1. communication: communicate with children to understand the reasons why children don't want to go to school. It may be too much academic pressure, interpersonal problems and so on. Listen to the child patiently and understand his thoughts and feelings.

2. Reasonable analysis: rationally analyze the problem and judge whether the child has emotional disorders or psychological problems. If yes, seek professional psychological consultation in time.

3. Establish rules: Establish a strict time plan at home, so that children have a fixed time to get up, sleep, study and play, and avoid bad habits such as excessive addiction to games.

4. Back to school: If the reason why children don't want to go to school is because of excessive academic pressure, parents can consider discussing with school teachers and providing some help to their children in their studies. At the same time, properly arrange children's social activities to help children relieve stress.

5. Pay attention to children's health: If children are unwell, parents should take them to the hospital in time to ensure their health.

Communicating with children is an important step to deal with this problem. Here are some communication skills:

1. Listen patiently: in communication, let children feel that they are understood and respected. Listen to your child patiently, understand his thoughts and feelings, and don't interrupt him easily.

2. Express understanding: After the child has finished expressing, you can express your understanding and concern for the child through language and expression. For example, "I know you are sad now" and "I can understand your inner feelings after listening to your words".

3. Don't criticize: In the process of communication, don't criticize children too much and don't put pressure on them. We should pay attention to establishing a good communication atmosphere.

4. Reasonable explanation: Give the child a reasonable explanation, let him understand the necessity of going back to school, and let him know that his behavior will have a negative impact on his family and future.

5. Encourage and support: Finally, end the exchange with encouragement and support. Parents should send positive messages so that children can feel their parents' support and encouragement, and their self-confidence can be improved.

These are some communication skills, but we should also seek professional psychological counseling or the help of educators in time, especially for children with psychological problems, parents can seek professional help to solve the problem.