think

People are eager to understand.

Understanding requires communication.

Understand that you should put yourself in others' shoes.

The understanding between people is mutual.

Understanding is a kind of tolerance

The basis of understanding is respect.

Understanding can make families more harmonious and friendship stronger.

Understanding is not simple forgiveness and blind indulgence.

Understanding often takes a process.

well-known saying

In fact, love and understanding can not make people forgive, but can only make people tolerate-express helpless recognition and acceptance of the facts. -Zhou

The most incomprehensible thing about the universe is that it is understandable. -Einstein

You can't solve the most difficult problem unless you understand the most interesting thing in the world. Churchill

Sometimes a person can only be understood after death, just like reading a good book and reading the last line. Gorky

I can't believe what I don't understand. -Sartre

What you don't understand is what you can't have. -Goethe

The most outstanding things are often the most difficult to understand. Edison

There is nothing to be afraid of in life, only what is clear. Madame Curie

Understanding how people in an era think is more important than understanding how people in an era act.

-Voltaire

Understanding is still very useful! If you don't understand, you will get nothing. -romain rolland

In the relationship between people, the most important thing for the happiness of life is truth, sincerity and understanding.

Franklin

There are many barriers and doubts between people, but understanding is a bridge to resolve barriers and become bosom friends and good friends. Hurley

Being sensitive to one's own pain and insensitive to the pain of others is one of the sad characteristics of human nature. Daisaku Ikeda

We should "understand" and we must "understand". The noblest purpose of mankind is to understand everything. The shortcut to revolution is also: understanding everything. Morante

Some people don't understand certain things for a living, and it is difficult for them to understand these things. -upton sinclair

Interpretation and understanding are two different but complementary cognitive means. Cohen

Understanding is definitely the soil that breeds all the fruits of friendship. anonymous

Everyone's heart is the most lonely, and everyone is eager to understand. anonymous

Classic material

Carnegie was scolded.

(Understanding means tolerance)

Understanding means tolerance and accommodation. It is a catalyst for the integration of interpersonal relationships and a fastener for the bridge of friendship. A wonderful use of understanding is that it can also turn hostility into friendship.

Dale. When Carnegie introduced the author of the little woman on the radio, he absently said the wrong geographical location. One of the listeners wrote a letter and scolded him severely, scolding him to pieces. He really wanted to write back and tell her, "I said the wrong location of the area, but I have never seen such a rude woman as you." But he controlled himself and didn't fight back at her. He encouraged himself to turn enemies into friends. He asked himself, "If I were her, would I be as angry as her?" He tried to think about it from her point of view. He called her, repeatedly admitted his mistake and apologized to her. Understanding can break the barrier between people. The lady finally expressed her admiration for him, hoping to further deepen her friendship with him.

Give each other a chance to cry.

(Understanding is empathy)

Ellie, a famous British ballet child star, is only 12 years old. Unfortunately, due to bone cancer, she will have an amputation. Before the operation, Ellie's relatives and friends, including her audience, rushed to visit. Don't be sad, maybe there will be a miracle, and there will be a chance to stand up slowly. One said, "You are a strong child. You have to hold on. We are all praying for you! " "Ellie said nothing, smiled silently and thanked everyone.

She wants to see Princess Diana very much. Her graceful dancing was praised by Diana, who was called "a white swan". After others conveyed her wishes, Princess Diana finally came in spite of her busy schedule. She held Ellie in her arms and said, "Good boy, I know you must be very sad. Cry as much as you want until you cry enough. " Ellie burst into tears. Since I was ill, some people have said words of comfort, but no one has said such words. Ellie thinks it is such a thing that can be the most considerate and understand her!

It is said that although Diana was born in a wealthy family, she did not receive any higher education. She often says that she is as stupid as an ox and has a low IQ. But this story makes us believe that a thoughtful word from Diana is enough to benefit Ellie for life.

"Your child is stupid and naughty!"

(Understanding makes a master of science)

Edison went to school at the age of eight. Not only did he not show his special talents, but he often made his teacher Engel deeply unhappy. Once the teacher was explaining a math problem, Edison suddenly asked, "Teacher, why is 2+2 equal to 4?" The teacher thought Edison was stupid and naughty. He asked, "Didn't you say 4 is 5?" Edison wanted to know the mystery of numbers, so he couldn't help asking the teacher, "Why can't 2+2 be equal to 5?" Teacher Engel was very angry. He snapped at him: "Edison, you deliberately messed up, get out!" "

When Edison came home, he told his mother, "Mom, I want to know the truth of addition, but the teacher scolded me." The mother was very angry after hearing her son's story. She found the teacher's theory. However, the answer she got was: "Your child is stupid and naughty. No matter how I teach him, he can't learn. " I don't want to teach such students. "

As a result, Edison left school and was taught to read by his mother. Edison's mother is a wise person. She tells her son literature, history and many scientific knowledge. Under the hard cultivation of his mother, Edison's thirst for knowledge became stronger and stronger. While reading, he built a small laboratory in the cellar. Although his family is poor, he can't receive systematic formal education like other children. /kloc-at the age of 0/2, he became a newsboy on the train, but his mother had planted the seeds of science in his young mind.

If Edison's mother didn't understand what Edison did when he was a child, it is very likely that we are still in the dark today.

Zhu De shared her mother's worries.

(Understand parents)

Zhu De understood his mother very well from an early age and often took the initiative to share her worries. Zhu De's mother is a hardworking rural woman. She always gets up before dawn, cooks, cultivates fields, vegetables, feeds pigs, raises silkworms and spins cotton. Zhu De, watching her mother work hard all day, has been helping since she was four or five years old. By the age of eight or nine, Zhu De could not only be choosy, but also farm. Every day when I came home from school, I saw my mother cooking on the stove sweating profusely. Zhu De silently put down her schoolbag and went to fetch water or herd cattle. During the busy farming season, he works in the fields with his mother all day.

He had no well at home, so he went down the hillside to fetch water and fill two buckets of water, which made him very tired. However, Zhu De always tries her best to relieve her mother's fatigue. One autumn night, my mother cooked dinner for the whole family, cleaned up the kitchen and was busy for half a day. When it was all over, it was already late at night. Seeing that the water tank was empty, she planned to fetch water early in the morning. The next morning, my mother found that the water tank was full, which was the case for several days. Mother finally found out that Zhu De picked it before dawn. A child of seven or eight years old shares the burden of his mother with tender shoulders.

Galileo and the coachman

It takes time for the truth to be understood by the world

It is said that Galileo once took an olive oil trolley from Pisa to Florence to save money. Galileo chatted with the driver all the way in the car. Drivers make money as soon as they export, and Galileo does mathematical calculations as soon as he exports. The more they talk, the worse it gets. Finally, neither of them spoke. The coachman wondered how much money he could earn from this load of olive oil. Galileo stared blankly at the coachman's olive oil bucket. Galileo wanted to calculate the volume of the bucket. How should I calculate these barrels? He thinks that these barrels are almost all cylinders, so the volume of the barrel can only be the height of the barrel multiplied by the bottom area of the barrel. Galileo then visually measured the height and diameter of these barrels and immediately calculated the volume of these barrels.

"You have 300 liters of olive oil per barrel?"

"How do you know?"

Galileo carefully explained the calculation formula to the driver. No matter how patiently Galileo explained, the driver still couldn't understand. It doesn't matter if you don't understand. What's important is that drivers who don't understand think Galileo is using witchcraft. As a result, I dare not accept the money paid by Galileo.

Galileo was a pioneer in classical mechanics and experimental physics. He was the first astronomical scientist to observe celestial bodies with a telescope and made a lot of achievements. However, because of his propaganda of science, he was brutally persecuted by the Vatican and sentenced to life imprisonment by the Vatican. Later, Galileo died in Florence at the age of 78. He was imprisoned there and lived in desolation, poverty and disease.

Deer releaser

To understand is to put yourself in others' shoes.

King Lu went hunting in the mountains with his entourage, and Minister Qin Xiba followed. On the way to hunting, Sun Meng captured a lovely deer alive. He was very happy and ordered Qin Xiba to send the deer back to the palace for later enjoyment.

On his way back to the palace, Qin Xiba suddenly found a big deer following him and kept whining. Deer number one barked, and the deer responded. The barking was very sad. Qin Xiba knew that this was a mother and son, and he felt reluctant to part with it, so he put the deer on the ground. Two deer ran into the Woods and disappeared.

When Sun Meng came back from hunting, Qin Xiba told him to let the deer go. Sun Meng flew into a rage and drove Qin Xiba out of the palace.

A year later, when Sun Meng's son reached the age of study, Sun Meng wanted to find a good teacher for his son. Many courtiers came to Sun Meng to recommend teachers. Sun Meng met these people later, but he always felt that he was not very satisfied. Suddenly, he remembered Qin Xiba, who was driven out of the palace by himself a year ago, and his heart was suddenly enlightened. He immediately ordered someone to find Qin Xiba and asked him to return to the palace to worship him as the teacher of the prince.

The lieutenants didn't understand Sun Meng's behavior. They asked, "Qin Xiba voluntarily released the king's beloved deer. He is guilty of you. Now you invite him to be the prince's teacher. Why? "

Sun Meng smiled and said, "Qin Xiba has a good heart. He sympathized with a deer. He would rather be convicted than hurt the mother and son of the animal. Now I can rest assured that he will be the prince's teacher. "

Qin Xiba's kindness was finally understood by the monarch.

Wang Ye was removed from office.

(Understanding is reassuring)

In the first year of Li Zongchun's reign in the Southern Song Dynasty, Wang Ye, a transshipment judge in Zhejiang, was slandered and framed by others. It turned out that he was just an official. So he returned to his hometown. Wang Yejia has an old mother. Afraid that she would be sad and worried, she lied that she would be transferred to other places to make her happy. Unexpectedly, his mother had guessed. Mother said, "I already know about your dismissal." Your father was exiled because he dared to speak out against his rights. I'm actually very happy that you are like this now, because you have inherited your father's good tradition. What is there to hide? "

Wang Ye is very grateful to her mother for her understanding, and the family lives a happy life.

Yilin story

People who know that their son is the father.

There is a famous writer in our country, and his middle school math score is zero. However, an outstanding mathematician is not qualified for middle school mathematics teaching because of lack of words. There used to be a peasant girl in Haining, Zhejiang. In the third grade of primary school, she was discovered by the teacher. She can "never forget" any music. Just listen to it once and she can play it on the organ immediately. She hasn't received any music training before, but her academic performance is average. I have a friend who can be called a master of language and a social genius, but his sense of music is surprisingly poor. Even if he hums the most familiar lyrics, he is always tone-deaf. Human intelligence is composed of many complicated factors, and non-intelligence factors such as personality, interest, will and emotion are even more varied and difficult to distinguish. As parents, we must try our best to understand the characteristics of children and find out their advantages and disadvantages, which is the basis of successful education.

Parents can't see the advantages of their children and don't understand them. This is a big mistake that many parents are prone to make, and it is easy to hurt children's self-esteem and self-confidence. Self-esteem and self-confidence come from the confirmation of one's own advantages and the subsequent affirmation of self-worth. Confirming one's own advantages is one's "spiritual growth point". Capable parents must have a unique vision and grasp the child as the most important "spiritual growth point".

A bosom friend is hard to find.

Everyone in the Jianghu knows that Zhong Ziqi and Yu Boya are rare bosom friends. However, people have joys and sorrows, and the moon has ups and downs. Unfortunately, one day Zhong Ziqi passed away, and Yu Boya was naturally very sad.

Boya sighed: "There is no confidant in the world!" From then on, I played the piano in front of the tomb every day, but I played "Mountains and Rivers" and stopped asking about the world. This naturally aroused the dissatisfaction of Yu Boya's wife.

Yu Boya thinks this woman's views are tacky. He and * * * shared a bed for decades, but he didn't know him as well as Zhong Ziqi, the Truman. Is it easy to find a bosom friend who can sing in your heart?

One day, Boya went to the grave of the little chef hippo as usual and suddenly saw his wife following him. He can't help but shake his head and sigh: "The world is big and it is hard to find a bosom friend!"

The wife didn't scold him this time, but went to Boya, took the piano in his hand and sat down. Boya looked at her doubtfully. After all these years of marriage, he has never seen his wife play the piano or listened to her talk about it. I wonder what medicine is sold in the gourd this time?

Only to find that she has started to play, it is "Mountains and Rivers Flowing", and he has played it countless times for the second time! He didn't know that his wife's piano skills were so high, far above himself! Sometimes jade can pull through Jinming, such as the river of no return and ten thousand; Sometimes smart and graceful, such as a small bridge flowing water, swallowing a willow tip. At the end of the song, all was silent.

For a long time, the lady said, "There is more than one Zhong Ziqi, and there is more than one Yu Boya. The so-called confidant is hard to find, and I feel bad in my heart. "

Boya sat down: I often lament that others don't understand me. Why did I try to understand others in the past? The so-called confidant exists between single-minded and undivided attention.

0 parameter

Unexpectedly, a small "0" caused an uproar. ...

The chemist wrote in the book: "O is the symbol of the chemical element oxygen. Without oxygen, there is no life, and O is the lifeblood of all living things! "

The mathematician shook his head and said, "No, no". How can 0 be oxygen? It's obviously nothing! Everything starts from 0, without which there is nothing. "

Hearing this, the English teacher repeatedly said, "No, no". It is clearly the O of O, P and Q. Without O, there is no OK. Without OK, the world will lose its poetry. "

The long-distance runner gave a novel view of 0: "This is my runway. I walk on it every day, and there is a huge' 0' in any sports field!

The words of the long-distance runner made astronomers say, "No, no". In my opinion,' 0' symbolizes the runway of the earth! In the spring, I went to Qiu Lai. In one cold summer, the earth revolved around the sun and drew a' 0' in the vast space. "

The geometer said, "In geometry,' 0' is called an ellipse. Any circle looks like an ellipse from other angles except from above! Just as the electron orbit outside the nucleus is circular, painters always draw it as an ellipse. "

The quarrel reached the composer's ears He was thinking of a serenade, but the noise made him unable to calm down and write. "In my opinion,' 0' means rest!"

A word from the composer put an end to this marathon debate. There has been no sound since then.

Understanding is not connivance.

Whenever marita goes to school, Mary always sighs, "My daughter is dressed like this." She is wearing her dad's old T-shirt, which is even scarier, and low-waisted tights are like jiaozi. When she walked, the beard on her trouser legs dragged behind her.

This is the most popular dress for young people. Although Mary experienced the Great Depression when she was a child, she was too poor to buy clothes, and she had never been dressed so untidily.

One day, however, Maria suddenly seemed to hear the word of God: "What did you say to your daughter when she went out? My daughter is dressed like this. Have you seen what other girls are dressed like? Why not go and see for yourself? "

Mary went to pick up her daughter and found that many people dressed more "shocking" than their daughters. So Mary told marita that maybe she overreacted to the "jeans incident": "From now on, you can wear whatever clothes you like to go to school or go out with friends, and I don't ask for it. But when you go to church, go shopping with me, or visit your elders, you must dress decently. "

Mary went on to say, "You only need to pay 1%, but I have to return 95%. Who do you think is more cost-effective? "

Marita's eyes lit up. Mother and daughter reached a compromise.

From then on, Mary happily sent marita out every morning, and she never said a word about her clothes. When marita and Mary went out together, they both dressed neatly and generously.

Strict and infinite understanding, bitter as medicine, can be beneficial to children's growth.

After understanding, we should also respect it.

When I was a teenager, my father took me in line to buy tickets for the circus. After waiting for a long time, there is finally only one between us and the ticket gate. I was deeply impressed by this family: they have 8 children 12 years old. They wear cheap clothes, but they are clean and well-behaved. They lined up hand in hand with their parents. They talked excitedly about clowns and elephants.

Their parents stood at the front of the line, and their mother held their father's hand.

The ticket girl asked her father how many tickets she wanted. He proudly replied, "Please give me eight tickets for children and two tickets for adults. I will take my family to the circus. "

The conductor quoted the price.

Father's lips trembled. He leaned forward and asked, "How much did you say?" Mother's head hung low.

The conductor quoted the price again.

This man obviously doesn't have enough money.

But how can he turn around and tell those eight cheerful children that he doesn't have enough money to take them to the circus?

My father witnessed everything. He quietly reached into his pocket, took out a 20 yuan bill and let it fall to the ground. He squatted down again, picked up the bill, patted the man on the shoulder and said, "Sorry, sir, this fell out of your pocket!" " "

This man certainly knows why. He didn't beg anyone to help him, but he was deeply grateful that someone helped him in his desperate, heartbreaking and embarrassing moment. He looked into my father's eyes, held my father's hand with both hands, and pressed the 20 yuan bill tightly in the middle. His lips trembled and tears suddenly fell on his cheeks.

a pen

There is a teacher Ding Rong in Beijing. A few decades ago, one of his students took something from others. At that time, he didn't hate him or accuse him. Instead, he bought a pen and gave it to the student: "I know you like pens." This pen is for you. I know you don't want other people's things. You will definitely send it back quietly when others are not paying attention. " Decades later, the little accomplished student brought his children to see the teacher. As soon as he entered the door, he knelt in front of the teacher and said, "Without Grandma Ding, your father would not be today."

We don't have to deny that when a student worships you, he can listen to everything you say, and when he hates you, he turns a deaf ear to your hype. Understanding does not need carving, understanding does not need perfection, understanding needs frankness, and understanding is the blending of spring. Trust is a kind of understanding.

Of course, understanding is not indulgence. On the basis of the teacher's understanding and trust in the students, the elders wait for the younger generation with certainty and expect the results. Teachers use the powerful spiritual power of respect, understanding and trust to influence students, to show students, to induce students, to influence students, to give students opportunities for self-reflection, space for self-selection, space for self-correction and initiative for self-progress-thus reflecting the unique humanistic education function of education.

Application and innovation

Be able to "sell" yourself to children.

A mother always complains that her daughter can't understand and understand her parents. Parents work very hard during the day, and they have to do housework and take good care of their daughters when they get home at night. But the daughter's love for her parents is not "ungrateful". No matter how busy and tired her parents are, she watches TV or plays video games as if nothing happened, and doesn't even care about greeting. Therefore, when a mother is angry, she often scolds her daughter: "You don't know how tired I am."

Maybe the mother feels "wronged" and the daughter doesn't understand herself. Perhaps the mother herself caused her daughter to be so fickle.

There is no denying that this mother really loves her daughter and works hard. But the question is, has your love made your children experience it? Did your efforts make the children understand? How can you expect your children to realize this extraordinary greatness if you always keep silent to your children and become an "unsung hero" silently? How can we make them feel good about the people they love?

There is a girl who always talks about her mother affectionately. Although there are many things that she still doesn't understand, her mother always tells her something about her work and life. How busy are you? How tired are you? Let her understand the hardships of her parents from an early age, so this girl is more sensible than other children from an early age.

Parents' love is selfless, but parents' devotion to their feelings is by no means to widen the emotional distance between their children and themselves. Therefore, in order to arouse love with love instead of making yourself sad, please parents also learn to publicize and "sell" themselves!

Understanding is on your side.

Everyone wants others to understand themselves, but they don't understand that understanding is mutual.

Morning is the rush hour, with many people and cars and crowded roads. Cyclists, others scratch you, you scratch others, others hit you, you hit others. This is not uncommon. If you hit someone at this time, will you say "sorry" to human nature? If you hit someone, would you call someone to deal with it immediately? When someone bumps into you, do you scold first, or say "it doesn't matter" in someone else's "sorry" and then say "goodbye" with a smile and continue on your way? If you are hurt, are you considerate of others' carelessness, or do you ignore others or even insist, and you are still dissatisfied with many conditions? When you take the bus, others squeeze your seat or bump into you. Can you ignore it, or jump when you meet it, call names and hurt people?

When shopping in the street, there are many people waiting in line. If someone cuts in line, do you patiently ask him if he is in a hurry, and then decide whether to give in or persuade him, even sarcastically, until a quarrel occurs?

When traveling by train, if you get on the train first, should you spread your luggage comfortably and loosely on the luggage rack, or should you arrange your luggage in the designated position even though the luggage rack is empty? If someone gets on the bus late and there is no room in the luggage rack, can you take the initiative to lean on the luggage and make room for others? Or turn a blind eye to other people's difficulties and pretend to be deaf?

Wait, be considerate of each other, and all the unhappiness will disappear.

Instead of complaining that others don't understand themselves, it's better to start with yourself and understand others first.

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