory, and that information is yours.

& gt& gt This solidification process is carried out during sleep, especially when dreaming, so the last-minute cramming will not last long.

Erzai will never ask me to read stories again. .

& gt Innocent and soft hearts are easily moved by emotion and internalized into their own values, so the books they read as children are very important.

Before determining "not interested", help children "learn"

& gt& gt "At first, I had to put up with it for a well-fed family. Once, a water pump was short-circuited, and seawater immediately flooded in. I found that my work concerns the safety of all new york citizens. As long as one pump breaks down, the circuits and subways in new york will be shut down, so I have to patrol dutifully every day. Over time, I no longer felt smelly, but saw the importance of work, so I spent thirty-four years in cold and summer.

See other people's achievements, discover, encourage, praise and give back in time.

& gt But after the first group is finished, the experimenter will secretly take it out under the table and put it back in the box. In the second group, the subject was allowed to see the experimenter take down the Lego toy he had just assembled and put it back in the box. As a result, the students in the first group can do it for more than ten times, and they still do it at the end with almost no pay; The students in the second group felt that all their efforts were in vain and they had no sense of accomplishment when they saw the finished product being dismantled. Once they do it, they don't want to do it. They used to be students who like Lego, but once they feel that they are busy in vain, their interest will disappear and they will have no sense of accomplishment. Therefore, interest is important, but a sense of accomplishment is more important.

wonderful

& gt For example, there is a riddle about "car accident", and the answer is "taking advantage of people's danger". At this time, "taking advantage" is no longer a verb but an adjective, which is the danger of people taking the bus.

& gt& gt is encouraged by positive feedback.

& gt& gt once the president of Stanford University visited Taiwan, and I had the honor of having dinner with him at the same table. The guests at the dinner table are experts in all fields. I saw him talk about transgenic, left literature and art and right science from Shakespeare, and he handled it well. Finally, he was respected by all of us, and everyone thought that he was worthy of being the president of a first-class university. If a child has such skills, his career will definitely go up a storey still higher.

& gt& gt What should be done, whether interested or not, must be done, because it is a responsibility.

& gt& gt "Whatever is difficult to do must be powerful and lifeless; People in trouble should know it without saying.

& gt& gt Discipline is the foundation of success. If you have discipline in your life, you will be healthy. Disciplined study will get twice the result with half the effort; If you have discipline, you will succeed in your career.

Let children develop "normally" before "early" training.

& gt& gt New knowledge must be linked with old knowledge in order to be preserved for a long time.

Jiao er zai zai mathematics

& gt When children are young, don't let go of basic knowledge because of interest, because basic knowledge is the basic principle of being a man, and no matter how good the natural principle is, it can't be used as an excuse for illiteracy, simple arithmetic and common sense.

& gt& gt When children are young, don't let go of basic knowledge because of interest, because basic knowledge is the basic truth of being a man, and no matter how good natural truth is, it can't be used as an excuse for illiteracy, simple arithmetic and common sense.

Children's reading also needs time management.

& gt& gt Before taking part in any activity, she knows why she is here, and then she should take part wholeheartedly, which has nothing to do with how much she likes reading or whether she is a bookworm.

skill

& gt Does Teacher Hong Lan agree with this mother? If it were you, how would you persuade the mother to guide her children to read in a more correct way?

Reading time and books are not exactly equal to the accumulation of knowledge.

& gt& gt Reading is not to remember the details of every book, but to increase your understanding of something after reading it, or to make you reflect on whether your past behavior is appropriate. You must digest its contents and connect new knowledge with old knowledge. This knowledge is yours.

& gt& gt Happiness in life lies not in doing what you like, but in liking what you have to do. The competitiveness of children actually includes learning ability, anti-frustration ability and perseverance, and the steel skeleton behind it is called "discipline"

& gt& gt 1935, Mr. Lin Yutang said: "There is no book that everyone must read in the world.

Reciting is for the convenience of "keeping it in your heart"

& gt& gt As soon as the logic and organization are clear, the meaning appears and it is easy to remember.

& gt& gt Some parents did not think deeply, nor did they connect your words. They simply intercepted a sentence or a meaning and made a one-sided conclusion:

& gt& gt I tried a new method, not to let them read poems first, but to let them pick up paper and pens. After I finish the meaning of a sentence, let them write the words of that sentence with their own understanding. Besides knowing the pronunciation, they also need to know the meaning before they can fill in the correct words. For example, "do your best" may be written as "into the heart", forcing them to really use their brains and ask questions if they don't understand.

& gt& gt Before the Internet, almost everything had to be kept in mind, so education attached great importance to memory. Now that we have the network, we should release the resources of the human brain to deal with other more important things.

All dry goods!

& gt Why do schools still require children to recite in the computer age? Because the knowledge recorded in the brain is the fastest to extract, and these basic knowledge can be used to verify the authenticity of those new knowledge on the network, which is why the more developed the information, the more important the common sense.

& gt& gt From the experimental point of view, the essence of memory is a sense of familiarity. The neural circuit of familiarity is long and the critical point is low. It is easy to be stimulated, and it is easy to add new things to the existing cornerstone. The so-called similarity will lead to similarity and breed connection. Memory will combine similar things together, and when we see their related things, we can draw new knowledge through analogy. Therefore, you have to recite the nine tables and twenty-six letters, because it is the cornerstone and is called basic skills.

The theory of reading a book a hundred times and seeing what it means.

& gt memorize by heart. "

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