First, parents should be calm and help their children to analyze rationally. Whether parents hear the teacher's fault from their children or from the teacher's mouth, the most taboo thing is to listen, thus losing the best opportunity to educate their children. Parents should first let their children reflect on whether their words and deeds are appropriate. Parents can let their children compare their classmates' performance with their own, so that children can naturally know why they are treated unfairly. Treating children's "complaints" in this way will help children find their own reasons and help eliminate their dissatisfaction with teachers. A parent received a call from the head teacher complaining that her child not only didn't clean, but also talked back to the teacher. Parents didn't blame their children immediately, but listened patiently to their explanations. "It's not that I don't want to tidy up. Obviously, I do. Some students are immoral and deliberately put garbage in the health area. The class teacher said that because we didn't clean up, we were detained, so that the class couldn't evaluate the advanced mobile red flag, and we had to be punished for working for a week. I can't swallow this tone! " Parents feel that what the child said is also reasonable, but they did not immediately stand on the side of the child and accuse the teacher. The parent reached out and touched his son's forehead and said with understanding and tolerance: "The teacher's work is very hard, and now the social pressure is great. You see, a family can't manage a child well. She has to take care of dozens of children. How can she be perfect? Be tolerant. You are now in a rebellious period, adults think you are a child, and you think you have grown up. I believe what you said is true. Can you take a step back and take cleaning as a kind of leisure, a job to rest your brain? If not, can you find a teacher in a good mood to tentatively explain to her and treat the teacher as your parents with polite tone and expression? As a parent, I sometimes criticize your mistakes. Do you hate me too? You should understand and respect the teacher and treat the teacher with a normal heart ... "The child finally nodded thoughtfully. Second, parents can tell some white lies in front of teachers and children. There is a story about his son's experience from kindergarten to being admitted to a famous university. At the first parent-teacher meeting, the kindergarten teacher blamed his son for ADHD and couldn't sit for three minutes. When the son asked his mother what the teacher said, her nose was sour and she almost cried, but she still pretended to smile and told her son, "The teacher praised you and said that the baby can't sit on the bench for one minute, but now she can sit for three minutes." Other parents envy their mother because only the baby has improved in the class. "The second parent-teacher conference, my son got the penultimate math exam. The teacher suspected that he was mentally retarded and asked his mother to take him to the hospital for examination. On the way home, my mother shed tears. But in the face of her frightened son, she pulled herself together and said, "The teacher is full of confidence in you. Say you're not a stupid kid. As long as you put your heart into it, you will surpass your deskmate. "The third parent-teacher meeting was after my son went to junior high school. The teacher said to his mother, "according to your son's current grades, it is a bit dangerous to enter a key middle school." Facing her son, the mother smiled and said, "The head teacher is very satisfied with you. He said that as long as you work hard, you will hopefully be admitted to a key middle school. "As a result, my son was admitted not only to key middle schools, but also to Tsinghua. In this story, every parent-teacher meeting, the mother was accused and criticized by the teacher for her son, but she didn't blame the child for half a sentence. She never lost confidence in her son, never looked down on her children and told white lies to them. Imagine if this is our child. After listening to the teacher's evaluation of him, we may feel embarrassed. When we go home, we may lose our temper with the child and even hit him. Children's conditions will only get worse and worse, let alone get into famous universities. Similarly, parents can tell some white lies in front of the teacher, and of course, no children can be present. For example, "although my son pretends not to like you on the surface, he actually praises you for your good performance in class at home." He also told us that you are serious and responsible for your work. "I believe that the teacher's aversion to children will be reduced a little, and she will try to look at your children with appreciation. Of course, when telling white lies, we should also grasp this degree according to the actual situation of children and teachers. We shouldn't tell an irresponsible teacher that your son is at home and you are in charge. This requires parents to truly understand children and teachers. When a child complains about the teacher in front of his parents, never blame the teacher in front of the child, which will only make the child more dissatisfied with the teacher. Parents should build a bridge between children and teachers, even if it is a white lie. Let teachers and children know each other better through this bridge, and then achieve mutual recognition, let teachers and students live in harmony, and let children grow up healthily!