◎ Zhang Jiao Story For those parents [Weibo] who hate mathematics, the most painful thing is to educate children who also hate this subject. Unfortunately, I have been disgusted with mathematics since I was a child, and I have encountered the above situation. You know, math has always been my worst subject. No matter how hard I try, I never get high marks in the math exam. Until after work, I often have nightmares, dreaming that I am taking a math test, but I can't do anything. I always wake up in a cold sweat, which shows how much I have a headache for math ... I first found out that my child was lacking in math learning when he was in kindergarten. One day, the kindergarten teacher suddenly told me that the class arranged for the children to count, others counted quickly, but the son could not count. I didn't care at the time. Later, by chance, I found that my son couldn't even do the simplest math problem, which made me panic. I have a friend who is a doctor of education. She told me that relevant research shows that math ability is very important for children's future success, and students' math ability in kindergarten is a predictor of whether they can get good grades in future study. After listening to my friend's words, I was even more anxious. I began to urge my son to learn mathematics, often giving him questions to calculate and repeatedly emphasizing the importance of mathematics. Unexpectedly, my urging not only didn't help my son learn math well, but made him feel resistant to math and began to be afraid of the subject. After primary school, my son was particularly nervous when he heard that he was going to have a math class. When he does his homework after class, he often leaves his math homework until the end, and often asks us to guide him to finish it smoothly. My son's performance made me feel extremely distressed, and I felt chilling when I thought of my study career that I had been frightened by mathematics. I decided to help my son overcome his math phobia and get rid of the shadow brought by math at all costs. So, I specially consulted the relevant education experts, and the answer was: even parents with mathematical phobia can teach a mathematician as long as they make a correct education plan. So I decided to change my behavior and create a more relaxed mathematics learning environment for my son. Before that, in order to urge my son to learn mathematics well, I often taught him. Mathematics is very difficult, and only by redoubling my efforts can I learn it well. In addition, I often tell my son that if he doesn't learn math well, he will suffer a lot in the future. What did he suffer from math? After the guidance of experts, I realized that these are all negative remarks, which will give children the psychology that "mathematics is very difficult, even if my mother can't learn well after studying for so many years, I may not be able to learn well". So, I decided to change my way of speaking and make more positive remarks to help my son put his mind right and look at mathematics from another angle. I bought many interesting math books, read them one by one first, and then communicated with my son with the theories in the books to arouse his interest. My son asked me, "Mom, don't you hate math?" How can we say math now? "I replied," Yes, I used to hate it, but recently I suddenly found math interesting, and now I'm beginning to like it! ""Although I was lying at first, I gradually began to realize that mathematics is not so annoying ... In addition, I integrate mathematics into my daily life and often give my son questions according to the actual situation. For example, I will ask my son, "My family has 8 pairs of old chopsticks, 10 pairs of new chopsticks. The aunt next door came to borrow 15 pairs of chopsticks and borrowed all the old chopsticks. So how many new chopsticks do you need to borrow? " When the whole family was in road trip, my son asked how long it would take to reach the destination, so I guided him to calculate the time needed to reach the destination according to the data displayed on the mileage card and speed dashboard. My son prefers reading story books to solving problems, so I adapted many classic stories, incorporated math problems into them, and finally asked questions. I printed my own adapted math story into a book and gave it to my son as a birthday present. I didn't expect my son to be very happy and count the questions more actively. In addition, I often browse some math-related websites and find some interesting math questions to ask my son. My favorite website is Fun Math, a non-profit website dedicated to helping parents integrate math knowledge into their children's daily lives. I learned many new ways to help my son learn math well. In order to stimulate my son's interest in mathematics, I also hired my son to be my own math tutor. I told my son that because I didn't study hard before, I didn't quite understand many problems in the math book. I hope he can explain it to me systematically. With this opportunity, my son naturally takes extra care in learning mathematics. I ran to the teacher to ask if I didn't understand, in order to give me a lecture when I got home. Of course, I will also pay my son's class fee on time. To my surprise, at the end of the term, my son actually bought me a pair of shoes with that money, which greatly moved me.