I remember listening to teacher Wei's sharing a few years ago, and then I have been thinking, what is the focus of Waldorf's educational philosophy, and how is it different from traditional education?
Perhaps what really touched me? Why do I think it is most suitable for oranges now?
Teacher Pan said that Teacher Wei defined Hai Rong's education as a holistic education, which can make a person develop in an all-round and balanced way. This goal is good, but some people don't feel the point. From the sharing of the two teachers, I feel that it is clear to everyone that what traditional education lacks is quality education. Therefore, Hairong or Waldorf education focuses on "quality education".
Or to put it this way, in the early childhood and childhood, that is, before primary school or junior high school, we should pay more attention to the cultivation of people's bottom, rather than logical training, because the frontal lobe of the brain will not fully mature until about 15 years old. Therefore, before this stage, we should focus on cultivating people themselves.
We call this thing personality or quality.
So the key question becomes, what is quality education? What can be done to cultivate people themselves? What kind of students should we train?
Or put it this way, what kind of abilities and qualities should be given to children so that they can stand and survive in the future society and live well?
Ma Yun said that his education is not to ensure students' future success, but to ensure that students know how to get a happy life in the future.
But this statement is very vague, and it is difficult for people to understand and practice. Fortunately, I found the relevant answer in Einstein's On Education.
He said that our education should focus on cultivating students from the following three aspects:
Let me give you a few examples to explain why these three points are the core of education:
Every day after dinner, Xiaojie often invites her 6-year-old son to wash the dishes together. This habit has only been adhered to regularly in recent months. I invited him to do some housework before, but at first he was more of a novelty. As soon as the freshness passes, oranges don't want to do it, such as washing dishes, and they don't want to wash them after washing them several times.
Later, we thought of a way to wash dishes together. Some people are responsible for washing dishes, some people are responsible for washing dishes, and some people are responsible for putting dishes. Every day after dinner, we will let the oranges choose who is in charge of what. Up to now, we have basically reached a tacit understanding, that is, taking turns instead of fixing that one person only chooses the easiest bowl.
Even so, after washing for several months, oranges began to be reluctant to do it. Sometimes, as soon as he finishes eating, he runs to the toy. At this time, no matter what kind of statement, he refused.
Once people are immersed in a happy world, it is difficult to get out now, so I will say, "You want to play with toys now, so dad washed them tonight." Will you come to wash it tomorrow night? " .
Orange will happily agree, and he will certainly agree now, because this method meets his immediate emotional needs, his brain has been immersed in the neuron world of pleasure, and he has promised to wash it tomorrow night, so the next night, he will naturally wash it, and he will remember his promise and practice it.
Recently, almost every night, oranges have a feeling of not wanting to wash dishes. I used to follow him, but now I will insist that he take part in washing dishes, and in my opinion, it is the most important thing for oranges to learn to overcome this inert process by themselves.
Because even adults will have this inertia, and the reason why adults can overcome this inertia to do these unwilling things is because the frontal lobe of adults has matured. Mature frontal lobe will come to the conclusion that "one person cooks and one person washes dishes, and this kind of division of labor and cooperation is the most efficient". It will know that I have a delicious meal because I have the other half of my work, so I naturally have to wash the dishes.
This is the gratitude feedback principle of the mature frontal lobe, but the child's frontal lobe is not fully mature and can't be as self-disciplined as adults.
Immature prefrontal lobe doesn't mean no, just no clear logical ability of adults, but he can sense emotions. Through this thing, he can perceive the following emotions:
Washing dishes is "hard", repetitive and boring, and I don't want to do it after several times.
This is almost every child's state, because washing dishes repeatedly every day is really boring compared with fun toys and games. I know that many parents let their children participate in housework, and more importantly, let their children participate in entertainment. If the child doesn't want to do it, he won't be forced to do it.
In fact, it is right not to be forced, but don't follow him, because what is really important in housework is to let the child feel this "unwilling" emotion, and then I will try to communicate with the child from all dimensions, so that he can finally learn to overcome this emotion by himself, so as to do this "unwilling" thing.
This process is the process in which children use the prefrontal lobe to adjust the brain inertia of instinctive animals. Although there is no clear logical order of his prefrontal lobe at this time, it is already in the primary stage and can have simple causal ability.
Therefore, this time is not to let children do the logical addition and subtraction of math problems, but to let children learn how to control their emotions.
This process of overcoming the inertia of housework is the process of adjusting his mood, which is the most important point.
When communicating with orange, Xiaotui tried to guide him to learn to convince himself. In fact, when I communicate with him, I am teaching oranges to convince themselves. These self-convincing statements are very important and will eventually form an inner dialogue when children overcome inertia.
Therefore, at this time, how to communicate with children is very important. If parents are in the form of orders, that is the center of children's fear. Children are afraid of disobeying their parents' orders under high pressure, so they are unwilling to do so. This is the most failed method.
The child trained in this way will do it when he is afraid of pressure, and he will definitely not do it without pressure, which will make him avoid housework instead of repaying his family based on gratitude.
The process of overcoming housework inertia also has a second function, that is, he has done it himself and painfully many times, so he can clearly know that when his parents or others do it, it is also "bitter".
When he knows the emotion of washing dishes, the corresponding neurons in his brain will establish corresponding emotional cognition and know that it is a "hard" thing. So when orange sees his parents washing dishes, he can understand what his parents are doing, and at the same time he will know that his parents can relax by doing something by themselves. He can feel: "I can help them bear a little suffering", and he will be very happy. The key here is.
Oranges will be very happy when they hear this. He can feel his own value and growth, and help his parents bear some "hardships", which will make him feel useful and build confidence in himself after doing various things. In particular, the fruits of his own labor with both hands can benefit others and be appreciated. Therefore, he can feel his own value, and the labor created by his hands can also produce value to others.
This is what Einstein said: "Let students understand" value "and get personal feelings".
The so-called "value" means that every food or service we enjoy in our life is the result of the efforts of others, but if we want to get these things, we must work hard to get them. The most important thing here is that when we enjoy a fruit of others, we can feel the weight and value of this thing because we have experienced similar labor ourselves.
For example, the orange school will sing a Thanksgiving song before meals, and then our family will sing it before dinner. But in the past two years, we all sang for the sake of singing, and I don't know how to really make this grateful song play its due role. It was not until nearly a year ago that I knew the beauty of this song and how to guide children.
The lyrics say that I want to thank the farmer's uncle for his hard work in planting food. Orange must not feel it, because he has never participated in the production process of grain, and his brain has never experienced the same type of labor. Without experience, he has no feelings. Therefore, he can't feel the sweat behind this kind of labor. He doesn't know how every grain of rice comes from. It's not easy.
But oranges cook with us, and recently they have been involved in the process of washing dishes. Therefore, when we finally thank all the hard-working people, we will especially thank our parents for cooking, and sometimes we will thank grandma for bringing food and washing dishes, as well as clearing the table and even all the extended family work. We can "see" and "be grateful".
The purpose of a small retreat is to cultivate and develop children's perceptual ability, know "sweat", be grateful for sweat, see other people's labor and efforts, and give thanks and feedback. This is the power of active return mentioned above.
The key point is that only when we have paid in person can we feel each other's sweat and efforts. Only when we feel this emotion will we be grateful. With this emotional power, we can have the motivation to return. With this motivation to return, we can overcome the inertia of washing dishes mentioned above.
The logical point here is:
This is the source of pursuit, independence, independent thinking and action. It is the source of almost all the qualities of a person. It is rooted in our labor. Everything starts with labor. Without labor, everything is empty talk.
In essence, it is the prefrontal cortex that regulates the inertia of instinctive animal brains by sensing the emotions and values at the bottom, and at the same time forms the motivation to repay the society and serve others with gratitude, gain a sense of self-worth and self-confidence in the process of creating value with its own hands, and finally form a person's personality.
This is the cause and effect of all this, and this is also the weight of Einstein's sentence: "Understand all the values and get personal feelings."
Today, many parents, unwilling to let their children work, think that their children's task is to study, so they do all the housework unilaterally, even help their children carry their schoolbags, do this and that, and do everything that originally belonged to their children.
This is an ignorant and selfish love that deprives children of the right to grow up. Especially when a person grows up and stops working, there is no corresponding sweat in his brain, because every experience will form a link in his brain and store the corresponding emotions according to the feelings during the experience. In this way, people who lack labor can't understand "value", let alone understand the hardships of others, and he will take each other's efforts for granted.
For example, when an orange looks at rice, he can't understand the amount of rice. When he wasted food, I told him that every grain of rice was the result of the hard work of the farmer's uncle. He can't understand and thank rice from the bottom of his heart.
But I said to him, "Will you do the dishes later? Dad cooked today and washed the dishes last night, so that Dad can have a rest? " Orange will answer happily, because he has experienced what I said and knows the hardships. Therefore, he also knows that washing dishes by himself can let his father rest. In this process, he is happy, because he feels his own value and helps his father reduce the burden. In this family, he can also take responsibility.
A person's sense of self-worth, ability, self-confidence and independence are also established in this process.
Children who grow up in such a family atmosphere, or tacit mutual support and help among family members, will make the family a harmonious body with the highest efficiency of division of labor and cooperation, and what works in it is the emotional bond in the brain, the ability of a brain to perceive other brains, and this ability must come from the same experience.
Many of our parents now don't allow their children to work and have the same experience, but they keep saying "you have to understand mom's hard work", and then on the other hand, they complain that this child is so selfish by nature that he doesn't help me at all when he grows up. If you are so busy at work, you have to be busy at home, and you don't share some housework, so you just play by yourself.
What kind of personality and nature a child will eventually have is almost determined by the family environment, and parents are the most influential people, because the neuron mirror image of the brain will faithfully copy the words and deeds of parents, and eventually, the neuron network of the child's brain will be exactly the same as that of parents;
In a family, when parents are immersed in their own career or world, they lack companionship and interaction with their children, especially the same labor and division of labor as their children. When children grow up, it is difficult to live in harmony with others in the same body, and it is also difficult to cooperate well with others in the team.
The biggest trouble with this brain is that it can't integrate into the same body to participate in division of labor and cooperation. Even if he wants to try to establish contact with others, it is unlikely, because his brain can hardly establish contact with other brains, and he cannot feel the feelings of others. He will live too much in his own world, ignore others and take up other people's labor, but he doesn't know how to repay. In the end, he could not integrate into the group and society.
This is the basis of the first point in Einstein's law and the premise and basis of the latter two points. In fact, it is the minimum foundation for people to become people. Once a person can't perceive his own emotions and those of others, then he can't perceive beauty and goodness in the sense of social truth. As a result, he can't get along well with the world, can't understand others, and can't integrate into the same body.
I have a crush on Waldorf's education, that is, his educational philosophy. The development of limbs, activities and labor extended by his concept is exactly what I want, which is consistent with our family education concept.
Because, a child with this foundation, when his frontal lobe really matures, the life force gathered by this potential emotion will drive him to seek knowledge, realize his own life value and significance, and make contributions to this human body.
This is a person who knows how to get happiness and happiness.
And everything comes from this underlying foundation.