In fact, I am cheering from the heart. Because the burden of children is too heavy. Unlike the weekend, a friend's child has not rested for a whole weekend since the first day of junior high school. Mom and dad are cruel to him, too. From the first day of the holiday to now, it has been full. Because my mother and I are good friends, I also advised him to give the child some freedom anyway. But she said: "Your child has good grades and can't feel the pain in our hearts." My children get good grades? Immediately denied her statement, but to be honest, her son's grades were really poor. Despite this make-up class, my English is still sixty or seventy. After several persuasion, I think this conversation can't go on, or the boat of friendship will capsize.
Make up a math class for my son outside. To be honest, I am the object of the exam. In addition, the children themselves asked for make-up lessons, saying that almost all of their classes are now making up lessons outside. If you don't make up for it, the teacher sometimes talks about some extracurricular knowledge in class, which he doesn't understand, but most people in the class can understand. I just feel the seriousness of the situation.
Fortunately, after the make-up exam, my son's grades can finally catch up. And he likes his math teacher who makes up lessons very much.
I happened to meet his math teacher in the corridor after they finished class yesterday. I knew her before, and I looked for her several times because of the online and offline shifts. Every time, she is very enthusiastic to solve the problem.
"Teacher H, can't they come back after school starts?" I really want to know about the policies and what they are doing behind their backs.
"yes. The state is quite strict in this respect. I was just about to call you! After school starts, we only have classes online. Your home is so far away, you have to run so far to come here for class. " She said.
"I'm willing to run, because my son especially likes your class." I am telling the truth. The son next to me also nodded with a smile.
"I was just about to call you to say one thing! PH (my son) can rank in the top three in this class. He is so superior. Every exam is basically full marks. However, he also has his own shortcomings. One is that the particularly easy questions are always wrong, and the other is that the finale questions are always wrong. So, as soon as school starts, I'm going to another advanced class. More than half of them are famous students. Tell me the truth, how is his performance in other classes? " The teacher asked me.
I told him truthfully, "He is now in the final exam of the second grade of junior high school in the whole school, with about 400 students, ranking 25 th." The math finale is not done well. Other subjects are A+ in Chinese, English and physics, and others are OK. But it's not first-rate. "
The teacher pondered for a while and said to his son, "With your grades, you have a good chance of getting into the top four, but at this rate, you will get into the next four." But if you work hard now, cherish every exam in grade three. Before the middle school entrance examination, the famous school will book you and let you enter the best class. This feeling is not the same as your admission to a prestigious school. I don't work hard, just like a little girl last semester. She used to get good grades and thought she was the material of the big four, but then she stopped working hard. Now I don't even go to the Eighth National Congress. Now I often cry to death when I come here to attend classes. "
The teacher repeated what we adults used to like to say to our son. The competition for the senior high school entrance examination in Shenzhen is too fierce, with only 43% students attending public high schools. If you want to enter the big four and eight, it will be even harder. Before, we always hoped that our son could enter the top four universities, and always felt that the environment there was just different. At least the students around him are basically students who love learning.
But now we two adults seem to have changed some ideas. This change of mind also came from a good friend of his. His good friend was admitted to Shenzhen University, the best school in Shenzhen, by index students. He told us personally that he was almost depressed several times during his three years in high school. Looking at the deep and shallow acne marks on his face, I said as soon as I took a picture, "Aunt, I'd better stay away from the camera and don't show my acne." Plus I have his WeChat, I can more or less understand how depressed he has been in the past three years. According to him, in the past three years, his grades have been at the bottom every time. In class, some teachers don't give lectures at all, saying that you can do it here and there, so I won't talk much. But this is a new lesson, which we haven't learned. Why do we all know? But most students in my class can do it. So it feels like a nightmare, especially in physics class. I feel like I'm listening to gobbledygook every day. I don't understand. My mind is always wandering.
So later, both of us adults felt that if the child has the ability to enter the top four, let him enter the top four. If he can't get into the top four, it's not bad to go to a school that matches his ability. Here, the level of other students is similar to his, and his pressure will be less. If he works hard, he will go to the front and increase his confidence. If you don't work hard, you will fall behind, but not by much. Think like this, the anxiety is much less. Maybe he doesn't pay as much attention to learning as before, and the child actually has some independent consciousness. He has been saying these days: "Mom, didn't you say you are a schoolmaster?" Why don't we make a review plan for the first exam together? Can you check it for me? "This is studied in the past. No one can see the door when it is closed. It has made progress, hasn't it?
The teacher went on to say, "Although you are good at math in this class, one question you are afraid of is: Which of the following statements is correct?" . The son nodded again and again. Then the teacher went on to say, "of course, this is not what you are most afraid of." What is the correct number of the following statements? " The son laughed loudly. Yes, yes.
"So you are the reason why the foundation is not strong. It doesn't matter if you can't finish the finale, but this summer vacation, the task you must complete is to make clear the knowledge points and concepts I talked about. Talk about the finale as soon as school starts. Don't talk about the finale then, you are still so unclear about the concept, and you have to look through the books about that concept. It would be too late. " Listen carefully, son I seem to have listened.
Then the teacher said to me, "Do you usually take care of your children's studies?"
"I want to, but I can't. First of all, he studied with the door closed and wouldn't let us in. Second, I can't understand mathematics and I can't manage it. " I answered truthfully.
Both the teacher and the son laughed.
"So to speak, if you need to make great efforts in learning, I think your son will spend twenty percent at most. Others are nervous and can't see what he is nervous about. " She asked her son with a smile.
"Yes, what can I do?" I asked anxiously, "If he doesn't work hard, we can't help it." "But it doesn't matter! Good psychological quality. There is still great potential in the future. Isn't it? PH？ However, if you don't make good use of this potential when you lay a good foundation for life in the third grade, it will be in vain. "
"Ha ha ha," the son was amused by her statement.
"So starting today, you have to master the concept knowledge points of each class of the teacher, and the exercises given by the teacher must be completed unconditionally. Mom can also have a look at his mastery in her spare time. Don't just take what you learned the day before and cross it out for inspection. This summer vacation, we have learned all the contents of grade three, and the rest of the time is just to review the topics and summarize and reflect. Also, excellent students have two advantages that you lack. I hope you can pay attention to it. First of all, you won't make a mistake on a simple question. Be one, even one. Don't let yourself make mistakes. Second, when the last question can't be done, I will sum up and draw inferences from others, instead of staying at the stage of not thinking and letting the teacher speak. Instead, take the initiative to ask the teacher and reflect on yourself. What should I do if I have the same type of topic in the future? "
The son nodded and said yes.
The greedy son immediately changed the subject. "Teacher, I heard that your former university had eight canteens, so I will take this university in the future." I want to curse.
However, the teacher giggled and said, "I used to rely on these eight canteens to get into this university." "Haha, I will take this university in the future."
I didn't expect the teacher to answer like this. It may be true, because at the end of the last class of each semester, she always orders a lot of delicious food for her classmates and puts it together for a small party.
On the way home, I reminisced about the conversation between the teacher and us, and I liked the teacher a little from the bottom of my heart. After returning home, she was particularly cute when she thought of the following points:
First, she likes children from the bottom of her heart. The eyes and tone when talking to children even call names with a smile. Children are allowed to joke in class. It's that the students are not disciplined, but she is not.
Will be very angry.
The second is to grasp the learning deficiency of each child very accurately. For example, he has a good grasp of my son's academic situation. Know that he is easy to lose points, know his thoughtless personality, and know how to maintain children's self-esteem.
Third, when talking with children's parents, grasp the rhythm of restraining first and then promoting accurately. First of all, it can be said that the son's grades are very good in the class, and both parents and sons are in high spirits, and then point out any shortcomings. Even the latter is sharp and easy for children to accept.
The fourth is to have the same topic with children. No matter how the child changes the topic and how incredible the channel is, she can connect it and connect it. Maybe that's what she thinks, nothing far-fetched.
The fifth is to have expectations for children. Express it well. For example, my son, you may make it to the top four, but it's not easy to make it to the top four. If you work hard in the third year, the road to get in is good, and so on.
In short, this is a very good teacher, and I have recommended this teacher to many parents. Every student who comes to class wants to take her class after class. My son, too, missed the first class in the summer vacation. I wanted to take the first class, but later I signed up for the second class.
I chatted with her and thought, if students don't like such a teacher, who will they like?