China children don't know why. When I want to think about this question carefully, I think of the twin brothers and sisters Donghai and Ding Dong written by Yu Xiu, a young writer born in the 1980s. They/kloc-immigrated to America with their parents at the age of 0/5. They are like fish. After crossing the Pacific Ocean, "fish can swim, but the river is changed into sea water, and the fish can't swim without water". When the brother and sister struggled and finally integrated into the so-called mainstream American society, their families paid a heavy price for it. In the eyes of young writers, American schools are decadent and full of vitality. The name of this novel is Fish Who Can't Swim. If you are interested, you may wish to have a look.
Needless to say, China's children have a solid foundation in mathematics, which is known all over the world. Even Lang Lang, a talented pianist, came to the United States to study in high school, and his math scores were among the best in his class. Thus, China children who have just arrived in the United States can really use impressive mathematics as the first card to attract their attention. However, in American schools, it is not enough to rely solely on a math card. Another card is not only an advantage that Americans value, but also a relative weakness of children in China. If you want to have all or most of the school's trump cards, China children who immigrate to the United States must make great efforts. Therefore, I want to say that it is not easy for China children to study in the United States!
I mentioned in the article "What is the biggest difference between China children and American children" that American children will live a white life than China children. This skill of wasting life is very important in American life. The ability to live in vain is not only related to children's personality, but also closely related to China children's English expression ability. Regardless of the English level of domestic children, in the United States, the old grammar and non-American oral expressions in China textbooks will make children feel at a loss. Even we adult students, even if we are new here and can pass the TOEFL test with high scores and communicate with Americans, often can't find the north. In my opinion, in order to integrate into American children as soon as possible, China children must start with English first, instead of being satisfied with their math scores.
When Zhao Xiaolan, the former US Secretary of Labor, came to the United States from Taiwan Province Province at the age of eight, his English was terrible. Her way of tutoring English is to copy down what the teacher wrote on the black version word for word, and go home and continue to digest it whether she understands it or not. Under the guidance of his father's patience every night, a year later, Zhao Xiaolan can finally take part in the class speech contest. In this story, we can see how important the careful guidance and education of parents are to the progress of children. Indeed, when a child who doesn't know how to swim is flopping about in a foreign swimming pool, parents just need to hold the child's lifebuoy. It is a pity that many new immigrant families often neglect the necessary training for their children, because their parents have to make a living in busy days. Children grow up with nothing, and adults regret it.
Let me give you two simple examples.
Bill, who came to the United States at the age of eight, is now ordered to drop out of an American university. Before coming to the United States, Bill studied in a key primary school in China. At the same time, grandma who teaches English also cooks small stoves for Bill every day. It stands to reason that China children who came to the United States at the age of eight have a basic knowledge of domestic English. Even if you can't go to Harvard, you can go to a key university in the United States. In fact, when he graduated from high school, Bill hardly went to the most ordinary university. Less than two years on the university campus, he was expelled from school because he failed in many courses. Who is to blame for such a big problem with this child? When Bill first came, his parents were too busy at work, and some Americans adopted a policy of doting on their children. Not only has Bill made little progress in English, but his children's friends and extracurricular activities have also been greatly reduced. This is the other "cards" besides mathematics that I mentioned earlier. While American children are handy with colorful cards in their hands, new immigrant children in China seem so lonely and helpless.
When ten-year-old Hansen came to America, his parents were doing the cheapest jobs in American universities. In order to save money, they live in an apartment with low rent. In Hansen's school, there is a small gang that bullies foreign children. After class, these naughty American boys rushed into the toilet and forced Hansen's head into the toilet. Think about it, how can a ten-year-old child stand such bullying? The painful experience of childhood in primary school left a deep shadow on Hansen's heart. After entering middle school, he became irritable and taciturn, and his lessons plummeted. When he graduated from high school, he didn't even go to college and finally ran away from home. You see, what happened to Hansen or the East China Sea written by a young writer is worse?
When we discuss whether it is easy for China children to study in the United States, don't forget that reading is not the only content for China children in American schools. When parents in China pay attention to their children's homework, don't forget that bullying also exists in American schools, and there are hidden rules. To put it mildly, the pressure between classmates is called "peer"
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. More serious incidents, if put bluntly, this kind of bullying among students is called bullying. Children from China come to the United States to study, not only to cope with their homework, but also to integrate into the surrounding environment. These hardware constructions are far more difficult than homework!
The author's family experienced a cross-state move last year. The most affected are not only adults who have been promoted at work, but also children who are facing job transfer. One day not long after I came to the new city, when I was cleaning the children's room, I found a paper ball on the ground. I opened it, and the words written on the paper made me burst into tears. My daughter, who has been laughing and laughing, wrote on a piece of paper: "I have been here for three days and I don't have any friends." Even the children in China ignored me. I am so lonely! ! ! "。 The child's exclamation points surprised me. In our school in the old city, my daughter is a little leader that everyone loves. No matter American children or China children, daughters can easily tell them what to do. Unexpectedly, the children were so shocked and puzzled by the move across two States. This makes me feel a little incredible as an adult. My daughter was born and raised in the United States, and it is not comfortable to change schools. Based on this reasoning, it is not easy for children to study in the United States from China! They really look like children who can't swim. They were pushed down by their parents and flopped about in the swimming pool. Parents should fully understand their children's difficulties and not be blindly optimistic.
I remember many years ago, I learned the quotation of a great man in China, saying that speaking a foreign language is a weapon for life. Now, I really want to send this sentence to China children who are interested in studying in the United States. In order to survive in foreign countries, children, you must learn English well first. Only in this way can you express your anger when foreign children bully you. When others laugh at your skin color, you can respond to their shortsightedness in fluent English.
Learning English well is not as difficult as winning a laurel in the middle of the moon. Zhao Xiaolan's English learning methods mentioned above are worth learning from. Diligence can make up for it, and eventually dreams will blossom and bear fruit. In addition, almost all cities in the United States have a famous English cram school called KUMON. This class can not only improve American children, but also do English charging exercises for children who have just arrived in China. The author was born and raised in America, and now he is studying spelling and reading in this English class. My six-year-old has made great progress in reading and spelling in just a few months. When high school students come to study in the United States, they may wish to learn from the experience of piano genius Lang Lang in tutoring English. Lang Lang mentioned in his autobiography "A Journey of a Thousand Miles" that when he came to the United States to attend high school, his English professor who specially tutored him advised him to study Shakespeare's plays hard. A child who plays the piano for a living needs great endurance to chew Shakespeare. Mandy can do it. Can other children do it? For American high school students, improving their English level is not just for listening and speaking, but for coping with large and small compositions. As Lang Lang mentioned, "English class is very difficult for me. When I read other students' compositions, our imagination surprised me. The imagination of American children comes from the accumulation of years of reading.
We should look at everything comprehensively. After all, is it easy for China children to study in the United States? My humble opinion is that it is not easy for China children to study in the United States if they want to blossom in an all-round way and strive for the top. If they are just here to cope with school work, children from China may feel more relaxed in the United States than at home.
In the United States, apart from parents, American teachers certainly don't take care of their children as seriously as China does, and there is no such thing as home visits. What is a father? A good teacher. If immigrant parents lavish money on their children, your children may become Bill and Hansen in my article many years later. I'm not alarmist. There are many similar examples, so I won't list them here for the time being. Besides, even for China children born and raised in the United States, their education is a top priority for China parents besides work.
The poor inherit the wind. Children in China, no matter where they are, are not easy for anyone!