First, the storm of dropping out of school
1, case background
Zhao, who is stubborn, has his own opinions on the problem and seems to be more mature and profound than the average student. However, in the process of the initial formation of junior high school outlook on life, it came into contact with the dark side of society and was negatively influenced by Han Han's novels, which gradually bred dissatisfaction with life, society, especially the current education system, thinking that it stifled talents with individuality. Since entering senior high school, his thoughts have become more and more extreme due to the aggravation of his study tasks and unsatisfactory grades. In his eyes, repeated education and guidance from teachers and parents distorted his personality and even intensified his opposition with schools, teachers and parents. He seems to attend classes, likes doing homework and is often late. In the second semester of Senior Two, I dropped out of school voluntarily.
2. Case flow
After entering the second year of high school, Zhao has been unstable and paranoid. Teachers and parents have joined hands many times and worked patiently, but with little effect. Shortly after the start of school this year, he became more depressed, anxious and irritable. Later, I wrote in a letter to the headmaster: "Slowly, this feeling became more and more intense, so that all the responsibilities were pushed to the school, teachers and parents, and I felt that I was just a victim. I can't listen to a word in class; After class, I chatted with my classmates and had fun as before, but the purpose was different at this time. At this time, playing with my classmates during recess has become my main motivation for going to school. " In this way, the days of being in a daze have been mixed until March 25.
Hardly had he left home this morning when his bike had a flat tire. Zhao thought: it doesn't matter if you are late anyway. Just fix the car. He entered the classroom late, and the teacher didn't say anything, but he sat in the classroom and felt that it was meaningless to stay any longer, so he left the school after class and told the class teacher.
The class teacher immediately told his father about the situation. The next day, his father dragged him to school and asked him to continue his studies. But he refused to live or die, and his attitude and words were fierce. He made a scene with his father in the office and almost started working. When his father said angrily, "I want to break off the father-son relationship," he even said, "If you break it, you will break it. I remember all the money you gave me, and I will definitely pay you back later! " The director of political and religious affairs immediately retorted: "The economic account is not counted for the time being. Do you still have to pay attention to your parents' feelings of raising you for more than ten years? " Without saying anything, Zhao still insisted on dropping out of school, saying that he would go to work to earn money, and turned around and left.
Agreeing to let him drop out of school saved the school and teachers a lot of trouble. This is the opinion of some teachers, but this is not the purpose of our education. Based on the belief of not giving up a student, the Political and Educational Affairs Office will discuss countermeasures with teachers and parents and decide: first, temporarily meet his requirements and let him find a job by himself; Second, parents told relatives and friends that if Zhao went to them to find a job, he would be asked to take out his high school diploma; Third, don't force him during this period, give him time and space to think and do it by himself.
Two weeks later, the students reported that Zhao had returned to school, but he didn't come to the teacher. He just sat in the guard room and chatted. We can't find him either. He did it every day that week. In the fourth week, accompanied by his father, he finally walked into the office with his schoolbag on his back and asked to resume school. We are very happy, but considering that his situation didn't come into being overnight, we wanted to see how determined and persistent he was to return to school, so we told him seriously that the school didn't let him in and out casually, and he couldn't leave if he wanted to. If he truly repents, give him another chance-spend a week reflecting deeply and writing an ideological understanding; Make up the homework of various subjects since the beginning of school and hand it over to the teacher. Only when all the teachers have approved it can you enter the classroom. The fifth week, he returned to the familiar classroom.
What exactly changed him? In his ideological understanding, we saw his inner shock: "I have no regrets after dropping out of school." Of course, my parents won't let me do nothing at home. I think I'd better have a job that suits me financially. I went out to look for it the next day, but the basic threshold for a high-paying job is to graduate from high school, otherwise I can only do coolies. After a few days, I found nothing. I got sick and came out. It's been a week. On this day, I went shopping and felt a little strange. I looked at the pedestrians around me and found it was Thursday. No wonder there are no students on the road. When she bought something to pay for, the proprietress suddenly asked,' Are you a student? Why don't you go to class?' I couldn't answer for a moment, so I made up a lie:' I have something to do today.' No wonder there are students who don't go to school.' Afraid to stay long, I packed my things and left. "
These experiences touched him greatly, and his thoughts were no longer calm, and a trace of regret rose in his heart. I can't sleep at night, so I sit up and think about what I have done, and gradually realize my mistakes and make up my mind to correct them. "Especially in the past few days of making up homework, the feeling of self-blame has never weakened, but it has increased day by day. While making up homework, I think that my classmates are listening carefully at school, and the teachers are working hard, but they are making mistakes for themselves. More importantly, at the best moment of my life, when I was most suitable for studying, I made such stupid and childish behavior ... So far I have deeply repented, and I have no return to my teachers and parents, only to work hard, study hard and strive for academic performance. "
Although he volunteered to go back to school, we are worried about how long he can persist and whether he will repeat his studies, so we have been paying close attention to it. Sure enough, a week later, some diseases began to recur in class. At this time, the class teacher talked to him in time and sounded the alarm; The teacher often reminds him; The students encouraged him and urged him. Slowly, his heart settled down, his behavior became standardized, his academic performance rose steadily, and he even got the first place in the final exam.
In view of his long absence from class, the school gave him the punishment of staying in school for probation, which he accepted humbly and said that he would work hard, behave well and strive for early cancellation. Taking his case as a typical example, the Department of Political and Educational Affairs gave a vivid ideological education to all students, which had a great response, especially to senior two students.
3. Case reflection
In the information age and open society, schools are no longer closed ivory towers. The influence and education students get from real life may be more direct, vivid and rich than book knowledge and teacher's preaching. Zhao was influenced by too many bad influences in society, which led to the deviation of his life, but it was also the real life that educated and corrected him and brought him back to the normal life track. Therefore, our current school ideological and moral education should build an open activity moral education model based on life and society, learn and apply Mr. Tao Xingzhi's educational thought of "society is school, life is education", face the reality of students' life and society, expand the time and space of education, take life as the center, take activities as the center, build a "big education" pattern of mutual communication and integration inside and outside the school, and enhance the pertinence and effectiveness of moral education work.
Second, the case study of Shi Ming education
Blink of an eye, I have been working for nearly a year, and I feel that I like my students more and more, and my feelings for them are getting deeper and deeper. This change happened unconsciously, and I should also thank these lovely students. Their progress has given me a sense of accomplishment and interest in my work. What impressed me most in this respect was Shi Ming, a child in our class.
Shi Ming used to be a girl who gave me a headache. Her thoughts are rebellious and her clothes are avant-garde. Because of this, she scoffed at the school's regulations on appearance and often violated the school rules. I come to school many times in school uniform, often wearing jewelry and painting my nails. For her performance, I am seriously educated, but the effect is not great. I can see her intentions clearly. On one occasion, my conflict with Shi Ming intensified. That day, she came to school with nail polish. I was so angry that I grabbed her hand and let her go. And her temper is bigger than mine. The feeling at that time was that the child was hopeless. Fortunately, Mr. Gao resolved the contradiction in time, and afterwards I realized that I was not calm enough. Later, it was just Shi Ming and me in the office. At this point, she was in tears. I handed her a towel to wipe her tears, hoping that she would forgive the teacher's impulse. We had a heart-to-heart communication. I told her that a person's clothes will reflect his inner cultivation and upbringing, and the real beauty lies in his inner quality. Maybe she didn't really understand many things, but she felt the teacher's sincerity and concern, and then her grades gradually improved. For a while, she was ill in hospital, and I organized students to visit her. After leaving the hospital, she was very sensible and studied harder than before, especially her appearance. I praised and encouraged her in time for her transformation. For me, she is obviously much closer, and Zhou Ji has become a good way for me to communicate with her. However, due to her poor learning foundation, her progress in learning is not obvious. But after all, she is making progress, which is what makes me feel gratified.
Through this incident, I realized the importance of working methods. They are eager for the respect and care of their teachers. Eager for the teacher's understanding and recognition. Only on the premise of respect, always pay attention to them and encourage them, and they will make you feel the joy of success. What I want to tell them is: lovely classmates, I really love you!
Third, the comfort of small changes-Jiang Zhenkun's case
"This semester, I must not be as perfunctory as last semester. I must study hard and explain to my teachers and parents. " At the beginning of the new semester, I read this passage from Jiang Zhenkun's diary. Perhaps, if I changed my classmates, I wouldn't be so surprised and happy, but compared with the boy who didn't like learning at first, was too self-centered and stubborn to eat anything, and the teacher criticized or even talked back to you or started work, what a gratifying change it would be.
Jiang Zhenkun is a student who moved from the district to Fengzhuang. Compared with the average only child, he gets more doting from his parents, especially his grandparents. The pampering of his family has formed his stubborn temper and bad habit of not losing things. Entering middle school belongs to the middle and lower reaches, and the brain is flexible, but it doesn't like learning, and not only learning, but also lazy in class activities. But through careful observation at ordinary times, I found that he actually needs the attention and affirmation of teachers because of his strong appearance.
Last semester's math class adopted a hierarchical system. Although he doesn't like studying, with his cleverness, he was temporarily ahead when he was assigned to Class B, but if this continues, his grades will get worse and worse. I think it will be more difficult to help him build up his confidence in learning at that time. Therefore, I often chat with him, tell him frankly about his potential and my worries, and praise him whenever I have the opportunity. I remember that he got 87 points in a math exam, which was not bad in Class A, not to mention in Class B with weak foundation, and he was in a leading position. I spoke highly of him in class. Ever since I praised him, he hung his head shyly, and I knew it had a great influence on him. Until now, I will still mention it in front of him to inspire him. And while the iron was hot, I made him a math class representative in Class B. As you can imagine, he suddenly won this honor and even worried about whether he could be entrusted with a heavy responsibility. I told him for sure: "Mr. Yao won't see the wrong person." In fact, he did live up to my expectations. Since I became a representative in math class, I have no bad habit of talking nonsense and deserting. Similarly, as a representative of mathematics class, he also has constraints and requirements for the performance of other classes.
Because of Jiang Zhenkun's stubborn temper, he often has such and such contradictions with his classmates in class. Immediately after each incident, it is useless to accuse him that he is not right or wrong, which will even aggravate the contradiction between teachers and students and is not conducive to educating him. In view of his stubborn temper, I gave him a period of calm, and considering his strong self-esteem, I called him to a place where no one was there to start a dialogue with him. I remember once, he had a conflict with the teacher in a class. His attitude at that time was to make great efforts regardless of the surrounding environment. I finally called him to the corridor in front of the office. His expression at that time told me that he didn't feel anything wrong at all, and even took it for granted. He is cocky and doesn't care about anything. I know it is very unfavorable to start talking at this time. After waiting for a long time, I started a conversation with him. After adjusting his collar, I put down my teacher's identity and told him, "Every teacher cares about you. It is impossible to ignore things after they happen. Since it happened, we must find ways to prevent it from happening next time. If you don't want to talk to the teacher now, then treat me as your sister, talk to your sister, talk about your current thoughts, and see if you are impulsive. " I told him politely that his stubbornness was bad for him, and he admitted it. So I told him to stay calm when it happened) ... slowly, he let go of his guard against me. Eyes that ignore everything are full of tears. ...
Educating such students will not be effective in a short time. Although, he still has many shortcomings, he will be irritable, he will not tolerate his own losses, and he will do something that disappoints me. But from his composition, I am worried about the dribs and drabs of memories I have paid on him. I'm sure he is more considerate, sensible and calm than before. I can't get him better right away. All I have to do is make him change slowly and imperceptibly. No matter how young he is, he deserves to be happy.
Fourth, being played truant by an underachiever.
By chance, the author met a primary school student who was surfing the Internet in an Internet cafe. It's almost two o'clock in class, and he is still stubbornly sitting in front of the computer and has no intention of going to school. I stepped forward and urged him to say, "Why don't you go to school?" He looked at me and said, "class starts at one o'clock, so I won't go." "How can you not go?" I am worried about him in my heart. "The teacher won't criticize you if you go now." When he heard this, his neck froze and he shouted at me, "It's even worse to go now. If you are late for class, you will be deducted, and the class teacher will punish me for a dollar. " I paused, and then coaxed him to say; "You are a good boy, and the teacher will forgive you this time." Who knows, he is even more angry this time. He mumbled, "The teacher hates me because once I lost something in class, and the teacher said I stole it. I obviously didn't steal it, but the teacher didn't listen to me, and the teacher looked down on me ... "Before the words were finished, he sobbed loudly, tears welled up in his eyes ... Looking at the way he sobbed, I didn't know what to say.
A naive heart has been hurt, which is a kind of psychological trauma and a psychological shadow that will never go away. We can't imagine how much psychological pressure it will bring to children's growth, perhaps far exceeding the blow brought by the failure or frustration of one or two exams. what can I say? Apart from feeling sorry for the children's misfortune and indignant at the simple and rude behavior of the class teacher, I really feel how important it is to have a sincere love for the students as a class teacher.
The head teacher is facing the newly growing individual. Any excessive accusation and unintentional discrimination will bring psychological shadow to the growth of students. Especially for some underachievers with poor academic performance and lax behavior, the class teacher should care for them and not abandon, discriminate or alienate them. When dealing with class affairs, we should be cautious in the face of underachievers, and we should not simply and rudely reprimand and accuse them, nor should we "draw a conclusion" prematurely. We should be frank and convincing, make friends with them, have heart-to-heart talks, eliminate the barriers in their hearts, let students open their hearts to their teachers, accept their criticism and education wholeheartedly, and consciously change themselves. If the teacher in the case can be more caring, less critical, more understanding and less rude, then the student will be treated differently, and he will definitely not be in bring disgrace to oneself in the Internet cafe. We must not trample on students' personality and self-esteem just because they are naive and ignorant.
Love is a bridge to students' hearts; It is the key to open students' hearts; It is a candle to light up students' future. Let's create a selfless and sincere love atmosphere, so that the new generation of the motherland can thrive in warm and happy love.