Parents are children's first teachers, which are very important for their life development. However, many families criticize their children more than praise, prohibit them more than advocate them, criticize them more than encourage them, belittle them more than appreciate them, threaten them more than encourage them, command them more than discuss them, and indulge them more than guide them correctly. In this context, it has also caused the phenomenon that parents can't communicate with their children in today's society. According to expert research, the quality of communication directly affects the growth of children. Look at the circumstances under which your child grew up:

First, children who grow up blaming others will easily complain in the future;

Second, children who grow up in hostility are likely to be aggressive and try to be brave in the future;

Third, children who grow up in ridicule are prone to negative retreat in the future;

Fourth, encourage children who grow up in middle school to have confidence in the future;

Fifth, children who grow up in praise will love others and themselves easily in the future;

Sixth, children who grow up with identity can easily grasp their goals in the future;

Seventh, children who grow up friendly will show more concern for others in the future.

How can parents and children have real spiritual communication?

First, we should establish prestige and pay attention to our words and deeds.

Parents should first pay attention to their own cultivation and establish prestige in their children's hearts. This is the basis of sincere communication between parents and children. I want to ask, can a parent who doesn't like studying but only cares about eating, drinking and having fun, a parent who knows nothing, has bad conduct, is vulgar, selfish and doesn't honor the elderly, raise a good child?

Second, create an atmosphere and attach importance to parenting education.

Most parents neglect parenting education on the grounds of being busy. Parenting education, a parent, should be ahead of children's physical and mental development, devote himself wholeheartedly to children's education, keep learning and improve his ability to educate children, so as to win their respect and love. Parents can read a book with their children and read it with them. This is not only a formal "parent-child" activity, but also an ideological and spiritual "parent-child". Parent-child reading allows parents and children to experience the harvest and happiness of reading together. This is a bridge between parents and children.

Third, we should criticize less and praise more, so that children can be self-respecting and confident.

Appropriate praise is a stimulant and lubricant for parents to communicate with their children. This is also the key to communicating with children. Praise and encouragement make children progress, while criticism and complaints make children fall behind. Never look at children with a magnifying glass. You know, there are no perfect children in the world, even perfect children have their own shortcomings. Of course, children's key shortcomings must be corrected, but we must pay attention to maturity, choose the best place and opportunity, give children opportunities when communicating, subtly shorten the distance, ease the mood, and be able to advance and retreat. In short, the premise of educating children is to know them, to appreciate them, to succeed, and to complain, to fail.