I watched a movie "Stars on Earth" some time ago. This is a very good film, played by amirkhan. It's about Ethan, a child with dyslexia. In his eyes, words are dancing. He can't understand the meaning of every word and can't remember it at all. But people around him can't understand. They think it is children's attitude, laziness and unwillingness to work hard. He even sent him to a boarding school which is strictly known. The child became more and more depressed.

At this time, a new art teacher came to the school. He is completely different from those teachers who always emphasize grades. The new teacher understood Ethan, encouraged him and told him that there were many people like him in history, such as Leonardo da Vinci, Edison and Einstein. He's just a genius who didn't wake up.

Ethan's eyes gradually lit up again. Under the teacher's vivid and appropriate education methods, he gradually understood those difficult words and calculations, and his test scores gradually improved. The teachers spoke highly of him. Finally, the art teacher organized the whole school to hold an art competition, and Ethan's works were included in the school magazine. The art teacher also drew a very beautiful picture for Ethan, with Ethan's bright smile in the background, as full of hope as the sunrise. ...

After reading it, I was actually very moved. I only came into contact with dyslexia two years ago. Children with dyslexia probably have the following characteristics (data from Baidu Encyclopedia):

* Words are difficult to read and remember, and words just learned are forgotten;

* typos, words are often more than one or less;

* Often confuse words with similar shapes, such as "seeing" and "wishing";

* Often mix similar words;

* Pinyin is difficult to learn, and Q is often regarded as O;

* The radicals of words are often reversed.

* Add and subtract words when reading aloud;

* Don't read word for word when reading aloud, but read at will according to your own ideas;

* poor dictation performance; Slow reading speed;

* Read word for word or help with your fingers;

* The writing is OK, but it is too simple and boring;

* It is very difficult to express yourself in words, and the copying speed is slow.

* behavioral response is not concentrated or disorganized, and only a small part of the stimuli seen or heard can be mastered;

* It is difficult to grasp the order of things, such as mathematical formulas and multiplication formulas;

* overreacting to almost everything;

:: Difficulty in distinguishing between distance and direction;

* It is difficult to understand the concept of time;

* Your books, papers and toys are difficult to arrange, and it is difficult to grasp the spatial distance when writing;

* Clumsy hands and feet, unsteady steps when walking, often falling, tripping or knocking down furniture;

* Respond to all voices, people and things at the same time, and don't know how to respond to one thing at the same time;

* Quickly jump from one activity or idea to another;

* After reading and writing homework, it is very easy to get tired.

When I first saw these definitions, I was shocked. Xuanyuan basically meets all the requirements of a dyslexic, except that they have no difficulty in identifying the direction, and other performances are typical.

For example, I didn't know how easy it was to teach an ordinary child until I started teaching Sambo. I told him a word three times, and he would pronounce it the fourth time. Xuanyuan, an article "The Pole of Zhu De", has appeared in the text for more than a dozen times. Every time you finish reading it, you will ask, "What do you think this is?"

What impressed me most was the word I got. I'm sure they read the word at least hundreds of times before they finally met.

Then write, at first, it will never be in the grid. It is too common to throw strokes and add strokes to write inverted characters. The leaves of the leaves are crossed on the left, and the English copy is even worse. Basically write the third prefix and run away. The letters are either misspelled or lost. No matter what you write, writing two lines will be very tiring and slow ... Now it is still a basic copying exercise, and you have never tried to copy a composition at all.

Up to now, in the bpqd part of Pinyin, even T and F, Z and C, M and N, an and ang are often confused, and the external and external words, live and go are basically not pronounced correctly once.

Learning English is particularly difficult. Four words in a class, dictation every day after coming back, dictation every day, writing 50 times and 100 times, still can't recite them, not only can't recite them, but I don't know when I take them out. Hello and hi have seen it thousands of times, but they are still confused.

Keep reading for ten minutes every day and read one by one with your fingers every day. Even so, you will still lose a lot of words. You lost three of the five games before. After practicing for so many years, you lost at least two out of ten, not counting the extra. Sentences are never right. Read the last word of the previous sentence together with the first word of the next sentence. After reading the text, I don't know what it means. After reading the math problem and the first condition, the first one forgets, forgets ... remembers. ...

Physical coordination is still not good, skipping rope can not jump with both feet. Last year, I found that my child finally learned to shoot, and he could probably shoot three or four shots. In the past, he could only shoot one. The key is to walk on the ground and occasionally swing your left foot with your right foot. ...

Mathematics is a bitter tear, an addition and subtraction in 20 years. Since kindergarten, I feel that counting is not good, and after studying abacus for two years, I won't be able to count without abacus. After studying multiplication and division for a few days, I forgot all about the advance and retreat of abacus calculation. My tutor's math teacher taught me to eat ten words. At present, the correct rate is still fluctuating around 50% ...

Therefore, Xuanyuan can be sure that he is dyslexic, but normal dyslexics have no problems in expression, socialization and intelligence, and they are far behind their peers in these aspects.

Going back to the scene of that movie, it suddenly occurred to me that sometimes, like Ethan's parents, I feel that children are not serious enough and don't work hard enough, although I try my best to tell myself that they need time, patience and repetition.

But when they really make mistakes again and again, and make mistakes dozens of times, I will also be angry and suspicious: "Are you not serious? Did you accidentally? ! "

It is normal for ordinary parents to be easily ignited when accompanying homework.

So sometimes I teach Sambo with a good attitude and a smooth mood. God, just teach it three or five times! My child must be a genius. As a result, when I went to kindergarten, other people's children were more talented than Sambo. (Sambo is slow-tempered, uncompetitive and lazy, so although kindergarten is no better than grades, it is really not excellent from the perspective of understanding and expression. )

Sometimes when teaching Xuanyuan to jump off a building, he will think, "Forget it, give yourself a way, give the child a way. There is nothing to learn except literacy. "

But sometimes I see other mothers, saying that the children had any problems before, what interventions they made later, what teachers they found, what plans they made, how to arrange the schedule for their children, how much progress their children have made now, and so on.

I will immediately start introspection: "am I not doing well?" Did I try my best like others? Did I go deep? Did I persist in my study? Have I made a more reasonable plan for my child? Have I given my children special training in this field? Should I also find a teacher like this? "

Whenever I think like this, I can't help putting pressure on my children. Read the text 10 minutes instead of 20 minutes. It doesn't matter if I am completely wrong, but now I must change it bit by bit. The progress that was originally acceptable suddenly felt procrastinating and ineffective.

Then my child and I collapsed.

In fact, I also know that if we don't keep up with the competition, my children and I can do what we should do at the snail's pace now, and every achievement will make me feel happy. But once there is a comparison, the gap is clearly there, and I am very prone to imbalance.

In the final analysis, it is my own mentality, not my children. Constant pressure, questioning, constant adjustment of plans, urging and questioning will only make children hate learning more and more, and even hate themselves. If one day, I will erase my child's self-esteem and make him think from the heart: "I am like this." I am more stupid than others. I can't do anything well. " That really ruined everything.

So, stop when you are radical and be quiet when you are depressed. Recently, I always remembered an old saying: "Life has three feet, but you can't find one." Then you can accept these three feet, live a quiet life on your own three feet, try to live a better life, don't think about how good one foot is, and don't force yourself to jump into one desperately. In fact, you can live very well.

Many times, acceptance is not giving up, but letting go. It is a redemption for yourself and your children to continue to work hard within the scope of your own efforts and stop demanding some unattainable goals.

Some time ago, I talked about the future. In fact, Xuanyuan is less likely to be admitted to high school. I said to Xiao Ha, otherwise, you can travel around China with your children. Anyway, you are not in a hurry to get a job or learn technology. You can show them around more and broaden their horizons. Maybe you will get more knowledge than school.

When I took my eyes off the wooden bridge, I found that there was actually a vast world. Maybe I will pay more attention to cultivating their optimistic and cheerful personality in the future, so that they can be calm and happy in any situation and occupation in the future. No jealousy, no anger, positive sunshine, that may be the best educational achievement!

PS, about dyslexia, the domestic research has just started, but there are still a few tips to help children. I'm using it now, too. You can try. Some documents also say that dyslexia will be better in junior high school, but I don't think we should be too optimistic. After all, children in movies can completely change in less than one semester. This process must be long and even torturous, but I understand that children do have this problem. Maybe we will all be less critical of our children and more understanding, which is extremely important for parent-child relationship and children's self-confidence We have sorted out some contents, which will be effective if we read the literature and combine our own experience. If you have a baby with similar problems, you can try it.

Parents who say their children are dyslexic because they don't like reading, please go around. That's what I can't do if I'm not interested. It has nothing to do with illness. )

1. Encourage children to read aloud. Whether children are right or wrong, they must be encouraged to read aloud for at least ten minutes every day. In this process, they can keep their eyes on a fixed route with their hands or pens. (These children often have scattered eyes and disorderly words, so you can contact them to read the words in order through auxiliary means. )

2, you can do some related sensory training, such as reading numbers in sequence, shulte squares, walking a maze, finding a fixed one among many similar things, and so on. There are many similar contents in sensory visual training.

3. Start with simple books that children are interested in and let them overcome their fear of difficulties. If the words are too boring, you can read a picture book with only a few words and rhythmic children's songs. You can also let children listen to some stories first and then read them after listening. If you have an impression of the article, you will read it more smoothly.

4. Teach children to draw key points. In fact, we don't force them to read word for word when studying. It is easier to help children understand by drawing key points. If the language is difficult to find, first contact the math problem and draw the conditions, how much is a * * *, how much is more, how much is less, and the key conditions are all drawn by strokes.

5, exercise more, you can try ball games. Badminton, table tennis and basketball all need children to keep their eyes on the ball. Although it may be difficult for such children to practice at the beginning, persistence will improve their coordination and reading ability.

6. Give children trust and encouragement. I believe that every child is an undiscovered genius. Since Einstein, Leonardo da Vinci and Edison can all change from dyslexia to genius, then our children must be excellent, just need our recognition. Don't always doubt him. Only by affirming every progress of a child can he go further.

7. Interest is everything. Face up to the difficulties faced by children in reading and writing, and strive to explore the points of interest to children. Starting from his interests, children will be more receptive. Many words in my home Xuanyuan are known on the map, which is much easier than in the textbook. Therefore, we should start with what the child likes and accompany him to master the basic knowledge a little.

Ok, let's not discuss dyslexia here. I will still write something to calm myself down every time I am anxious, looking forward to letting go of my burden and moving on more easily. I also hope that everyone will get better and everything will get better.