However, can advanced education really make children win in the present and in the future?
Germany conducted a large-scale comparative experiment in 1970. They chose 100 kindergartens, of which 50 kindergartens mainly play games and the other 50 kindergartens mainly teach knowledge. Then continue to observe the learning situation of these children.
The experimental results show that children with higher education can only maintain their learning advantage until the fourth grade of primary school, and their grades drop sharply after the fourth grade, so they are at an obvious disadvantage in mathematics and reading, and their emotional and social skills are not as good as their peers.
Yu once said: A child's growth process is like a tree. It may grow rapidly after watering with a lot of chemical fertilizers, but it will become morbid in the later stage.
Take your time, give up your baby, let go of your anxiety, and let your child grow up healthily.
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Who has been hurt by higher education?
It is found that advanced education will bring serious "sequelae" to children's lives.
From 65438 to 0967, Professor David Weikardt, a famous American children educator, studied 68 poor children. He divided the children into three groups and entered different types of kindergartens:
● "Game" kindergarten;
● "Mixed" kindergartens will introduce more learning and game projects;
● "Academic" kindergartens teach children more knowledge.
At first, the children in the "academic" kindergarten performed well, but this advantage gradually disappeared.
In the following years, the researchers tracked the children 15 years old and 23 years old respectively, and found that there was no obvious difference in their studies between the two age groups.
The only difference between them is social and emotional characteristics. Children who graduated from "academic" kindergartens have twice as much "misconduct" as other children;
Children's nature is to play. The process of playing with friends is not only to relax and strengthen their physique, but also to gain emotional management ability, teamwork ability, exercise observation and judgment.
Blindly emphasizing knowledge learning will definitely crowd out the time for children to develop other abilities.
Compared with the knowledge in textbooks, children's soft power, including thinking ability, problem-solving ability, time planning ability and cooperation ability, is an important foundation for their future growth and success.
A classmate in my son's class went to cram school one year in advance. When I first entered primary school, I was excellent and was called "child prodigy" by my teachers and classmates.
With the growth of age, his grades began to decline, and he also showed the characteristics of naughty boys. Small moves in class, careless homework, inattention, often fighting with children because of a little contradiction. Therefore, inviting parents has become a common practice.
His father lamented in a chat: "In fact, my son is a very ordinary child, and I should not let him go to school early. It is best to play in kindergarten for more than one year. "
Many developmental psychologists and educators believe that childhood is the best time for children to develop their creativity and imagination. Too much premature study will reduce their free play time and increase the probability of children suffering from anxiety and depression.
Advanced education comforts parents and hurts children.
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Higher education, what is transcendence?
At present, there is no unified definition of "higher education" in academic circles. Generally speaking, it is necessary to surpass the normal development of children and educate the knowledge that needs to be learned in the future in advance to achieve a better state than other children.
In other words, advanced education refers to education that does not meet children's age.
But in fact, every child's characteristics are different, and it is difficult to have a unified standard. Parents need to judge whether education is appropriate according to their children's inner growth line.
American psychologist Noel Tichy proposed that the cognitive world has three regions:
The innermost part is the comfort zone. Here, learning is easy, there is no pressure, and people can easily stagnate and slack off.
The circle in the middle is the study area. Here, you can feel the lack of knowledge and constantly challenge yourself.
The outermost area is the panic zone. Here, you can feel the knowledge gap, feel frustration and gradually lose confidence.
Among these three areas, the most ideal state is the learning area. Build self-confidence through continuous learning. The more you learn, the more knowledge you have, and the less you will panic.
If children are struggling in their studies, parents should slow down and lay a good foundation with their children. If children really have the spare capacity to learn, parents can also carry out some advanced education according to their interests and characteristics, so that children can learn more knowledge and nutrients.
Some time ago, seven-year-old Wang Hengyi was a guest in CCTV's Ode to Classics and sang a Song of the Dynasty, which once again attracted attention.
Wang Hengyi, who is young, has won the favor of many netizens with her superb poetry reserve, amazing memory and quick response, and was affectionately called "China Short Poetry Dictionary" by Kang Zhen.
Is Xiao Hengyi's education an advanced education? Actually, it is not. His interest in learning poetry comes from his love, and he feels the great charm of poetry and gets happiness in reading it. And this sense of accomplishment is internalized into his self-discipline, which makes him take the initiative to get the book.
This kind of education respects the child's own growth timeline, fits his interest points, and is the most suitable education method for children.
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What should higher education teach children?
There is nothing wrong with higher education itself. What is the key to teaching children?
In fact, the core of higher education is not only limited to knowledge, but also to the cultivation of ability.
There is a hot topic in Zhihu: How to treat "advanced education"?
A netizen told about his experience in educating children.
He said that from the bottom of his heart, he disapproved of giving children advanced education, which he felt killed their nature. Therefore, he adopted a "stocking" approach to children.
A friend questioned his practice: your child is going to the first grade and can read less than 2000 words. He can't add, subtract, multiply and divide within 100, can't listen, speak, read and write English, and can't solve Olympic math problems. Aren't you worried?
He smiled and replied: Your child is in the third grade, and he still doesn't know how to take notes, how to plan time, how to pack his bag, how to write a composition outline, and how to check and summarize his homework. Aren't you worried?
"Stocking" is not letting go, but focusing on the long term, making children happy in the present and winning in the future.
I like this wise parent very much!
The cultivation of children's ability is the foundation of their future development. The foundation is strong, and the future pace can be more firm and practical.
Children's ability training can start from three aspects:
Develop good living habits.
Habits should be developed from an early age, and parents should help their children develop good living habits, including work and rest habits, hygiene habits, habits of dealing with people and so on.
These good habits are children's business cards, which reflect their upbringing and improve their learning efficiency.
Learn to manage yourself in your study.
Help children learn self-management, remember homework well every day, classify homework according to its difficulty, manage time well, do not procrastinate on homework, and develop the good habit of previewing in advance and reviewing in time.
Personality, shaping a confident and optimistic attitude.
It is the wish of every parent to cultivate a confident, sunny and optimistic child.
Parents can take their children into nature and exercise their perseverance in the vast nature. When encountering difficulties, encourage children to find ways to solve them themselves. When encountering setbacks, encourage them to cheer up and start over.
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Excellence is never a single standard.
Children's education can never be measured by a single standard. Only the most suitable is the best.
Those children who always get the first grade are not necessarily the happiest and sunniest. And those children who learn knowledge quickly and well and enjoy the power of knowledge are not necessarily the smartest.
As parents, we must hope that our children are the brightest, happiest, healthiest, smartest and most responsible children.
So, what kind of children do we want to have?
Huang Quanyu, an American education expert, said a sentence that may give us a lot of inspiration:
Will ask questions and be very curious; Have crazy and ridiculous ideas; Can play and learn; Can discuss in depth and in detail;
Express strong views; Can summarize abstract things; More willing to associate with adults; Able to infer and reason; Like to find topics; Be good at creating new designs;
Apply what you have learned; Good at invention; Dare to guess; Enthusiastic about drilling complex angles; Be good at observing and thinking ...
This is a clever boy.
Such a child, despite his shortcomings, problems and temper, is real and warm.
A child's childhood is not a game, but a journey.
Take your time and let the child be a child. Maybe you can see his change.