Hello everyone! Today, I am not giving you a meeting as a teacher or a school administrator, but communicating with you as a student's parent. My child is a girl, and she is currently in Grade One in an experimental middle school. She is about the same age as everyone's children, and so are we. My home is near Liuhe turntable. My child graduated from a small town in primary school, and the junior high school enrollment school is Wenfeng Middle School. But my neighbor's daughter's partner went to an experimental middle school when she was a child. She also wanted to study, so she took the senior high school entrance examination. At that time, there were more than 60 students, and the experimental middle school recruited 200 top students outside the enrollment scope every year. Children get admitted as they wish, adults save a lot of heart, and their grades are relatively stable during the year.

Last year, the experimental middle school held a parent-teacher conference. At that time, there was progress when the children went, and we were arranged to speak. At that time, I wrote a speech entitled "Return to common sense and form habits". I think the most important thing in family education is to develop habits, not only for children, but also for parents. Today I want to talk about the habit formation in family education.

First, cultivate children's good study habits. The habit of finishing homework on time and seriously, the homework assigned by the teacher is to do it first and then play, and if it is done, it will be sent to us for inspection, which has been developed since the first grade of primary school. Reading habits, children read no less than forty extracurricular books every year. I have long been concerned about students' reading, so she also read a lot of books. Li Xigui, a famous educator, president of beijing no.11 high school and state inspector, said: "If a person does not read books suitable for that age at the critical stage of growth, it will be an irreparable regret for life." "The essence of education is to cultivate habits at home, and reading habits are the key among many habits-as long as a child develops good reading habits and a strong interest in reading, there is basically no need to worry about the development of his generation." A lot of reading enriches children's life, makes them live a full and happy life, improves their interest and ability in learning, and forms a good learning quality. The habit of working and sleeping on time, sleeping no more than 9: 30 pm on weekends and getting up no more than 8: 30 pm. Control children's TV watching time, be cautious about children surfing the Internet, and keep children away from games.

Second, parents should develop the habit of counseling and do their duty well.

The success of children as adults is the greatest success of parents' life. At present, President Gao Feng, who has studied happiness education, said such a thing in his report: "He once met a group of veteran cadres in the park, including directors and deputy mayors. Talk to them and know what they are talking about at their age. They no longer talk about whose officials are bigger, whose money is more and whose circle of friends is wider, but whose children are better and more promising! Because they understand that those officials and money are as worthless as smoke, and the development and success of children are the most important! "

Parents are their children's first teachers and lifelong teachers, and it is their duty to educate their children. What parents do not only affects their children's studies, but also affects their psychology, conduct, social adaptability, communication skills, emotions and outlook on life. For children's education, primary school and junior high school are the key periods to lay the foundation, the stage when parents can exert positive influence and try their best to coach, and the key period when parents do their duty. If we miss this critical period, it will be a lifelong regret. In the past, when the school held parent-teacher conferences, I strongly urged parents to spend more time with their children during the critical period of primary and junior high schools. There is a code that intergenerational education cannot replace parental education. When we give birth to a child, we should be responsible for the education and upbringing of this child. Nowadays, many young parents only care about their children, regardless of raising them, and letting grandparents do it for them will eventually pay the price.

No matter how educated you are, you should not be an excuse for not caring about your children's education. The author of the Reading Manual told the story of his mother checking her homework when she was a child. Every time he showed it to his mother carefully, her mother looked at it carefully. It was not until he grew up that he realized that his mother could not read. Finally, he carefully recalled that when he was a child, he never doubted whether his mother could read or not, and he never cheated her every time. Finally, I became a reporter and wrote many books, which was very influential.

Set an example of habit formation. When the children come home from school, their parents are surfing the Internet, watching TV, playing poker, playing mahjong, drinking and smoking, and chatting with Hu Kan, but they let the children sit there and do their homework. Children will refuse to finish their homework if they think it is unfair to them-they will never achieve academic Excellence under high pressure. A parent who doesn't like reading asks his children to love reading. Parents and friends, do you think it is realistic? Children are the shadows of their parents. Behind a good child, there must be excellent parents and a family full of democracy and love! Children go home after self-study. She finished her homework consciously, listened to the tape, recited it and sent it to us for inspection. I read books or write some materials instead of watching TV. On weekends, I let her watch for an hour or two and surf the Internet for an hour or two every day. I can't give my children other advantages. I try my best to do well in this respect.

Third, the habit of empathy. Forgive children, understand children, and let children have a happy mood every day.

Huang Quanyu, an American education expert, said: "For children, what they need is not a knowledgeable father with five cars, nor is it the mother of a talented person; Not a father with a prominent official position, nor a mother who makes money every day. What they need is generous parents, relaxed family atmosphere and natural education. " Children, like us, want to be excellent. What our parents have to do is how to help her become excellent and relieve the tension and pressure of study. In fact, children are very tired at school every day and study hard. There is no real and absolute happiness in learning. Now, if we adults can sit in the classroom all day like children, it is estimated that it will be difficult for us to persist. When I pick up my children every day, I always ask them if they are happy at school today. The children themselves will take the initiative to tell me about their studies. What did they learn today? What did you eat? How's it going? Although I care about my children's exam results, I never show them. Instead, listen to the child patiently, remind her in time what to pay attention to in the future, and try to help analyze. If the child participates in the English Olympic Games again and again, the topic is very difficult and the child is very unhappy, I will persuade her that this is a foreign language test, and it will not be so difficult if you are asked to make a Chinese test paper. Finally, she volunteered to take English classes, and I didn't insist on attending cram schools. As long as the child tries his best, don't expect too much from the child, especially the requirements and goals for the child's strength. Communicate with children more, and listen patiently to children ramble about school trivia. If children can talk to their parents about things in school on their own initiative, then parents can understand their children's learning situation and make targeted encouragement and adjustment.

Correctly understand the differences in treating children. Five fingers are different, there are too many different things in life, and it is normal for children to have differences. Children with excellent grades are darlings everywhere, and their grades are almost low. What parents have to do is to analyze the reasons for children's differences and how to narrow them. At present, I am paying attention to new education and studying Suhomlinski's advice to teachers. At present, no one has paid more energy and effort than Sue. For more than 30 years, he has studied more than 2,000 students with learning difficulties, including children 107. His description of poor students is: "students with poor ability are not simple." This is a group of students who don't like to think or can't think. The reasons for poor students are "accumulation at different levels", "heredity, disease; Incorrect early education; Unhealthy and often conflicting family relationships; The limitation and amazing poverty of family knowledge life and the poverty of family emotional life; Mother education in early childhood. "There are congenital, acquired, family and school education.

Parents should study their children. Please ask parents to go home and analyze together: where is my child outstanding? General, where is the general? There is a problem. What's the problem? You must know the advantages and disadvantages of your child before you can find a solution to the problem and let your child develop normally and well. Otherwise, our children are blindly demanding, unrealistic, complaining and accusing.

Fourth, the habit of home-school interaction.

After all, parents should understand that children are their own, students belong to the school, and there are differences in concepts, methods, approaches and evaluations. Home and school must unite, and the environment for children to grow up is effective. The smartest parents actively, actively and enthusiastically contact, communicate and communicate with the class teacher and the teacher in charge of the curriculum, and participate in the activities organized by the school and the children's activities. Some parents just don't understand. What's the use of always treating children, teachers, schools and society like this? Some parents, in particular, constantly vilify, complain and accuse the teacher in front of their children until the children no longer love the teacher, don't believe the teacher's words and don't like their subjects. As a result, their children were completely destroyed. It's our own children who are damaged! The parents of our students are of high quality, so we must be smart parents!

Last year, the sixth grade was established in high school. Although leaders at all levels are very concerned and have invested a lot, the conditions here are very simple. From scratch, many teaching facilities are still blank except for dilapidated houses. However, one thing that can reassure everyone is that the teachers here are excellent, and several teachers have won municipal awards, and their achievements are leading in the whole region; The most commendable thing is their professionalism and sense of unity and cooperation, which is also the deepest experience I have come to this school. Everyone gets to school early every day and runs with his classmates. Every meal is after the students have cooked the meal, and the teacher will open the meal. For a long time, we insisted on the escort of the school road team. Last year's poetry reading, teachers put every child on the stage and painted light makeup for each child, which was the first time for many children. On June 1 day this year, teachers worked overtime to select and schedule programs. Exaggerated, some teachers are still thinking about dance moves when they sleep at night. Although the conditions here are a little worse, we are overcoming difficulties and trying to make the schools here more interesting. In addition to classroom teaching, we also pursue exquisiteness and build campus culture, such as scholarly rectangular galleries, celebrity galleries, broadcasting rooms, and various activities, such as speaking under the national flag, calligraphy and painting competitions, poetry recitation, sports meetings, and opening ceremonies. Strive for richness and diversity, and make up for the shortcomings of poor conditions with our seriousness and dedication.

Parents should cooperate with their children's education. Last year, I wrote three letters to parents of students, and every time I talked about children's reading, I suggested that parents buy some books for their children. At the end of last year, I asked my parents to fill out the feedback form for students' winter vacation, and I took it back and read it carefully. I didn't fill in many books carefully, but not many bought books for students. Why do I always say reading? I also talked about it in the form of children's study habits in previous interviews. I feel that children's reading is too small and the reading atmosphere is not enough, mainly because there are too few books. The school bought some from last year to this year, but it is far from enough. There are more than 200 books read by children in my family alone, and I often accompany her to the book city. On June 1 this year, children will arrange programs. I hope parents will give more support and buy some clothes for their children. You know, this is children's childhood. They like acting and dancing. After this age, no matter how much you spend, you can't buy it back. Finally, after graduating from primary school, the children's graduation results will be the first impression of junior high school teachers. What parents have to do is to ask their children about their studies every day, see if their homework has been completed and listen to their endorsements. Don't take this as a teacher's business. The students are ours and the children are yours.

Finally, thank you for listening. Parents are welcome to share their children's problems with us. Let's work together to make our children walk better!