Ancient women didn't learn arithmetic, but they could keep their homes in order. Nowadays, women have received higher education and studied calculus in mathematics, but they may not be able to calculate the cost of daily necessities. Why? Because I can't "calculate". This calculation is not a simple addition, subtraction, multiplication and division operation, but a small calculation in my mind. It is the ability to weigh the pros and cons, and it is the scale and scale of weighing the trade-offs.
Think about it, whether it's career struggle or marriage, which one doesn't need you to count?
Whether you are working or starting a business, its essence is nothing more than "selling" your tangible or intangible products to your boss or customers. Since it's for sale, it has to be sold at a good price, and it still counts. You should sell well, be dedicated and not abandon the buyer. Therefore, we should keep beautiful, do more and complain less, and compromise on the distribution of money. Slowly, I will know what is fighting for and what is giving up.
In the past, we said that "there is always a reward for giving", but now it is dialectical. When we say "giving doesn't necessarily pay off", you may have to pay ten points to get five points in return. At this time, you have to calculate, how can you get twice the result with half the effort With the growth of my age, I have become more and more aware of the rules and hidden rules of this society, and finally believe that the law of this era is that there is no absolute fair competition. Accept this, and then arm yourself into vigorous unfair competition. Following the law, we began to calculate how much benefit we can get by lowering the moral bottom line and putting away our humble and helpless sympathy.
The desire to fight for half a day has not come true. First, you have to blame yourself for not learning well. Second, you have to blame yourself for your bad luck, and then act quickly to fight for your next wish. All the time and energy put in front are counted as sunk costs. The courage to bear the sunk cost is the first lesson to come out and mix, and it is also a subject of "calculation".
As for marriage and love, it is even more important. Whether you want to fall in love with someone or marry someone is the result of careful selection and calculation. Why can't Sister Lin fall in love with Jiao Da or Xue Pan? Because it does not conform to the "calculation" law. The condition of falling in love is to let yourself go from spirit to material, from soul to body, because it is better to have each other than before. Otherwise, why?
Are men good to you? You can't marry him until you have a definite answer. If he treats you generally before marriage, don't expect him to treat you better after marriage. If you have a lot of dissatisfaction with him during your love and calculate the possibility of marriage in your mind, then simply don't get married and regret it.
If you can't love a man's deity, but love him you expect, you will always be disappointed, and he will be silent and collapse because of too much pressure. Therefore, even if you have invested a lot of time and money in him, you should leave quickly when it is time to leave. Don't spend the rest of your life making permanent repayment in order to save that little effort. The courage to bear the sunk cost of love is the premise of starting a new life.
Most of what the old man said is right, such as finding a man to take care of the family when getting married, but these truths will only be understood after talking about two or three pieces of feelings that make you black and blue. Hit the south wall and naturally know how to turn back. Two people finally live, "that's all" is a good ending.
In a successful relationship, love will inevitably turn into family affection. Family is a happy ending. Affection does not need to be "counted", but it is still needed. Any relationship in the world needs money and time to maintain, and the difference is just how much. So, don't be too picky about relationships. This is also the cleverness of a woman who can count. Especially the relationship between husband's family and maiden's family, it is impossible to correspond and calculate one by one. There will always be a little tilt, a little bias. A smart woman needs to exhaust her "calculating" ability at this time, try to keep this emotional balance and stand more stably without losing her center of gravity.
Happy women are calculated. At home, outside the home, everywhere. Therefore, women are not more relaxed than men. I want to be a "good" woman, praised by others, glamorous and decent, with a double harvest of career and love, and I can't be lazy and idle. Nobel won't give us prizes, so we should be kind to ourselves.