Your child's situation is very common in society, and he generally won't feel it, but there are many such children during our consultation. I suggest you take your children to intervene, but you have to understand it first. I'll give you some ideas:
What is depression? To put it bluntly, depression is to wrap yourself up and not want to explore, because you are afraid of the harm caused by failure. Therefore, at present, mobile phones are an important source of children's sense of existence and value, and they can be used for inner peace and value. If you want to deprive yourself of this, it's like taking off the swimming ring of a person who can't swim.
More than 90% of children are depressed because of family relationship problems, which are usually caused by parents' strictness, control and repression. Therefore, at this time, parents need to adjust their mentality and change their roles, from control to making friends, accepting children, giving them love, encouraging them and appreciating them, so that they can gain a sense of belonging to their families and the value of life first.
If the second step is handled well, the child will usually get better. If the third step is combined, the child may recover faster. What is social interest? That is, children are willing to leave home, get along with others, and even go back to school. This process needs parents to experience step by step.
For example, children can be guided to run and play basketball. They can do anything they are interested in, such as climbing mountains, swimming and traveling. If this can be done, the child's self-healing speed will be greatly improved.
At the same time, do everything possible to let children establish contact with their peers, such as children of good friends and relatives, so that they can come together, play together and interact together.
Psychological intervention is a complicated process, which requires a certain amount of time, and it is necessary to understand one's family structure, parenting style and communication style. I suggest you find a local psychological counseling agency to have a comprehensive understanding, or you can trust me privately!
Adolescent children's depression is not a trivial matter, we must pay attention to it, not scare you! One wrong step, and it is likely to be beyond redemption!
Tell me a real example.
So in my opinion, depression is more terrible, and it is more difficult to recover after indulging in games.
Why is the depression of Xueba more terrible?
Because as can be seen from the above example, most schoolmasters have strong self-esteem. He is depressed because he can't stand the blow brought by the academic gap. He can only choose to give up and escape from reality to protect himself. If this form is not adopted, he may adopt other extreme methods.
So from this perspective, you should thank him for his various self-destructive behaviors, in fact, from the perspective of protecting him.
But from the perspective of recovery, you will be pessimistic. Because you have to think about it Learning this thing is like climbing a ladder. One step away, I'm sure I can't get up in the future. Once the results of Xueba are pulled down, it is impossible to return to the original level. This problem has become a dead knot. He will never get out, and even get deeper and deeper!
So I personally think that Xueba has become this state. The best way is to help him untie the heavy knot of learning hegemony and guide him to get out of the pressure of self-weaving in a normal way, rather than this form of self-abandonment.
Junshan is not an expert on how to do it.
If you want to help this depressed student out of the predicament, you can suggest that this schoolmaster receive psychological counseling and make psychological correction in cognition, which should have certain effects.
Are you tired of studying? I used to study very well! We can talk about games. What do you like? Can you make a software? You can go to a game company to find a job and hit a wall, because society still needs education and knowledge. It means a lot to him. Also, see a psychiatrist. He may be too depressed to have confidence. In fact, it doesn't matter what you take, but the courage to rush over is very important. You label him a bully, which means that this title is too heavy! Each of us is ordinary, and our initial heart cannot be changed. I am me, just be myself!
It can be proved that learning needs atmosphere, learning needs partners and learning needs competition. Xueba has strong learning ability and can find a sense of existence and accomplishment in the atmosphere of learning competition! After all, they are all children, and the temptation of video games makes Xueba enjoy it. It is unrealistic for Xueba to study hard every day. Different schools, intense study life and fierce competition will make Xueba afraid to relax and play games at will. Learning needs internal motivation and external environment.
I can talk about my personal experience. When I was in junior high school, I was also a bully in my class, but because I bought a computer at home, I was not self-controlled at that time, and I was deeply fascinated by computer games.
Since playing games, my academic performance in my class has plummeted, from the sixth place in my class to the 66th place, and my mood has suddenly fallen to the bottom. For a schoolmaster, I am also the most painful punishment for the serious decline in my grades.
At that time, I had to accept the reality of junior high school. After playing games for half a year, my grades dropped for half a year.
In class, my mind is full of games and I can't concentrate on listening. After school, or on weekends, I will stay alone in the computer room for a long time.
My parents realized the seriousness of this matter, so they locked the computer room and allowed me to go in at the specified time. Moreover, they installed timing software in the computer, which will automatically shut down as soon as it arrives.
This restrained my impulse to play games to some extent, but the process was painful. If I continue to play like this, I can't restore my original learning state myself.
So I learned from a painful experience and decided to quit the game and find myself again.
After half a semester's efforts, I reduced my game time from two hours a week to half an hour, and gradually stopped playing. Because I understand that the game is only virtual and will not make reality stronger.
Without the restrictions of my parents and their painstaking teaching, my grades would still decline and get out of control, so I want to thank my parents.
My child has experienced mild depression, and I have high demands on my child. My daughter once said, mom, you want me to fly very high, and my wings will fly off. My meticulous care has invisibly increased her pressure. I dropped out of school for the first time, medication, psychological counseling, travel, fitness, and so on. Many things happen. She's back to normal now, and she's in the first semester, and her grades are still excellent. She is 20 in the whole grade. The side effects of the drug made her doze off in class and could not be controlled. Every morning around 10, now she is looking for Chinese medicine and western medicine. If you leave him alone, I've seen several people who ruined and finally committed suicide. First of all, parents should be strong and change themselves first. It's best to separate from the children, talk less and come on.
There are many such children and similar cases in our psychological counseling service.
It should be impossible to get back to normal on your own. That's for sure. Parents need to seek professional help to help their children solve a series of problems they are currently facing.
Junior three children don't go to school, play games all day and can't communicate. Obviously, parents have not done a good job in educating their children, and there are some problems in their education and management.
Parents are successful only if they have a successful child. A failed child, no matter how excellent his parents are at work and career, will not be happy. This is the fact that we have seen.
Son, this situation should be that interpersonal relationships can't be handled. There are problems of weariness of learning, internet addiction, cell phone addiction and game addiction. The International Health Organization defines "Internet addiction", "game addiction" and "mobile phone addiction" as mental illness.
No matter how good mom and dad's work is, no matter how good mom and dad's career is. As far as the role of mom and dad is concerned, mom and dad are not qualified and excellent parents.
To solve this problem, we should use the correct method. If the method is wrong, it will definitely take a detour. Parents are advised to seek professional help.
Seek the help of regular psychological counseling service institutions and high-level psychological counselors. With the joint participation of parents and children, through training, study, growth and change, we can improve their respective wisdom levels, help parents become qualified and excellent parents and children to become qualified and excellent children, qualified and excellent students and qualified and excellent people, and all problems can be solved.
If you are depressed, the school will generally advise you to stay at home and return to school when you recover! Depressed, tired of learning, dropping out of school at home, when can I recover on my own? Intervention treatment is definitely necessary. First, depression is risky. Second, playing games every day is not the way. You may get deeper and deeper. If you miss this reading stage, there will be many problems in the future. Let's treat and recover early and resume our studies as soon as possible!
Should be able to recover, first of all, communicate with children more, go outdoors to feel nature and experience life more. For example, let children experience the process of cooking at home, encourage children to learn to cook their favorite dishes, let their families see their children's abilities, and let children help their families do things that their families can't do from time to time, which can better reflect their abilities. Learn with children step by step to help them find the fun of learning, such as discussing historical legends and their views, and then competing to do math problems together. Let children find more fun in life and study, and don't blindly emphasize the importance of grades. I believe that through the joint efforts of parents and children, we will be able to get out of the haze and see a beautiful study life.
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