The whole process of a mathematical genius consulting with his psychological counselor.
First, the negotiation process in the film (* * * eight times)
First time: Sean and Will meet for the first time.
Will's resistance and aggression to psychological counseling, he avoided talking about most of the exploratory questions put forward by Sean, and even wanted to exchange the roles of the counselor and the client, and regarded himself as a counselor to explore Sean's psychological state.
They quarreled the first time they met. At this time, Sean's reaction is: rage and anger, which is a normal person's reaction, so it makes Will feel that he is not so far away and so hypocritical. He feels that he is sincere.
In fact, visitors and counselors are just a game, and everyone wants to take each other away. Will, who is extremely clever and never forgets anything, wants to take control.
Will is very defensive, so all the consultants he met before were countered by him and voluntarily quit until he met Sean.
The second time: Sean and Will talk by the lake.
Sean chose the public consultation environment by the lake and talked with Will. In this process, Sean is just telling a story, but he may not get an answer from Will. Sean expressed his views on Will's superficial understanding of things, emotions and emotions, and sincerely expressed his feelings during the first consultation.
What is the purpose of Sean's second consultation in this way?
Is to let Will choose whether to have meaningful treatment. If the visitors don't cooperate, the treatment is meaningless.
The third time: Sean and Will didn't communicate with each other.
After the second consultation, the two met for the third time and fell silent. Until the negotiation ended, neither of them took the initiative to communicate with the other party.
What is the reason why Will and Sean remain silent?
Everyone is waiting for the other party to speak first, and whoever speaks first will lose. Neither of them spoke, but silence was meaningful. They were both thinking.
The fourth time: Will began to talk about his emotional state.
There was a period of silence at first, but Sean fell asleep.
Will spoke first and woke Sean up. After a relaxed conversation, Will talked about his emotional state. Because of Will's inferiority complex and strong self-defense, he is afraid of establishing close relationship with his girlfriend, which leads to his contradictory state of rejecting the person he likes.
The fifth time: Sean told Will about the past with his wife.
Sean told the story of himself and his wife before their death, and gave suggestive suggestions on Will's love life by providing his own life information.
What is the purpose of Sean's self-disclosure this time? Is to make will feel from the story. Psychological counselors only play an auxiliary role. What really matters is the tourists themselves.
No one is perfect. Sean talked about some small embarrassment in his wife's life. After Sean's talk, Will boldly dated Scarlett.
Sixth time: Make Will more aware of his own contradictions.
Will broke up with his girlfriend after a big fight, but he still didn't have the courage to accept the relationship.
Sean gave qualitative feedback on Will's life. When Will was asked "What do you want", he refused to answer in disguise. Sean was dishonest with Will and asked him to leave the consulting room directly.
What is Sean's purpose in using noodles?
Be direct and let Will know what he wants.
If you really want to be a shepherd, that's fine, but it's obvious that you are talking nonsense, covering up your true thoughts and running away.
Seventh time: Will's secret was revealed.
This consultation talked about the violence Will experienced as a child, and he revealed his fear, helplessness and despair.
In this case, Sean chose to keep repeating "it's not your fault", and every repetition forced Will's emotions to explode. By the tenth time, Will's emotions suddenly broke out, and he couldn't stop crying and apologizing, showing his repressed feelings for the first time.
The eighth time: the consultation is over
Before the last consultation, Will accepted a job that suited him, and his life was finally normal. At the last meeting, Will fed back the positive results of the consultation to Sean, and this consultation relationship should also be dissolved.
Helping others and helping themselves, treatment is mutual.
You can't be a good consultant if you haven't been injured, which is a common saying of teachers.
As can be seen from the film, when Sean was treating Will, Will also cured Sean in turn. Sean closed himself up because of his wife's death, and now he wants to take a vacation, which is a new starting point for Sean's life.
There is also a professor who has been paying attention to his awards and achievements in mathematics all his life, but he has to admit that problems he can't do can be solved by will. There is also the relationship between the professor and Sean, who used to be bunk brothers, but now they don't communicate much. There is a problem behind this.
Third, the psychological counseling technology presented in the film.
1, the method of talks
2. Self-exposure (proper self-exposure can play a family role and make visitors feel that you are like him, not superior, and you can understand him)
3, silence technology (silence is meaningful for a reason, don't be afraid of silence)
4, midwifery (constantly revealing the contradictions in the other party's conversation, thus gradually rising from individual perceptual knowledge to universal rational knowledge, definition, knowledge, etc. )
5, noodle technology (noodles must pay attention to the timing, and have established a good consulting relationship with visitors before use)
6. Psychoanalysis (Will wept bitterly and let out all the repressed things. The shadow of childhood must be excavated and released by tourists themselves)
Fourthly, the influence of childhood experiences on people's growth.
Will's childhood and his father's violence made him defensive and unable to face it positively, including work and love. He is such a talented person, but he only cleans and moves bricks at MIT.
But he is eager to be recognized by society, accepted by others and loved by others.
There was an issue of "Seven Eight Talks", and Xu asked, "Is birth really that important to a person?"
Wu Zhihong said: "I think this is very serious."
Then he told two cases. It's not surprising that he has his own therapist. Everyone is not perfect, you have one problem or another. Counselors receive negative things every day. General psychological counselors have their own psychological supervisors.
His words aroused Gao's self-reflection on his life experience and remorse for his father.
Whether a person's childhood life is happy or not directly affects his later cognition, behavior and long life path.
For example, children who are neglected in childhood are often neglected, so they are very fragile, sensitive and inferior, and even have many problems such as anti-social behavior and depression. Because they feel abandoned by the whole world.
In fact, for children, the whole world is mom and dad. Think about those left-behind children, most of whom have problems of one kind or another.
On the level of psychoanalysis, if we dig down layer by layer, we will find that 0- 1 year-old children need unconditional response from their parents most, and many of us think that children are not sensible before the age of three, and they don't need companionship or care too much. Children in this period have actually buried some behavioral problems that affect adulthood and hidden them in the subconscious.
In the movie, Sean met Will, Will met Sean, and I met psychology, so I am grateful to meet him.
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