So I want to add one more point, hoping to help you and your children.
First of all, as a parent, you should understand that children are excellent only because there are better educational methods.
There are no children who can't teach well, only bad educational methods. Parents and teachers are often anxious because of their children's slow progress, so they either rudely label their children as "stupid" or "hard to change their personality", or think that their children have shallow knowledge and low level and will not educate them. In fact, as long as the method is proper, any child is excellent; As long as you do it with your heart, you can always find an educational method that suits you.
You can try the following methods:
First, play weak tricks-let the children act as "little adults"
Parents often complain that children nowadays are indifferent to their parents and lack a sense of responsibility. They don't know that children's sense of responsibility should be cultivated from an early age. If you always show a fearless look in front of children, children will think that parents don't need their care and care. Therefore, parents may wish to pretend to be weak occasionally and ask their children for help. You will be surprised to find that their children have become sensible "little adults" and you can get a lot from their help.
Second, strengthen the plan-let children change from inferiority to self-confidence.
James Doblin, Ph.D., California, put forward the "reinforcement rule". When a person's behavior gets satisfactory results, this behavior will be repeated. Therefore, when a child is recognized, his (her) self-confidence will be aroused, and he (she) will continue to repeat the satisfactory behavior until he (she) gets rid of inferiority and becomes a confident good boy.
Third, the induction plan-to help children cross the quagmire of learning weariness.
Almost every child is more or less tired of learning, which is understandable, but it can't be left unchecked, because this kind of emotion will hinder children's enthusiasm for learning and bring immeasurable influence to their growth. However, it is not a good idea to force children to study, which will only deepen their resentment. The smart way is to induce children's interest in learning and let them learn spontaneously.
Fourth, the indifference plan-let the children have a little self-control.
Today's children are mostly only children, who are cared for and taken care of by their families. However, this kind of life makes children develop wayward habits, which will lay a huge hidden danger for their later life. Experts suggest that children may wish to try cold treatment when they are willful, which will make them automatically restrain their temper because they are not noticed.
Fifth, give children a chance to experience failure.
Carol Carl Sandberg, an American educator, said: "Prosperity can certainly make talents, but adversity can also make talents. Moreover, children who have grown up through setbacks and hardships in adversity are more competitive in survival. " In other words, in order to enhance children's resilience, parents may wish to consciously create some moderate frustration for their children. This kind of frustration education is of great benefit to enhancing children's psychological endurance.
Sixth, let go of the plan-train children to do their own things.
Don't do everything for the children. Parents should try to let their children do it by themselves. They may not do it well at first, but they will do it quickly and well in the future. Don't be an arranged parent, let go, create opportunities and platforms for children to do things, let children stand on their own feet, and parents will have less troubles.
Seven, connivance plan-let children develop their potential in "naughty"
Some parents complain that their children are "too naughty" and "destructive" In fact, these children are often very smart, curious and have stronger willpower than ordinary children. Therefore, smart parents should try their best to "indulge" their children's naughty and destructive behaviors, take the opportunity to tap their potential and cultivate their interests. Maybe your child is another Edison.
Eight, the punishment plan-let the children face up to their mistakes.
Educating children should have clear rewards and punishments, and children should be rewarded for doing well, but children must not tolerate mistakes, even minor ones, so that children can face up to their mistakes and correct them in time to avoid getting deeper and deeper in mistakes.
Nine, refrigeration meter-"pour cold water" on conceited children.
Egoism refers to self-evaluation, which is extremely unfavorable to children's growth. Therefore, once the child is found to be conceited, parents should use "cold storage" to pour some cold water on the child in time, so that the child can learn to evaluate himself rationally and know himself correctly.
X. tolerance-let children feel the unconditional love of their parents.
Children may not be smart enough and may have many shortcomings, but as parents, you must never be biased, humiliated or disgusted with children. Be tolerant and confident about your children, and what kind of children you will get.
Eleven, simulated rice-parents should be the children's first teacher.
Parents are role models for children, and children are parents' mirrors. Parents' words and deeds will affect their children. Therefore, parents should be strict with themselves, set an example for their children with their correct words and deeds, and guide their children to grow up healthily.
12. Encouragement plan-give children the power to make continuous progress.
It is easy for children to lose confidence in themselves and give up their efforts because of difficulties. Therefore, parents should constantly encourage their children, give them the courage to advance and the confidence to win, and let them correct their shortcomings and make continuous progress under the expectations of their parents.
Thirteen, listen to the meter-seriously understand the child's feelings.
Every child has his own voice, so parents must listen patiently in order to truly understand their children's thoughts and feelings and treat their physical and mental problems and changes in a timely and meticulous manner. With this foundation, parents and children can communicate well and establish a good and harmonious parent-child relationship.
Fourteen, reward a good plan-let the children progress in praise.
Educators believe that reward is a more effective way to educate children than punishment. Therefore, they suggest rewarding rights instead of punishing mistakes, affirming advantages instead of denying shortcomings, which can not only avoid harm to children, but also make them make better progress.
Fifteen, dial rice-cleverly remind children to consciously take the right path.
Speaking of preaching, what parents do for their children is what children dislike the most. Smart parents will only give their children some guidance and help them solve problems when they encounter problems or make mistakes. In this way, children understand the truth, and parents also achieve the purpose of education.
Sixteen, virtual rice-let children feel "I am great."
Japanese educator Ichiro Suzuki said: "With the feeling of genius, you will become a genius. With the feeling of hero, you will become a hero. When a child finds the feeling of being a good child, he will become a good child. "Create a self-feeling of" I am great "for children by virtual means, and he will gradually become" great ".
Seventeen, tolerance-let children learn more from mistakes.
In life, children will inevitably make some mistakes and mistakes. Some are unintentional, and some are intentional. If the nature of children's mistakes is not very serious, then parents may wish to give tolerance and understanding, so that children will not only correct their mistakes more seriously in guilt and self-blame, but also form a good tolerant attitude.
Eighteen, admonition plan-let children know their mistakes and turn over a new leaf.
Children are children, and there will be all kinds of problems and mistakes, some of which are tolerable and some of which are intolerable. Children must be criticized reasonably and effectively to ensure that they will not make similar mistakes again. Even generous parents can't let this reasonable discipline be absent.
Nineteen, edification plan-give children a good life influence.
Family is the first class for children, and the influence of family education on children is far-reaching and enormous. Therefore, if parents can cultivate their children's healthy hobbies and interests in family life by telling stories, then they can make their children grow up healthily.
Twenty, the diversion plan-let the children change from opposition to cooperation.
The success of Dayu's water control lies in "dredging" rather than "blocking", and parents can also be inspired by this method. Being too autocratic in educating children will only lead to children's rebellion and make them "against you", but if you adopt a wise and open guidance strategy, children will be willing to cooperate with you happily.
Twenty-one, respect for children-let children and parents stick closer.
Conflicts and contradictions between parents and children are often due to parents' disrespect for children, which makes children feel afraid and dissatisfied and alienates them. In fact, children also need respect, so they will definitely become the most popular parents for children.
Twenty-two, peer-to-peer-to achieve good communication with children.
The premise of good communication with children is to treat children equally and be their good friends. In this way, children will be willing to tell you the truth, and parents can help their children get rid of various problems in time. If parents always put on airs and ask their children to obey themselves authoritatively, the door of communication between parents and children will slowly close.
Twenty-three, attack and defense plan-give the child a "vaccination" first
According to the art of war, the best defense is attack. The same is true of educating children. Instead of disciplining and getting angry after the child has problems, it is better to give the child a "vaccination" in advance to improve the child's "immunity" and let the child take fewer detours and make fewer mistakes.
Twenty-four, training frugality-help children overcome arrogance.
Nowadays, children are all "little emperors" and "little princesses" at home, and they get wind and rain. Some children have developed the habit of being extravagant, spending money lavishly and not caring for things, which is extremely unfavorable to their healthy growth. Therefore, parents should confidently educate their children to be frugal and help them develop the habit of frugality. This is the true love for their children.
Twenty-five, peer lesson plans-teach children well through participation.
If parents can participate in their children's lives, spending more time with their children can not only enhance the parent-child relationship, but also inspire them. At the same time, parents can learn more about their children, which is very important to develop their potential and cultivate their talents.
Twenty-six, prevent micro-duration-don't let children's small problems become big problems.
In life, children sometimes have some minor problems, such as bullying, rudeness and laziness. Parents should pay attention at this time. Although the problems are small, they should be strictly controlled to prevent small problems from delaying big problems, otherwise these small problems will become big problems, and it will not be so easy for parents to ask their children to correct them. Don't tolerate children's small mistakes. Strict management is also a sign of love.
Twenty-seven, persuasion and reconciliation-let children and teachers tolerate each other.
There will also be some friction and misunderstanding between teachers and students. At this time, parents should play the role of "peacemakers" to help both sides eliminate contradictions and misunderstandings and understand and tolerate each other. Let the children still respect the teacher, and the teacher will continue to care for the children.
Twenty-eight, set rules-let children learn self-control with reasonable rules.
Children's self-control ability is poor, and parents' preaching of "don't do this" and "don't do that" is easy to cause children's boredom, so parents can establish a set of effective behavior rules for their children as the basis for their children to judge their own behavior, thus restraining their own behavior.
Twenty-nine, reduce the burden-don't put too much pressure on your child.
In life, there are more and more children with psychological barriers. Child psychologists point out that excessive pressure is an important reason for children's psychological problems, and it is imperative to reduce the burden on children. In order to make children grow up healthily, parents should not put too much pressure on their children.
Thirty, incentive plan-to stimulate children to love learning.
Teach children to find the right way. When persuasion and preaching are ineffective, parents may wish to try this incentive plan. Use the child's aggressive, rebellious and even jealous psychology to deliberately stimulate the child, so that the child will change from not loving learning to active learning.
31. Accept the plan-let children like and accept themselves.
If children can't fully understand themselves and see their strengths, there will be many problems. Such as inferiority complex, jealousy and so on. Therefore, parents should let their children see their own advantages, let them like themselves, and let them face life with confidence.
32. Be patient-gently correct the child's "out of line" behavior.
Children often make some "outrageous" behaviors that parents can't tolerate, and "hasty" education will only make children go to extremes. Therefore, parents can only "no haste, be patient", suppress their anger, understand and tolerate their children more, and guide them on this basis, so as to lead their children in the right direction.
Thirty-three, inspirational plan-cultivate children's brave personality of bold exploration.
In life, it is often those who dare to explore and be fearless that can achieve outstanding achievements and happiness. Therefore, for the sake of their children's future, parents should not always overprotect their children or overemphasize the cultivation of "obedient" children, but should give them more opportunities to exercise and encourage them to be brave children.
Thirty-four, influence-touch the child's heart with true feelings.
Educating children can't just preach, scold and persuade, sometimes they must have feelings, so as to shake their hearts and achieve the best effect of education. However, to influence children, we must be sincere, otherwise the effect will be greatly reduced.
Thirty-five, equality plan-cultivate an open-minded child.
Today's children are mostly only children, all of whom are "little suns". They are used to being self-centered, but this character is extremely unfavorable to interpersonal communication. Therefore, in life, parents should pay attention not to give their children special status, cultivate their spirit of sharing and cooperation, and gradually cultivate an open-minded child.
Thirty-six, bitter grinding plan-cultivate children's will and perseverance.
Today's children are facing a competitive society, and many children often lack the courage to overcome difficulties because they live too comfortably. Therefore, smart parents should let their children go through some hardships and cultivate their indomitable will and perseverance, so as to win in the future competition.
In learning, you can operate according to the following methods:
The first article to improve learning ability
"Learning ability" is simply the ability to acquire learning knowledge. For children, the most basic "learning ability" is the ability to listen, speak, read, write, calculate, think and communicate. Learning ability is the ability that affects a child's life. However, due to various factors, the development of children's learning ability is extremely uneven. Many children's learning ability has a lot of room for development in the early stage, but they missed a golden opportunity because they didn't train and adjust at the most critical time.
1. Cultivate imagination and give children wings to fly.
2. Cultivate observation ability and exercise children's keen eyes.
3. Improve memory ability and make children's learning easier.
4. Enrich thinking ability and open children's intelligent brain.
5. Improve reasoning ability and lay a good foundation for learning.
6. Improve the ability of attention and let children master the key to open the window of the soul.
7. Improve judgment and let children learn smoothly.
8. Improve the ability to understand and let children understand knowledge faster.
9. Develop reading habits and cultivate children's sound learning character.
The second article cultivates learning quality
"Learning quality" refers to the comprehensive performance of children's intelligence, knowledge accumulation level, learning initiative, knowledge breadth and other factors that affect learning, and refers to the long-term and stable learning quality obtained through acquired training and cultivation on the basis of congenital conditions. Including having a clear goal, being able to act immediately, arranging time reasonably, being enthusiastic, dedicated and persistent in the course of action.
10. Set learning goals and let children know the direction of their efforts.
1 1. Make a study plan and take the first step towards success.
12. Master learning methods and let children take fewer detours.
13. Improve learning efficiency and make learning achieve twice the result with half the effort.
14. Develop study habits and lay the foundation for children's lifelong learning.
15. Cultivate learning quality and grasp half the success in learning.
16. Use learning tools and learn to use learning assistants.
The third article focuses on learning strategies.
"Learning strategy" refers to the specific methods or skills in children's learning process, as well as the skills of regulating learning. Paying attention to learning strategies is conducive to children's efficient mastery of knowledge and skills in learning activities, making the learning process a positive, active and efficient process of seeking and constructing, and is conducive to cultivating children's innovative consciousness, spirit and ability; It is beneficial to adapt to the increasing information in modern society and the urgent need to expand the living space.
17. The key and difficult points to guide children to preview and master knowledge.
18. Pay attention to listening strategies and arouse children's enthusiasm.
19. Learn to review after class and solve the important factors that affect children's grades.
20. Take homework seriously, which is the guarantee of children's success in learning.
2 1. Master the examination skills and play the real level in the examination room.
22. Solve the problem of partiality and don't let Cora's children learn the hind feet.
Give full play to your special potential and learn to travel around the world.
24. Learn to use your brain scientifically and get twice the result with half the effort.
The fourth is to straighten up the learning mentality.
"Learning mentality" is the ability to control one's own psychology in the process of learning. It refers to a learning attitude held by children in the process of learning. Mentality determines success or failure, and mentality determines fate. If you want to learn successfully, you must adjust your child's learning mentality. A philosopher said, "Your mentality is your real master." A great man once said, "Either you control life, or life controls you." Your mentality determines who is the mount and who is the jockey. "
25. Clear learning motivation and arouse learning enthusiasm.
26. Correct learning attitude and strengthen the awareness of autonomous learning.
27. Improve learning interest and enhance learning motivation.
28. sharpen your learning perseverance and make your study persistent.
29. Believe that you can do it and complete your studies with firm belief.
30. Improve cognitive ability and acquire knowledge through multiple channels.
3 1. Cultivate learning emotion and improve interest in autonomous learning.
32. Cultivate the will to learn and let children adjust themselves effectively.
33. Learn to communicate and stand on others' shoulders to see further.
34. Overcome learning difficulties and control learning adaptability.
The fifth part focuses on learning psychology.
"Learning psychology" refers to a psychological state that children keep while studying, which is constantly adjusted in the ever-changing learning environment. With the increasing social competition, it will bring more pressure to children's psychology. If it is not promptly channeled and resolved, it is easy to cause mental illness to children. Teenagers are in a critical period of physical and mental development, so it is necessary for them to learn psychological adaptation and adjustment, so as to lay a solid foundation for their healthy psychology and independent personality.
35. Learn self-control and improve children's will quality.
36. Overcome anxiety and get rid of being tired of learning.
37. Eliminate the fear of exams and face them with a good attitude.
38. Don't be careless, but learn from nuances.
39. Exercise the ability to withstand pressure and stand up to setbacks and failures.
40. Overcome inferiority complex and make children believe that they can do it.
4 1. Overcome floating psychology and let children study quietly.
42. Eliminate network dependence and educate children to use the network correctly.
43. Have a correct understanding of puppy love and keep a pure friendship with your classmates.
44. Eliminate rebellious psychology and treat things around you rationally and objectively.
The sixth article pays attention to family education
Eager for children to become talents, inherit the wind. Everyone knows the position and role of family education in a child's growth. Nowadays, social science and technology are changing with each passing day, knowledge economy is becoming more and more obvious, social competition is becoming more and more fierce, and people have higher expectations for their children. Only by learning to be a successful parent, constantly pursuing new knowledge, understanding scientific education methods, and making yourself a wise and capable parent can we effectively assume the responsibility of parenthood.
45. Create a learning environment to make children happy and good at learning.
46. To improve the methods of family education, parents should make friends with their children in their studies.
47. Improve the ability of family education and correctly handle children's learning problems.
48. To change the concept of family education, parents should conform to the needs of the times.
49. Eliminate the misunderstanding of family education and cultivate children's healthy learning character.
50. Healthy counseling psychology makes children learn happily.
I suggest you read The Good Parents Teach the Good Children published by Wanrong Publishing Company (by Zhao Xuefeng Koch).
There should be places to watch online ~ there should be places to download for free.
You can try Baidu's Good Parents Teach Good Children (by Zhao Xuefeng Koch).
Having said that, I hope my answer can help you and wish your children health and happiness.