Hearing this news, Mu's heart hurts!
1 1 year-old, a beautiful life has just begun, but unfortunately "withered", how can it not be heartbreaking?
What the hell is going on here?
Let's take a brief look at the event summary, as follows:
When was the latest time?
Where is it? Hangzhou
1 1 Who is the boy?
Why did the boy refuse to do his homework? In a rage, his family smashed his cell phone, and the boy committed suicide by jumping off a building. ...
He Guo that little boy didn't come to the rescue. ...
(A) mobile games, so that more and more students can't put it down, why? Yesterday, Mu's little nephew and his parents visited my house.
But it was already an afternoon when I saw my nephew watching the live broadcast of the game with his mobile phone.
When it's time to eat, the child is listless and his eyes are dull.
During this period, I also tried to discourage it, but it was completely ineffective.
My sister said he didn't have time to play at ordinary times, so he didn't play well today. ...
I also communicated with my little nephew. I asked him if he liked starting school.
As a result, surprisingly, he said he wanted to.
I asked him why.
He said that he could discuss games with his classmates after school started. ...
From this point of view, today's children are really addicted to games.
Why are children so obsessed with games?
I think there may be the following reasons:
1 The game is close to comics, but it can be mastered by itself, so it is sought after by many students.
The virtual game world can make children "masters of their own affairs" and make them "free" and unconstrained.
The plot and picture of the game are more and more exquisite, which will attract students.
4 playing games, no pressure, compared with heavy studies.
The game discussion among classmates will also stimulate some students to play games.
The emergence of a large number of game advertisements and game commentary videos has also invisibly stimulated the "enthusiasm" of children to play games.
7 Other reasons ...
(2) Violence to stop children who suddenly play games can easily stimulate children! When children are addicted to games, parents had better not take mobile phones directly, which is easy to stimulate children.
Because the child has been addicted to it, TA's thought has been "controlled" by the game. If it is forcibly stopped at this time, the child will get angry, get angry, throw things, and even make excessive behavior.
Especially for children who are entering adolescence, or are about to enter adolescence, they can't be stimulated.
(3) How to effectively prevent children from indulging in games? Mu believes that parents had better control their children in kindergarten.
If you are old, it's too late.
Secondly, parents should control their children's play time and avoid indulging in games.
Third, parents should cultivate their children's good habit of learning, which can effectively prevent them from playing games.
Fourth, parents had better spend more time with their children, care more about their children and don't let them spend more time alone. Otherwise, children will play games easily.
Conclusion It seems nothing new that children play mobile phones and games.
As parents, we should learn to handle this matter correctly, instead of giving in to our children or using violence to stop it.
Mu also wants to say that children's life education and frustration education should also be put on the agenda as soon as possible.
Finally, I wish the families of the deceased my condolences!
The child died before the rescue. There is no point in blaming who is right and who is wrong now. Such things often happen. China has a high suicide rate among teenagers. More than 654.38 million teenagers die of suicide every year. What is the reason? Is the child too fragile or the parents too much?
(The boy falls from the window)
It is understood that this boy is 1 1 years old this year and will start school in five years. On the day of the incident, his mother urged him to do his homework, but the child kept playing games. The parents were very angry and smashed his mobile phone. Then the child jumped from 12 floor, fell to the platform on the second floor, was seriously injured, and died after being sent to the hospital for rescue.
Some people accuse children of being too disobedient, and they will not become talents without education now. Others accused the mother of being too demanding and not giving time to play. Now let's analyze their respective reasons:
(Witnesses at the scene)
1. In the fourth grade of primary school, Ma was promoted to the fifth grade. You can't imagine the amount of his homework. English, mathematics, Chinese and other subjects are either doing papers or copying and reciting. Homework has been arranged before the holiday, weekends and winter and summer vacations. You can't imagine how stressful it is for a child in his 10 s to carry a schoolbag of more than 30 kilograms. You don't know. This is the present situation of education in China, which is no better than learning methods. Parents always let their children learn and impose their ideas on them. They don't want to keep him idle for a quarter of an hour. He is not a machine, and he also needs to rest and relax. 2. How can a fourth-grade pupil have his own mobile phone? It is conceivable that his parents must have bought it. There used to be a saying that the best way to destroy a teenager is to give him a mobile phone. Why do parents knowingly commit crimes? To say the least, when children play games and don't do their homework, there are 10 thousand ways to solve the problem. Why did you choose to smash your cell phone to teach him a lesson? Rebellious children are the most difficult to discipline. Have you ever considered the consequences? Don't your children know? Once I saw my neighbor's child get the second place in the exam with my own eyes. My mother punched and kicked him and hit him with a bamboo board. The child cried for mercy in pain, but the parents still refused to stop. I have to let him remember this lesson and get the first place in the next exam. The father who stood by was at a loss and finally chose to call the police to solve it. This is not the case with educating children, nor is it the case with learning. Give children more space and care, think about what kind of parents they want from the child's point of view, and rationally choose education methods.
(boy's family)
A boy of 1 1 years old is in adolescence and rebellious period, and he is very rebellious to everything. At the same time, his personality is particularly strong, especially easy to go astray. Therefore, when communicating with their children, parents should adopt a peaceful attitude and respect each other, and blindly accusing and cursing can't solve the problem.
Event Review On August 30th, a boy aged1/kloc-0 in Xiasha, Hangzhou refused to do his homework because he was addicted to online games. After his mobile phone was smashed by his parents, he jumped from the 12 floor in a rage and died after being rescued, ending his young life. Hangzhou 1 1 year-old boy refused to do his homework and his mobile phone was smashed to death. Should parents give in to their children? I am a native of Liuxiang, a senior Chinese teacher, and I am deeply touched to answer this question today.
In recent years, because parents discourage playing mobile phones, incidents that lead children to commit suicide have occurred from time to time. After the tragedy, people often point the finger at both sides of the incident, or accuse the children of being playful and disobedient; Either blame your parents for their poor education and bad manners. Then, if children are addicted to mobile phones and refuse to do homework, should parents give in to their children?
Liu Xiangren's answer is yes, never give in, never give in to children. Then, what parents need to think about is why children are addicted to mobile phones and don't like learning. Why do children choose such an extreme way to confront their parents? As parents, how do you view the phenomenon of children playing mobile phones?
First of all, as parents, we should treat this high-tech product correctly. Technology is a double-edged sword. Similarly, mobile phones have both advantages and disadvantages for children. In daily teaching, Liuxiang people often encourage students to preview the text by mobile phone on weekends, such as consulting the author's brief introduction, understanding the background of the times, understanding the meaning of words, imitating the text reading, listening to famous lectures and so on. These are unique for children's extracurricular learning and have many benefits; Imagine how to complete online learning during the epidemic this spring without a mobile phone. Therefore, as parents, we should treat mobile phones correctly and remember to suppress them blindly. Under the premise of completing the learning task, it is not bad to play online games properly!
Secondly, as parents, we should take appropriate measures to prevent children from indulging in mobile phones. As a modern high-tech product, mobile phones have entered thousands of households with extremely powerful functions, which are inseparable from our lives. As parents, we should set an example for our children. Ask children to study hard, do their homework quietly, and can't play games with their hands on the machine all day; It is good for children to know and use more functions of mobile phones, except online games. Children's family time, under the premise of completing the learning task, can appropriately let children play games and relax the pressure; You can also take your children out for an outing and participate in activities to distract them. In short, it should be sparse and not blocked!
Finally, as parents, we should learn to dare to say "no" to children's improper demands. Nowadays, children are spoiled, willful and selfish, and often say nothing at home, be responsive and lovable. In the long run, pampered, can't stand any grievances, refuse a little, make trouble without reason, and coerce parents to yield and submit in various ways, thus forming a vicious circle, which is getting worse. Therefore, as parents, when children are very young, they should correctly treat their children's requirements and needs. As long as it is reasonable, resolutely promise and do your best; Anything that is unreasonable and exceeds the limit is strictly rejected. However, be sure to explain the reasons and reasons to children and convince them. Remember to kill with a stick!
In short, it is children's nature to love to play. Children's toys are different in different times. But happy growth and healthy growth are the rights that children should enjoy and the obligations of parents. As parents, we must treat them correctly. What do you think of children playing mobile phones? Liu Xiangren welcomes everyone to leave comments and discussions. When a tragedy happens, there will always be a director and a behind-the-scenes pusher, and this pusher is parents.
Did you let your children play with mobile phones when you were young? When the child cries, you compromise to give him a mobile phone? Do you often play mobile phone in front of children? For your own peace of mind, did you give your child a mobile phone or a tablet to play with? Is there any self-discipline in front of children?
When children grow up and have developed the habit of playing with mobile phones, you realize the seriousness of the problem, take excessive actions and pay a painful price.
1 1 year-old children are not mentally sound. If parents patiently communicate with their children and want to form good habits from an early age, this tragedy will not happen. Parents should be vigilant!
Another tragedy. Recently, a boy aged1/kloc-0 in Hangzhou refused to do his homework and his mobile phone was smashed by his parents. No one expected that the child jumped from the 12 floor on impulse and was rushed to the hospital for emergency treatment after falling to the second floor, but unfortunately, the child's life was not saved in the end.
In the face of this particularly distressing event, should parents give in to their children? Han Shi Leng Yue analyzed it from the perspective of family education.
Parents completely ignore the danger of not training their children to use mobile phones correctly. If they want to take care of their children when management is out of control, they can't. In recent years, I have been engaged in family education consultation, and I often encounter parents' advice on how to solve the problem of children's mobile game addiction. For children of different ages, the solutions will be very different. For example, in Hangzhou, 1 1 year-old boy is in the fifth grade, just outside the gate of adolescence, and will enter adolescence in another year. However, if children can't get a good family education, the period of resistance will come early. A key factor that arouses children to rebel against their parents is the mobile phone. If I guess correctly, this child has been in frequent contact with mobile phones since childhood and has a strong psychological dependence on mobile phones. In this way, children enter the fifth grade, and their fascination with mobile phones far exceeds their interest in homework. When the child's mobile phone management is out of control, it is almost impossible for parents to forcibly control the child's mobile phone management. So it happened that the children were anxious and threatened their parents with death.
If children have a strong psychological dependence on mobile phones, parents should never use mobile phones and homework to approach their children to make choices. This is a very dangerous move. Judging from the extreme behavior of Hangzhou 1 1 year-old boy, his cognitive world has long been very different, but his parents know nothing about it. When the child has a strong psychological dependence on the mobile phone, he will think in his mind: You are a good parent if you play the mobile phone for me, and it is not good for me if you don't play it for me. When parents often force their children to put away their mobile phones for homework and play mobile phones, they will constantly strengthen their dissatisfaction with their parents. Imagine how angry children will be with their parents in a few years. However, parents did not think of how to correct their children's misconceptions, let them learn to abide by the rules of mobile phone use management, and arrange their children to play mobile games reasonably.
The mobile phone itself is not a scourge. The real hidden danger is that parents have not fully considered the use and management of buying mobile phones for their children. Many parents hate mobile phone and game developers when they see their children infatuated with them all day. In fact, the real problem lies with parents. If you want to buy a mobile phone for your child, you may face the problem of how to manage your child to use it correctly. Be sure to set rules for your child before buying, and strictly enforce the time of using the mobile phone and playing games after buying the mobile phone. Without these management rules and supervision, it is easy for children to play mobile phones at will, resulting in complete management out of control. There are also parents who need to be cautious when using mobile phones at home. They must never play around in front of their children. Isn't this stimulating children's curiosity? Children will think, why do you play mobile phones and I don't? Therefore, the role of parents as role models is particularly important.
Conclusion: It is very common for a boy of 1 1 year old like Hangzhou to be tired of learning because of out-of-control use of mobile phones, and even go to extremes without playing mobile phones. For responsible parents, we can already learn from many tragic cases. However, for parents who don't like learning and pay attention to family education, they simply ignore the possible adverse consequences of their children using mobile phones at will. Therefore, in order to make children grow up healthily and concentrate on their studies, parents should not only pay attention to parent-child companionship, but also pay attention to the construction of family education rules.
This kind of thing has never happened together, and it is not a single family problem. The mobile phone has become a very sensitive bomb and may explode at any time. As adults, how many of us can control ourselves from playing mobile phones? I'll tell you how I control it! I downloaded a landlord's software some time ago and played until two or three o'clock every day. The next day, I felt groggy and dizzy. I agree not to play games at night. Finally unloaded, go to bed early and get up early every day. These are some propaganda slogans that we often see. Stay away from gambling and games. When we can't control ourselves, we should stay away from it. For children to play mobile games, I think it's best not to have this thing on their mobile phones. Games are meaningless. I believe this is not the last person to jump off a building. This should be a concern from the national level to the family level.
Tragedy! ! ! ! Human tragedy! ! ! !
This is also a question of education methods! Leading to the decline of a life.
Children come to this world with a loud wow, and parents are the most dependent. Everything parents say and do is an example for their children to learn. 1 1 year-old boy, equivalent to reading the fourth or fifth grade. He is still young and has no civil liability at all. The cultivation of children begins in kindergarten, and the first to third grades of primary school are the time to cultivate habits and rules. My children are also 10 years old and love playing games. When he returned to school, he also discussed games with other students. I told him that mom doesn't forbid you to play games, but you have to finish your main task first. If he violates the rules that I allow him to play games, I will put away my mobile phone. I will also control the game time for him.
Children's growth education needs more patience and guidance. My husband once dropped his mobile phone because the child was playing games. His educational methods are rude and impatient. My child will be bruised, but he will adjust himself quickly. Anyway, children grow up in bumps and bumps.
May parents who have lost their children tide over this difficulty.
Parents regret it! On August 30th, a boy aged1/kloc-0 in Xiasha, Hangzhou refused to do his homework because he was addicted to online games. His parents smashed his mobile phone in a rage, and the child jumped from the 12 floor. After being rescued, he died, ending his young life. Parents must regret that their intestines are green, that they have not sorted out their children's emotions in time, and that they regret their impulsive education.
There is something wrong with parents' education. Every child can play games. Why do some children arrange playing games and studying well? This is inseparable from the good education of parents. Children's self-discipline is generally poor, and they are completely supervised by their parents. Parents should have ways and means to supervise their children, encourage them more and use less compulsory forms. Never go against your children, force them and make them no way back.
Online games hurt many teenagers. Nowadays, even many preschool children are addicted to games. Schools should prohibit students from playing games or make some rules. Parents should do a good job of supervision and cooperation. For example, parents can play games only after finishing their homework, and then give their signatures to the school.
Should parents give in to their students? This is not a question of giving in or not, it is a question of education. Parents should help students make study plans and arrange study and game time reasonably. Know your children. Never stand on the opposite side of the child, which will make the child rebellious.
Hangzhou is now a tragedy caused by mobile phones! It is really heartbreaking and sad!
What happened:
Recently, a boy of 1 1 years old in Hangzhou refused to do his homework because he was playing with his mobile phone. In a rage, his parents smashed his mobile phone, and the child couldn't accept it. He jumped from 12 floor and died after being rescued!
In the face of tragedy, I feel really heavy to answer the question "Should parents make way for their children?". But I think: no!
Some people say: if you want to destroy your child, give him a mobile phone! This sentence seems a bit exaggerated, but it definitely makes sense! If children are addicted to games and can't extricate themselves, then everything is really ruined by children. Although it is not life that is destroyed, it is everything except life. Like "..."!
However, not giving in does not mean being arbitrary, but how to keep children away from mobile phones! I think:
1, first of all, we should cultivate children's correct three views from an early age, let them have a correct outlook on life, values and world outlook, and let them understand the meaning of living!
2. Regarding children's use of mobile phones, we must sign an agreement with children and legislate three chapters to stipulate when children can play mobile phones every day and how long they can't play mobile phones. Once you violate it, you will be punished accordingly, and you should consciously hand in your mobile phone outside the specified time, so that children can develop a good habit of self-discipline from an early age!
Parents should establish a good parent-child relationship with their children. No matter how busy you are, you should take time to spend with your children, communicate with them more and respect their hobbies and choices! Take more children to outdoor activities!
4. Parents should set an example and ask their children to do it first. Never hold a mobile phone in front of their children. You can read books and newspapers!
5, cultivate children's hobbies, let children live a full life, do not feel empty and boring, so as to reduce children's addiction to mobile phones!
6. Never install electronic products in children's rooms to prevent children from secretly playing games!
Children are addicted to mobile phones and games, which is related to thousands of families. I hope parents must treat it with caution. If you don't repair the young trees, you won't be able to repair the model when you grow up. Therefore, I hope that every parent will not let their children indulge in mobile phones from their childhood!