Children's injuries are concentrated, either because of the unfairness between peers or because of the incomprehension and pressure given to them by teachers and parents. But the imbalance is that children in public schools often feel hurt from teachers and parents, while children in international schools feel hurt mainly from getting along with their peers.
In other words, the main "enemies" of children in public schools are teachers, then parents and then small class cadres. Children in international schools are mainly "enemies" and are surrounded by peers. It seems that children in public schools huddle together to keep warm and deal with more important contradictions, but when the external pressure is lifted and the main contradictions disappear, children in international schools begin to find some frictions among themselves.
Children in public schools are very dissatisfied with their teachers. They hate teachers and can speak ill of many teachers. They invented many jokes and laughed at the teacher. Gifted students also write songs to tease teachers. Sometimes, I think they have too little respect for teachers. Until one day, I heard the teacher reprimand the students with a big horn on the playground: which row is the first row? That male classmate, you arrived five minutes later than the other students. Did you climb over here? If you are used to landing on all fours, you can go to the right place to display your talents. I suddenly understood the relationship between teachers and classmates: the teacher publicly insulted the students, and the students quietly insulted the teacher to show revenge. Our teachers and schools don't seem to respect children, nor do they teach them how to respect others.
Children in public schools may feel more hierarchical. For example, teachers are higher than students, and teachers can dispose of students at will. Student cadres are higher than ordinary students and have greater privileges. The contradiction between these children and their peers is mainly concentrated on the "hatred" of class cadres, most of whom are girls. They don't like the behavior of class cadres mainly: the first set is followed by the second set, flattery, being too harsh and unkind to classmates. Teachers often prefer strong little girls to be their little helpers. They may often praise these little helpers and criticize other students, which makes the little helpers panic. They are afraid that one day they will make the mistakes of other students and the teachers will not like themselves. Therefore, the little helpers dare not make mistakes. Once they find that they are not doing well, they will blame others for protecting them. At the same time, the teacher also artificially separated the little helper from other students, giving the little helper a higher status and power. However, putting children in such a growing environment will make them lose themselves, which is not necessarily a good thing.
These children also seem to have hatred for the people around them. They also want to invent a gallows to kill these annoying people. This is terrible. I think this reflects our children's lack of love and understanding, intolerance, and more resentment and unconvinced.
Children in international schools seem simpler. In the eyes of their peers, they may be more heartless, less utilitarian and less targeted. What they are most worried about is the contradiction with their classmates. They are more concerned about whether they can integrate into their classmates and let them accept them. The teacher makes them very satisfied, and basically the image of the teacher is positive. What they like is less "useful" and more naive and romantic.
Looking at the difference between children in public schools and children in international schools, I am deeply touched: 1, a person's behavior does reflect his living conditions, and children with profound thoughts often live in a "worse" environment; 2. If our children can't study in a happy state and are always in a hostile state with their teachers, can the learning effect be good?
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