Many times, we understand and judge children's behavior from the perspective of adults and impose what we think is "correct" education. However, we seldom think in reverse, what kind of impression these educational behaviors have left in children's hearts and what kind of influence they have had. A child's mind is sensitive and fragile. From the perspective of children, the author of this book lists real educational cases and phenomena, and analyzes the influence of adults' casual behavior on children's later study life, family life and social life in detail, thus telling us what correct educational concepts and behaviors should be followed to avoid unintentional harm to children and let them grow up healthily and happily. After reading this book, people feel sobered. It turns out that in teachers' daily educational activities, those details that people don't pay attention to, such as a light touch, a short conversation and a routine seat adjustment, hide so much knowledge.
There are thousands of people. The following are some teaching inspirations extracted from my reading process, which are extracted from five aspects: communication with students, class management, educational philosophy, classroom teaching and campus culture, and applied to my education and teaching practice.
First, how to talk with students?
1, the art of using language to communicate well
Because of the differences in teachers' and students' understanding and life experience, and the asymmetry of information between the two sides, there is often a lack of communication between teachers and students. Therefore, we should lead a contradictory problem to a unified understanding, so that students can join us in * * *. When communicating with students, we need to change our thinking and think from the perspective of students: only by finding a starting point for communication, putting ourselves on the same front, on the same level and on the same frequency can we find the same point and achieve the results we want.
The book quoted a case story of a teacher who handled the hair dyeing of female students. In the communication, the teacher did not correctly criticize the students' hair dyeing behavior, but based on the characteristics of female students of this age who love beauty, they are "more beautiful" than students. Guide them to dye their hair when they are old, but when they are young, dyeing their hair will look old-fashioned and cover up their youth, vitality and cultural atmosphere. Only in this way can students understand what "real beauty" is.
If you have a valuable judgment, be careful when you say it.
Words come from the heart, and some words with value judgment will inevitably arouse our hidden thoughts and feelings. They have a great influence on children's immature hearts, which we can't imagine. When we speak, we can't be spontaneous, because it quietly affects children's way of thinking, upbringing and spiritual development. In addition, because children can't live in a vacuum without any problems, if they have valuable judgments, they should be measured when they say them.
The responsibility of adults is to help children grow up in the process of solving problems, that is, to gradually construct their own value judgments. Therefore, at any time, adults should play an active guiding role.
◆ Extension-be a living model
A good example plays a subtle and positive role in a person, often not for a while, but for a lifetime. A look, a gesture, a word, and even the way we treat people in front of children may become living examples, which means unexpected educational significance.
3. Avoid saying "the language of self-slavery" in front of children.
In daily life, some words called "the language of self-slavery" naked show the infatuation with power and the official standard thought of actively moving closer to power. Many adults speak these "self-enslaved languages" in front of their children. Not only are they used to it, but they don't blush at all. They regard it as an ideological resource for educating children. This will give them the idea of lust for power and privilege, and divide people into three grades, high and low.
4. When you are emotional, if you can't spit out the lotus flower, you choose to close your mouth and hide your tongue.
In the process of teacher-student interaction, a teacher's casual negative remarks are likely to become a stimulus for students' pain. This is the problem of language violence that everyone is generally concerned about now. Teachers' verbal violence often occurs when their emotions are out of control. Emotional outbursts last only a few seconds, but if you say it instantly, it may take hundreds of minutes, hundreds of hours, or even a lifetime to make up for it. Specific operation: when you want to get angry, calm down for 3 minutes, then say nothing and do nothing.
Second, the educational concept.
1, a fundamental-love is like a child.
Education is maternal, and teachers should love life as much as children. Education is an "art of love" (in Fromm). Schools have never been just a cold place to impart knowledge. Teachers' work is not only intellectual work, but also emotional work. Therefore, Suhomlinski often "instills" this idea into teachers: "You are not teaching physics, but teaching people physics." As a teacher, we should have love and methods. We should make love educational and professional, and make students feel like spring breeze. We should have the concept of equality-treat every student with respect and friendliness, just like our friends.
Teachers' speeches to students often lead to unexpected negative results. Some teachers usually call themselves "their own" in class (such as their own children, children of relatives and friends, or favorite classmates), and they habitually use nicknames or first names, which are full of feelings, while other students in the class often use surnames, and the emotional distance is obvious there. The speaker is unintentional and the listener is intentional. A small title is likely to become a signal that the relationship between teachers and students is becoming increasingly alienated. Nowadays, teachers often treat the children of some powerful parents differently: for example, the report card is issued early, the reward is tilted towards such students, and the punishment is biased, without discrimination. "Education should face modernization", but where is our modern consciousness and concept of equality? "
3, change the inherent concept-don't manage wisdom, be emotional.
When educating children, we often use the experience of experienced people to educate children to avoid detours. Many things that we think are good are not necessarily. Even if it is really a good thing, it is not accepted, and there may be subtle and complicated factors behind it. The first thing we have to reflect on is whether there is a problem with the way we deliver it. The best way to change a person's point of view is not to reason with him in a hurry, but, on the other hand, to move him emotionally and let his thoughts loosen unconsciously. As Mencius said, "people have the same heart and the same thoughts."
In the book, Chen's father forced him to recite Tang poems. Chen is often punched and kicked by his father because he can't recite them. In this case, he still can't recite them. Later, after his grandmother told the story of Northeast Bear, his father slowly changed his inherent concept.
Third, class management.
1, parent group management-standardization and artistry
At present, the popular parents' QQ group or WeChat group should at least strengthen the management of the following two aspects: First, standardize management, that is, no matter what conflicts or contradictions occur between teachers and parents, they are not allowed to complain or even "explode" in QQ group or WeChat group when their emotions are out of control; The second is art management, which guides teachers to have appreciative communication in parents' QQ group or WeChat group. For example, once the class teacher finds the teacher's bright spot, it will be posted to the parents' QQ group or WeChat group in time. You can also let the Chinese teacher "boast" the math teacher in the group. After a while, you can also let the math teacher "praise" the English teacher. Of course, the "boast" here should be true and specific.
2. Make good use of the advantages that students like to adjust their seats
Going to a "strange" seat every week is in line with the psychological mechanism of growing children chasing "new". More importantly, this "new" seat virtually constitutes a moderate stimulus, which coincides with people's flaunting instinct and can stimulate people's potential positive energy.
3. Watching education from night.
Cultivate children's awareness of respecting rules from an early age, and learn to enjoy the freedom of learning, making friends and playing on the premise of accepting and abiding by rules.
Fourth, classroom teaching.
1, teaching methods-let students learn through practice
In the lower grades of primary school, you can put a note next to the classroom wall clock and write the word "bell" so that students can read with something, deepen their impression and have a preliminary understanding of time.
2. Grasp the rhythm of education-let the traces of teaching stay in students' hearts forever.
Everyone has an internal rhythm of life, that is, his physical and mental state presents periodic changes according to certain laws. When this change is consistent with the rhythm of the outside world, the beauty of life will be everywhere. On the contrary, life will be in a state of disorder, tension and even madness. Carefully preparing a "quasi-open class" will definitely attract students and leave them with a beautiful and profound memory. Even if other classes are boring and there are even a lot of boring exercises in this period, students will still think that this is a good teacher, so they are willing to learn. In this way, students' grades will not be in a mess.
Sometimes, when I want to salvage the good times of primary school education from the ocean of memories, I suddenly find that I almost forgot the scene of the teacher giving a lecture in class, but I still remember that Chinese class or math class turned into cheers when physical education class or self-study class for some reason.
Think about it carefully, a good education is based on the rhythm corresponding to the harmonious development of each student's body and mind.
Verb (abbreviation of verb) campus culture
School spirit is an unspeakable taste, and a person's taste is cultivated for a long time. Sometimes, the taste of a school may be embedded in students' lifelong memories. The so-called style is a set of values hidden behind the behavior of teachers and students, which is recognized and consciously practiced by everyone. It pervades the school air, silent and invisible, but it is all the time. Its happiness and self-confidence are endogenous, and it rejects any hypocritical packaging. The school style is similar to the growth of people, and it is the accumulation of wisdom of generations.
finally
Quote a sentence often said in the book-insist on a change of one centimeter. In other words, starting from the places that can be changed, we should make efforts to change one centimeter by one, and every little makes a mickle, so as to cause greater and greater changes. Come on, * *!
# Golden Sentence Collection #
When I grow up, I will be you.
Freedom opens the mind, while power binds it.
People have one heart, and the heart has the same reason. -Mencius
You are not teaching physics, but teaching people physics. -Suhomlinski