What is commendable is not only Zhao's outstanding achievements, but also his self-restraint in life, because his parents are very busy, and Zhao usually lives with his grandfather. Because I like math class very much, I also took college elective courses. As a summer camp for mathematics in Tsinghua, the youngest people from all over the country met the famous mathematician Qiu Chengtong. Being a person who has contributed to the times is also a classic inspiration. The most commented is that the truly outstanding children are all children of other people's families.
Similarly, in 2020, 14-year-old Wang Yuyao was admitted to Peking University Institute of Economics and Management with 683 points. Being called a gifted boy by others, 1 year-old can read books and read articles by himself at the age of 3. But in fact, Wang Yuyao's intelligence is not higher than that of ordinary people. On the contrary, it is parents' educational methods that lay a good foundation for children's learning.
Looking at thousands of "wizards", they all have one thing in common, that is, self-discipline, which is a good habit developed since childhood. If there is no good learning style and atmosphere, children will persist for a long time. A little deeper is that children are full of learning motivation. When they study, they are happy, experienced and immersed.
What is different from these two outstanding teenagers is another news message that is also on the hot search list: "The child got 6 points in the math test and cried his father." The hero of this news report has been guiding his children to study late into the night every day for a whole year, and his children actually got only 6 points in the exam, which makes people feel sorry for his father while wondering why this happened.
In the end, parents used the wrong force to turn their children's hard work into their own self-touching. A primary school student is instructed by his father until eleven or twelve o'clock in the evening every day, and it is suffocating to think about it. Spanish writer Ye Zhi once said a word, which was introduced by education experts all over the world: "Education is not to fill a bucket of water, but to light a fire."
Only by igniting children's expectation of knowledge and shaping their passion for actively learning and absorbing professional knowledge is the true meaning of cultural education. If you want to light this fire, you must have a kind of power, and this kind of energy is the essential driving force. For children, parents should first ensure that they are healthy, confident, valuable and have good interpersonal relationships. On this basis, they should think about how to awaken the essential driving force.
Many parents attach great importance to their children's learning, devote themselves wholeheartedly to their children's learning, intervene and manipulate their children, and think that as long as they are closely watched and strictly managed, their test scores will be improved. This kind of parents ignore the importance of independence and usually end up unsatisfactory.
To give children inner energy, parents should create close parent-child communication with their children to make them feel safe. Only children with inner security can explore the world more actively.
Take the game as an example. If a game is difficult, as long as the child fails several times, he will give up quickly because of incompetence. This feeling is very painful.
Matching to learning is actually the same. If the course content at this stage is difficult, children will give up if they can't master it. So parents should learn to let their children taste the "benefits" of learning.
Taking the game as an example, the main job of mobile game manufacturers is to set up various feedbacks in the game. For example, there is a reward for defeating a monster, and the whole process of playing games is also the whole process of continuous production and feedback. Matching with learning, children also need to experience immediate positive feedback.
Although test scores are not the only criterion to consider whether children are excellent or not, the road of life is a long-distance running, which ultimately determines children's cognitive ability, vision and layout.
What we have to do is to tap the development potential of children, light the fire in their hearts, and let them have enough faith and work ability to cope with their own life path.