Einstein's view of love, love history and the name Albert Einstein are all synonymous with "genius" now. I remember, Zhang Wuchang said in "The Words of Orange" that Einstein's way of thinking is beyond mortal learning. He said, you are not Einstein. What does his method have to do with you? On the whole, it is true that many of us no longer regard him as an ordinary person. In people's minds, Einstein-including many other great scholars-has become a strange non-human creature, or at least a different kind of human being, whose life is only related to books, equations and eccentric behaviors. Once, I thought so. I thought Einstein was closer to God than man. I have never tried to understand his life, nor have I considered the possibility of getting close to his heart. After reading the book Einstein in Love (Dennis Overby, Shanghai Science and Technology Publishing House, 2003) yesterday, I was surprised for the first time that Einstein was not far away from me, and he also had an ordinary side. Generally speaking, if you want to know a celebrity, you should first pay attention to the following aspects: his childhood, educational experience, his love and marital status. Almost all biographical works, these aspects are the focus of ink. Why? Because all of us have these experiences, we can best understand each other in these aspects, and can best reflect our homosexuality as human beings. Einstein in Love is about Einstein's love story. If his intelligence is so high that we can only stop at the mountains, then his * * * experience will undoubtedly greatly narrow his distance from us and expose his mortal side. In Einstein's life, there were countless women who had an affair with him. In my opinion, his best writing is not only physics papers, but also his love letters are extremely touching. Next, I want to outline Einstein's private life according to this book. Few people seem to mention these things. Some of them will undoubtedly highlight his emotional and physical needs as a person. But it doesn't affect my great faith and respect for Einstein at all. Actually, I understand Einstein better. The boring and arduous road of science is difficult for ordinary people to understand. The warmth and caress of the opposite sex is only the last comfort in his life. Einstein fell in love for the first time at the age of 17 (1896), when he was cramming for literature and history to enter Swiss Federal Institute of Technology. He fell in love with Mary, the daughter of his mentor who is two years older than him. Both of them are getting engaged, and both families are very supportive. In a letter to Mary, Einstein wrote: If you were here at the moment, I would give you a punishing kiss and laugh at you for any reason. You deserve it, lovely little angel! As for whether I will be patient? Do I have any other choice for my beloved, naughty little angel? The following year (1897), Einstein went to college. Like all the love stories we have seen, the two said goodbye and promised to meet and correspond frequently. Mary also promised to wash Einstein's dirty clothes. Of course, the ending can't be conventional. After Einstein came to the big city, he thought Mary was a country girl, a little rustic. Besides, he is obsessed with physics, and Mary can't meet his requirements intellectually. So in this year's 1 1 month, he proposed that the two should stop dating. Poor Mary is undoubtedly very sad. "Dear, I don't quite understand a word of your letter. You wrote that you didn't want to write to me again, but why, dear? " She gave him a teapot. After a long time, she thought he was ill, and Einstein wrote back that the gift was stupid. There are five students studying theoretical physics in Swiss Federal Institute of Technology 1897 grade. One of the girls is MilevaMaric, from Hungary. She is 2 1 year old, the oldest of the five, four years older than Einstein. There is no doubt that she is quite clever and has a high professional level in mathematics and physics. (Later physical historians even thought that Einstein's theory of relativity partly came from her. As classmates, she and Einstein often discuss and exchange study notes together. It's hard for an emotional person like Einstein not to feel strange. But after the first school year, she didn't return from her hometown to Zurich where her school was located. We don't know why she did it now. Maybe she is tired of theoretical physics and doesn't want to be a physicist anymore. But it is also possible that she felt a sense of danger coming and chose to escape. Her absence must have made Einstein very sad. He learned from his classmates that she had gone to Heidelberg University, so he sent a long letter. The letter claimed that if she was bored, she could write back to him. She was silent for more than a month and finally wrote back, apologizing for her sudden departure. In the next few months, the communication between the two people became less and less, and finally it was interrupted. But things are not what they seem. Mileva must be struggling. 1899 In February, she finally surrendered. She told Einstein that she would come back soon. Einstein immediately extended a warm welcome and promised to lend him his notes. "You little deserter!" "In April, after leaving for six months, she returned to Zurich and met Einstein again. I don't know if she realizes that the consequence of such a choice is to link her fate with that short man forever. As she didn't attend class for half a year, she had to cram hard to catch up with her classmates. Therefore, she borrowed study notes and related books from Einstein's residence almost every night, and the communication between them became closer. They began to introduce their friends to each other. Einstein wrote in his letter to her: "As long as we live, we will always be students. "The second school year will soon be over, and mileva and Einstein will leave school again and go home respectively. It was the summer of 1899. Einstein's mother rented several rooms in a hotel in her hometown not far from Zurich for the summer vacation. For Einstein, one of the great achievements there was that he found that the hotel owner had a lovely 17-year-old daughter Anneli. They get along well, and Einstein wrote an ambiguous poem in his diary. Petite and beautiful girl, what should I write for you here? I can think of many things, including kissing on a soft mouth. If you are angry about this, please don't start crying, and the best punishment is-give me a kiss, too. This little greeting is in memory of your naughty friend. They will meet again in the years to come. Finally, in 19 10, Anna Li gave birth to an illegitimate daughter for Einstein. 1900 on July 28th, graduated from Einstein University. His relationship with mileva has reached the point of talking about marriage. At this time, both families expressed fierce opposition. Because he is a German Jew and she is a Hungarian Bohemian. However, the lovers are still trying to persist. Einstein wrote to mileva: Three quarters of our foolish separation days have passed now, and I can be with my sweetheart again soon. I can kiss her, hug her, make coffee, talk loudly, work, laugh, hang out and chat forever! I can't wait to see you again. You are everything to me, my little villain, my little urchin and my troublemaker. Now that I think of you, I totally believe that I don't want to make you angry, and I don't want to mock you any more. I just want to be like an angel all the time! Oh, what a wonderful fantasy! You love me too, don't you? Even if I become a rogue full of whimsy and pranks again, my mood will be as uncertain as before! How happy I will be when I can hug you again! My little urchin, my little veranda, everything to me! You don't want to live a mediocre life anymore, do you? Those who have tasted freedom can't stand the shackles any longer. How lucky I am to find you, a creature equal to me, as strong and independent as me! I feel lonely with anyone except you. Mileva summed up Einstein to her friend, "Such a rude guy, but I still love him so much. "After Einstein graduated from university, it was not smooth to find a job. He looked for job opportunities all over western Europe, but he was always rejected. However, mileva had to stay in Zurich to prepare for the graduation exam because of the delay in her studies. 190 1 in April, a school finally expressed its willingness to ask Einstein to be a math teacher. This made him very happy. He and mileva went hiking in the Alps on the Swiss-Italian border. In the Alps in early May, the snow has just begun to melt, fog is floating on the blue lake, and beautiful flowers are blooming everywhere on the mountain. This period may be the happiest moment in their relationship. Einstein later wrote: here, thinking of you is the only thing that makes me feel that life is really meaningful. If only thinking could have a little life! Last time, when you allowed me to stick it on your dear petite body in a way created by nature, how wonderful it was! For this, let me kiss you gently, your lovely soul! Naturally, mileva is pregnant. After this trip, their relationship has undergone some changes. " If he needed her in the past, an older woman, a counselor, a cheerleader, a trainer and a believer, then mileva will need him in the future. "Einstein is stepping into the deepest part of the universe and exploring the mysteries of time and space. He doesn't want to spend more time on a child. Mileva, on the other hand, became grumpy and withdrawn because she was pregnant and her lover was not around. She failed in the graduation exam at the end of July, and her relationship with her tutor deteriorated, and her scientific career ended forever. Since then, Einstein has maintained a lukewarm attitude towards mileva. He may think that the coming baby will drag down his career and would rather not think about it. Mileva was not with her from pregnancy to delivery. 1902 1 year1October, Einstein's first child was born, a girl. However, neither of the young couple seems ready to be parents. They gave up custody and gave the child away. Since then, the child has never been found, and historians believe that she will die soon. Mileva became depressed after giving birth, and she wanted to marry him as soon as possible. But Einstein remained unhurried and calm. Although his financial situation has stabilized at this time, there are still emotional problems between them. His parents are still strongly opposed to this marriage, and he is a little tired and wary of mileva's melancholy. Seeing that he was not in a hurry to make a decision, her heart was full of insecurity. At her urging, considering the sacrifices she made for him, Einstein finally agreed to get married. 1902 10 month, they became husband and wife in the legal sense. When he was old, Einstein admitted in an interview that he had an "inner resistance" to this marriage. He got married more because of responsibility than love. Six years after they met, his love for her was cooling and his negative opinion of her was rising. He said of mileva, "She is very eager to learn and very smart. She has some natural insight, but she is not good at forming concepts. She is not narrow-minded at all, but distrustful, inarticulate and depressed. "However, at least shortly after marriage, Einstein didn't think so. He is also full of expectations for a happy marriage. He wrote to a friend and reported that, well, now I am a married man and live a very happy and comfortable life with my wife. She takes care of everything, cooks well and is always pleasant. When mileva returned to her mother's house, he wrote to her: Now, come back to me quickly. Three and a half weeks have passed, and a good little wife can no longer live without her husband. Everything at home is not as bad as you think. You can clean it up soon. The first decade of the 20th century was a busy decade for Einstein and a decisive decade for modern physics. He himself changed the face of the universe. By the end of this decade, he has become very famous among physicists, and the scientific community has completely opened the door to him. However, mileva has been left out by the world. She was excluded from his scientific life, and they spent less and less time on communication. She wrote to a friend sadly, saying that Einstein spent all his free time playing with children. And she seems to be his mother, away from his scientific life. 1909, Anneli, the daughter of the hotel owner he knew as a teenager, saw his name in the newspaper and wrote him a letter. Einstein immediately gave a warm, perhaps over-enthusiastic answer. Anili's reply was seen by mileva, and she told her husband about it. Einstein was deeply angry about this, then his attitude turned cold, and there was a huge crack in their relationship. 19 1 1 year, some early symptoms of schizophrenia appeared in mileva, which made Einstein no longer have any hope for their marriage. 19 12 In April, Einstein returned to Berlin once. His mother lives there now. He met his cousin elsa Einstein. Elsa is three years older than him. She divorced four years ago and now lives alone with her two daughters. They have known each other since childhood, and now they meet again. They traveled to Wansao, a suburb of Berlin. Maybe they have some romantic relationships. Einstein's feeling is this: "I feel as if I were in another world when I think of our journey of all strategies." If I can walk again, I will do whatever it takes. "However, when he returned to mileva, he was desperate about his relationship with Elsa. At the end of May, a month after they traveled together, he wrote to end the relationship. I think if we establish closer attachment, it will not be good for both of us and for everyone. Therefore, I am writing to you for the last time today to allow myself to accept this inevitable thing again, and you must do the same. You know, it's not my apathy or lack of feelings that makes me say this, because you know, like you, I'm hopelessly carrying my cross. But Einstein was obviously not so determined. If you are in trouble, or you think you need to talk to others, please remember that you have a cousin who will sympathize with you no matter what the problem is. This relationship was restored after nearly a year. On March 19 13, Elsa wrote to Einstein on the grounds of congratulating him on his birthday. Einstein quickly replied. Since then, their correspondence has become closer and closer. In July, Einstein told Elsa that he would come to work in Berlin next year so that they could meet frequently. In August, he secretly went to Berlin and met Elsa. When he came back, he began to write those sweet love letters again. " I went back to Zurich, but everything was different. "Now I have a really interesting person I can think of and live for her." He also announced that he had moved to a separate room to avoid being alone with mileva. I just received your letter today, and I have sat down to answer your letter. It's really awkward. However, the time I spent with you contentedly made me so eager for a pleasant conversation and intimate dinner that I couldn't help reaching for those poor papers that could replace reality ... How wonderful it would be if we could build a gypsy family together one day. You don't know how charming such a life with only meager needs and no great needs will be. Who will say that we can't achieve such a day? As for his wife, she is an unfriendly person and lacks a sense of humor. She has nothing in life. As soon as she appears, the joy in other people's lives is suddenly controlled! 19 14 in July, Einstein and mileva had a big fight and officially separated. He said that if he wants to start his life again, mileva must meet the following conditions: his clothes and all kinds of clothes should be kept clean and tidy; Mileva provides her room with three meals a day. Don't touch his desk. She must give up all personal relationships with him and not criticize him in front of the children; He won't travel with her or appear in public unless he is just putting on a show. He also has the following instructions. You must absolutely force yourself to abide by the following points: 1. You don't want to see any tenderness from me, and you don't have any accusations against me. When you talk to me, if I ask, you must stop at once. At my request, you must leave my bedroom or office at once, without objection. In the face of such harsh and insulting demands, mileva agreed to abide by them through his friends. But Einstein, it seems not enough. Further, I want to go back to our apartment, because I don't want to lose my children, and I don't want them to lose me, but only for this reason. After all these things, it is impossible for us to maintain a gay relationship. He warned that if the business principles between them could not be maintained, he would seek separation. "In the face of such ruthlessness, mileva really has no choice but to give up this marriage if he wants to remain mentally normal." . 1965438+At the end of July 2004, they reached a separation agreement, paving the way for a formal divorce. As for Elsa, Einstein said, "Now you have proof that I can make sacrifices for you." In June 2008, Einstein and mileva initialled the divorce agreement. Mileva didn't want to get a divorce, but because of her deteriorating health, the financial burden of raising children and Einstein's repeated demands, she had to agree. Einstein promised that if he won the Nobel Prize, all the prizes would go to mileva. He warned: "Of course, I will only make such a huge concession if I have no objection to the divorce. If you don't agree to divorce, I won't give you any money over 6000 marks. " Mileva's friend read this heartless letter and sighed, "In short, the knife was put around his neck without any notice in advance." Anyway, Einstein finally got out of this unhappy marriage and seemed to be able to start the new life he always wanted. However, a new problem appeared, and Einstein fell in love with another woman. He doesn't know who to marry, Elsa or her daughter Ilsa. Ilsa is Elsa's beautiful eldest daughter. 19 18 She just turned 20 years old, which is the age of love seeds. Einstein lived in a house with his mother and daughter, and kept in touch with each other every day. Ilsa was upset that Einstein fell in love with her, and she knew the relationship between her mother and Einstein. In a letter to a friend, she wrote: "I know Einstein loves me very much, perhaps more than any man who loves me." He even told me himself yesterday. " She revealed that he once admitted that it was difficult for him to control his sexuality when he was with her. However, Ilsa did not fall in love with Einstein. "If there really is friendship and gay relationship between two different types of people, of course, they should be like me to Einstein. I have never felt physically close to his desire or the slightest desire. " Without * * *, Ilsa can't maintain her marriage, and she is afraid that she will no longer love him or even resent him. "Last but not least, I will feel a bit like a betrayed slave." Ilsa suspected that Einstein wanted a triangular family life, so that he could enjoy Elsa's cooking, social relations and sexual relations with Ilsa. Ilsa said that Einstein also told her that if she didn't want to have children for him, it would be better not to marry him. "I really don't have this desire." She claimed. In addition, Ilsa also felt that "it is wrong to encroach on the position that mother finally got after so many years of patient struggle". In June, 19 18, 1 1, the court in Zurich, Switzerland began to hear the divorce case between Einstein and mileva. Einstein admitted in court that he had committed adultery with his cousin in Berlin. 1919 February 14, the court ruled that Einstein and mileva formally divorced, which was one month before Einstein was 40 years old. Einstein was fined 100 francs in addition to paying the litigation costs. He was declared an adulterer and could not remarry for two years. This punishment is only valid in Switzerland. On June 2, 2009, Einstein married Elsa. The marriage with Elsa was the second and last marriage in Einstein's life. 1936, after Elsa died, Einstein did not remarry. However, his indulgence has not diminished much. Whether in Berlin or later at Princeton University in New Jersey, Einstein had an affair with many women. His letter to one of the women is like this: Dear ... I am working hard and thinking of you happily at the same time ... This letter was written under great difficulties, because elsa may come back at any time, so I really must pay attention ... Yesterday was so beautiful, I am still full of joy ... I will appear at the old place at 5 o'clock, so it would be better if you could arrange it. In addition, Einstein is also a frequent visitor to brothels. He has been to the romantic places of Zurich and Berlin countless times. 1948, mileva died of a stroke. Before that, she was paralyzed in despair. People found 80 thousand Swiss francs in her mattress. She was buried in an unknown tomb in Zurich. 1On April 8th, 955, Einstein died of ruptured abdominal aneurysm. In April 2008, in order to celebrate Planck's 60th birthday, Einstein gave a speech at the German Physical Society. He said, I agree with Schopenhauer that one of the strongest motives to lead people to art and science is to get rid of daily life and its painful and rough state and hopeless boredom, and get rid of the fetters of one's ever-changing desires. Like painters, poets or philosophers, scientists try to create a world of their own. Each of them regards the universe and its structure as the fulcrum of their emotional life, in order to find peace and security that they can't find in the narrow vortex of personal experience. This is Einstein's heart, because he wants to "get rid of the pain, roughness and hopelessness of daily life", so he has no resistance to those beautiful things. A gentle and beautiful woman, a table of exquisite dishes and a brilliant idea will involuntarily attract him and make him want to get close. However, he can't pour too much into them, so he can't get happiness from any individual, and he can only meet his own needs by constantly chasing new objects. In the end, Einstein's personal life was a failure. Throughout his life, he didn't find happiness. Although you can say that he has been in love for most of his life, meaningless pursuit and sexual satisfaction are not as good as the care and trust of growing old together. Therefore, Einstein had to bury himself in physics, build his own deep space-time alone, and go deep into the universe to find "peace and security that can't be found in the narrow vortex of personal experience." Conclusion: Don't be with people who don't understand you, because poor IQ is the most difficult distance to make up in this world. A person who is far behind you and far from your values will never understand your goodness. On the contrary, your strengths will become his weaknesses. Whatever you insist on will become a problem in his eyes. Therefore, instead of being bullied by bad people, it is better to wait for someone who knows you to appear slowly. [Name] Albert Einstein (Jewish theoretical physicist)