Three main points of poor eloquence:
Point 1: I don't know what to say.
This is different from the above. I have something in my head, but I don't know how to choose and organize it. It depends on the occasion. If it is a meeting to speak or discuss topics, it depends on the theme of the meeting and what the topics are discussed. Determine what you want to say around the theme and center. Actually, it's just like writing an article. Determine your argument, and then find some arguments or reasons to explain or prove the correctness of your point of view. This is the best choice when you have certain views and opinions. If you really don't have a valuable and meaningful point of view, or can't remember what to say at the moment, listen to others' speeches first, get inspiration from them, or affirm or refute someone's point of view, or draw more general and meaningful conclusions from them. This requires energy, listening to what others are saying, taking notes, combing and summarizing to form your own 1, 2,3 views, briefly writing them in a notebook in the form of an outline, and then speaking according to the outline. This is a formal meeting. As for other situations, what songs are sung on what mountains and what words are said to whom.
The second point: there is nothing to say.
This performance is that the brain is blank and can't say anything. This is related to a person's knowledge accumulation and experience accumulation. If a person has poor knowledge and little experience, it is really difficult for him to have a good eloquence. From this perspective, the more knowledge, the more experience, the better. So this requires us to study all aspects of knowledge more seriously and improve our knowledge level. People often say that 2 1 century is a new era of knowledge economy. The era of knowledge economy is also an era of learning. Because we are in this century, technology is changing with each passing day, and knowledge and information are exploding. It is estimated (as if it were Li Zehou) that the knowledge a college graduate learned during his school years only accounts for about 10% of the knowledge he needs in his life, and the remaining 90% of the knowledge must be continuously learned and acquired at work. And this 90% is still being updated. For people with low knowledge level and relatively old knowledge, continuous learning is even more urgent. As young people, especially enterprising young people, learning is more important, which is not just a question of eloquence. So if you have time, you should read more newspapers and study more, and learn professional knowledge, professional knowledge, scientific and technological knowledge, political theory, law and management knowledge. Some people don't have to be proficient, they can browse, they can understand a little, and they can not understand at all. Read more books and you will naturally gain something. Some people don't understand for the time being. If they read more, they will gradually understand and even master it. If there is something in your mind, there will be something to say, and there will be no blank in your mind.
The third point: timid, afraid, afraid to say.
You can talk and laugh at ordinary times, but on formal occasions, you dare not speak, you can't say anything, and cold sweat breaks out. This is a psychological factor, probably because I am introverted and I don't like to talk since I was a child, which gradually forms a vicious circle. The less you say, the worse you say, the less you dare to say, the less you dare to say, and the less you have confidence. In my opinion, the key is to have the first time, and it is easy to break this vicious circle with the first time. Find an opportunity and make up your mind to speak for the first time. For example, if there is a meeting and everyone needs to speak, it is necessary to make preparations and make a draft before the meeting. To be more extreme, you might as well write a speech and memorize it. The first time may not be so smooth, but with the first time, the second time and the third time, it will be easy, and it will definitely get smoother and better.
Practice suggestion of good eloquence: telling stories.
Everyone has heard stories, but haven't they all told stories? It seems easy to tell a story, but it's not that easy to tell. As the saying goes: it's easy to see flowers, but difficult to embroider? Ah! Listening to other people's stories is very attractive. Some friends can even forget to eat and sleep when listening to stories, but it seems that it is not the case, dry and unattractive. Therefore, storytelling is also a gift, and not everyone can tell a good story. Learning to tell stories is a good way to practice eloquence. The best target for telling stories is the preschool children in your family or relatives' home. Children like to listen to stories, but they won't laugh at you for not telling them well.
Therefore, the key to practicing eloquence is to build confidence. Anyone can speak, that is, dare to speak. Meanwhile, don't be afraid of other people's jokes. A well-meaning joke should be regarded as a reminder. Malicious people don't have to pay attention to him, because such people are not worth caring about. If you lose confidence just because someone is afraid to tell jokes, it's because you choked on food and wasted it.
Point four: the words are at sixes and sevens, and the words don't convey the meaning.
This is a question of level. To solve this problem, we must think clearly and improve our Chinese level. Here, I will focus on the question of language ability. Some people feel that their Chinese level can't be improved after graduating from school for so many years, so they have to complain that they didn't study hard before.
Actually, it's not like this. From my personal experience, I think a person's Chinese level is not mainly obtained in class. But through a lot of reading, accumulate over a long period. In the third grade of primary school, I read several times as many books as my peers around me. This is not bragging. There is a small bookstore in our town, which is about 20 meters away from my home. Many books in the bookstore are on the bookcase to be opened. As soon as I have time, I go to read books, especially literature. There are 100 thousand why and what, and I have basically finished reading them. It's usually time for dinner, I don't know, but my old grandmother will grab my ear and bring me back. * * * * *, when I was in the fourth grade, I was going to eliminate patronage (explanation), except for books on Marxism-Leninism, Mao Zedong Thought and political theory, and put away those books on literature, history and even science and technology and burn them. On one occasion, the neighborhood committee collected a pile of books to burn, including an adventure in the swamp. When it was burned, the scene with the cover rolled up was still clearly left in my memory. The middle school in our commune (as it was called at that time) put away the books to be burned and filled two classrooms. I stole more than ten books from it, which was the first and only time in my life. But Kong Yi said? Did the scholar steal it? Then I forgave myself. Reading more books will naturally improve the level of Chinese. When I was in junior high school, Chinese teachers didn't dare to attend my class, because rural primary schools there lacked teachers, and they often taught primary schools after graduation, and it was really not good to teach junior high schools after graduation.
So when I am in Chinese class, I often quarrel with my teacher for the explanation of words and the meaning of the text. Once, in a class about Shajiabang, because Mrs. A Qing said that Hu Chuankui was a windbreak in the text, she argued with the teacher for a whole class to explain the meaning of windbreak, and finally made the teacher angry, saying that they should write together and asked the author to see who was right. After a lot of gossip, I want to make it clear that the improvement of Chinese level mainly depends on reading more books. And I think reading is to read some famous books and things written by famous artists. Now some friends like to read online novels, and it is not impossible, but these things that have not been washed, practiced and tested in time are often mixed, even mixed, leading people astray and misleading. Now there are not only things on the Internet, but also seriously published books, many of which are unbearable to read. The typos and sick sentences often make people suddenly feel like eating sand. The same is true of newspapers and periodicals. I don't read those gossip publications and tabloids. Maybe I'm too old to keep up with the times and I don't accept new things enough, but I speak by feeling. Reading more classics that travel through time and history can save a lot of detours. With the improvement of Chinese level, your thinking will become clearer and clearer, and you can express yourself better and more accurately.
Fifth point: boring.
Seriously, speaking is really an art, the same thing, some people can spit lotus flowers on their tongues, which is very vivid, can make people laugh, can also make people cry, and make people feel immersive; But some people can't. They talked for a long time and didn't know what to say. Here are some suggestions on how to make words more vivid, tasty and enjoyable:
Suggestions for practicing eloquence:
1, with a sense of humor.
Humorous language is humorous, witty and meaningful, which makes people feel spiritual pleasure and satisfaction. A sense of humor may have a natural flavor. Some people are born with a sense of humor and can make people laugh when they open their mouths. Others may never say a word that can make people laugh. But in any case, it is ok to be humorous as long as you are willing to learn and imitate. Here are some ways to create humor.
The first is to tell the truth in vain, and to deliberately confuse the original meaning with the extended meaning; This can be achieved in the following ways: first, the original metaphor is difficult to understand as metaphor ontology or vice versa; Second, abstract concepts are difficult to concretize, and concrete things are also difficult to abstract, or they are regarded as one thing.
The second is to use homophones to create humor. This kind of humor can only be played orally, but not written. It takes advantage of the fact that the speaker speaks a word, but the listener listens to it as another homonym (or deliberately listens). For example, after the doctor examines a patient named Jiao, tell him that you can't share the same room in the future. The patient is a farmer in a remote mountain village and doesn't understand the meaning of sharing a room. The doctor explained it again, but he couldn't * *, and the patient didn't understand. In a hurry, the doctor said, just can't * * *! ? The patient was more anxious and said, my father's surname is Jiao, my grandfather's surname is Jiao, and they have been named Jiao for generations. Why can't you call me Jiao? ! ? Where's the patient? ****? Listen? Last name is Jiao? Yes
The third kind deliberately does not complete the words, leaving room for imagination and extension for others. Before the reform and opening up, some units in Beijing regarded organizing bathing in bathhouses as a kind of welfare. On one occasion, the trade union of a certain unit organized two activities, one was to take a bath in the bathhouse and the other was to visit the museum. Because there are many people, they will be divided into morning and afternoon and men and women groups. The chairman of the trade union announced at the meeting. In the morning, lesbians take a bath and gays visit. In the afternoon, gay men take a bath and lesbians visit. Be disciplined and don't take pictures! ? The chairman of the trade union intentionally or unintentionally didn't tell the whole story, which formed a strong humorous effect. When the young female leader just took office, the former leader introduced every comrade in the unit to the female leader at the welcome meeting. During the introduction, I said, I don't need to be introduced Are we old friends? There is a deliberate pause at this point. What do you think? Old rules? This word, I just slowly, Are you old friends? , everyone laughed. This is neither more nor less, creating some humorous atmosphere.
The fourth is to steal the concept. Directly using an extreme example, A Hong has something to do tomorrow and asks the unit leader for a day off. The leader will settle accounts with A Hong like this: You can work for 365 days a year. 52 weeks a year, you have two days off every week, leaving 26 1 day to work. You are absent from work every day 16 hours. If you subtract 170 days, 9 1 day remains. Spending 30 minutes on makeup and going to the toilet every day adds up to 23 days a year, leaving 68 days. The time you spend on lunch every day is 1 hour, 46 days and 22 days. Usually you take two sick days a year, so your working hours are only 20 days. There are 9 holidays every year, no work. You only work 1 1 day. The street also generously gives you annual leave of 10 days a year. After calculation, you will work 1 day, and you still need to ask for leave on this day? ! I haven't calculated last year's wedding leave with you. !
This is the concept of stealing, stealing the actual 24-hour solar day into an 8-hour working day.
Fifth, deliberately use ambiguous words to form humor. The so-called ambiguous words refer to words with several different interpretations or even opposite meanings. The ambiguity of Chinese can best satisfy the contradiction of humor. Deliberately choosing ambiguous words causes contradictions in thinking logic and produces humorous effects. This is the most common way of humor. For example, you may have seen such a notice in the parking lot: Stop for less than an hour, press for an hour? . At this time, you can ask the owner of the parking lot to give him a quiet. You don't have to pay, and you can ask him to do your feet for an hour. Didn't the notice say? Press for an hour? Really! His foot means enough, and we deliberately understand it as a hand and a foot, which leads to humor.
Sometimes you can also use dialects, or Mandarin is not allowed to create humor. This is also a kind of homophonic humor. If there is such a joke, a group of freshmen are in military training. On this day, the instructor said in dialect: Today, Class One kills chickens and Class Two steals eggs. I will cook porridge for you! ? The students looked at each other, wondering what the training content was. Later, a classmate didn't understand until he saw the instructor's action: what he said was that class one shot and class two bombed, I'll show you! ?
There are many ways to be humorous. Here are some common and easy to learn.
2. Pay attention to the rhetoric of language.
It is not enough to have a sense of humor to say good things, and if you are humorous in solemn occasions, people may think that you are glib and shallow. So we should also pay attention to the rhetoric of language. Generally speaking, the commonly used rhetorical devices in oral expression are analogy, exaggeration, parallelism, numerical induction and so on. These methods, if used properly, can make the speech lively and interesting, rather than dry. For example, I want to praise Hong, so to speak. Hong, are you beautiful? You could say that, too. Hong, are you as beautiful as the snow lotus on the Tianshan Mountains? . Hong definitely prefers to listen to the latter sentence and then use metaphors. Of course, the metaphor should be fresh, repeat what others say, spit on others, and it will be tasteless. Everyone has heard this sentence, right? The first person who compares a woman to a flower is a wise man, the second person who compares a woman to a flower is a mediocrity, and the third person who compares a woman to a flower is a fool? . Exaggeration is also common. One of my former colleagues has a bright forehead, and we often make fun of his shiny forehead. On a trip to Hebei, he asked me to take a picture of him on Baodu Mountain. I looked at him with my camera for a few seconds, then put it down, stared at his forehead, made him notice that I was looking at his forehead, and said, I can't shoot. Too reflective? . This is exaggeration. And peace of mind. Parallelism can give people an imposing manner and a feeling of having to listen.
3. Have certain literary attainments and historical knowledge.
Proper use of idioms and allusions, poems and songs, famous sentences of celebrities, etc. in your speech can make your speech appear knowledgeable and high-level. By the way, it's right to be proficient in culture, but you can't help pretending to understand and joking. Some words that are not sure about pronunciation must be looked up in the dictionary. Now some friends don't care about reading typos, which surprises me. When speaking at appropriate times and occasions, using idioms and allusions and famous poems and sentences intentionally can achieve unexpected results.
You'd better have some philosophy when you speak.
This difficulty is relatively high, but it is not unattainable. The so-called philosophy is that it can embody a comprehensive and dialectical point of view, grasp the essence of things, point out the internal laws, be forward-looking, concise and enlightening. Philosophical language, a seemingly simple sentence, often contains profound content, which makes people chew more tastefully. You can give a few examples: Hegel, Marx's most respected dialectic master, once said: Young people and old people have different vastness when they say the same maxim. . This is a very philosophical statement. It means that young people can say the same life motto, and so can old people. But the meaning of their experiences is quite different. Although young people can correctly express this motto, he will never realize the profundity and broadness in its connotation. Because for an old man, this motto is not only a language, but also embodies his whole life experience and life experience. Like what? Failure is the mother of success? When young people say such a proverb, the most they can understand in their minds is constant struggle, while when old people say it, they will see countless failures and successes in life, and the bitterness and joy of success will come to mind as a footnote to this proverb. You see, his words contain so much content. This is philosophy. Let's quote Hegel, who once said that it is not easy to produce early results in the study of philosophy. Philosophy is like Mina's owl, which takes off at night? . This sentence has rich connotations. This means that philosophy is not like mathematics or physics. In their twenties and thirties, they can achieve results even earlier, and even become famous and married. Philosophy is more a summary of life and experience, and a summary of various disciplines and knowledge. Therefore, it takes a lifetime of energy to produce results. Evening is a metaphor for old age, so it takes off in the evening. I studied philosophy, and I didn't get any results when I was young, so I comforted myself until my later years, but I still couldn't fly.
5. Silence is golden
There are indeed many people who believe this sentence and even regard it as a philosophy of life. I also appreciate the philosophy contained in this sentence. Words you shouldn't say? Silence is golden? ; When you shouldn't say it? Silence is golden? ; Shouldn't we talk about occasions? Silence is golden? ; Shouldn't you say the object? Silence is golden? ; Silence is golden when expressing silent protest? . Other than that, when will you be silent? Is that you will be silent when you don't understand, don't know, are uncertain and have nothing to say. So not all silence is golden. Too much silence will make people feel that you don't know anything, have no opinion and position. Therefore, exports are still necessary. You can take silence as the principle, but principle should also be combined with flexibility.
Good eloquence practice experience and methods;
1, make plans and learn systematically.
All the above points are very important. More importantly, you should have an improvement plan. Specify how long it will take you to practice your eloquence. Then, combined with the system for systematic learning. Start bit by bit and take your time. Natural eloquence is getting better and better
2. Take action and persevere.
In addition to the above methods, the most important thing is to have a confident heart and persist in practicing with practical actions. No matter how beautiful the expectation is, no action will always be in vain at the corner. Therefore, self-discipline and self-discipline are also crucial.
3. read books and master knowledge.
Just like cooking requires cooking first, without knowing and understanding the content and the development and changes in various fields, you will only have an empty mouth and still have nothing to say all the time. Therefore, mastering various knowledge is the premise of improving eloquence, and it is very important to have ink in your heart.
4. Make more friends and make more contacts.
Don't limit yourself to a few colleagues or girlfriends, which will only lead to a small circle and is not conducive to the improvement of your eloquence. Make more friends, make more contacts, make different kinds of friends, discuss different topics with them, and absorb their language and knowledge when they speak, which is very helpful to improve their eloquence.
5. Be good at listening and studying.
The improvement of eloquence is far from enough to speak with your own mouth. Listen to other people's speeches and learn other people's languages when appropriate. Only by studying hard can we really improve ourselves. Whether it is a speech on TV or an activity in daily life, you should find your own learning point in it and get as close as possible.
6. Open your mouth and never stop.
The improvement of eloquence ability can not be achieved by thinking alone, but also by speaking more, especially by exercising more. Eloquence is the art of speaking with your mouth open. If you don't speak, your eloquence will never improve. There is a first time for everything. You should be brave enough to appear and speak in public. Even if you don't succeed at the first time and are laughed at by many people, you should talk more and practice more.
7, improvisation, language accumulation
For example, the practice of reading poems, novels and newspapers aloud is a kind of language expression training, the accumulation of various sentence patterns, and the actual experience of word-breaking, sentence-breaking and emotional expression; At the same time, you can improvise eloquence exercises for different groups, including unfamiliar salesmen. As long as you keep training, you will get a good improvement unconsciously.
8. Wander in the sea of books and accumulate knowledge.
Talking aimlessly is not a good eloquence, nonsense is not a skill, and speaking with theoretical basis is the real skill. The improvement of eloquence still needs the accumulation of knowledge. Reading more books and taking more notes are absolutely beneficial to the improvement of eloquence. When you talk endlessly, quoting classics will make the audience envious and improve their eloquence quickly.
9. Participate in activities and look for opportunities.
College students can participate in speech contests and debate contests organized by the school; Or friendship competitions or exhibition competitions organized in the community; Annual meeting programs, cross talk, sketches, etc. Organized by the company; Other public welfare activities organized by social organizations can be attended as long as people gather and the atmosphere of language and thought exchange is active. This form is different from self-reading training, which is very effective in actual combat and will be a good exercise and improvement for self-coping and on-site control.