Love is a kind of emotional dependence, which usually refers to the special feelings that people show in the love stage. Love is also the strongest form of interpersonal attraction, which means that individuals with a certain degree of psychological maturity have romantic high-level feelings for the opposite sex. Love is a strong, pure and single-minded feeling between men and women, which is based on a certain social foundation and the same ideal of life. They are eager to develop close relationships and become their lifelong partners. Sex, ideal and responsibility are the three basic elements of love. Women usually fall in love with healthy, peaceful, interesting, kind and generous men. When men choose short-term partners, they often ignore women's wisdom, education, loyalty, sense of humor and age; But men value basic virtues when choosing long-term partners. The concept of love will also change in different stages of life, especially in different stages of marriage. Men tend to fall in love with women's young beauty, while women tend to fall in love with men's wealth status. But the love that everyone needs to find is different, and the experience of adolescence is the most important influence on a person's choice of lover.
The essence of love is a chemical reaction, which is the feeling that hormones and hormones emit special smells recognized by the brain and know their preferences. Some feelings are innate, such as parents' feelings for children, and some feelings are acquired, such as friendship, brotherhood, love, love for national conditions and so on.
Love in a broad sense: all emotions related to love are called love. The affection between father and son, relatives and friends, teachers and students, etc.
Love in a narrow sense: usually refers to love between men and women.
Love is a kind of mutual snuggling, giving rather than one-way taking.
Love (narrow sense): The feeling of love between men and women is supreme, pure and beautiful aesthetic feeling and emotional experience.
Love (in a broad sense): feelings of mutual admiration between people (homosexuality, etc. )
Love (legal definition): It is a strong, pure and single-minded feeling that men and women form mutual admiration in their respective hearts based on the same ideal of life and desire each other to become their lifelong partners.
Love (definition of good or bad): Good love is free and easy for both parties with freedom as the highest gift, and this freedom will never be abused.
The logic of complete civilization: aesthetic feeling in a broad sense includes all good feelings, and it is a positive indication of the second existence (the second thing that guides the existence of things: biological consciousness) (a special indication of positive direction; Description: those things have potential benefits for you, please continue to pursue them; Coping characteristics: chasing for acquisition); Love is a beautiful feeling, so it belongs to aesthetic feeling, and naturally it belongs to positive expression, so naturally people will have the same attributes, derived behaviors and by-products as aesthetic feeling.
The true meaning of love
The true meaning of love is beauty.
So it has the universality of beauty:
1. Attribute: attractive to people.
2. Derivative behavior: giving, appreciating, cherishing, moving, understanding, protecting and possessing, so that it can exist better.
3. By-products: joy when you get it, ordinary troubles, sadness after you lose it, and helplessness when you can't get it.
Special point:
1. Because the object of this aesthetic feeling is more humanized, there will also be psychological differences of suspicion, jealousy and incompetence, and hatred of being cheated.
2. The physiological basis of this aesthetic feeling is more often gender differences and reproductive instinct.
Reasoning:
1. If you want the other person to love you more, you must constantly increase and continue your own aesthetic feelings, especially the "beauty of mind". It is also important to be neat and beautiful.
2. You can do something with the other person with aesthetic atmosphere, which can enhance your feelings, which is also the reason why "romance" is pleasing. It is also a necessary skill.
3. After marriage, you can increase your aesthetic feeling and other hobbies for your family and minimize the possibility of extramarital love.
The act of expressing love.
Love is often expressed by kissing, hugging, caressing and sexual behavior between men and women. The most important expression of love is what a person does to his lover. Confucius said: if you love him, can you not work hard (if you love him/her, can you not work hard for him/her? )? Love will bring psychological changes to both parties in love. The first is idealization. Two people in love will ignore each other's shortcomings and exaggerate each other's advantages. Idealization can convince both parties that they have made the right choice. The second is to endure pain. Even if rejected by the person you like, this person will put up with the pain to justify the behavior without asking for anything in return. The third is fantasy. People in love will have some fantasies about the future, even unrealistic fantasies. In addition, love can also make a person highly sensitive, especially the emotional response to each other's behavior. This brings not only insecurity, but also satisfaction. The quality of love can be judged by the above characteristics. Love makes a person emotionally and physically dependent on another person. Losing a lover is often accompanied by chest tightness, loss of appetite, insomnia, anger, depression, nostalgia, emptiness, loneliness, despair, depression, fatigue, nausea, crying and loss of confidence. The best way to deal with lovelorn is to divert attention and force yourself to focus on what you are good at, so as to increase dopamine concentration in the brain and increase confidence and hope. In addition, exercise and sunshine are also good ways to treat lovelorn. At the same time, it is also important to help the lovelorn to confirm the rewards and costs that love can bring.
Big love
What kind of love is safest?
The answer is: great love/fraternity
The feeling of love is not limited to heterosexual friends, but can be extended to love the whole world and everything in nature.
This kind of love is: great love/fraternity.
Features: Even if you don't have friends, parents, relatives and so on,
Your heart can still be full of love! A wonderful feeling!
Reasoning with the logic of overall civilization: human ideology is the second guidance (the thing that leads to the second existence of things), and emotion is the special indicator of the second guidance (the special level indicator tool). All kinds of good feelings are positive indicators (positive special indicators, the content of which is: something is good for your existence, please continue to pursue and obtain), and the feeling of love is the highest realm of positive indicators, so we should be full of love for everything.
Animal Love
Don't just say that people have feelings, so do animals. Researchers have found that many animals have the same personality and feelings as humans. For example, whales are "intimate" with their lovers when courting, orangutans love "one-night stands" and hate the old, while ugly crows are loyal couples. They only have one sexual partner in their lives.
American biologist Baker Gao said that the "Big Mac" right whale living in Beiyang District is believed to be the "big lover" among animals. They observed that right whales as far away as 17 km would rub and make out with each other for three minutes before mating, and then they would all go to Wushan to have sex together. The ugly crow is faithful to love and will not be unfaithful to love.
However, orangutans closely related to humans are just the opposite. They have a common problem of human beings in love-playboy. Beckgao said that male orangutans don't seem to like making any love promises to the opposite sex. They will change their mind immediately after they "succeed" once and find a new lover, and will not woo or have sex with the same orangutan again. Besides, orangutans used to know how to be embarrassed. They will hide and be unhappy when they miss the climb.
Professor batson of Cambridge University also pointed out that although we can't get into the brains of animals, we can believe that there is not much difference between human beings and animals in their feelings of pain from their behaviors.
The key to producing and maintaining love is to cherish it.
The process of love: 1. The gradual transition from friendship, affection and other feelings to love II. You had me at hello.
Because if you cherish a person, no matter how much that person doesn't understand you, how much he doesn't trust you, and how much he or she does wrong, you can forgive him or her.
When a person doesn't understand, trust or respect you, it doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't love you.
But when you never cherish each other, then you never love each other.
At the same time, maintaining love also requires close contact between the two sides. Long-distance love is unrealistic and difficult to maintain. Although modern communication technology has greatly expanded the way to keep in touch with the rest of the world. Technologies include mobile phones, e-mail, instant messaging software and video conferencing, so some people think that long distance has little effect on the feelings of both parties. But long-distance love can never have intimate contact, and it is difficult to observe each other's movements. People with insufficient concentration are easily attracted by third parties, betray their partners and lead to breakup. There are also couples who divorce because of long-term separation, which leads to one or both of them cheating. Even if there is no third party, couples may be weakened by gathering less and leaving more. Different living environments between the two parties may also increase differences and conflicts in getting along, leading to breakup or divorce.
Case:
1. When a loving couple doesn't understand each other in some things, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. After all, it is difficult to know a person.
When a husband doesn't trust his wife in something, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love her. After all, if the other person is doing a stupid thing and you still trust her, it is equivalent to pushing the person in the opposite direction into a fire pit, and the final result is very tragic.
3. When a couple have a little conflict and start quarreling, they naturally don't respect each other so much; But this doesn't mean that they don't love each other, because many quarrels are just temporary anger, or because they love each other too much, they are jealous and start quarreling.
When you no longer cherish each other, ask yourself if you love each other, and you will find that you have no feeling of love. After all, love is worrying. If you don't cherish each other, how can you miss each other?
Reasoning:
1. To make the other person fall in love with you, you should not only have some aesthetic feeling, but also make him/her feel that he/she wants to cherish you; First of all, you should "touch" the other person, then attract the other person's "attention", and finally make the other person feel that you are special, such as being particularly kind to him/her, trusting you, being particularly honest, being particularly considerate, taking special care of you, being particularly suitable and so on. Then the other person will naturally have some feelings of cherishing you, and then find more aesthetic feelings for you, produce love and maintain love.
2. When there are contradictions in love, and the other person doesn't understand you, trust you or respect you, you can keep a "cherish" attitude to tide over the difficulties of love.
If you don't cherish him/her in your heart, it means that you don't love each other anymore. At this time, you can find something worth cherishing, continue this love, or give up this love under various considerations.
The logic of complete civilization: any "event" is a "guide" (the event that leads to existence). If we want to test the "importance" of each "derivation element", we can judge the function and position of each "derivation element" by comparing it before and after with "whether there is any experiment in derivation element". Finally, I found that the most important thing in love is to cherish.
Impulsive love
Impulsive love is also called romantic love. Being directly and strongly attracted by each other's body, always thinking about each other, always trying to be with each other as much as possible, and often evaluating each other objectively. The conditions are as follows: a certain cultural background provides an individual with a real or fictional model of loving each other; Have a love object; Have your own emotional stimulation, and understand that this emotion is caused by the object of love. Researchers have different views on whether this kind of love can last.
Self-centered love
Self-centered love. The individual who loves does not want to be bound by the object of love, nor does he want the object of love to be bound by himself. He regards love as a series of challenges, solving problems to avoid the burden of commitment.
Rely on love
By love. People who have this kind of love often show anxiety, sleepless nights and strong jealousy, and the ending is mostly tragedy.
Actual love
Actual love. Lovers look for lovers who match each other in personality, religious beliefs, interests, background and other conditions, hoping that once they find the right lover, their feelings can be further developed. This form of love is more common in marriages arranged by parents.
Companion love
Love in the company. Different from impulsive love or dependence on love, the two sides are friends at first, have the same hobbies, work together and gradually develop into love. The two parties who have this kind of love relationship may still be friends even if they break up later.
Selfless love
Selfless love. In other words, the happiness of the loved one is more important than your own happiness, and selflessly consider the happiness of the loved one.
Platonic love
Platonic love, named after Plato, a western philosopher, is a kind of spiritual love between the opposite sex, which pursues spiritual communication and rejects sensuality. It was first put forward by Marsilio Ficino in15th century. As a synonym of Socrates' love, it is used to refer to the love relationship between Socrates and students.
Plato wrote in Drinking and Dollas that when the mind abandons the body and yearns for the truth, then the thought is the best. When the soul is infected by the sins of the body, people's desire for truth will not be satisfied. When human beings have no strong demand for sensuality, their mood is peaceful. Carnal desire is the expression of animal nature in human nature, and it is also the nature of every creature. People are so-called higher animals because human nature is stronger than animal nature, and spiritual communication is beautiful and moral.
Platonic love has the following meanings:
Ideal view of love (metaphor is extremely romantic or impossible to achieve)
Pure spiritual love, not physical love.
Love concept of equality between men and women
There is only one person in this world, and she (he) is perfect for you, only for you (you). In other words, everyone has his perfect partner, and there is only one.
The first meaning is the most commonly used, but it is actually a misunderstanding. But since everyone uses it this way, it's another meaning. This misunderstanding comes from Plato's masterpiece The Republic. This book discusses how to build an ideal country, because it may be too idealistic to be realized, so some people use it to explain what Platonic love is.
The second meaning is often used, but it is basically a misunderstanding. This misunderstanding comes from Plato's metaphysics. He thinks that what we think is true, and the "real world" we see is not true.
The third and fourth meanings are really Plato's view of love or gender.
Plato believes that people are in the most real conceptual world before and after death, where everyone is a complete man and woman, and in this world we are all divided into two. So people always feel that if they lose something, they will try to find their own "other half" (this word also comes from Plato's theory). Plato also used this to explain why people have "relationships".
In his theory, no half is more important, so men and women are equal. Moreover, your original half in the conceptual world is your perfect object. He (she) is somewhere in the world and is looking for you.
Gothic love
Gothic novels are characterized by stories that often take place in distant years and places, characters are imprisoned in narrow spaces and haunted buildings, and suspense and love are intertwined. The usual suspense means are mysterious inheritance rights, secret life experiences, lost wills, family secrets, ancestral curses and so on. Finally, the suspense was solved, the gangster was exposed, and the love barrier between the hero and heroine was removed. However, this kind of love is different from the love in romance novels. The difference between them is that Gothic novels usually describe mysterious adventure stories, and their love obstacles often come from gangs; Romance novels describe ordinary family chores, and their love obstacles often come from the hero and heroine themselves.
Branch of love psychology
In today's life, pure love is as impossible as pure gold, but whether it is a student who has not been deeply involved in the world or a person who has entered the age of no doubt, there is always fantasy and yearning for ideal love in his heart.
Like style
Love, only intimacy, without passion and commitment, such as friendship.
be infatuated with
Love, only passion, without intimacy and commitment, such as first love.
Cavity type
Love, only commitment, lacks intimacy and passion, such as love purely for marriage.
Romantic style
Love, only passion and intimacy, without commitment, this kind of "love" advocates the process and doesn't care about the result.
friendship
Love, only intimacy and commitment, no passion. This refers to a stable marriage with only rights and obligations and no feelings.
Stupid style
Love, only passion and commitment, no intimacy. Passion without intimacy is a physical impulse at best, and commitment without intimacy is just a blank check.
Perfect style
Love includes passion, commitment and intimacy. Only in this type can we see the true face of love.
There are four differences between love and liking:
Love has more fantasies; Like is not aroused by others' fantasy, but by others' realistic evaluation; Love is not as fanatical, intense and urgent as love, but always stable, quiet and objective.
② Love is associated with many conflicting emotions; Liking is a simple emotional experience.
③ Love is often related to sexual desire; And like does not involve this demand.
Love has exclusivity and exclusivity, while love does not.
Some social psychologists have designed love scale and liking scale to measure the degree of love and liking between individuals.
Some items in the Love Scale are:
If I can't be with him (her) forever, I will feel distressed;
I will forgive him or her anything;
I think I will believe everything about him (her).
Some items I like about scales are:
I think he (she) is easy to get along with;
② After getting to know each other, most people have a good reaction to him or her;
He (she) is the kind of person I want to be.
Using these two scales, we can not only roughly reflect whether the attraction between individuals belongs to liking or liking, but also reflect the degree of liking and liking.
The concrete difference between love and liking.
There is an emotion in the world called "like" and the other is called "love".
Love is when he is around, he is the only one in his eyes; Everything has his shadow when he is away.
I like reading in the middle of the night and suddenly think of him. I imagine what he is doing now, and I feel a faint warmth in my heart, but I never take the initiative to call him. After a few minutes, the attention was attracted by the plot in the book again!
Love is in a lonely night, when thoughts pour in, but you can't finish reading the books in your hand, thinking about whether he is still working overtime, whether he has had dinner, and whether he is thinking about himself like he is.
Love is arguing with him and sticking to him like a hedgehog, but in my heart I have secretly admired his insight and talent.
Love wants him to keep pace with himself and connect with his heart. A joke he accidentally said can make him depressed and even burst into tears in an instant. In front of him, he is never defenseless.
I like to send him short messages when I go out, telling him that the weather here is fine, then turning off my cell phone, playing alone in a strange place for a week, and suddenly appearing in front of him to scare him after being tanned.
Love is wanting to be with him wherever you go. You can call him at the seaside and let him listen to the sound of the waves; You can also stay where you are for a long time because you see a figure exactly like him on the street in a foreign land.
Love is that he simply said "bon voyage" before going on a business trip. Looking at the back of his departure, he felt a little reluctant, but he didn't say anything, just silently waiting for the news of his return.
Love is telling him before going on a business trip, stuffing clothes and food into his backpack and not leaving until the train arrives at the station. And in the days after he left, he was uneasy every day, praying over and over again that he could return safely.
Love is when you are hurt, you don't want him to see your fragile side, quietly wipe away your tears in front of him, and turn your head and still look happy and strong.
Love is lying on his chest crying when he is wronged, telling him all his troubles without hiding his indifference, eager to get comfort from his arms.
I like to eat KFC with him when he is tired of shopping on weekends. Is to grab a cup of hot coffee with him in the cold winter; Is to walk side by side with him in the street, always separated by half a meter; I played games with him in front of the computer, and they laughed like children.
Love is cooking a few good dishes for half a day at the weekend and watching him eat contentedly; It is in the cold winter that the water is continuously heated for his coffee cup; Is to walk with him in the street and let him hold his hand tightly; I sat quietly beside him and watched him concentrate on his work in front of the computer happily.
What I like is to listen to his funny stories when I was a child, and then laugh, which makes me feel inexplicably moved.
Love is listening to him tell interesting stories about his childhood, and then smiling, showing more pity for this once naughty man.
I like to meet him in the corridor, greet him happily, and then exchange a few simple greetings. When I passed by, I saw the bright sunshine outside the window, and my mood was inexplicably better.
Love is seeing him in the corridor, pretending not to care about his face, but feeling the trembling air around you carefully when passing by, so I can't help looking back.
I like to see him walking hand in hand with another girl. My heart hurts a little, but I will soon raise my smiling face again in Chaoyang.
Love is a game that you can't afford to lose. After giving everything, all you may leave is a scar engraved in your heart.
If you like a person, you want him to be your own, so you can like many people and hope many people are your own.
Love is obviously inseparable from him, but I want to give him up, because he wants happiness, maybe I can't give it. Dare not possess him, I hope to see him find happiness, even if that happiness is not shared with me.
I like it. When I am lonely, bored or sad, I hope I can talk to someone.
Love is that you want to share with him at any time, and even want to give him all the happiness when you are happy.
I like to hear from him when I haven't contacted him for a long time, and then listen to him with a smile.
Love is to call him in a hurry after a few days of no contact, and then hold back tears and smile.
Yes, only when we are together will we think of each other.
Love, even when we are together, misses him every second.
If you like someone, most of your friends will feel happy.
To love one person is to have one more person, and everyone can enjoy the world of two people.
It is sweet to like someone. Love a person, is bitter or sweet.
If you like someone, you will be very happy when you are together.
Love a person, when you are not together, you will be inexplicably lost.
If you like someone, you won't think about the future.
If you love someone, you often look forward to tomorrow together.
If you like someone, you will always be happy together.
If you love someone, you will often cry.
Like a person, when I haven't seen him for a long time, I will suddenly think of him.
Love someone, when you haven't seen him for a long time, you will think of him every day.
If you like someone, you will smile when you think of him.
If you love someone, you will stare blankly at the sky when you miss him.
If you like someone, you will think that if he has children, you will like them.
Love someone, and one day, you will suddenly wonder: what will our children look like in the future?
To like someone is to hope everyone is happy.
Love a person and hope he is happier.
If you like someone, all you want is today.
Love a person, what you expect is forever.
To like a person is to look at his merits.
To love someone is to tolerate his shortcomings.
When you stand in front of the person you love, your heart will beat faster.
But when you stand in front of the person you like, you will only feel happy.
When you meet someone you love, you will be shy.
But when you stare at the person you like, you only smile.
When you talk to someone you love, you will feel embarrassed.
But if you talk to someone you like, you can speak freely.
When the person you love cries, you will cry with her.
But when the person you like cries, you will comfort her skillfully.
When you don't want to love someone anymore, you should close your eyes and hold back your tears.
When you don't want to like someone anymore, you just have to cover your ears!
Like is a kind of mood.
Love is an emotion.
Like, it is an intuition.
Love is a feeling.
You can stop if you want.
Love is endless.
It's natural to like someone.
Love a person, especially calm.
Like a person, sometimes I wish I could be with him.
Love a person, sometimes afraid to be with him.
Like someone and argue with him constantly.
Love a person and always pay for him.
Like a person, I hope he can find himself at any time
Love someone and hope to find him at any time.
Like a person, always smile for him.
Love a person and always cry for him.
Love is persistence.
Love is worth it
Like is like, very simple.
Love is love. It's complicated
I like you, but I don't necessarily love you
If I love you, I must like you very much.
In fact, like and love are only one step away.
But I want to take this step.
It depends on you.
I like to take this step
Still love to take this step
Like is light love, love is deep love,
Love is a kind of dependence, a kind of responsibility, and a kind of mutual snuggling.
Love is a faint, inexplicable affection, a sudden impulse, and an idea that flashed through my mind. Love is a kind of thread buried in the heart, which can't be replaced by any love. It is a kind of strength!
If you like someone, you don't have to love him. But the premise of loving someone is to like him.
Love can easily be transformed into love, but it is difficult to say it after love, because love is inclusive; Love is selfish.
Like is a relaxed and indifferent state of mind. But love is too heavy.
When love is spoken, it becomes an oath and a promise. "Hold your hand and grow old with your son", but how many ups and downs do just eight words contain!
There is no mausoleum in the mountains, the sea is dry and the rocks are rotten, and the winter thunder thunders, but I dare to say goodbye to you! This is love.
Love is a double-edged sword. If you pull it out, you will hurt others and yourself if you are not careful.
"Once the sea was difficult for water, it was always amber." People who have been hurt by love always have an unhealed wound in their hearts.
On a moonlit night, you miss him/her in the distance. If there is only a faint joy and warmth in my heart, it is love.
If there is still a dull pain, it is love.
On the same theme, someone replied, "Like is light love, and love is deep love." -
There is no limit to the number of people you like, and there can be many at the same time, but love is different ... love ... and you can only love one, and you will be dead set on love.
Just like swinging, one can enjoy it to the fullest.
Love is a seesaw, and two people must be together to enjoy sweetness and happiness.
Have you found anyone to play on the seesaw with?