First, what is traffic?
The opposite of spiritual entropy is optimal experience! This is what he calls flow. The torrent leads my feelings!
This kind of flow is the real happiness! It is the so-called true happiness, which can be verified both physically and psychologically.
2. When did the flow phenomenon occur?
1. Do you have more heart in your work or in your leisure life?
2. Become an expert in solving dairy cows
Flow is science!
You can read about the craftsmanship here.
Third, why is traffic difficult to obtain?
1. Happiness is not easy to get.
A. nature is not designed for human beings
B. People's desires are endless.
C. our internal order is particularly easy to get lost.
D. Most people have tried methods that we can try.
2. Spiritual entropy will expand.
A. the appearance of external information
B. There is a threat
C. Inner loss, self-disintegration
Fourth, the best experience
1. Elements of flow
A. challenging activities
B. Unity of knowing and doing, and dedication
C. Clear goals and timely feedback "refer to the game to change your life"
D. under control
E. completely forget yourself
F. abnormal time
2. Flow Keywords: growth
The horizontal axis is our skills-when your skills are enough to meet the challenges you face, this feeling is called boredom.
The vertical axis is the challenge we face-that is, you can't cope with so many things and you feel very painful.
Find the zero boundary point of spiritual growth.
What does it have to do with finding this feeling of growth?
A. Education level
B. Personality
Five, how to get flow in life
The first is the pleasure that the senses can bring.
walk
run
dance
4. Yoga
look at the picture
6. Listen to music and eat.
Spirit can also bring fun.
7. Interest, thinking and learning
8. Work
9. Spare time
10. Not afraid of loneliness
1 1. Good interpersonal relationship.
12. Flowing in frustration
When a person can learn to pursue not only material things, but also security and social status, in fact, our life begins to evolve. This right of evolution is in the hands of each of us. We can choose whether we are spiritual vagrants or our own masters.
"Flow", it solves the problem of what is true happiness!
The reason why Flow is a scientific work is that it solves the happiness problem that psychology can never define by scientific methods.
Happiness comes from our inner order.
Here, he introduced a very interesting physical concept called entropy.
All spontaneous physical processes tend to increase entropy.
Example: A messy room.
The entropy of this house was very low before it entered people. With more and more people coming in, in this video, we put this thing, put that thing, the water spilled again, and so on. You will find that after these people have experienced the work in this room, the room has become more chaotic, that is to say, the environment in this room has increased entropy!
The threat of information to people's conscious goal and structure will lead to inner disorder, which is spiritual entropy.
Spiritual entropy is the norm.
But the opposite of spiritual entropy is optimal experience! This is what he calls flow.
Example: There is a torrent guiding me.
A. When you were young, did you watch old people play chess on the roadside? It gets dark when you look at it. You don't know what happened, and it gets dark.
B. It's like playing table tennis with my companions when I was a child, and I didn't want to go back until it was dark, so I thought I would see it when it was dark, and I was happy.
C. In high school, it was difficult to solve a math problem, but you were very devoted to solving this math problem, and time passed slowly. You don't feel any inner pain, fatigue, entanglement, and, uh, I don't want to watch TV. I completely forgot myself and solved the math problem perfectly. This feeling is called flow experience.
This kind of flow is the real happiness! It is the so-called true happiness, which can be verified both physically and psychologically.
And what we pursue in life is to be able to live more in the flow of mind, which is the core of this book!
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Answer: 54% for work and 0/8% for leisure/kloc.
In fact, those leisure ways that have no quality, simply let themselves go, or let your spirit increase entropy continuously can't bring you flow experience.
Example: playing mobile phone
When you finally have time to squat and continue to play with your mobile phone, you will find that the behavior of brushing your mobile phone for a certain period of time makes you very disgusted. You'll find out why I can't put this phone down myself. It's disgusting. Bored, tossing and turning, that's all.
If we can learn to identify and find ways to create more flow experiences, we can turn every job opportunity into an intoxicated moment.
I see God with my eyes, not my eyes.
This is a flow experience:
Meeting with god is the result of rapids. He didn't even look at the cow with his eyes. He felt the cow wholeheartedly, let his knife blend with the cow, and then quickly. Someone else's knife broke down in the first half of the year, and this knife has been as clean as new after 10 years.
Example 1: selling oil Weng
The oil seller said that the man put a copper coin in the bottle mouth and poured the oil in, so that not a drop could overflow.
The people next to him saw it and said how to do it. They are familiar with it! ? It was his silence on this matter that turned into a state of complete enjoyment. This is flow!
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Example 2: Speech
If you speak for two hours in a state of flow, you are not tired at all. Besides, you can't look at your watch. You have no idea what time it is. Anyway, when you're finished, you see someone reminding you. Hey, it's almost time. Here we are, very relaxed, and my throat has stopped hurting.
However, if you are not in the mood today, there will always be a voice in your mind that criticizes you and reminds you: Why don't some viewers pay attention to this voice? You are distracted and you are not engaged. During the speech, you will find that your voice will soon become tired and tense after about half an hour.
This feeling is not enough for others, but my heart will be affected because I am not in a flow state, and I will be distracted. So flow is a real feeling that can be found.
Flow is not chicken soup, this is not chicken soup for the soul, calling on you to find flow and so on. This is a science that keeps you focused and efficient, and doubles your happiness.
You can read about the craftsmanship here.
I believe that when Li Hui Akiyama is doing his carpentry, he can enter a state of flow.
A. nature is not designed for human beings
The earth where our ancestors lived is a vast wasteland, and then it is easy to freeze to death, and it is easy to die of heat, and then volcanoes erupt and earthquakes occur.
So the external environment leads to the chaos of the whole nature.
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B. People's desires are endless.
Do you remember when you first started playing table tennis, you felt so happy and cool after practicing for five or six rounds? But today your level is much higher than in the past, but you will still be sad and angry.
Our desires always swell with what we have, which is one reason why happiness is difficult to achieve.
C. our internal order is particularly easy to get lost.
You finally found a feeling of unity of body and mind. As long as one thing happens, your heart will be taken away. Therefore, internal friction is much easier than anti-entropy increase behavior.
D. Most people have tried methods that we can try.
The methods we can try, such as putting all our energy into making money and owning wealth; Some people escape the increase of entropy through exercise, that is, our bodies are constantly increasing entropy. When you meet me at the age of 18, you will find that I don't have that much fat at all, and I am very strong and tense all over. That feeling is a very orderly feeling.
People in Hanwu, Qin Huang, all try to make their lives anti-entropy through their own efforts. Failure, these methods are invalid.
Case: A car has a flat tire.
Julio has a flat tire, but he doesn't have enough money to mend it. If he wants to mend the tire, he will have to wait until next month's salary. What should I do during my few days here? After inflating this tire at home every day, he drives to work in one breath, and then hopes that the car will still have some gas after work, so that it can be inflated halfway and then driven home. Then every day at work, his brain will think, ha, will the anger get worse? So he was constantly distracted, which led to his poor work. Then criticized by the supervisor, and finally may even be fired. This is the expansion of spiritual entropy caused by a trivial matter.
What people fear most is not to get carried away, but to get carried away with disappointment.
What do you mean, get carried away with depression? It means that one blow is coming, another blow is coming, one after another, and the blow is getting bigger and bigger. This is the process of increasing spiritual entropy.
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A. the appearance of external information
For example, the tire began to run flat;
You're threatening the goal in your heart.
What you think I want to do, I may not be able to do it, and then I will lose myself internally, and finally I will disintegrate myself.
The best experience is to make all this return to integrity, return to anti-entropy, pay attention to concentration, and not be taken away by external information.
More and more perfect self-control has produced a feeling of happiness. You keep pushing your body to the limit until you are sore all over. Then you will look back at yourself with awe and see what you have done. The feeling of admiration is indescribable, and it brings you ecstasy and self-satisfaction. As long as you beat yourself in this battle, the challenges in other battlefields in life will become much easier.
For example, rock climbing, playing chess, completing a difficult negotiation, or talking to employees, or playing a beautiful basketball, etc. The feeling is the same, it is the feeling of this perfect experience driven by traffic.
A. uniqueness
Uniqueness means that you feel your own value in this activity and feel the difference between yourself and others.
B. Complexity
Complexity means that this task cannot be too simple. This task must have an integrated process, which makes you feel challenged.
The two are combined: growth.
After a flow experience, your life will certainly grow to a certain level, and this feeling is the experience that flow brings us.
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A. challenging activities
Including rock climbing, playing chess, doing a complicated job and giving a speech to thousands of people are all challenging activities.
B. Unity of knowing and doing, and dedication
Anyone in any industry can become a real master. When you complete the master challenge, you will easily achieve the feeling of unity of knowledge and action and full devotion.
C. Clear goals and timely feedback "refer to the game to change your life"
Because the surgeon has a clear goal and timely feedback, he performs a perfect operation, and that feeling is the sense of mobility that can be brought.
D. under control
If this is overwhelmed by things, the feeling of pain is not flowing.
But if this person can control it freely, he will feel that he is playing very well in it, that feeling.
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E. completely forget yourself
Example: I ate noodles.
What do you mean, I ate noodles? It's a person who picks up noodles and chews them in his mouth. This person suddenly felt that his taste buds were completely opened, and then he completely entered a different world. In his words, this is called eating noodles and eating it quietly. He knows what's going on around him. He can hear and know what's going on around him. My daughter is back, I know someone is talking, and so on.
But he can't get away from eating noodles. That's great.
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F. abnormal time
It is the change of the length of time, and the theory of relativity appears. You thought it was a flash in those two hours.
Our happiness never comes from saying that we must win the next chess game, but in that process, in that selfless, controlled and challenging process, you get the happiest thing in life.
So the goal is not something external, but our inner control and experience of this process.
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Flow will bring new discoveries! This is a feeling of creativity, which brings the client into a new reality, urges a person to behave better, and thus makes the consciousness reach a realm that was never dreamed of in the past.
Horizontal axis-our skills
When my skills are great, but my challenges are not enough. When your skills are enough to meet the challenges you face, this feeling is called boredom.
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Vertical axis-the challenge we face
When our challenges are far greater than our skills, you can't cope with them, and the opponents are too strong and too difficult, then you find that your life is called pain or anxiety.
At this time, you go to find the zero boundary point of spiritual growth.
It's neither repetition that annoys you, nor stress that makes you anxious. And those who can bring you growth opportunities enter the flow channel, which is the key to getting traffic, that is, the word growth.
A. Education level
There has always been a tendency in western culture that work is painful. Work is very tiring.
Education in the East is based on Confucius. They who love it are better than those who know it， and they who delight in it are better than those who love it.
B. Personality
If your family only values the conclusion, you will not get into the habit of experiencing the process.
Counterexample: family environment
If everything your parents talked to you about when you were growing up was about your ranking, was there anyone in your class with better grades than you? Did you get the certificate?
Example: practicing golf in prison.
There is a man who has been in prison for many years, more than ten years. Then I spent more than ten years in prison and told my friends that I was going to play golf, trying to verify whether my practice had any effect. His friend said that you can still play golf in prison? He said no, he can't do anything in prison. He fantasizes about playing golf every day, imagining a complete 18 hole in his mind. It's really not a driving range. I imagined the feeling of eighteen holes. Then in that prison, a man held a pole empty-handed, shook it, and then corrected the action, saying that he could not shake it like this, imagining the wind speed and imagining all kinds of things, and practiced for more than ten years. I have been practicing fantasy golf every day in prison for more than ten years.
After he got out of prison, his friends took him to play golf. Wow, he is really a master. As far as his level is concerned, he is much higher than others, which proves that he still played golf and gained his own flow experience during his ten years in prison.
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A person who is good at finding flow experience can get the climax experience of life even in prison. Therefore, we have just learned that the most important key word to get a flow experience is growth, which is related to your environment, the culture you believe in and your personality.
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The first is the pleasure that the senses can bring.
When walking, you may set goals, control the process, and make some demands on yourself, demanding that you be different from yesterday, make progress, and record the whole process. At this time, you will find that walking is much more interesting than in the past.
Someone ran a marathon and ran out of the flow experience. Now he feels that he can't reach that feeling without running dozens of kilometers. I believe that people with running experience have this feeling.
Dance can naturally bring a flow experience. When a person is combined with music, it is very common to forget oneself.
What is the original meaning of the word yoga? It is called harmony, that is, the harmony between man and God, so doing yoga can bring us happiness and mobility.
Westerners only believe in sports, only physical behavior, and take the part of mental input too lightly.
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People who can really watch art exhibitions stand in front of a painting in the Louvre and watch it all day. Just look at a painting and immerse yourself in it for a day. This is the flow experience of looking at a painting.
Most of us just skim through the flowers, take a photo with our mobile phones, and then leave. We can't finish taking pictures at all, even for four hours a day.
If you can really taste the feeling of the first season of China on the tip of your tongue, then you have really eaten it.
Spirit can also bring fun.
The pleasure of thinking can bring us the experience of flow. I hope everyone can find some of these hobbies, and then find ways to carry them forward and reach professional standards.
Not all flow experiences occur at the professional level. Amateurs can also get flow experience, because don't forget that flow is their own growth process, so an amateur can play professional basketball. Although his level has not reached the level of NBA, this is not an obstacle. I just want to find a way to grow up and constantly challenge myself.
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To learn to work like a game, we should look at two aspects.
A. Design for work
When designing this job, we can take into account that the person who does this job is not simply repeating, but setting some challenges for him, right? That will make it easier to get close to the flow.
B. intelligence
If you are born to think that work is a painful thing, then it is meaningless for others to redesign work.
How to spend leisure will determine a person's living standard.
Whether to make your thinking more concentrated and powerful in your spare time or to indulge yourself loosely will determine a person's achievements in life!
We said in Deep Work that 16 hours after work should be regarded as another day, because the brain will not be tired. As long as our brain thinks about different problems, it has rested.
A. loneliness is a particularly painful feeling. Many people are afraid of loneliness. What is the reason?
Answer: because when you are lonely, it becomes more difficult to maintain the order of the mind internally. When you get along with others, your mental attention will be focused on one thing.
It was at this moment that I was talking about books, and my spirit was focused on this matter; Now I sing in KTV, focusing on singing. At this time, it is difficult for me to produce a lot of spiritual entropy, because I am not lax. But if all these people leave and suddenly live alone in this room, then you will find that the spiritual entropy begins to increase and you begin to become at a loss.
B. So learning to be alone is a basic skill in our interpersonal relationship, because it is difficult to be alone.
Happy thoughts will not come. On the contrary, our hearts are more easily occupied by gloomy nightmares. Teenagers began to worry about their appearance, popularity and future. In order to avoid being disturbed, they must fill their hearts.
Reading can't play any role because it's too difficult.
In order to escape from the chaotic darkness, teenagers are willing to do almost anything as long as they don't need to consume too much mental energy. Listening to music, watching TV and finding friends to kill time are the most common behaviors. Some people even try to take drugs and join various gangs. Because I can kill time, I can reduce the time to face loneliness.
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So if you can't experience loneliness and can't find a flowing experience in loneliness, it may be difficult for you to bear those stressful things in life that need deep thinking.
I want to remind you, don't indulge yourself, always indulge yourself more and relax yourself more. You should know that indulgence and relaxation are a process of entropy increase and expansion. Ok.
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Talking face to face with a person can also bring orgasm and flow experience-listening.
I hope that when you have the opportunity to talk to others, you should try to do one thing, that is, listen carefully, don't refute easily, and don't rush to say your own suggestions. As long as you listen carefully and let him feel that you pay enough attention and respect to him, you will find a flow experience.
When we communicate in interpersonal communication, if you can pay attention to each other wholeheartedly, we can easily grow up in communication, that is, reach a new height of flow experience.
If we can master flow is the most important experience we pursue in life, then setbacks are likely to bring us opportunities to get flow.
Napoleon and Mother Teresa both experienced many flow experiences, but the difference is:
Napoleon
Caused the spiritual entropy of a large number of people around to increase. Napoleon displaced many people and lost many wives and children.
Mother Teresa
With her behavior, people realized the anti-entropy behavior, and more people realized the feeling of this flow.
When a person can learn to pursue not only material things, but also security and social status, in fact, our life begins to evolve.
This right of evolution is in the hands of each of us. We can choose whether we are spiritual vagrants or our own masters. It is to make your spirit increase entropy and make yourself more and more chaotic and difficult to control; Or the master is here, let yourself be his own master, and you can often feel the feeling of living in your heart.
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Let's start from every little thing, find the feeling of growth, and find ways to reduce spiritual entropy!