Teenagers' basic personal etiquette and etiquette learning are very helpful for their healthy growth, but many people can't understand the importance of teenagers' basic personal etiquette. This paper briefly introduces the basic personal etiquette of teenagers, hoping to solve your doubts.

Basic Personal Etiquette of Teenagers 1 1. Talking about "slippers with slippers"

Remember last year's White House incident of "college girls wearing slippers to meet the president"?

In mid-July, the women's hurdling team of Northwest University was summoned by President Bush after winning the national championship. On the same day, the female students of these famous American universities went to the White House to meet the president in popular "flip-flops", which caused public criticism that female college students were "impolite" and "disrespectful to the president".

From the photos, we can clearly see several female students standing in the first row, wearing the most popular flip-flops with different shades last summer, and their young faces show youthful smiles. No one expected that this photo would cause them such a big storm.

Afterwards, NBC interviewed two female students wearing flip-flops and asked them why they wore flip-flops to the White House to meet the president. The two female students said disapprovingly: for that rare opportunity to meet the president, I went to AnnTaylor's clothing store to choose clothes, and when I saw flip-flops that matched the color of the clothes, I bought them by the way. They think, "this is beautiful and comfortable", and they didn't expect anything wrong at all; They also said: President Bush was very kind when he received them. He didn't ask any questions about shoes at all, and he didn't look down at their shoes.

The implication seems to be that the media is picky and meddling, and the public is too fussy.

No matter how wronged and innocent these female students are, wearing casual beach slippers and taking photos with the country's most respected president in the solemn and elegant White House, which symbolizes the American government. Even though they really enjoyed the feeling of "beauty and comfort" that day, they really didn't look solemn enough.

Of course, female students can also shrug their shoulders and say, "Who cares! As long as I like it, why not? 」

Indeed, there are no negative comments that can directly hurt them, and there are no laws and regulations that can punish them for improper clothing; However, the so-called "etiquette" and "individual first" style are very different; Good manners are often a restraint of "even if you like it, sometimes you can't", a requirement and norm for "self", and also represents a person's cultural accomplishment and self-cultivation.

From a person's etiquette and speech, we can see his temperament and upbringing; From the appearance of many members of a group and the remarks of intellectuals, we can often observe the quality of citizens and the degree of civilization progress of this society (or country).

In any case, after the "flip-flops" storm, American intellectuals immediately began a profound self-reflection:

According to the Associated Press, in the past 20 or 30 years, the etiquette quality of Americans has dropped sharply, and many people's misconduct has increased, which has brought the public quality of Americans to the lowest point. In the opinion poll of the Associated Press, nearly 70% people think that people nowadays are more rude than twenty or thirty years ago, and American teenagers have failed in politeness.

Some people think that parents and the media should bear a great responsibility for the bad behavior of American teenagers. Many busy parents and single parents have little time and don't know how to teach their children basic etiquette, so that many children don't even know basic life etiquette.

Some people think that the generation born in the sixties and seventies are parents now, and they don't pay attention to basic etiquette. Of course, their children can't understand that it is extremely impolite to meet the president in the White House in sandals.

In short, excessive individualism and the fast-paced and high-tech lifestyle in the United States have made many Americans no longer pay attention to manners and manners, and people's rude behaviors and words have brought more tense and rude interpersonal relationships to American society.

Second, the relationship between etiquette and leadership

Every time I introduce HowardGardner's theory of multiple intelligences, I always ask you: What kind of wisdom (or what kind of conditions) should a successful leader have at least?

From Chinese wisdom to interpersonal wisdom, introspection wisdom, logic and mathematics wisdom. People are paying attention to it, and even broad vision (with an international outlook), good adaptability (that is, frustration tolerance) and professional skills are considered to be indispensable conditions for leaders. However, what must be emphasized here is politeness.

From the perspective of multiple intelligences, politeness can be included in interpersonal wisdom. A person with high interpersonal wisdom naturally knows how to add points to his words and deeds with the etiquette of "being sincere inside and being firm outside", so as to leave a good impression on others and do things in a measured way. On the contrary, those who have poor manners and rude manners can hardly get the respect of others, and it is inevitable that they can do things both ways.

According to USAToday, when recruiting employees, the most important thing for ordinary companies is not a person's communication skills, work experience or strong recommendation letters, but proper manners (etiquette). Obviously, if a person has no good manners, it will be a problem to find a job, let alone lead.

The word "etiquette" refers to the etiquette and response that a person should have when facing others, including internal cultivation (sincere respect) and external norms (etiquette); In other words, from eating, drinking tea, dressing, making phone calls, shaking hands, queuing, taking the bus, watching movies, and attending parties, one should advance and retreat in moderation, showing good personal education and quality.

Good manners must be from the heart, from the nature to the outside, in order to make others accept it gladly, even completely convinced; Otherwise, it will inevitably appear hypocritical and offensive.

Therefore, etiquette can create a good personal image, and then improve work efficiency and leadership. On the contrary, lack of good manners will not only make you disrespect others, but also make you a successful leader.

However, the cultivation of etiquette and leadership is by no means overnight, and it takes time to gradually develop. Parents and teachers who stand in the front line of raising children must set an example to help children cultivate good manners and establish good habits.

In a word, etiquette is the basis of a leader's charm. Good manners can beautify people's temperament, enhance leadership and help us establish good interpersonal relationships. Therefore, including family life, workplace and leisure time, everyone needs good manners as the basis of being respected. However, at present, most general school education and family education only consider the study of various subjects and the exercise of intelligence, and rarely involve the guidance of etiquette, which is probably the most regrettable place of modern education.

Third, combine the etiquette courses of Chinese and western cultures.

Teenagers' etiquette courses should be conducted in a life-oriented way. On the one hand, they should guide children's common sense of etiquette, on the other hand, they should organize various related etiquette activities in combination with the curriculum, so that children can fully understand all kinds of etiquette, go deep into the situation, apply what they have learned and practice it all the time in daily life.

So, what should the etiquette course include? Let's start with the basic level of life. The details of life, including food, clothing, housing, education and fun, are all things we repeat every day, but they are also the most easily overlooked parts. For example, the etiquette in dining, clothes in public places, making phone calls, dealing with people, shaking hands, taking the elevator, queuing up, taking the bus, praising others and attending classes are all basic etiquette that we must use every day. As for attending competitions, watching movies, having meetings, expressing opinions, introducing yourself or others, receiving guests, using public property and other etiquette, on the contrary, rude gestures, or inappropriate words and clothes just show a person's vulgar style of being uneducated and "nouveau riche" in vain.

Some parents are quite helpless about their children's rude and casual speech behavior, but they don't know how to correct it. They had to turn a blind eye to appease it, and even laughed at themselves and said, "Aren't all American children like this?" 」

Are all American children rude? We won't judge this for the time being, but it is the unshirkable responsibility of parents and teachers to raise the next generation. It's up to them to train children to be polite and extraordinary people or to let them develop freely into rude and casual ordinary people.

Besides, not all Americans are ill-bred and impolite. On the contrary, many descendants of China from the "state of etiquette" only learned the rudeness of the lower class in the United States, but did not learn the essence of American elegance and delicacy. No regrets?

In fact, American teachers and parents attach great importance to life educators. Let's take American educator RonClark as an example to introduce his book TheEssential55.

RonClark is from the southern United States. After graduating from college, he first worked as a primary school teacher in a remote rural area of North Carolina. Local students are extremely weak and lack of resources, so most teachers are unwilling to teach. As a result, he made his class a national famous student. Later, he saw the report of Harlem, the poorest city in new york, on TV, and found that the students there were more disadvantaged and lacked resources. So he decided to move to new york, find the primary school introduced in the TV program and recommend himself to the school. After two years, those students became polite and made great progress in their academic performance.

RonClark won the "Best Teacher Award in America" and was received by the President of the United States three times. Based on years of experience in educating students, he wrote the book Basic 55. In the book, he listed 55 "super-basic class rules". These fifty-five class rules don't teach us how to make our children's lessons advance by leaps and bounds, but tell us "how to guide our children to be human." RonClark believes that the truth of being a man and doing things makes sense, and learning will naturally advance by leaps and bounds.

Careful observation of RonClark's fifty-five class rules contains good qualities and values such as "courtesy", "respect", "sincerity" and "responsibility", which are the basic principles of communication with people, such as:

1, when dealing with adults, be polite and measured (when you meet adults, you must take the initiative to address them. When an adult asks you a question, you must definitely answer "yes, yes, or no" or "I don't know". Don't just nod or shake your head, and don't give vague answers like "Oh" and "Hmm". )

2. When interacting with people, keep your eyes on each other (when others talk to you, keep your eyes on each other all the time; If someone is talking next to you, you should turn your head to face the speaker. )

3, when others have good performance, be happy for him (if a classmate in the class wins the competition, or has any outstanding performance, everyone should applaud him. )

Others, such as: respecting other people's opinions and ideas; Don't show off when you have good performance, and don't be angry when you lose to others; When someone gives you anything, say thank you. When you receive prizes and gifts, you must not be disgusted; Do not take the initiative to ask the teacher for prizes; Do not leave your seat without permission.

These rules and etiquette are actually the basic principles of being a man. They are all teaching children to be good children who love themselves, others, respect themselves, obey the rules, love reading, have a sense of responsibility and think of others.

To tell the truth, it is not difficult to guide children to learn all subjects well, but it is quite difficult to cultivate children's good character and attitude and know how to advance and retreat. Because the truth of being a man and doing things is very important, children may not understand; Even if I do, whether I can do it or not is another matter.

In the United States, a country that emphasizes "individualism", RonClark can cultivate students into lively, healthy, well-behaved and polite children. In addition to teaching by example, he also needs unparalleled love and patience, as well as the unreserved efforts of teachers. RonClark's experience is really worth learning from all teachers and parents around the world.

Besides RonClark's TheEssential55, the etiquette course for teenagers should also refer to the philosophy and etiquette of our ancestors. For example, the Disciple Rules of the Children's Enlightenment Book compiled by Li Yuxiu in the Qing Dynasty based on a passage from Confucius in The Analects of Confucius is of great reference value.

Disciple Rules is actually a very practical life etiquette, such as: "Don't be slow when your parents call. My parents told me not to be lazy, and "I will tell you when I go out, and I will face you when I go out." These ancient teachings are aimed at teaching children to be filial to their parents and respect their elders, including the ethical filial piety of China people. When you go out, you must tell your parents where you are going. When you go home, you should meet your parents so that they can feel at ease. You should also educate your children, always be considerate of their parents' wishes and don't let them worry.

However, due to the long time and changeable environment, ancient classics such as Disciples' Rules, Filial Piety Classics and Sanzi Classics are inevitably out of date. We should try our best to learn from the past, join western etiquette rules, strive to combine Chinese and western etiquette rules, and popularize etiquette rules that conform to the trend of the times, so that our next generation can learn the basic principles of being a man and cultivate elegant and decent life etiquette in the free, democratic and open environment of the United States.

Four. conclusion

As we all know, parents and teachers should teach their children life etiquette as much as possible, so as to cultivate the next generation to be polite, polite and healthy. However, it is easier said than done. How to make teaching acceptable to children? Persistence should be the most important principle! The persistence of adults deeply affects the attitude of children and makes them feel that this matter is very important; On the contrary, if adults themselves don't attach importance to it, tolerate it, don't follow it, and lack a good example, how can children be willing to "make trouble for themselves" and abide by these rules?

Let's work together to pass on the concept of etiquette to the next generation, so that children can learn to cherish blessings, know how to be grateful, and always think of others; Let's start with small things, give advice to children from time to time, and constantly help children adjust their words and deeds, so as to guide our next generation to create a good image of dignity, Excellence, physical and mental health and courtesy.

Basic Personal Etiquette for Teenagers II Speech Etiquette

1. It's impolite to call your parents and elders by their first names, so use standardized names.

2. For brothers, younger brothers, sisters, we should find a name that is comfortable for both sides, but don't call them directly on formal occasions or when we meet for the first time.

Greeting etiquette

Use different greetings to classmates, teachers and elders at different times and occasions.

1, ask after getting up early, good morning.

2, ask before going to bed, good night.

3. Birthday wishes: Happy birthday and good health.

4. On holidays: I wish you a happy holiday.

5. When going out: Have a safe trip.

dining etiquette

1, before eating, help your parents and elders do something they can, such as putting chopsticks and moving stools.

2. When eating, let the elders sit down first. You have to wait for your parents and elders to start eating, before you pick up the dishes and chopsticks to eat.

When eating, don't wolf down, don't talk for no reason, don't walk around, don't throw food scraps and bones. Don't cough and sneeze at the table.

4. When the elders add dishes to themselves, they should say thank you, which is the etiquette knowledge of primary school students. If you finish your meal before your parents and elders, ask them to "eat slowly".

5. After eating, help parents collect and wash dishes and chopsticks, and clean tables and stools.