Learn to be independent
It is important to learn to be alone when you go to college. Don't waste time in the dormitory all day. Don't always choose not to go because your roommate doesn't go. Are you going to the library because your roommate is not going? Don't always go with the flow, successful people will always experience loneliness.
Because of this, I successfully passed the scholarship, and I regret it. I believe that every university evaluates scholarships through comprehensive assessment, and comprehensive assessment depends not only on grades, but also on the usual practical activities, so that you are eligible to participate in the selection of scholarships if you have a high comprehensive assessment, and so is our school. At that time, I would never learn to be independent, and I liked to follow my roommates in everything. But because I don't like to participate in the activities organized by the school, even if these activities can improve the comprehensive examination results, they are always in trouble. Once I receive these messages, I will ignore or even block the news of the class group. As a result, I didn't participate in many activities organized by schools in the end, and the comprehensive ranking was dragged down, and even the opportunity to select scholarships was gone.
Give up ineffective socialization.
After entering the university, we are faced with various interpersonal relationships, such as roommate relationship, classmate relationship, alumni relationship, teacher-student relationship, lover relationship and so on. These relationships may delay us from doing something we don't want or like but have to do.
You were going to review your English in the study room at night and prepare for the CET-4, but your classmates invited you to dance with them and emphasized the opportunity. It's rare, and it's because of good relations that I invited you. Therefore, in order to get on well with your classmates, you have to give up your review plan and go to the dance with them.
You set the alarm clock, get up in the morning and get ready for class on time. However, other students complained that your alarm clock woke them up and told you, "The university that doesn't sleep late is boring. Why are you so serious?" So in order not to appear "different", you don't have a hole in the ground, and you often sleep with everyone until you wake up naturally.
You are very tired after attending the club activities, and you are really not interested in the suggestion of a club dinner. However, as a member of the club, in order not to sweep the face of that high school student, you managed to go by yourself. How many college students' time and energy are consumed by this reluctant, wronged and forced social interaction? It is good for college students to broaden their social circle, but if social activities make them feel anxious and wronged, they should give up rationally.
College students need to socialize, but it doesn't mean that if college life is only social. In the matter of social interaction, we should be clear about our needs, bravely abandon more ineffective social interactions that pretend to be gregarious and happy, and don't let ourselves waste time on these ineffective social interactions.
Join a club that suits you.
There are many kinds of college clubs, but not every club is suitable for you. If you join various clubs at random, it will only make you feel physically and mentally exhausted and will not enrich your college life.
Whether it's a tall-looking student union, street dance, guitar, Chinese painting, sculpture, literature and other interest groups, or public welfare organizations such as environmental protection and green travel, or practical organizations such as psychological salons and English salons, their regular activities are nothing more than a group of people going to a club meeting or participating in an activity that looks lively but doesn't yield much.
Therefore, clubs may not be of great benefit to most college students. Of course, if you want to broaden your horizons and social circle through clubs, that's another matter. However, remember not to join too many clubs blindly, but to choose carefully and only join the clubs that suit you.
How to choose a club that suits you?
First of all, fully understand the situation of the school community. Before deciding which club to join, you should clearly know which clubs there are in the school, the organizational form, scale, personnel, operation mode and past performance of each club. These materials are the basis for you to judge whether the club is suitable for you. You can learn about these situations through seniors and sisters, or through school websites, post bars, community WeChat groups, leaflets and other channels.
Secondly, choose the target community according to your own needs. After you have a clear understanding of the club, you can choose several target clubs according to your interests and needs.
Finally, evaluate the advantages and disadvantages of joining a club and determine what club to join. There are many important things in your college life besides clubs, so after choosing the target club, you should evaluate the advantages and disadvantages of joining the club from the aspects of the time and energy you need to invest in the club, what you can get through the club, and whether it will help your studies and future employment, and finally determine what club you should join.
Employment-friendly certificate
Textual research seems to be the most serious thing for college students. However, if you take the exam regardless of any certificate, you will also fall into a misunderstanding that looks busy but not substantial. Textual research should also distinguish between primary and secondary, before and after, such as English CET-4 and CET-6 certificates, computer secondary certificates, vocational qualification certificates and so on. These are all required certificates, and it is best to complete them before junior year. If you want to take other certificates, it is best to evaluate the gold content of the certificate from the perspective of employment, and then take the exam selectively. Don't blindly follow the trend just because others take the exam. It is really not worth the loss to waste time and energy on certificates that may sleep in your box for a lifetime.
Listen to the teacher carefully.
This is really the most important thing for college students to invest a lot of time and energy. Many college students delay classes for socializing, social isolation, old certificates and other things, and even often skip classes. As a result, they failed in the final exam, which may also affect their graduation.
Finally, don't pin your greatest expectations on teachers and people around you. Their help to you is limited. They will eventually become passers-by in our lives, and we are the most trustworthy ourselves.