Be a happy teenager, Andrew. Matthews, am I normal? Have you? I hope you are older? Wish I had more money? Embarrassed by parents? Want to change your face? I hope your parents are someone else? Do you think no one knows me? Have you ever wondered what love really is? Have you ever thought about drowning your brothers and sisters? Have you ever asked ~ why do I have to learn things in the party school that I may never use? Have you ever wondered if I'm normal? If you answer about half of the above questions, you seem to have a normal sword. There is a fact that may make you feel better. 96% of teenagers are dissatisfied with their appearance and figure. You may believe it, too. The cleverest people are the most successful people, and those who live an easy life are the happiest people. The cutest girl can easily attract boys. The best-looking boy can easily win the favor of girls. It is not good to make mistakes, but the above argument must be correct. Why is life painful? Someone asked me; If I don't want to be happy, if I want to be sad, so what? I said; Then, frown-if it makes you happy! When you accidentally bite your tongue, of course you won't feel pain, which is a good thing. When you have blisters on your toes, you will feel the same way. You may even ask: What are my sore feet doing here? But what if you don't feel pain at all? Do you often bite your tongue? Or burn your ass in the shower? Physical pain is a perfect alarm system to prevent more serious injuries. It reminds us of this information. If we often feel pain-feel wronged, jealous or angry-mental pain may tell us; You'd better change your mind! For example; Don't expect your friends to agree with you. Don't rely on your friends to find your own happiness! Forgive yourself. Forgive your mistake and move on. Physical pain, such as blisters on your feet, reminds you to change a pair of shoes; The pain of the soul-like a blister in the brain-reminds you to change your mind. When you look at things from different angles, the pain usually disappears automatically. Many times, we will do nothing unless we encounter difficulties or "a bolt from the blue". For example; You are a member of the school basketball team. You often miss free throws because you never practice! Until one day you take part in a game, your team is one point behind, and the game time is only one second. The outcome depends on your two free throws. What was the result? You missed it twice! At that time, you almost wanted to die. After hitting the wall to vent your anger, you have a plan in mind. For the next three months, you will practice throwing 200 balls every night. Your skills are getting better and better. Soon, you will become the god pitcher on the team. Why? Because you're in trouble! For example; Your math scores are getting worse and worse, and you failed three times in a row. The teacher said to you; If we fail again, we will repeat the same mistakes, and now we are in trouble! In a flash, you need to make a plan to learn math. You ask your friends to make it up for you twice a week, and you do a lot of extra hard work. Soon, you can pass every test smoothly. And you find passing the ball no trouble at all! Life is like this, we live easily until the problem becomes serious ... and finally we have to solve it. After that, we are more focused on solving it. After that, our life became better than before the problem happened. We learn more from difficulties. A bolt from the blue makes us more focused and active! You may say in the mirror: I am not as beautiful as my sister, and I am not as talented as my friends. I am not particularly good at anything! How can I feel good about myself? The fact is; No one does everything well, most people think the same way as you! However, the fact is; Talent and beauty are certainly useful. Looking around, there are many talented and beautiful people, but we don't necessarily envy them. Besides, some of these people are annoying! The virtues we usually attach importance to include; Honesty, courage, perseverance, generosity and humility. If you look at these virtues, you will find something interesting-these virtues are not born, but cultivated by yourself. Everyone can have self-esteem or learn to respect others. You don't need to be Einstein or a supermodel. You just need to concentrate on cultivating your own virtues such as honesty, decisiveness, generosity, humility and courage, collectively referred to as:. Part of the reason is that babies don't care whether you like them or not. Babies eat, scream, make a scene and stink, but they don't care. Babies don't try to please others. When you are a baby, you don't need to be cool, smart, sexy or fashionable at all. Is it still confusing? Baby, no matter how we look at them, we like them as they are. From this incident, we can learn a little truth-be yourself. This is not to say that you should be rude or selfish. It just means that there are too many troubles in real life. Why study? Have you ever wondered why I should study algebra? I want to be a lawyer! Or who would be interested in Julius Caesar! I want to be an accountant. When you leave school, you may never understand what quadratic equation is, but going to school includes more than just studying; Find out what you are interested in. Find out what you like and dislike from studying various subjects. This will help you learn to do things in the future. Maybe you hate math, but the logical thinking you use to solve equations and geometric problems can also be used to solve the problems you encounter in your life. We are talking about training and arming your brain and enhancing your self-confidence. You may learn French at school, and you don't need to speak French at all, but then you can prove that you have the ability to learn languages, or one day you find a job in Rio de Janeiro, and then you can say to yourself; ; I am qualified for this job. I almost passed my previous French class! Now I can also learn some Portuguese. You may think; If the school work is not so difficult and deep, I will be very happy! No! You won't! Suppose I am your math teacher, if I say to you; Today, let's do some simple math. You'll like it. This is today's topic. You have three hours to find out. Then, I will write it on the blackboard. 2+3=X you will say; This is an insult to my intelligence. Get rid of this stupid teacher and give me a challenge! It's exciting to challenge life. Seeing people challenging themselves everywhere is the reason why we play Nintendo and other computer games. All these challenges require us to move forward to higher difficulties. Think back to how happy you were when you learned to tie your shoelaces and how proud you were when you learned to ride a bike. You haven't changed a bit! You are happiest when you solve problems. You'll see how much you can do then. Don't pretend that we want life to be simple. When things get too easy, we get bored and leave to look for new challenges. We choose happiness. Do you feel that every time you leave home in anger, you always seem to meet angry people? When you leave school and you are angry, you will meet other angry people at the bus stop, and vice versa. How different the world looks when we fall in love! If the people in the street are unfriendly, it's no use walking to another street! If no one respects you at school, it is impossible to change this situation by transferring. What you need to change is yourself. The world is a mirror. What you think in your heart, you will find it outside, which is why you can't improve your life/world from the outside, which actually reflects you and your thoughts, for example; Fred went to the dance, he said; No one will talk to me, I know I must have a bad life! He arrived at the meeting with a painful expression on his face. He thought it was useless to try, so he simply hid in the corner. Everyone can see that they don't like this dance at all, so no one talks to him. So Fred succeeded in making himself spend a boring night, but after the meeting, he blamed others at the party! Have you ever seen a two-year-old play? He was crawling around on the coffee table when he suddenly fell down and hit his head. What will he do first? He first looked around to see if anyone was watching him. Then, according to the crowd, he decided his own strategy-should I laugh or cry? He made a decision at once. What does this tell us? That is, when you 18 years old are in trouble, you will spend a little time deciding whether to accept the reality calmly or seize the territory. So what will happen when you 13 or 30 years old? -It's the same! You choose your emotional response. Let's not pretend that emotions are imposed on us. As if they were aliens, emotion should be our choice. Some people are happy most of the time, while others are never happy. The fact is,; Even when we are in trouble, we choose happiness. Have you ever had one? Arguing with his girlfriend, failing the exam, being scolded by his parents, getting sick, being bought off by his friends. Do you really need money, but your parents didn't give you a penny? Have you ever lost a friend or relative? Did you do a lot of work, but others took the credit? These things will happen to all of us, right? And when this happens, many people will say; This will ruin me the day after tomorrow/or a week/a year. The result came true. But the happiest people will say; No matter what happens in my life, I am determined to live happily. I still remember waiting for life to become easy, I thought at that time; I will be happy if my problems are reduced! Then I noticed a very strange thing; Those who I think are the happiest face more problems than I do. They lost their loved ones, lost their money and endured serious diseases. Even now, they still face serious problems, but they are happy, because from a certain moment on, they decided that happiness is the only way of life. Recently, I talked to a woman named Rena on the radio channel in Cleveland, Ohio. Lena told me; I just got divorced. Recently, Ray was accused and my house was burned down. Now the doctor tells me that my cancer has recurred for the third time. But she said; Still, I am very happy. Liu Bing told us; You can't find happiness without problems. Although you have many problems, you can also find happiness! Happiness is your choice.