I have such parents around me, and I think it is for the good of my children. They usually supervise whether the children listen carefully, whether the course assignments are completed, and how the results are; After class, we should ask a special tutor to guide the children. When children don't want to play seriously, they will take it seriously. As soon as the children have a holiday, they will sign up for this class and that class, hoping that the children will become all-rounders and omnipotent.
But you should put yourself in others' shoes. Did you feel the same way when you were a child? Is the life you long for full of homework and training? Playing is a child's nature and cannot be stifled. Parents surnamed Liu. Their child has just turned ten this year. He is the only child in the family. So he is basically a master who is afraid of falling into his hands and melting into his mouth, but he always tries his best to learn from his children.
Give your child a piano class first, because playing the piano is more temperament; Later, I enrolled my children in an Olympic math class, but I still wanted to learn math and physics well and travel around the world without fear. But my children don't like the Olympic math class, so it's barely enough to take piano lessons. For a ten-year-old child, the Olympic math class may be a bit too difficult. What's more, interest is the best teacher, and children are not interested in these things and even have a little resistance.
Is this really good for children's growth? It is understandable that a math professor in Tsinghua can't do his daughter's math problem. After all, education in China is like this. Many Olympic math problems can only be done when studying. Who will care in a few years? Is it to improve your grades or to take shortcuts for further study?
For 10-year-old Liu Tongxue, perhaps he is more eager to run on the football field with his friends than to sit in the classroom and do profound Olympic math problems. He didn't understand why his parents did this, but he knew that his resistance was useless. After all, every time he gives his parents a little advice, all he gets is his mother's sadness and his father's "son, I am doing it for you!" " He thinks it's useless to talk more. He can only hope that his grandparents can show up and someone can help him say something so that he can have a little time to play.
Personally, I think this is a kind of sadness of family education in China. Many educational methods make children lose their happy childhood and live in the design of their parents, but they have no autonomy and do things according to their parents' standards. Children are the crystallization of parents' love, but children also have children's ideas and choices, which are not our accessories, and should not be our replicas. We have hope for them, but we should also consider how to make children realize their dreams and their parents' dreams better.